Mums have it easy
Discussion
Just to clarify;
- Carrying a child for 9 months looks awkward at best.
- Giving birth is something I would not be able to tolerate.
- Breastfeeding is surprisingly demanding.
- A lot of mums don't have supportive partners.
- If you're poor it's more difficult.
There are other factors too, but on the whole, looking after children is much easier than going to work.
I worked for a decade as a vehicle technician. I have also worked for a race team, worked as an events technical expert for the GTR, I've been a teaching assistant at a state secondary school and a lecturer at a college. All of these jobs were more difficult than looking after children.
So why then, do so many mums make out like it's the hardest job in the world? I go to soft play and there will always be a group of mums in a little group, completely ignoring their children. I walk past a coffee shop, group of mums in there with prams, all ignoring their children chatting to their friends.
...and to make it worse, a lot of these mums have convinced their partners that it is that difficult. So that when they get home from a day at work, the mums expect the dads to immediately relieve them of the children duty!
I am currently doing a part-time degree as well as looking after my 3 year old and 9 month old daughters. Every mum at home should be doing some form of part-time education whilst doing the housework and raising the children. There may be some exceptions, but a very high percentage have no excuse. It's so easy.
My youngest is currently asleep, eldest is cutting paper and sticking fuzzy bits on it with stickers. I'm going to take my eldest to school this afternoon, with a stroll through the woods in the sun while my poor wife is at work.
Not so much a rant, just an observation.
- Carrying a child for 9 months looks awkward at best.
- Giving birth is something I would not be able to tolerate.
- Breastfeeding is surprisingly demanding.
- A lot of mums don't have supportive partners.
- If you're poor it's more difficult.
There are other factors too, but on the whole, looking after children is much easier than going to work.
I worked for a decade as a vehicle technician. I have also worked for a race team, worked as an events technical expert for the GTR, I've been a teaching assistant at a state secondary school and a lecturer at a college. All of these jobs were more difficult than looking after children.
So why then, do so many mums make out like it's the hardest job in the world? I go to soft play and there will always be a group of mums in a little group, completely ignoring their children. I walk past a coffee shop, group of mums in there with prams, all ignoring their children chatting to their friends.
...and to make it worse, a lot of these mums have convinced their partners that it is that difficult. So that when they get home from a day at work, the mums expect the dads to immediately relieve them of the children duty!
I am currently doing a part-time degree as well as looking after my 3 year old and 9 month old daughters. Every mum at home should be doing some form of part-time education whilst doing the housework and raising the children. There may be some exceptions, but a very high percentage have no excuse. It's so easy.
My youngest is currently asleep, eldest is cutting paper and sticking fuzzy bits on it with stickers. I'm going to take my eldest to school this afternoon, with a stroll through the woods in the sun while my poor wife is at work.
Not so much a rant, just an observation.
It was this video that inspired me to post this. As it was shared by several of my facebook friends who are mums. Then lots of their friends, also mums commented with "so true" and "omg this", "<insert friends name here> thought of you hun xx".
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HB3xM93rXbY
Apparently dads don't look after kids?
Well I do. And I'm getting a Masters in Engineering at the same time. So f
k off!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HB3xM93rXbY
Apparently dads don't look after kids?
Well I do. And I'm getting a Masters in Engineering at the same time. So f
k off!Of course it's not just black and white, there will be males and females who find the role difficult for various reasons. But it was merely an observation that quite a large number of mums moan about how difficult the job is, but I am finding it incredibly easy and very rewarding - it is genuinely great fun!
Today I have;
- Helped my wife get ready and made her sandwiches.
- Got children up, teeth brushed, dressed, made eldest cereal and fed my youngest a pot of jam.
- Tidied up the kitchen, did the dishwasher.
- Taken the bins out.
- Played Daddy monster with the children (youngest has no idea what's going on but loves it).
- Hide and seek.
- Put youngest to bed, set eldest up with arts/crafts which she is very good at doing on her own now.
- Made this topic and then played some Rocket League.
- Made lunch for us, took eldest to school in the sun.
- Popped to the shops to get some bits.
- Now youngest is in the high chair eating remains of eldest daughters fish fingers.
Compare that with a day as a mechanic or lecturer, it's literally heaven. Most of the chores I'd have to do anyway...
It's great fun!
Today I have;
- Helped my wife get ready and made her sandwiches.
- Got children up, teeth brushed, dressed, made eldest cereal and fed my youngest a pot of jam.
- Tidied up the kitchen, did the dishwasher.
- Taken the bins out.
- Played Daddy monster with the children (youngest has no idea what's going on but loves it).
- Hide and seek.
- Put youngest to bed, set eldest up with arts/crafts which she is very good at doing on her own now.
- Made this topic and then played some Rocket League.
- Made lunch for us, took eldest to school in the sun.
- Popped to the shops to get some bits.
- Now youngest is in the high chair eating remains of eldest daughters fish fingers.
Compare that with a day as a mechanic or lecturer, it's literally heaven. Most of the chores I'd have to do anyway...
It's great fun!
Yipper said:
Humans always over-praise the most important jobs. It helps ensure the continuation of the species. Soldiers get lavish praise, to encourage them to stand between you and a bullet. Firefighters get lavish praise, to encourage them to pluck you from an inferno. Moms get lavish praise, to encourage them to carry an alien for a year and then cater to its every whim for the next two decades.
Teachers don't...nor NHS etc. Interesting concept though.
Perhaps I wasn't clear enough in my OP, but my main point was that if they're just a stay at home mum and complain how difficult it is, it just isn't!
Looking after kids and your partner earns enough that you don't need to work? Absolutely no problem.
Looking after kids and doing part-time work? Absolutely no problem.
Looking after kids and studying? Absolutely no problem.
Looking after kids, choose not to work or study, moan how difficult it is, expect your partner to take over kid duty when they get in...problem!
I feel so guilty that my wife goes out to work everyday and all I do is play with my lovely children. If I wasn't doing my masters I'd feel embarrassed to be alive.
Looking after kids and your partner earns enough that you don't need to work? Absolutely no problem.
Looking after kids and doing part-time work? Absolutely no problem.
Looking after kids and studying? Absolutely no problem.
Looking after kids, choose not to work or study, moan how difficult it is, expect your partner to take over kid duty when they get in...problem!
I feel so guilty that my wife goes out to work everyday and all I do is play with my lovely children. If I wasn't doing my masters I'd feel embarrassed to be alive.
Update.
I've now gained my Masters in Engineering and I'm a physics teacher at a state school. We've got a new little boy, who is just a delight. My middle child is very difficult to get to sleep but other than that, my wife is currently on maternity leave and as she puts it "on holiday".
My opinion has not changed; being a stay at home mum/dad is the easy bit (unless there are unique needs for the child).
Also, being a teacher is easy. Got two weeks off. They're another bunch who seemingly make a meal out of their jobs and moan all the time.
I've now gained my Masters in Engineering and I'm a physics teacher at a state school. We've got a new little boy, who is just a delight. My middle child is very difficult to get to sleep but other than that, my wife is currently on maternity leave and as she puts it "on holiday".
My opinion has not changed; being a stay at home mum/dad is the easy bit (unless there are unique needs for the child).
Also, being a teacher is easy. Got two weeks off. They're another bunch who seemingly make a meal out of their jobs and moan all the time.
PAULJ5555 said:
Post the OP on Mumsnet but say its from a woman. Wonder what replies will come in.
Probably none beacuse their all busy being mums remember.
It did get posted on Mumsnet and I actually signed up to Mumsnet to defend myself. Probably none beacuse their all busy being mums remember.
https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/parenting/2886145-Mum...
My children are now 5, 2 and 0. It's brilliant. Off to the park with the two girls now while Mum takes baby shopping
Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff