Nice, single, non-mental ladies.........

[jp1982]

.....do they exist and more importantly where do they hide?

I've been single for about a year and I've decided it's time to get back in the game, so to speak.

My work is a non-starter as far as meeting women, but I do get plenty of time off so it evens out there. I go out on a regular basis to bars and clubs, but I appreciate this isn't the best way to meet someone. So the questions are...

For the PH men: Where is the best places you've found to get chatting/meet someone? and what approach did you use?

For the PH ladies: How do you like to be approached? Are there any massive mistakes that guys have made etc?

All comments welcome and I appreciate this has the potential to go wrong for me in true PH fashion.

[jp1982]

BarnatosGhost said:

Put yourself in the places where you, a single young man, will be the scarce resource.

Demand WILL go up.

Sounds a bit like how Chicago Rock in Lincoln was

So to summarise so far:
Be happy with being single-this I can do.
Don't use chat up lines(unless you know she doesn't mind chat up lines?)-slightly confused but will try.
Don't be nice as this is perceived badly by the female population-as above.
Move to eastern europe-aren't the girls there even more fruitbat though?

All good so far.

[jp1982]

Mobile Chicane said:

We do exist.

I've been single for two years and while I've dabbled with stuff like internet dating, I've found it too much effort for very little reward.

My problem is that 99.9999% of men my own age are fat, bald and ancient. Oh, and married.

While younger men are the answer in (ahem) some respects, they almost invariably want kids, and I don't.

Is 28 classed as a younger man?

[jp1982]

Ozone said:

This has gone a bit OT. Where has the OP gone, trying out the suggestions?

Hi, not gone out just yet.

[jp1982]

Bernard80 said:

I am a niceish, singleish, non-mentalish ladyish so I shall impart my words of wisdom onto you youngling..

Learn to kiss..women do not like having their face sucked off or you trying to find their tonsils in their shoes. Practice on your arm/pillow/cousin, but learn!

Be funny and interesting and relaxed when you talk to them. Not weird, creepy, rehearsed or too pervy.

Don't be afraid to approach women, if you start with a simple 'hello', and she says hello back with a smile - you're in..say something funny/interesting quick, if she looks at you like you have just st on her shoes then bail early.

And in the same way men have pointed out there are nice interesting women who usually are not the 6ft fake blonde models, the 6ft models tend not to be not so nice and high maintenance, it is fine to date them if you want to but don't moan about it later when she is driving you insane. I don't mean you have to date a total dog for them to be nice though. there is a nice balance in the middle somewhere.

/wisdom

Wisdom of being female more than being successful at dating

hello

[jp1982]

fesuvious said:

stuff

The PH ladies say women just want a decent man, yet PH men disagree and think all women like bds........

[jp1982]

cornishgirl said:

jp1982 said:

.....do they exist and more importantly where do they hide?

I've been single for about a year and I've decided it's time to get back in the game, so to speak.

My work is a non-starter as far as meeting women, but I do get plenty of time off so it evens out there. I go out on a regular basis to bars and clubs, but I appreciate this isn't the best way to meet someone. So the questions are...

For the PH men: Where is the best places you've found to get chatting/meet someone? and what approach did you use?

For the PH ladies: How do you like to be approached? Are there any massive mistakes that guys have made etc?

All comments welcome and I appreciate this has the potential to go wrong for me in true PH fashion.

Of course we exist!

Plenty of good advice in this thread (but some very odd comments as well) and I can't think of much else to say except, just be yourself when meeting someone for the first time.

Thanks

[jp1982]

Mobile Chicane said:

jp1982 said:

fesuvious said:

stuff

The PH ladies say women just want a decent man, yet PH men disagree and think all women like bds........

Wimmins can't resist cheeky confidence, even if they know someone is unsuitable as a long-term prospect.

Some blokes just have that in spades.

Trust me, I know that. I've been dumped for one such guy before, luckily it all went tits up for them after

[jp1982]

Bernard80 said:

jp1982 said:

Bernard80 said:

WISDOM

hello

Bernard80 said:

See, really easy

And as per the man V women debate in the 'nice' pile, I guess it is down to what people consider what is 'nice'.

You're right that was easy! You're not gonna look at me like I've st on your shoes now are you??

Edited by jp1982 on Friday 15th October 18:13 for mis-quoting

Edited by jp1982 on Friday 15th October 18:18

[jp1982]

kVA said:

jp1982 said:

Mobile Chicane said:

jp1982 said:

fesuvious said:

stuff

The PH ladies say women just want a decent man, yet PH men disagree and think all women like bds........

Wimmins can't resist cheeky confidence, even if they know someone is unsuitable as a long-term prospect.

Some blokes just have that in spades.

Trust me, I know that. I've been dumped for one such guy before, luckily it all went tits up for them after

Tits up sounds like he had a result then

Maybe for a little while, but I was there first

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maser_spyder said:

stuff regarding fit friend but alas no pics

does mrs maser's friend fancy a trip to Lincoln? (popcorn included and no ferret)

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Justayellowbadge said:

My friend asked to meet this afternoon, whereupon she recited a clearly rehearsed, cogent, well thought out and convincing argument as to why we should not see each other anymore.

It was such an overwhelming argument that I had to agree and wish her well.

At this point she realised she'd left something at home so I agreed to drive her there, where she spent 2 hours deconstructing all her previous points until I, reluctantly, gave in and allowed her to do things to me with her mouth that didn't include talking.

I crawled out barely alive, and we're having dinner on Monday. On previous form, breakfast will not be served untill Thursday.

Mental, the lot of them, and God bless them for it.

Does she have a sister?

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maser_spyder said:

OK chaps, we'll start the bidding, at a bottle of whisky.

Any advance on a bottle of whisky?

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Single malt ok sir?

[jp1982]

aeropilot said:

jp1982 said:

maser_spyder said:

OK chaps, we'll start the bidding, at a bottle of whisky.

Any advance on a bottle of whisky?

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Single malt ok sir?

At least offer him a decent one such as a 30 year old Glen Garioch or suchlike

Well so far there's been no more bids, so I'm not showing my hand just yet

[jp1982]

Bernard80 said:

jp1982 said:

You're right that was easy! You're not gonna look at me like I've st on your shoes now are you??

No my response usually to fit bloke if they say hello is 'Ding Dong' in a pervy cad kind of way. I probably should stop doing that.

Just realised we live in the same city If you want a one night stand go in Jumpin Jaks. If you want the classy birds go down the Brayford.

I'll see you down the brayford later then?

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Edited by jp1982 on Saturday 16th October 11:52

[jp1982]

Bernard80 said:

jp1982 said:

Bernard80 said:

jp1982 said:

You're right that was easy! You're not gonna look at me like I've st on your shoes now are you??

No my response usually to fit bloke if they say hello is 'Ding Dong' in a pervy cad kind of way. I probably should stop doing that.

Just realised we live in the same city If you want a one night stand go in Jumpin Jaks. If you want the classy birds go down the Brayford.

I'll see you down the brayford later then?

Deal.