Anxiety, worries and affects on relationship
Discussion
Hi all
So my girlfriend and I met nearly two years ago now, and we have lived together for the last year. It has been amazing and we clearly are massively in love. We rarely argue, however recently this has changed due to our living situation having to change - her job is taking her 120 miles away and we will be doing a long distance relationship until this time is over. Whilst far from ideal, we can make it work with the bonus of being able to work from home some days increasing our number of days together.
She has always been a "worrrier" and has mild anxiety, but due to the above it seems to have gotten a lot more intense the last month or so. So much so that we find ourselves arguing about the most ridiculous things. I am not allowed to walk on certain areas of the carpet because it has been touched by a shoe, or my clothes become "contaminated" because I leant on a wooden fence so now they are "covered in mold" and they end up in a pile on the floor and can't be touched. Rugs get thrown away because a drink has spilled and she thinks that mold will grow on it as a result. The floor ends up covered in sheets because a glass broke and hoovering it up isn't enough. Can't touch the sofa arm because a drop of drink was spilled on it etc...
Whilst I am supportive and understanding, it is becoming a full time job up remembering what I can/can't touch etc. Has anyone else ever dealt with this kind of anxiety or worrying? I have looked on the web for guidance and advice but struggled to find much. I just don't want these things to dominate our relationship.
So my girlfriend and I met nearly two years ago now, and we have lived together for the last year. It has been amazing and we clearly are massively in love. We rarely argue, however recently this has changed due to our living situation having to change - her job is taking her 120 miles away and we will be doing a long distance relationship until this time is over. Whilst far from ideal, we can make it work with the bonus of being able to work from home some days increasing our number of days together.
She has always been a "worrrier" and has mild anxiety, but due to the above it seems to have gotten a lot more intense the last month or so. So much so that we find ourselves arguing about the most ridiculous things. I am not allowed to walk on certain areas of the carpet because it has been touched by a shoe, or my clothes become "contaminated" because I leant on a wooden fence so now they are "covered in mold" and they end up in a pile on the floor and can't be touched. Rugs get thrown away because a drink has spilled and she thinks that mold will grow on it as a result. The floor ends up covered in sheets because a glass broke and hoovering it up isn't enough. Can't touch the sofa arm because a drop of drink was spilled on it etc...
Whilst I am supportive and understanding, it is becoming a full time job up remembering what I can/can't touch etc. Has anyone else ever dealt with this kind of anxiety or worrying? I have looked on the web for guidance and advice but struggled to find much. I just don't want these things to dominate our relationship.
Thanks all for your responses.
Just finding it really hard at the moment. Both of us are suffering due to the change of living situation, so the worrying and anxiety are making it 100x worse. I haven't been able to take my house keys for weeks because they are contaminated after being dropped on the floor =( So many of my clothes and belongings have been thrown away. She has been to see her GP and has been referred on to have help, but she isn't entirely open with me about it. It is hard for me to approach the subject sometimes because she says that I am bullying her when I just want to try to resolve the situation.
Just finding it really hard at the moment. Both of us are suffering due to the change of living situation, so the worrying and anxiety are making it 100x worse. I haven't been able to take my house keys for weeks because they are contaminated after being dropped on the floor =( So many of my clothes and belongings have been thrown away. She has been to see her GP and has been referred on to have help, but she isn't entirely open with me about it. It is hard for me to approach the subject sometimes because she says that I am bullying her when I just want to try to resolve the situation.
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