Child Psychologist?
Discussion
Anyone ever had to use the service of a child psychologist? Is that the right term?
My ex-wife and I broke up 5 years ago when she had an affair. I refused to move out of the marital home (which I bought and refurb'd before I met her) so she eventually moved out. Our 2 children are 11 and 6 now. She has just moved house again, this is her third move since the split and has moved into a 1st floor flat. I sold the family home in June 2014 and used the equity to purchase my next home, something she didn't do, ploughing her cash into a shop-based business.
The relationship between the 11yo and me has been damaged (he's always been a mummy's boy, not weedy but more attached to her). We fight a lot, his attitude to me hurts and he now spends one more night a week at her house. We originally had 50/50 custody each before he decided to stay there the extra night, without any consultation from me.
The 6yo has always been more 'me', coming to me when he needs cuddles and reassurance but has recently made noises of staying at his mums more, probably because his big brother is there, who he adores.
Last night, I had a text from the ex, saying the 6yo has developed some kind of eye tic, where the eyes both look over to the side for a second (her words), and she googled it and is concerned it could be some kind of stress related issue. We have just recently been called into school about his behaviour, being rude to teacher and pushy to other kids. His birthday is in September so he's probably a fair bit older than many of his classmates. No excuses, but he could be more assertive than them.
I was thinking of seeing some professional about our problems, where would I go to be referred? The ex blames me because of the fractured relationship between my 11yo and myself, saying the 6yo is in the middle and it's affecting him.
I would prefer to not ask the school if possible.
My ex-wife and I broke up 5 years ago when she had an affair. I refused to move out of the marital home (which I bought and refurb'd before I met her) so she eventually moved out. Our 2 children are 11 and 6 now. She has just moved house again, this is her third move since the split and has moved into a 1st floor flat. I sold the family home in June 2014 and used the equity to purchase my next home, something she didn't do, ploughing her cash into a shop-based business.
The relationship between the 11yo and me has been damaged (he's always been a mummy's boy, not weedy but more attached to her). We fight a lot, his attitude to me hurts and he now spends one more night a week at her house. We originally had 50/50 custody each before he decided to stay there the extra night, without any consultation from me.
The 6yo has always been more 'me', coming to me when he needs cuddles and reassurance but has recently made noises of staying at his mums more, probably because his big brother is there, who he adores.
Last night, I had a text from the ex, saying the 6yo has developed some kind of eye tic, where the eyes both look over to the side for a second (her words), and she googled it and is concerned it could be some kind of stress related issue. We have just recently been called into school about his behaviour, being rude to teacher and pushy to other kids. His birthday is in September so he's probably a fair bit older than many of his classmates. No excuses, but he could be more assertive than them.
I was thinking of seeing some professional about our problems, where would I go to be referred? The ex blames me because of the fractured relationship between my 11yo and myself, saying the 6yo is in the middle and it's affecting him.
I would prefer to not ask the school if possible.
TartanPaint said:
I don't know what answer you expect other than, "Stop asking motoring enthusiasts and take him to a bloomin' doctor", but I know sometimes you just need to batter thoughts down on a keyboard to get your head around a problem, so glad PH is here to facilitate that.
Now, go take the lad to the doctor.
Yeah, the DR's will be the first place to start and I'll book an appt to rule out anything physically affecting him, but I was thinking of seeing someone about me and the 11yo as well. Now, go take the lad to the doctor.
I had the two boys last night so I watched the 6yo and his eyes. Best way to describe it is as if he has sticky eyes and looks high to the left to unstick them. He's doing this every couple of minutes and it really has come on suddenly. I've not noticed this before, and had them both Monday and Tuesday night.
He's seeing the Dr next week but it looks more like a habit he's picked up.
He's seeing the Dr next week but it looks more like a habit he's picked up.
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