sigh, thoughts on a nose job?
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Dare you to read it.
I'm a young guy in my mid twenties about to move out of my parents house for the first time due to a job elsewhere and to cut a long story short: I'm quite insecure about my massive honker.
Weirdly it only started towards the latter years of high school, before that I was actually quite confident and doing "well" with the girls. I never had it as easy as some of the more handsome fellas but my confidence usually made up for it. Towards the end of high school I became increasingly self-conscious and this started to affect my social life, I believe it made me excessively introverted. I would much prefer sitting at home playing video games than going out and meeting new people, it became daunting/a task to meet new people, particularly if they were attractive young women!
This pattern pretty much continued all throughout university (for 5 years!!) where video games were simply replaced with more studying/doing stuff by myself. I resent the fact that I wasn't more outgoing/confident during my prime years and I hardly made any new friends because of it.
Everyone has insecurities, some more so than others. I have loads of other issues that I am willing to live with but I genuinely think that I would be a handsome lad if I was to get my nose "corrected". My nose isn't just big but it is hooked and quite disproportionate with the rest of my face, I can't even take pictures with friends and family without feeling like a tool (as you can imagine the side profile is the worst). It's not like I'm a complete mess either, I'm actually very well groomed and have been complemented on several occasions on my attire; this simply annoys me more.
Now the question is should I get a nose job? I've been toying with this for years but it has never been easier for me to do it. I don't want to have to explain this decision to my family or my girlfriend and am wondering if they would notice? I would live miles and miles away and could justify not seeing them for a month or so, after which they may think I have lost weight or something. (it's very common for people to not notice the new nose and think it is something else).
I've never ever told anyone about these, my deepest insecurities. It's a weird scenario but I'm hoping you fellow petrol heads can help me out here.
(before anyone suggests "you just need to be yourself, be more confident" etc. I've tried that for a good few years now and it really isn't happening)
I'm a young guy in my mid twenties about to move out of my parents house for the first time due to a job elsewhere and to cut a long story short: I'm quite insecure about my massive honker.
Weirdly it only started towards the latter years of high school, before that I was actually quite confident and doing "well" with the girls. I never had it as easy as some of the more handsome fellas but my confidence usually made up for it. Towards the end of high school I became increasingly self-conscious and this started to affect my social life, I believe it made me excessively introverted. I would much prefer sitting at home playing video games than going out and meeting new people, it became daunting/a task to meet new people, particularly if they were attractive young women!
This pattern pretty much continued all throughout university (for 5 years!!) where video games were simply replaced with more studying/doing stuff by myself. I resent the fact that I wasn't more outgoing/confident during my prime years and I hardly made any new friends because of it.
Everyone has insecurities, some more so than others. I have loads of other issues that I am willing to live with but I genuinely think that I would be a handsome lad if I was to get my nose "corrected". My nose isn't just big but it is hooked and quite disproportionate with the rest of my face, I can't even take pictures with friends and family without feeling like a tool (as you can imagine the side profile is the worst). It's not like I'm a complete mess either, I'm actually very well groomed and have been complemented on several occasions on my attire; this simply annoys me more.
Now the question is should I get a nose job? I've been toying with this for years but it has never been easier for me to do it. I don't want to have to explain this decision to my family or my girlfriend and am wondering if they would notice? I would live miles and miles away and could justify not seeing them for a month or so, after which they may think I have lost weight or something. (it's very common for people to not notice the new nose and think it is something else).
I've never ever told anyone about these, my deepest insecurities. It's a weird scenario but I'm hoping you fellow petrol heads can help me out here.
(before anyone suggests "you just need to be yourself, be more confident" etc. I've tried that for a good few years now and it really isn't happening)
haha cheers Mike.
I do all of what you have stated. I routinely go to the gym, dress smart etc. I think I painted myself as a complete nerd/loner/gamer which I am not.
FWP indeed and I do feel like a little b
h having written all that rubbish above.
Also, for perspective, Tony Robbins has a much smaller snout than mine.
Sorry gents, I would rather not plaster a picture on here but needless to say it's big enough to have been taunted throughout life. (I was never really bullied though)
When I say I have tried for years to MTFU, I literally mean that. It has definitely shat all over my confidence, struggle in management/ confrontational scenarios and hate doing anything which brings attention to myself.
I know the issue is largely in my head. When I am off my tits on alcohol I become super confident and have no issues approaching even the finest of tail.
I do all of what you have stated. I routinely go to the gym, dress smart etc. I think I painted myself as a complete nerd/loner/gamer which I am not.
FWP indeed and I do feel like a little b
h having written all that rubbish above.Also, for perspective, Tony Robbins has a much smaller snout than mine.
Sorry gents, I would rather not plaster a picture on here but needless to say it's big enough to have been taunted throughout life. (I was never really bullied though)
When I say I have tried for years to MTFU, I literally mean that. It has definitely shat all over my confidence, struggle in management/ confrontational scenarios and hate doing anything which brings attention to myself.
I know the issue is largely in my head. When I am off my tits on alcohol I become super confident and have no issues approaching even the finest of tail.
Thank you for the advice gentleman, particularly those of you who have had similar experiences.
It's by no means as fked up as Owen Wilson's, I would say he has a pretty "normal" nose compared to mine, it's just broken in several places. Mines is pretty large and slopes downwards. I also have practically no chin so have had to grow a goatee to combat that.
I wish I was single and I could start fresh in a new city but I have a long time girlfriend (who is actually quite attractive herself), I'm worried how I would explain it to her. She's more old-school and I don't think she would approve one bit.
My nose is slightly off-center with a deviated septum, I'm thinking I could justify getting the procedure done due to that.
It's by no means as f
ked up as Owen Wilson's, I would say he has a pretty "normal" nose compared to mine, it's just broken in several places. Mines is pretty large and slopes downwards. I also have practically no chin so have had to grow a goatee to combat that. I wish I was single and I could start fresh in a new city but I have a long time girlfriend (who is actually quite attractive herself), I'm worried how I would explain it to her. She's more old-school and I don't think she would approve one bit.
My nose is slightly off-center with a deviated septum, I'm thinking I could justify getting the procedure done due to that.
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