Family and BF all don't want me to go biking..
Discussion
Weird one, basically had a go on a bike today and loved it. Took to it quite quickly too.
Tempted to go do a cbt and all the rest. I've always wanted a bike.
I used to go motor racing and my parents are aware that if I want to do something I will.
However, the long term bf has had a friend die on two wheels, a family member have an amputated leg from it and he had a crash and went to 4 wheels. I don't want to upset anyone but it's something I want to do, (when I have the money).
Really not sure where to go on this one, but looking for advice I suppose. And no I won't dump him :P
Tempted to go do a cbt and all the rest. I've always wanted a bike.
I used to go motor racing and my parents are aware that if I want to do something I will.
However, the long term bf has had a friend die on two wheels, a family member have an amputated leg from it and he had a crash and went to 4 wheels. I don't want to upset anyone but it's something I want to do, (when I have the money).
Really not sure where to go on this one, but looking for advice I suppose. And no I won't dump him :P
You all echo my views exactly! My decision would be simple if at least the bf was encouraging about it. Or someone was!
His dad has been riding bikes for 30 years and thinks I should just go for it. When I have the money of course.
I said to the bf that I do want to go for it and will eventually, he just says well I won't be very happy about it when you do. I really don't want you to do it, you'll kill yourself.
It makes me doubt my decision as I don't want to be selfish and upset people but if I died and never did it it'd be a regret.
Sorry I'm turning this into an agony aunt column! I just need to vent. I'm nervous about the risks too, but I hope it'll be worth it.
His dad has been riding bikes for 30 years and thinks I should just go for it. When I have the money of course.
I said to the bf that I do want to go for it and will eventually, he just says well I won't be very happy about it when you do. I really don't want you to do it, you'll kill yourself.
It makes me doubt my decision as I don't want to be selfish and upset people but if I died and never did it it'd be a regret.
Sorry I'm turning this into an agony aunt column! I just need to vent. I'm nervous about the risks too, but I hope it'll be worth it.
I'd be commuting in my car and more than likely I see the bike as a weekend fairweather kind of thing. Expensive hobby I suppose!
The o/h had a scooter when he was 17 for two years (he's now 28) and got rear ended and said he hated riding it and got a car as soon as he could. I'm a HUGE petrol head and motor racing that I did for 10 years came with its risks too, but now I no longer do it I crave the adrenalin and freedom.
I'd just feel terrible thinking he'd constantly be worrying about me everytime I'd head out, which makes me worry. Just wish he wasn't so anti it.
The o/h had a scooter when he was 17 for two years (he's now 28) and got rear ended and said he hated riding it and got a car as soon as he could. I'm a HUGE petrol head and motor racing that I did for 10 years came with its risks too, but now I no longer do it I crave the adrenalin and freedom.
I'd just feel terrible thinking he'd constantly be worrying about me everytime I'd head out, which makes me worry. Just wish he wasn't so anti it.
bass gt3 said:
MTB makes a valid point though. Asking here whether you should get a bike is like going to Church and asking if there's a God.
The real question however, is how are you and the OH going to manage you heading out for half a day riding?? Somehow I doubt he'll be keen to be jumping on the back....
Good point, I can't say I really have given it that much thought. I can't imagine he'd have an issue with it as he plays golf most weekends on either the Sat or Sun, so I wouldn't feel too guilty about it.The real question however, is how are you and the OH going to manage you heading out for half a day riding?? Somehow I doubt he'll be keen to be jumping on the back....
I understand both your points of view, and I agree. I guess I just needed to know whether this is unusual.
Need some time to think long and hard about it!
moanthebairns said:
Is kart racing motorsport.
It's a bit like picking up an action film and finding it's got Steven seagal in it.
It's technically probably is but it's just feels wrong saying it's the same thing as die hard
You clearly have never watched or experienced a professional kart race, it's the grassroots of motorsport. You can't progress in it unless you have money.It's a bit like picking up an action film and finding it's got Steven seagal in it.
It's technically probably is but it's just feels wrong saying it's the same thing as die hard
Nice try at trolling though.
bass gt3 said:
Karting is very technical, I dabbled with a National Super 100 years ago.
But NOTHING with wheels will give you the buzz of carving a bend at 100+mph, knee down, feeling the back end squirm as you climb on the throttle. 4 wheels just don't come close....
The geared karts are incredibly technical! Had a go in a super 250e once, 160mph in a kart is interesting.But NOTHING with wheels will give you the buzz of carving a bend at 100+mph, knee down, feeling the back end squirm as you climb on the throttle. 4 wheels just don't come close....
I can imagine, 4 wheels have their limitations that's for sure.
gwm said:
Sounds like you really need to convince the other half. Say that you could end up resenting him if you don't at least try it, and because you love him so much you don't want that to happen.
Or just tell him you worry him playing golf will turn him into a arrogant tosser, but you would never hold him back from what he wamts to do.
Haha! I like your thinking. Can't think of anything worse than golf, the only thing that appeals is the buggy.Or just tell him you worry him playing golf will turn him into a arrogant tosser, but you would never hold him back from what he wamts to do.
Chongwong said:
My other half Hates the idea of me getting a bike, as we both have family members who've died in riding accidents. That being said, she understands (after much taking and a night on the couch) that is my choice and I'll do it anyway. What I will say though is that you should still consider your partners words, and decide if you still wish too ride. Hope this helps.
Excuse any mistakes merlot is far too Tasty
Cheers for letting me know how you dealt with it all (and everyone else that mentioned their experiences). It's a lot harder of a decision to come to than I originally thought. I suppose I can see it through their eyes too, I totally get why they're so freaked out.Excuse any mistakes merlot is far too Tasty
Cheers Nito for your in depth reply! I definitely did this for moral support and it just helps me when I understand what everyone else has had to go through too.
I definitely plan on saving up for the best protection I can get, and doing advanced training when I can. Haowever I'm obviously aware this can't mitigate all risk.
I know the bf was dreading this day as he knew it'd always come. I thought to myself earlier, if I was single I wouldn't even be having this dilemma I'd just do it!
Weirdly he thinks I'd be safer on a scooter?! I don't buy that, I plan on getting a cruiser as that's exactly what I want to do on it, cruise with my cousin who goes out on them all the time.
I definitely plan on saving up for the best protection I can get, and doing advanced training when I can. Haowever I'm obviously aware this can't mitigate all risk.
I know the bf was dreading this day as he knew it'd always come. I thought to myself earlier, if I was single I wouldn't even be having this dilemma I'd just do it!
Weirdly he thinks I'd be safer on a scooter?! I don't buy that, I plan on getting a cruiser as that's exactly what I want to do on it, cruise with my cousin who goes out on them all the time.
MotorsportTom said:
In short, Life is too short.
Long, my mum was against me having a bike. I just kept telling her I was goinf to get one up until the point I got one and through that time she began to accept it. Still doesn't like it and worries but she see's how happy it makes me.
My most recent ex hated bikes and so did her family after her uncle was killed on one.
From day 1 I told her bikes were the most important thing to me and she understood.. i think.
I expect with the mileage I do at some point I'll have a crash/accident on the roadz but I just hope it won't hurt too much.
If you can't accept that don't do it but really from the sounds of your mileage the risk will be reduced.
Probably no less dangerous than karting I expect.
If your boyf wanted to start a new hobby you didn't agree with but it made him happy would you stop him?
Just get it done!
Hell no I wouldn't! If he went out on a bike I think it's natural if you care for someone that you'd worry. Hand on heart I wouldn't stop him doing it because I'd feel that's just not fair on the life path he wants to choose, it's up to him.Long, my mum was against me having a bike. I just kept telling her I was goinf to get one up until the point I got one and through that time she began to accept it. Still doesn't like it and worries but she see's how happy it makes me.
My most recent ex hated bikes and so did her family after her uncle was killed on one.
From day 1 I told her bikes were the most important thing to me and she understood.. i think.
I expect with the mileage I do at some point I'll have a crash/accident on the roadz but I just hope it won't hurt too much.
If you can't accept that don't do it but really from the sounds of your mileage the risk will be reduced.
Probably no less dangerous than karting I expect.
If your boyf wanted to start a new hobby you didn't agree with but it made him happy would you stop him?
Just get it done!
I think if he was a massive peteolhead like me he'd understand why I want to do it so much. Instead he's pretty sure I'll die before my 27th birthday and It's a selfish act. Because he hated two wheels so much I dont think he gets why I enjoyed it.
It may have to just be a case of doing it and hoping I don't get dumped over it lol. Ah what a b
h.MotorsportTom said:
If you get dumped then look on the bright side, you'll have a bike to go to bike meets on and you'll be sure there's plenty of like minded guys to replace him with 
Best of luck with the tests etc
Haha! Ain't that the truth! Good way of thinking if it. My parents are more accepting of it than he is, I think they know me well enough to know whatever they say I'll do it anyway.Best of luck with the tests etc
I think I've just got to accept the fact that very few people will ever be over the moon with the decision to ride a motorbike. Hopefully that will change.
One thing though, I've been advised that at my age (26) I'm better off doing cbt, then full test then get a big bike. Wouldn't it be better to do a cbt and gain experience on a 125 first than get the bike of my dreams straight up?
One thing though, I've been advised that at my age (26) I'm better off doing cbt, then full test then get a big bike. Wouldn't it be better to do a cbt and gain experience on a 125 first than get the bike of my dreams straight up?
MotorsportTom said:
I went straight onto a 600 and it was fine, it was far from the bike of my dreams but it did the job.
If I had bought a 125 I'd have been bored incredibly quickly and it wouldn't be suited to my commute in the slightest.
Sure riding a 125 will give you experience on a bike that isn't intimidating and is forgiving/easy to ride but ultimately you'll get bored quickly, spend more money and have more hassle as opposed to getting on a larger, more comfortable machine.
You'll have fun on whatever you get and it entirely depends on what bike you want to get, i promise you what you want now will differ from what you want after you've passed and starting browsing.
Do you think it'd be wise to hop on to something like a Yamaha xv950r as a first bike? Or should I get some experience in first on something else?If I had bought a 125 I'd have been bored incredibly quickly and it wouldn't be suited to my commute in the slightest.
Sure riding a 125 will give you experience on a bike that isn't intimidating and is forgiving/easy to ride but ultimately you'll get bored quickly, spend more money and have more hassle as opposed to getting on a larger, more comfortable machine.
You'll have fun on whatever you get and it entirely depends on what bike you want to get, i promise you what you want now will differ from what you want after you've passed and starting browsing.
My cousin kind of said well it's only going to go as fast as you'll let it and the xv950 is quite forgiving. Apparently.
I have! I'm undecided on the look of it, but like the fact as you say that it's aimed at women. I'm 5'11" so height wise I'm OK. In fact the 125 I was using at the weekend felt kind of awkward, with my legs up I felt way too tall for it.
My only concern is the weight of the bike, I'm strong but not as strong as a bloke (obviously)! So wheeling something in and out of the garage could be tricky. Might just have to take some 'roids.
My only concern is the weight of the bike, I'm strong but not as strong as a bloke (obviously)! So wheeling something in and out of the garage could be tricky. Might just have to take some 'roids.
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