Convincing the OH that I won't die

[Alapeno]

Not sure if a biker thread or 'grow a pair' relationship thread but bear with me.

I've thought about getting a bike licence for a long time now and decided to finally look into it seriously.

My Dad's been a biker since being a lad but had about 10 years off and has now got a new one. My younger brother (19) has also now just decided to do his CBT and get one, so I thought now is the perfect time.

One major issue though: The missus is convinced that I'll die or end up in a wheelchair or something. We've had numerous disagreements (see almost full-blown arguments) about it over the last few weeks.

I'm not under the thumb as such and tend to do what I want, including turning up at home with Imprezas and Mx5's in the past which really put me in the st. This seems like a whole new level of wrath and (possibly unfounded) opinion though.

Her opinion is based on the one friend she knows with a bike coming off his bike and now being paralysed. I don't know the circumstances though. It would be nice to have her support - I had dreams of road trips with her etc. but I'm not sure it's really worth the hassle otherwise.

I've tried explaining that I have an interest in actually riding properly and the craft of it, not just riding the nuts off it for speed's sake, this doesn't seem to work though.

Any ideas?

[Alapeno]

Some good discussion and tips here, cheers.

I did try the horse riding thing after I'd had a few which she couldn't really shoot down. I now 'can't afford one' though. I think this sums it up:

black-k1 said:

Her “fear” of motorcycling is 90% emotional and only 10% logical

I think it boils down to me using the money to do something I want that is totally for me and my happiness, that may also may be slightly dangerous. I quote "So you'd rather have a motorbike than go on holiday?!". I answered wrong, which she took to mean that I'd rather have a motorbike than spend any time with her at all. Ever. For the rest of eternity.

Wimmins eh?!