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Shaolin
Original Poster
2,094 posts
58 months
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Going to a friend's wedding in a few weeks, he's 45, she's similar age. He's never been married, she has and has two children. They are both reasonably comfortable, had 2 houses, moved into 1 so have recently gone from far too much stuff to enough. They reluctantly did a wedding list as people kept asking.
I'd like to get them something a bit different to home things, useless but highly desireable, preferably his and hers if possible, budget £50-£100. I'm usually quite good at this, but a bit stuck at the moment - suggestions gratefully received (comedy and otherwise).
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Hysteria1983
1,453 posts
27 months
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Shaolin said: Going to a friend's wedding in a few weeks, he's 45, she's similar age. He's never been married, she has and has two children. They are both reasonably comfortable, had 2 houses, moved into 1 so have recently gone from far too much stuff to enough. They reluctantly did a wedding list as people kept asking.
I'd like to get them something a bit different to home things, useless but highly desireable, preferably his and hers if possible, budget £50-£100. I'm usually quite good at this, but a bit stuck at the moment - suggestions gratefully received (comedy and otherwise). You say they did a list, so is everything on the list been bought? If not it might be best to stick to it. As much as it is a lovely idea to go the extra mile and get something special, if they don't need it and don't have room for it will it be happily received? I know that seems a bit mean, but I'm sure your friends would rather you save the money than buy something random. Of course I could be completely wrong, and you may know them so well you have a fantastic idea, but as us PHers don't know them at all, it would be practically impossible to suggest anything. Is money or gift vouchers out of the question?
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Shaolin
Original Poster
2,094 posts
58 months
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Yeh I know, a logical reply and one I could have written myself to someone else.
I was thinking maybe consumeables / experience?
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Dodsy
5,537 posts
96 months
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renmure
1,547 posts
93 months
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Shaolin said: I was thinking maybe experience? That would be my suggestion. Hot Air Balloon Flight, Microlight Flight Experience, half day Land Rover Off-Road experience day, etc. Something a bit unusual but where the gift is the memory of having done something a bit different.
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N Dentressangle
2,459 posts
91 months
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Couple of decent bottles of wine. Red for him and white for the lady, of course... 
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Killer2005
15,389 posts
97 months
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Some cold hard cash for the Honeymoon?
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Ekona
535 posts
71 months
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We did the same thing, in so far as having to do a list because everyone kept asking us to despite neither of us reding anything. Did the John Lewis thing in the end as it was easiest, but there were still a few people who went off-piste and bought us something we hadn't asked for. They were good gifts in the end, but that did mean that stuff we'd actually picked out didn't get bought which was a tad frustrating.
Stick to the list if possible.
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Zwolf
22,321 posts
75 months
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Cash is under-rated as a gift.
Or club together with the rest of their friends who also have this dilemma and want to give them a little something special each and give them and their children something more special overall.
A dozen red letter/spa days, bottles of wine, cufflinks, earrings etc. - or a family holiday FOC? I know in their situation which we'd value the greater gift.
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Jasandjules
45,414 posts
98 months
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Something personalised. We got some friends a personal monopoly board with stuff they liked (each football team as park lane and mayfair, favorite cars etc as locations).
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timetex
71 posts
17 months
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Jonboy_t
2,536 posts
52 months
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The nicest, most thoughtful present we got on our wedding day was a bunch of bricks! My best mate got a dozen house bricks, spray painted our names and wedding date on them and boxed them up. The idea was that we had just moved in together and wanted to renovate the house, so if we ever needed to do a wall for whatever reason, we could use the bricks and have something permanent.
I thought it was a really cheap, nice present idea.
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Landlord
11,892 posts
126 months
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Donation to their favourite charity?
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whirligig
938 posts
64 months
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N Dentressangle said: Couple of decent bottles of wine. Red for him and white for the lady, of course... My uncle remarried last year at the age of 50+ - both him and new wife well off and two home and didn't need anything. They asked for good wine to lay down for a cellar and it was nice to go to a good wine store (Valvona & Crolla in Edinburgh) and spend decent money on a good recommendation instead of picking up a cheapy bottle in the supermarket. We put a nice personalised lable round the neck of each bottle and it's nice to think that when they open that bottle they'll think of us.
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GTIR
19,078 posts
135 months
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A turnip in a nice presentation box.
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otolith
19,379 posts
73 months
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Dodsy said: Bit of a high risk gift that one, you'd love it, I can't think of anything worse. Except possibly jumping out of a plane.
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Puggit
29,512 posts
117 months
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whirligig said: N Dentressangle said: Couple of decent bottles of wine. Red for him and white for the lady, of course... My uncle remarried last year at the age of 50+ - both him and new wife well off and two home and didn't need anything. They asked for good wine to lay down for a cellar and it was nice to go to a good wine store (Valvona & Crolla in Edinburgh) and spend decent money on a good recommendation instead of picking up a cheapy bottle in the supermarket. We put a nice personalised lable round the neck of each bottle and it's nice to think that when they open that bottle they'll think of us. You can also rent a vineyard: http://www.3dwines.com/
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Deluded
3,421 posts
60 months
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Cash.
Might come across as thoughtless but I would rather than than something you think I need, which I dont.
Could be spending money for the honeymoon!
I'm getting married at the end of the year and we are saying that peoples presence at out ceremony/reception is far more valuable than a gift but if they feel they want to get us a gift, cash to put towards a nice honeymoon would be greatly appreciated.
Simple.
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Hysteria1983
1,453 posts
27 months
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Deluded said: Cash.
Might come across as thoughtless but I would rather than than something you think I need, which I dont.
Could be spending money for the honeymoon!
I'm getting married at the end of the year and we are saying that peoples presence at out ceremony/reception is far more valuable than a gift but if they feel they want to get us a gift, cash to put towards a nice honeymoon would be greatly appreciated.
Simple. I happen to agree. As much as they would appreciate that you have gone to the effort to buy something 'special' I am sure that many people (under the circumstances) would prefere a little something towards the honeymoon. I don't think it's in bad taste either as it is something 100% useful, rather than a gift that you cannot be 100% sure on. If they have gone to the effort of making a list than it is perhaps best that you either stick to it, or give some cash. Think of it this way, if another 20 people (who have also insisted on this list you mentioned) all decide to do a similar 'off the cuff' gift, then its a bit of a waste of time them going to the effort to have done a list in the first place. Given that they live together and probably have all that they need, I doubt that the list was as easy as it may seem, especially if they didnt want to ask for anything in the first place.
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mike325112
1,022 posts
53 months
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N Dentressangle said: Couple of decent bottles of wine. Red for him and white for the lady, of course... Friend and work collegue bought us two really nice bottles for a present - we drank them on the honeymoon, I thought it was a lovely touch. Wouldnt have thought they cost too much but went down very very well.
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