Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
talkssense said:
Have to agree to be honest.
Dating multiple women is fine. Dragging their kids into something that only lasts a few weeks is out of order - in my opinion anyway.
Surely that depends on who the child thinks he is? If he's just a friend and the child sees nothing in the short term to dissuade them of that description then there's no harm imo. If introduced as the new boyfriend then I agree it's a tad too soon. Dating multiple women is fine. Dragging their kids into something that only lasts a few weeks is out of order - in my opinion anyway.
But I have a friend who introduced her new boyfriend to her older teenage kids after 2 or 3 weeks, they 'appear' fine with it, and the pair of them are still going strong a few months later.
S1KRR said:
It's your life and all.
BUT
You make a fair point and it's one I've raised with her. We'll see, I'm going in with eyes open and mutual agreement on what needs to change, when it's good with her it's great so worth another try. BUT
antspants said:
You make a fair point and it's one I've raised with her. We'll see, I'm going in with eyes open and mutual agreement on what needs to change, when it's good with her it's great so worth another try.
Three questions if I may.1) How long were you together?
2) How long since you split
3) Did either of you enter into a relationship in the meantime
And 4)
Was it a major reason why you split.. Cheating, lies, abusive behaviour etc
hyphen said:
Petrus1983 said:
V8covin said:
Delete your account and sign up afresh
Not a bad shout. 
Petrus1983 said:
hyphen said:
Petrus1983 said:
V8covin said:
Delete your account and sign up afresh
Not a bad shout. 
S1KRR said:
Three questions if I may.
1) How long were you together?
2) How long since you split
3) Did either of you enter into a relationship in the meantime
And 4)
Was it a major reason why you split.. Cheating, lies, abusive behaviour etc
Not long and all recent, so 3 months together, 2 months apart with some contact in 1st few weeks, and I had a couple of dates the weekend before last one of whom I spent the night with on a 2nd date. 1) How long were you together?
2) How long since you split
3) Did either of you enter into a relationship in the meantime
And 4)
Was it a major reason why you split.. Cheating, lies, abusive behaviour etc
No nothing like that, hard to explain but she puts up a lot of barriers due to her exes behaviour. Not sure they'll come down but she's trying.
Edited by antspants on Tuesday 17th September 23:21
SpunkyGlory said:
SpeckledJim said:
Petrus1983 said:
SpeckledJim said:
Get someone else to use their account to find her and send her a message.
She’d have to also like them. This ones the fish that got away. Oh well. Won't make him sound like a creep at all.
Vyse said:
When a match sends you a message that isnt intended for you. Do you just ignore the message? I got one this morning, I think she thought I was someone else. Not pic message btw!
reply with "is this for me - if so hello - if not - good luck with your search"Difficult to take them seriously without a picture, although I’ve had a surprise/shock or 2 when one has arrived.
antspants said:
Not long and all recent, so 3 months together, 2 months apart with some contact in 1st few weeks, and I had a couple of dates the weekend before last one of whom I spent the night with on a 2nd date.
No nothing like that, hard to explain but she puts up a lot of barriers due to her exes behaviour. Not sure they'll come down but she's trying.
You and I are very different No nothing like that, hard to explain but she puts up a lot of barriers due to her exes behaviour. Not sure they'll come down but she's trying.
The fact that one of you started contact in the 1st few weeks is not something I could entertain. Nothing worse than those annoying "On Off On Off On Off" couples everyone knows!
One or both of you made a decision to separate. Stick to it
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