Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
RobbieTheTruth said:
PAUL.S. said:
Fermit said:
ChemicalChaos said:
Thanks to all for the advice on the L word, turns out the situation resolved itself!
Making her a cup of tea, we were discussing overused phrases when she mentioned couples that say "I love you" but don't really mean it.
I asked what she'd think if I said it right now and did mean it, because I'd been wanting to say it for a while.
She replied she'd been thinking just the same.
We both said it, meant it and embraced.
I'm very happy this evening
fMaking her a cup of tea, we were discussing overused phrases when she mentioned couples that say "I love you" but don't really mean it.
I asked what she'd think if I said it right now and did mean it, because I'd been wanting to say it for a while.
She replied she'd been thinking just the same.
We both said it, meant it and embraced.
I'm very happy this evening
ks sake. Like watching Will on the Inbetweeners on a first date with his Mum present. Happy (genuinely) for you man, but it reads kinda tragic.Edited by Fermit on Saturday 23 March 22:14
Blown2CV said:
RobbieTheTruth said:
PAUL.S. said:
Fermit said:
ChemicalChaos said:
Thanks to all for the advice on the L word, turns out the situation resolved itself!
Making her a cup of tea, we were discussing overused phrases when she mentioned couples that say "I love you" but don't really mean it.
I asked what she'd think if I said it right now and did mean it, because I'd been wanting to say it for a while.
She replied she'd been thinking just the same.
We both said it, meant it and embraced.
I'm very happy this evening
fMaking her a cup of tea, we were discussing overused phrases when she mentioned couples that say "I love you" but don't really mean it.
I asked what she'd think if I said it right now and did mean it, because I'd been wanting to say it for a while.
She replied she'd been thinking just the same.
We both said it, meant it and embraced.
I'm very happy this evening
ks sake. Like watching Will on the Inbetweeners on a first date with his Mum present. Happy (genuinely) for you man, but it reads kinda tragic.Edited by Fermit on Saturday 23 March 22:14
k it, why shouldn't I use whatever handle I choose, even if it were one being proud of my wife?Fermit said:
No, not at all exactly this. She's never left me, and she's still rather sexy, cheers. And fk it, why shouldn't I use whatever handle I choose, even if it were one being proud of my wife?
Fermit, you used to be very laid back and non-confrontational back in the day, what's happened to that Fermit? k it, why shouldn't I use whatever handle I choose, even if it were one being proud of my wife?Fermit said:
No, not at all exactly this. She's never left me, and she's still rather sexy, cheers. And fk it, why shouldn't I use whatever handle I choose, even if it were one being proud of my wife?
I think it’s more those in glass houses throwing stones. Your earlier days on PH and the reference to your Mrs was as cringeworthy and tragic as any Inbetweeners reference so to take aim at another poster seemed somewhat ironic. k it, why shouldn't I use whatever handle I choose, even if it were one being proud of my wife?Gigamoons said:
Back when OLD I was living in White City and matched with a really nice girl also in west London - she was attractive, sweet, good convo etc. We talked about meeting up soonest opportunity.
When details were exchanged, she was only about 4 miles away.
But then reality hit and it hit hard…
Turns out she was ‘that’ side of Hanger Lane.
I couldn’t do it. It would be too annoying over time.
So I was honest and gave her my reason.
She said suit yourself, basically that I was an idiot and that it was a lame excuse.
And the bit that still makes me laugh is she said ‘you’re not the first bloke I’ve met who’s said that’
For those of us in the northern wilderness, whats the 'Hanger Lane' problem?When details were exchanged, she was only about 4 miles away.
But then reality hit and it hit hard…
Turns out she was ‘that’ side of Hanger Lane.
I couldn’t do it. It would be too annoying over time.
So I was honest and gave her my reason.
She said suit yourself, basically that I was an idiot and that it was a lame excuse.
And the bit that still makes me laugh is she said ‘you’re not the first bloke I’ve met who’s said that’
BunkMor said:
*I don't expect much. Though maybe others will point out my 4 things ARE expecting too much.
My Hard rules are
1) No kids from previous relationships
2) Be regularly active. As in 3+ times a week at whatever you're into.
3) No drugs
4) Not be politically left leaning.
Preferences, but not deal breakers
Be 5'7+, as I'm 6'1
Not still live with their parents. This is surprisingly uncommon! Also I find the same women have zero savings and no ability or intention to move out! Despite being well into their mid 30s or beyond
Everything else is up for discussion as we go.
I don't know how old you are, but most of the women on there fall into two groups.My Hard rules are
1) No kids from previous relationships
2) Be regularly active. As in 3+ times a week at whatever you're into.
3) No drugs
4) Not be politically left leaning.
Preferences, but not deal breakers
Be 5'7+, as I'm 6'1
Not still live with their parents. This is surprisingly uncommon! Also I find the same women have zero savings and no ability or intention to move out! Despite being well into their mid 30s or beyond
Everything else is up for discussion as we go.
1)Divorced with children (80%) Once you get beyond the age of 35 this group just gets bigger and bigger.
2)Not got any children, the clock is ticking and they are looking for someone with a house, decent job etc. to father children with. Depending on how desperate they are, being 6ft tall, good looking and having abs are all boxes on the checklist. (20%)
So you have already eliminated 80% of the potential women out there.
Then out of group 2, a large percentage of these women like you say will be living with parents, possibly in not very well paid jobs and possibly with debt.
As you no doubt can tell from the photos, a large percentage of these women will also not be very active at all......
So basically you are looking for a good looking, reasonably tall woman with her financial s
t together, preferably with her own house, who looks after herself and doesn't have children.Women like that are easily in the top 10% probably 5% of women on dating sites. If you can imagine how many messages and likes a very average 6 out of ten woman gets, imagine how inundated these top 10% of women are with attention.
Women like that who are single are either bat s
t crazy of have an impossibly high expectation of the man they deserve.Oh and EVERY woman no matter how short they are puts that they are looking for a man 6ft and over, so no woman is going to think "he is too tall for me"
Edited by ThingsBehindTheSun on Friday 3rd May 15:52
Colonel Cupcake said:
Gigamoons said:
Back when OLD I was living in White City and matched with a really nice girl also in west London - she was attractive, sweet, good convo etc. We talked about meeting up soonest opportunity.
When details were exchanged, she was only about 4 miles away.
But then reality hit and it hit hard…
Turns out she was ‘that’ side of Hanger Lane.
I couldn’t do it. It would be too annoying over time.
So I was honest and gave her my reason.
She said suit yourself, basically that I was an idiot and that it was a lame excuse.
And the bit that still makes me laugh is she said ‘you’re not the first bloke I’ve met who’s said that’
For those of us in the northern wilderness, whats the 'Hanger Lane' problem?When details were exchanged, she was only about 4 miles away.
But then reality hit and it hit hard…
Turns out she was ‘that’ side of Hanger Lane.
I couldn’t do it. It would be too annoying over time.
So I was honest and gave her my reason.
She said suit yourself, basically that I was an idiot and that it was a lame excuse.
And the bit that still makes me laugh is she said ‘you’re not the first bloke I’ve met who’s said that’
Edited by Gigamoons on Friday 3rd May 17:48
shirt said:
To be fair, you did write on here that it was over. If you don’t want people speculating on your life, keep it private.
We did have a small period a year or so ago, when it looked like we were parting ways, but it's somewhat a stretch to state she left me 
I'm not convinced anyone was speculating, I think it was more a case of twisting events to be derogatory.
Anyway. I'll leave it there. It's Friday evening, and I'm about to watch Clarksons Farm (if the wife ever gets her arse in gear
)
CloudStuff said:
jdw100 said:
Just for some balance, OLD, specifically Bumble, has been absolutely life-changing for me. So there's that.I'm slowly building up the courage to get on OLD somehow. The last 5 years on my own have been fantastic for doing what I want when I want, and I've been able to develop my career and earning potential greatly. It has also, at times, been lonely as f
k, and I think it's time to do something about it.Shnozz said:
Fermit said:
No, not at all exactly this. She's never left me, and she's still rather sexy, cheers. And fk it, why shouldn't I use whatever handle I choose, even if it were one being proud of my wife?
I think it’s more those in glass houses throwing stones. Your earlier days on PH and the reference to your Mrs was as cringeworthy and tragic as any Inbetweeners reference so to take aim at another poster seemed somewhat ironic. k it, why shouldn't I use whatever handle I choose, even if it were one being proud of my wife?Now you're telling a guy he's cringe because he mutually expressed love?
ThingsBehindTheSun said:
I don't know how old you are, but most of the women on there fall into two groups.
1)Divorced with children (80%) Once you get beyond the age of 35 this group just gets bigger and bigger.
2)Not got any children, the clock is ticking and they are looking for someone with a house, decent job etc. to father children with. Depending on how desperate they are, being 6ft tall, good looking and having abs are all boxes on the checklist. (20%)
So you have already eliminated 80% of the potential women out there.
Then out of group 2, a large percentage of these women like you say will be living with parents, possibly in not very well paid jobs and possibly with debt.
As you no doubt can tell from the photos, a large percentage of these women will also not be very active at all......
So basically you are looking for a good looking, reasonably tall woman with her financial st together, preferably with her own house, who looks after herself and doesn't have children.
Women like that are easily in the top 10% probably 5% of women on dating sites. If you can imagine how many messages and likes a very average 6 out of ten woman gets, imagine how inundated these top 10% of women are with attention.
Women like that who are single are either bat st crazy of have an impossibly high expectation of the man they deserve.
Oh and EVERY woman no matter how short they are puts that they are looking for a man 6ft and over, so no woman is going to think "he is too tall for me"
I think your percentages are off.1)Divorced with children (80%) Once you get beyond the age of 35 this group just gets bigger and bigger.
2)Not got any children, the clock is ticking and they are looking for someone with a house, decent job etc. to father children with. Depending on how desperate they are, being 6ft tall, good looking and having abs are all boxes on the checklist. (20%)
So you have already eliminated 80% of the potential women out there.
Then out of group 2, a large percentage of these women like you say will be living with parents, possibly in not very well paid jobs and possibly with debt.
As you no doubt can tell from the photos, a large percentage of these women will also not be very active at all......
So basically you are looking for a good looking, reasonably tall woman with her financial s
t together, preferably with her own house, who looks after herself and doesn't have children.Women like that are easily in the top 10% probably 5% of women on dating sites. If you can imagine how many messages and likes a very average 6 out of ten woman gets, imagine how inundated these top 10% of women are with attention.
Women like that who are single are either bat s
t crazy of have an impossibly high expectation of the man they deserve.Oh and EVERY woman no matter how short they are puts that they are looking for a man 6ft and over, so no woman is going to think "he is too tall for me"
On Hinge at the moment 31-40
I'd estimate its about 65/35 No kids/having kids
And its probably nearer 70/30 for living outside the family home/still living with parents.
Though the latter generally have higher levels of debt and seem unlikely to ever be able to afford to rent or buy. Like the ladies willing to have kids with more or less anyone, these people are clearly expecting their future partner to already own/rent property they can move into. It would take a very special person for me to entertain having someone move in when they haven't lived on their own at any time in their life.
I will add that I don't chase supermodels, women who live in Kensington or women out of my league. I just aim a little higher than myself and try to find someone active.
If I cant find a person that meets my approximate criteria I will stay Single forever. It matters little really.
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