"You're very nice but..."
"You're very nice but..."
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Council Baby

19,742 posts

216 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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bulldong said:
Council baby, I don't think you need women to get other women to come and talk to you.

If you need women in your life as friends, then just have them around by proxy i.e. invite your friends who have girlfriends to come out with you with their girlfriends. You still get the same effect as Chrisw666 and council baby highlight, but without the emotional wkdom that you have to put up with when they are direct relationships.
I think you slightly misunderstand my point Mr Dong wink

I don't need female friends, I just have plenty and that is one of many things that happens as an upside. I don't send them to chat to other women, they just do it anyway. I'll talk to anyone anyway if I feel like it. My female friends are all good friends who add a different (perhaps mental) perspective to life in general. I think life would be so much less interesting if they were only friends 'by proxy'.

ChunkyloverSV

1,335 posts

218 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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When I was younger I was in much the same boat. Problem is women at that age are immature for the most. When they get a bit older I find they are a better bet. I'm 25 now and the last few women I have been with are 30+ and there seems like be night and day difference between women in there 30s and 20s.

Best tip I could say is confidence and chat them up have a bit of fun don't put them on a pedestal. This will get quoted wrong but treat them like a guy mate. If you find you start acting wierd with girls.

mattyn1

6,925 posts

181 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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OP

Buy a new house


With a cellar


and watch this:


http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1467304/


Then go out and invite new lady friends over.


Enjoy! The rest will fall into place I am sure! hehe

The Major

2,947 posts

198 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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I ride a motorbike, last time I was in work I asked a pretty woman did she have anywere I could put my helmet(insinuating my bike helmet), I think you can figure out the rest.

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Melman Giraffe

6,794 posts

244 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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The Major said:
I think you can figure out the rest.
No we can't! Please explain

Justayellowbadge

37,057 posts

268 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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Melman Giraffe said:
The Major said:
I think you can figure out the rest.
No we can't! Please explain
Things got steadily worse:

Disciplinary

Loss of job

restraining order

entry on register

marriage over

hostel

alcohol

drugs

depression

posting in the lounge

JonRB

79,787 posts

298 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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Famous Graham said:
The irony is, of course, the moment you whinge about it, you're instantly unattractive biggrin
Definitely this. yes

I have a friend on Facebook who is always moaning about how nice he is and how it's so unfair that nice guys finish last and it is deeply unattractive. Comes across as very needy and women just don't like that.

cal216610

7,839 posts

196 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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Justayellowbadge said:
Things got steadily worse:

Disciplinary

Loss of job

restraining order

entry on register

marriage over

hostel

alcohol

drugs

depression

posting in the lounge
Is that how it went for you JAYB?

The Beaver King

6,095 posts

221 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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NobleGuy said:
It's not hard is it? The best thing is the conversation can be completely meaningless.
Absolutely. I've had a number of weird and wonderful converstions with random girls on a night out. More to the point, half of them I never even considered bedding them as they just weren't my type. Still doesn't hurt striking up a harmless bit of conversation though and it's all good practice.

ChunkyloverSV said:
When I was younger I was in much the same boat. Problem is women at that age are immature for the most. When they get a bit older I find they are a better bet. I'm 25 now and the last few women I have been with are 30+ and there seems like be night and day difference between women in there 30s and 20s.

Best tip I could say is confidence and chat them up have a bit of fun don't put them on a pedestal. This will get quoted wrong but treat them like a guy mate. If you find you start acting wierd with girls.
I've noticed this a lot more recently. I'm 25 as well and on a night out I seem to be getting hit on more and more by slightly older woman (30's). It's got to the point where my mates have now started calling me 'cougar bait' and it'll happen 3 or 4 times in one night.

The GF thinks it's hilarious. There's a few tidy ones out there though and they can be quite forward in how they approach you.

About 6 weeks ago I was out in town with the GF and a few mates. She went to the ladies and I was stood talking to a few mates at the bar. This 30 year old peroxide blonde girl came over and started chatting to me and telling me how 'fit' I was, she was laying it on pretty thick. She managed to ease her way into the group and started getting a bit touchy-feely, even though I was dropping massive hints and talking about my GF. The missus eventually comes back from the loo and introduces herself. The blonde girl then quickly mentions how much I was just talking about her and how we were just having a bit of banter. The GF knows me well enough to know I'm a good lad and after a few minutes goes off to find a mate.
This girl then starts going on about how she helped dig me out of a hole, how good she is a giving blowjobs, how she'd have my tea on the table for me when I got home from work and all this ste. I turned my back for 5 seconds to talk to a mate and I start to feel a hand going down my trousers!
I've never moved so fast in my life. I'm a big lad and can look after myself, but my first thought was to find the missus, as she was the only one who could protect me laugh

The GF now makes a habit of introducing herself if she see's me chatting to a girl over the age of 25.

I'm getting old....

Melman Giraffe

6,794 posts

244 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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Justayellowbadge said:
Melman Giraffe said:
The Major said:
I think you can figure out the rest.
No we can't! Please explain
Things got steadily worse:

Disciplinary

Loss of job

restraining order

entry on register

marriage over

hostel

alcohol

drugs

depression

posting in the lounge
smile

Now i'm confused I thought he was going explain how he tried to smash her with his acorn smile

Cotty

42,091 posts

310 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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MiseryStreak said:
Or...(being that that list is impossible to achieve for mortal man) make them laugh enough to sleep with you then give them an orgasm. Remember flowers occasionally, be yourself, you'll be married with kids before you know it.
What a way to kick a guy when he's down.

JonRB

79,787 posts

298 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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The Beaver King said:
I've noticed this a lot more recently. I'm 25 as well and on a night out I seem to be getting hit on more and more by slightly older woman (30's). It's got to the point where my mates have now started calling me 'cougar bait' and it'll happen 3 or 4 times in one night.
You truly are the King of Beaver. bow

anonymous-user

80 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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Council Baby said:
bulldong said:
Council baby, I don't think you need women to get other women to come and talk to you.

If you need women in your life as friends, then just have them around by proxy i.e. invite your friends who have girlfriends to come out with you with their girlfriends. You still get the same effect as Chrisw666 and council baby highlight, but without the emotional wkdom that you have to put up with when they are direct relationships.
I think you slightly misunderstand my point Mr Dong wink

I don't need female friends, I just have plenty and that is one of many things that happens as an upside. I don't send them to chat to other women, they just do it anyway. I'll talk to anyone anyway if I feel like it. My female friends are all good friends who add a different (perhaps mental) perspective to life in general. I think life would be so much less interesting if they were only friends 'by proxy'.
If I misunderstood you then I apologise. smile

Chrisw666

22,655 posts

225 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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Council Baby said:
bulldong said:
Council baby, I don't think you need women to get other women to come and talk to you.

If you need women in your life as friends, then just have them around by proxy i.e. invite your friends who have girlfriends to come out with you with their girlfriends. You still get the same effect as Chrisw666 and council baby highlight, but without the emotional wkdom that you have to put up with when they are direct relationships.
I think you slightly misunderstand my point Mr Dong wink

I don't need female friends, I just have plenty and that is one of many things that happens as an upside. I don't send them to chat to other women, they just do it anyway. I'll talk to anyone anyway if I feel like it. My female friends are all good friends who add a different (perhaps mental) perspective to life in general. I think life would be so much less interesting if they were only friends 'by proxy'.
I think he's just bitter and angry that the only girls that ever talk nicely to him are in second life.

Good female friends are part of a normal group of mates and add perspective, a view of tits and the occasional outsider that isn't out of bounds. Being seen with women only marks you as one of the gays to manly men, to women it says that you're not a rapey nut job and know how to talk to and treat women.


The Beaver King

6,095 posts

221 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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JonRB said:
The Beaver King said:
I've noticed this a lot more recently. I'm 25 as well and on a night out I seem to be getting hit on more and more by slightly older woman (30's). It's got to the point where my mates have now started calling me 'cougar bait' and it'll happen 3 or 4 times in one night.
You truly are the King of Beaver. bow
I am, if by beaver you mean 'slightly older beaver with a bad case of mange'...

I'm convinced it's karma trying to balance out the youthfulness of my girlfriend, seeing as it only started when I began dating her.

anonymous-user

80 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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Chrisw666 said:
Council Baby said:
bulldong said:
Council baby, I don't think you need women to get other women to come and talk to you.

If you need women in your life as friends, then just have them around by proxy i.e. invite your friends who have girlfriends to come out with you with their girlfriends. You still get the same effect as Chrisw666 and council baby highlight, but without the emotional wkdom that you have to put up with when they are direct relationships.
I think you slightly misunderstand my point Mr Dong wink

I don't need female friends, I just have plenty and that is one of many things that happens as an upside. I don't send them to chat to other women, they just do it anyway. I'll talk to anyone anyway if I feel like it. My female friends are all good friends who add a different (perhaps mental) perspective to life in general. I think life would be so much less interesting if they were only friends 'by proxy'.
I think he's just bitter and angry that the only girls that ever talk nicely to him are in second life.

Good female friends are part of a normal group of mates and add perspective, a view of tits and the occasional outsider that isn't out of bounds. Being seen with women only marks you as one of the gays to manly men, to women it says that you're not a rapey nut job and know how to talk to and treat women.
I wasn't trying to start an argument, Chris.

Disastrous

10,206 posts

243 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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The Major said:
I ride a motorbike, last time I was in work I asked a pretty woman did she have anywere I could put my helmet(insinuating my bike helmet), I think you can figure out the rest.

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What does that actually mean?

It sounds like you're insinuating that you asked if she had anywhere you could put your helmet and she responded with "Why don't you throw up my clout?" before clambering onto your desk, legs akimbo, but that clearly didn't happen.

Did she sort of half-smile awkwardly and point you to a cupboard where you could actually put your helmet?

What bike btw, I ride a bike too and it's weird how much women seem to like the idea of them, if not the actuality. I think it helps if you're not a smelly biker but just a well-dressed, absurdly handsome man who also rides bikes, like I am.

anonymous-user

80 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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Disastrous said:
The Major said:
I ride a motorbike, last time I was in work I asked a pretty woman did she have anywere I could put my helmet(insinuating my bike helmet), I think you can figure out the rest.

thumbup
What does that actually mean?

It sounds like you're insinuating that you asked if she had anywhere you could put your helmet and she responded with "Why don't you throw up my clout?" before clambering onto your desk, legs akimbo, but that clearly didn't happen.

Did she sort of half-smile awkwardly and point you to a cupboard where you could actually put your helmet?

What bike btw, I ride a bike too and it's weird how much women seem to like the idea of them, if not the actuality. I think it helps if you're not a smelly biker but just a well-dressed, absurdly handsome man who also rides bikes, like I am.
Anything can happen on the internet.

Famous Graham

26,553 posts

251 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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The Beaver King said:
my mates have now started calling me 'cougar bait'.
I have similar experiences.

Except my mates call me "wker magnet". irked

marcosgt

11,455 posts

202 months

Friday 18th May 2012
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"You're very nice but..." means you're not very nice, but they are biggrin

M.