Removing cheating spouse from home - URGENT advice needed
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theboss said:
To be fair, I was pretty awkward about it at first, when I befriended his own ex-wife etc. and set about inconveniencing their rosy new lives together (go back about 40 pages)
One day I will finally have to come face to face with this guy, but I hope I'll hand him a beer, shake his hand warmly and thank him sincerely for all that he has done. Lucky escape and all that.
I bumped into the bloke who was knocking off an ex of mine & with a polite hello etc asked him how it felt.......One day I will finally have to come face to face with this guy, but I hope I'll hand him a beer, shake his hand warmly and thank him sincerely for all that he has done. Lucky escape and all that.
How what felt? he asked
Paddling in my very dirty water.
His face was like thunder. The ex was nearly going puce with rage.
Was childish but funny.
Echo66 said:
theboss said:
To be fair, I was pretty awkward about it at first, when I befriended his own ex-wife etc. and set about inconveniencing their rosy new lives together (go back about 40 pages)
One day I will finally have to come face to face with this guy, but I hope I'll hand him a beer, shake his hand warmly and thank him sincerely for all that he has done. Lucky escape and all that.
I bumped into the bloke who was knocking off an ex of mine & with a polite hello etc asked him how it felt.......One day I will finally have to come face to face with this guy, but I hope I'll hand him a beer, shake his hand warmly and thank him sincerely for all that he has done. Lucky escape and all that.
How what felt? he asked
Paddling in my very dirty water.
His face was like thunder. The ex was nearly going puce with rage.
Was childish but funny.
Echo66 said:
I bumped into the bloke who was knocking off an ex of mine & with a polite hello etc asked him how it felt.......
How what felt? he asked
Paddling in my very dirty water.
His face was like thunder. The ex was nearly going puce with rage.
Was childish but funny.
There's a book for you!How what felt? he asked
Paddling in my very dirty water.
His face was like thunder. The ex was nearly going puce with rage.
Was childish but funny.
theboss said:
a woman is consigning the man to:
(1) remaining alone / celibate and fully committed to his kids without the complexity of new partners <-- what she always wants
(2) finding a non-child friendly woman and having less to do with my own children
(3) taking on a child-friendly woman with her own kids [who need providing for]
(4) taking on a child-friendly woman who wants kids [who need providing for]
3 and 4 are on the assumption that just because you are dating a women with children, you must automatically become the "provider" for them. (1) remaining alone / celibate and fully committed to his kids without the complexity of new partners <-- what she always wants
(2) finding a non-child friendly woman and having less to do with my own children
(3) taking on a child-friendly woman with her own kids [who need providing for]
(4) taking on a child-friendly woman who wants kids [who need providing for]
You dont have to live with them straight away - in fact IMO too many people jump into living with each other due to practicalities way before the relationship is at that stage - although IME that tends to be pushed by women who are short on cash due to thier situation. I guess you can't blame people in that case as it is instinct to look for a provider to make a stable home for your kids, although it is unfair and morally wrong IMO to expect this in new/recent relationships. But so many do and it is almost accepted that as a bloke you will end up paying for someone elses kids regardless of the rights and wrongs of it.
You sound a bit bitter and twisted Tonker!
how the hell does a partner get 70% when the husband has 100% child custody? Surely she should be paying maintenance to him??
I think the whole "living a standard of live accustomed to" that so many women use to rape thier ex's assets should be illegal. Anywhere else in life, you run short of cash you adjust to your new income......
how the hell does a partner get 70% when the husband has 100% child custody? Surely she should be paying maintenance to him??
I think the whole "living a standard of live accustomed to" that so many women use to rape thier ex's assets should be illegal. Anywhere else in life, you run short of cash you adjust to your new income......
Update. It’s all over. We had another court hearing today and despite all the posturing and frankly absurd claims, she made a significant climb down and we have reached an agreement with me agreeing to a maintenance order (which reflects what I was already paying for child support plus a little extra) and transferring a modest pension in return for a clean break on capital. £35k burned jointly on legal costs in order to achieve something which could have been agreed in mediation had I been given the chance.
I feel I can now move on with my life once and truly, and also pursue the damages claim without the fear of her claims hanging over me.
My new wife has been happily settled here for 6 months and we are expecting a child in the new year, which we and our children are absolutely delighted about.
I hope this thread serves to give hope to anyone else going through the most gut wrenching of separations and divorces. You can come out the other side much happier than imaginable, it just takes time, money and a lot of pain and stress.
I feel I can now move on with my life once and truly, and also pursue the damages claim without the fear of her claims hanging over me.
My new wife has been happily settled here for 6 months and we are expecting a child in the new year, which we and our children are absolutely delighted about.
I hope this thread serves to give hope to anyone else going through the most gut wrenching of separations and divorces. You can come out the other side much happier than imaginable, it just takes time, money and a lot of pain and stress.
Edited by theboss on Wednesday 10th July 16:41
Fermit and Sexy Sarah said:
Good news. I would guess she's made that move not out of the goodness of her own heart, but on the advice of someone paid.
Correct. She never set out to gain a maintenance order - it was her stab at huge lump sum paid out of any damages I receive. She had a barrister today and I think he probably looked at the proceedings to date and gave her a strong wake up call. It was preferable to me to avoid any future costs and risks around the capital claim by accepting a maintenance obligation (which I had towards the kids in any case).S100HP said:
Married within 2.5 years of starting this thread and a child on the way? You don't hang around do you Boss?
It’s 3.5 years but agreed 
life is too short not to.theboss said:
RSVR101 said:
Nice one Boss, probably worth the £35k to not have the worry of any comebacks at a later date that you may have had with mediation?
Yes, what I meant was mediation + consent order under guidance of solicitors. I would never have let it go without one.
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