Physically assaulted by neighbour last night, advice please

Physically assaulted by neighbour last night, advice please

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okgo

37,848 posts

197 months

Monday 22nd May 2017
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Is this in Chatham?

SVTRick

3,633 posts

194 months

Monday 22nd May 2017
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Just confront him when his guard is down and drop him on the deck.
Tell him in no so many words he can have some more if he wants.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3ZtXwYiDHA


ModernAndy

2,094 posts

134 months

Monday 22nd May 2017
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okgo said:
"where's your tool"
and more to the point; is there a greenhouse?

markbigears

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2,270 posts

268 months

Monday 22nd May 2017
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Chatham? How very dare you!
As the kind officers said to me " I thought we were at the wrong address, we've never been here before".
Joking aside, we all know probably nothing will come of this, lack of evidence, cost, etc, they more or less told me this, but if anyone has any actual
legal way I can make him think twice, I don't mind throwing money at this, i'd appreciate it. He's not the smartest tool in the box, and until yesterday never had the courage to have a go, but on the lash all day, he flipped.


Edited by markbigears on Monday 22 May 19:25

Heaveho

5,278 posts

173 months

Monday 22nd May 2017
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Can't believe frozen sausages haven't been put forward as a solution to this!

Josho

748 posts

96 months

Monday 22nd May 2017
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Take a quick self defence lesson and get a camera up.

Next time the bar can be rammed up his arse in self defence.

Chrisgr31

13,440 posts

254 months

Monday 22nd May 2017
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The relationship with our neighbour has always been fraught, and has occasionally involved him yelling and shouting at people visiting us, usually as he thinks they have parked in his way. This is in spite of the fact that visitors to his house park in our way more frequently. We also have the benefit if hearing shouting and screaming at his wife on occasions.

A couple of years ago we had some manure delivered which was going to be dug in to the lawn. Within 24 hours of its arrival they had complained about it and the smell to the environmental officer of the local council. The EO came out and advised me he couldnt see anything wrong with it, it was well rooted and if we got more just ensure it was bunded so it couldnt leach in to neighbours.

A couple of days later my wife comes home at the same time as the neighbour who then starts yelling and shouting at her calling her all the names under the sun. She decided to call the Police who came out saw her, and gave her a couple of options one of which was to give him a caution and tell him not to speak to her again. He hasn't. They dont even say hello. It took 2 years before he would talk to me but we still talk socially over the fence so to speak. We are not the only neighbour to have fallen out with him but the caution option has worked in or case.

Trax

1,527 posts

231 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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markbigears said:
Landlord is aware of the cannabis, he turns a blind eye as the benefits cheat, sorry chronic back pain sufferer, is at home all day to paint his property etc. PT.... thanks for the reply, appreciated. although I would be surprised if he had ever done a days thinking in his life.
I've been treading carefully for 6 years, the gloves are now well and truly off.



Edited by markbigears on Monday 22 May 17:05
Would have thought the landlord was the only real way of dealing with it. Is it privately rented, or via a letting agent? If via a letting agent outline everything to them, skip the landlord. If not, keep at the landlord, every time anything happens.

If they are hassling you, they should get evicted.

Peanut Gallery

2,418 posts

109 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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Just to say keep reporting stuff to 101, they may not appear to do anything, but if it does kick off properly in the future they will have a lot of history to fall back on. That helped us lots.

MitchT

15,788 posts

208 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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Durzel said:
Retroman said:
From my experience, your neighbour won't change.
+1

These people don't change. One telling off isn't going to magically alter however many years they've lived exhibiting this kind of errant anti-social behaviour.
+ another. I lived in a street where some of the people were almost this bad. The only way was to move.

Heaveho said:
Can't believe frozen sausages haven't been put forward as a solution to this!
Neighbour sounds like the type who'd be at the sausages before the foxes arrived!

Carlson W6

857 posts

123 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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Dominate the staircase

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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Chrisgr31 said:
The relationship with our neighbour has always been fraught, and has occasionally involved him yelling and shouting at people visiting us, usually as he thinks they have parked in his way. This is in spite of the fact that visitors to his house park in our way more frequently. We also have the benefit if hearing shouting and screaming at his wife on occasions.

A couple of years ago we had some manure delivered which was going to be dug in to the lawn. Within 24 hours of its arrival they had complained about it and the smell to the environmental officer of the local council. The EO came out and advised me he couldnt see anything wrong with it, it was well rooted and if we got more just ensure it was bunded so it couldnt leach in to neighbours.

A couple of days later my wife comes home at the same time as the neighbour who then starts yelling and shouting at her calling her all the names under the sun. She decided to call the Police who came out saw her, and gave her a couple of options one of which was to give him a caution and tell him not to speak to her again. He hasn't. They dont even say hello. It took 2 years before he would talk to me but we still talk socially over the fence so to speak. We are not the only neighbour to have fallen out with him but the caution option has worked in or case.
The caution option only works if the person on the receiving end of it is capable of understanding that their behaviour may have been acceptable.

more often than not, it doesn't work like that

SVTRick said:
Just confront him when his guard is down and drop him on the deck.
Tell him in no so many words he can have some more if he wants.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3ZtXwYiDHA
Great, if you're an ex-army veteren with 2 black belts.
If you're dave who drives a mapped 335d and watches Master Wong on Youtube, probably not a good idea.

fido

16,752 posts

254 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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markbigears said:
1) Press charges and have him arrested for assault.
I wouldn't hesitate go for this if it had been on neutral territory but you did go round to his home (even if they provoked you by throwing dead animal over the fence). Tricky one - won't the police raid his home for drugs? I've had problems with middle-class (for want of a better description) neighbours before and only the threat of legal action or police will stop them. I would go with the 101 suggestion above - if they raid the house then the LL will do something.

Edited by fido on Tuesday 23 May 13:18

0a

23,879 posts

193 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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Markb you have my sympathy.

However what's your idea of an outcome where you win?

It sounds like he has nothing to lose. His landlord already knows about his Cannabis use and doesn't care, suggesting it's highly unlikely he will get kicked out for a disagreement with a neighbour.

It may be a long dispute without a possible winning position for you, as much as this is unpalatable and unjust.

21TonyK

11,494 posts

208 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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As others have said it sounds like your going to be stuck with them until they decide to move on. If you don't think things are likely to escalate from their side I would let it lie. Otherwise you are just perpetuating the situation and it from what you say you have more to lose than them.

If however you think it will get worse speak with other neighbours and see if they have issues as well. Enough pressure from all angles may help them to choose to move.

robinessex

11,046 posts

180 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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Bribe the local Rugby club to take him for a ride somewhere one evening !

Kev_Mk3

2,739 posts

94 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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cadmunkey said:
Time to move if you can? Once things have broken down with neighbours that badly its just not worth the stress bud.
Option 3 may have been better.
Totally Agree Option 3 would of been the better situation

markbigears said:
Yes, have a crime number, yes, contacted landlord. the reason i went around their garden, was because a dead mouse was thrown over the fence landing a foot from my head. I went around to return it.
should of just thrown it back TBH or just document everything then as you have contact with the landlord send it as one case to them.


I know I have a issue with a neighbour but sadly they own both the houses oppersite and I dont see a route out of it. I had them on my doorstep moaning the other week so I invited them in to discuss matters over parking. Both put our view accross and left it at that. At the end of the chat as they went they thanked me for inviting them in to discuss............... They didnt expect that wink

I have a similar issue at my mums the next door rent basically use it to store cars all over the place and block the road. So many times they have not been insured / taxed or MOT'd so I report them to the police & dvla and have them towed. Still trying to get hold of the land lord as they are meant to be "keen gardeners" sadly not as the plants are now trees and damaging our property


good luck with this one

JuniorD

8,616 posts

222 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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markbigears said:
...after confronting his wife with a very brief conversation...
markbigears said:
..the reason i went around their garden, was because a dead mouse was thrown over the fence landing a foot from my head. I went around to return it.
you didn't suggest to the neighbour that his wife's pussy had been throwing rodents at you?



anonymous-user

53 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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Horrible situation OP, long term solution is move as the only compromise is you just accepting the situation which is no way to live.

Been in a similar situation and despite witnesses it never went anywhere, really should got a solicitor on the case to make sure it went somewhere, would have been money well spent.

SidJames

1,399 posts

232 months

Tuesday 23rd May 2017
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okgo said:
"where's your tool"
"what tool?" iirc