Divorce - can I be forced to sell the house?
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Roderick Spode said:
For those still caring at this point - signed paperwork today to get the deeds transferred into my sole name, finances all in place to buy her out, solicitor says I need to sit back now and let her side put in a bit of work for once instead of me chasing my tail. Interestingly, she has proposed a separation date of March 2020 - so three years ago...? My solicitor has said yep jump at it - all assets and values will need to get backdated to this date, so anything that has increased in value over that time period will be null and void. It's a very strange circumstance for her to propose - in fact she wanted to agree to a date back in 2017 for some reason. Anyway, I've managed to value certain assets back to 2020 based on auction values from the time. I suspect she may be in for an unpleasant shock. The house alone we have made £18k of mortgage payments in that time, so I probably should withdraw a 50% share of that value... My solicitor has said "well if she has assets since that time you will be unable to claim" - to be honest if she has won the Euromillions I don't care, I just want rid of her now.
People care. Some just don't know what to write.You'll get through it and it'll be better.
CraigyMc said:
People care. Some just don't know what to write.
You'll get through it and it'll be better.
Yup, as someone who got divorced over 20 years ago in a totally grown up, reasonable and responsible manner where the only real costs we incurred were an hour each of solicitors time to confirm what we had agreed ourselves, I read these types of threads with genuine sorrow but don't know what to write. You'll get through it and it'll be better.
It still hurt and it was still a painful process but less so than it might otherwise have been.
ridds said:
She inherited or receive a windfall payment prior to that date I reckon.
There's definitely a motive. As said before SWT.
It would be after that date, not prior to, if she was trying to keep it all. There's definitely a motive. As said before SWT.
But irrespective, if the OP is getting a deal he is satisfied with and gets to keep the house it’s not greatly important what she is up to. This allows him to move forward.
Roderick Spode said:
Electro1980 said:
Roderick Spode said:
Interestingly, she has proposed a separation date of March 2020 - so three years ago...?
But WHY? WE NEED TO KNOW!!!!! There’s some reason she chose that date. It’s infuriating not knowing!!!!CraigyMc said:
People care. Some just don't know what to write.
You'll get through it and it'll be better.
This, continuing to care & i'm always keeping my fingers crossed you continue to progress forwards to get shot of her completely Roderick.You'll get through it and it'll be better.
I'm utterly shocked and disgusted at some of the stuff i've read on here from you & others detailing their experiences, we're not all like that.
mikebradford said:
My first thought was she had received some form of windfall she's not declaring to you.
That was mine too. I think the answer is for the OP to focus on his own peace. If you're happy with your lot in life once you're rid of her then so what if she's had a massive windfall? She sounds like the kind of person who'd piss it all up the wall employing expensive lawyers to give headaches to people she imagines have wronged her and when it's all gone that will be someone else's fault too!
The same thing had occurred to both me and my solicitor, and by agreeing to the March 2020 date then I renounce any claim to whatever she might have fallen into. I considered the implications of this for about a pfemtosecond before deciding that I didn't care in the slightest about money - I just want rid of her now.
First bill has come in from my solicitors - nearly £900 for preparing one document and exchanging it
I'm in the wrong profession.
First bill has come in from my solicitors - nearly £900 for preparing one document and exchanging it
I'm in the wrong profession.Roderick Spode said:
For those still caring at this point - signed paperwork today to get the deeds transferred into my sole name, finances all in place to buy her out, solicitor says I need to sit back now and let her side put in a bit of work for once instead of me chasing my tail. Interestingly, she has proposed a separation date of March 2020 - so three years ago...? My solicitor has said yep jump at it - all assets and values will need to get backdated to this date, so anything that has increased in value over that time period will be null and void. It's a very strange circumstance for her to propose - in fact she wanted to agree to a date back in 2017 for some reason. Anyway, I've managed to value certain assets back to 2020 based on auction values from the time. I suspect she may be in for an unpleasant shock. The house alone we have made £18k of mortgage payments in that time, so I probably should withdraw a 50% share of that value... My solicitor has said "well if she has assets since that time you will be unable to claim" - to be honest if she has won the Euromillions I don't care, I just want rid of her now.
Any chance she did win the lottery or maybe recieve an inheritance after those dates? Seems a strange thing for her to want to do when she is losing out because of it, as I'm sure her legal adviser will have pointed out.I had all this nonsense with my ex 25 years ago.
She ran up a 5 grand solicitors bill mine was £15 (3 x £5 half hours) and she knew this.
The final letter from hers, suggested i pay half her bill, my letter back said a simple Dear Sir, NO, Best regards Mark. Never heard a thing since.
By the sound of things you are nearing the end. The feeling you will have when it is all done will be unbelievable and you will be able to get on and enjoy life again.
She ran up a 5 grand solicitors bill mine was £15 (3 x £5 half hours) and she knew this.
The final letter from hers, suggested i pay half her bill, my letter back said a simple Dear Sir, NO, Best regards Mark. Never heard a thing since.
By the sound of things you are nearing the end. The feeling you will have when it is all done will be unbelievable and you will be able to get on and enjoy life again.
Enut said:
Any chance she did win the lottery or maybe recieve an inheritance after those dates? Seems a strange thing for her to want to do when she is losing out because of it, as I'm sure her legal adviser will have pointed out.
There will be a large sum of money behind it somewhere, if not a lottery win or inheritance that she wants to keep anychance she has run up large debts in joint/your name since the date she wants to backdate so she walks away leaving you to pay it?My solicitor has passed the matter onto their internal conveyancers to progress my deeds and pass them on to her solicitor, to allow my wife to proceed with her purchase by the end of March. The deeds were due to be complete by last Friday 24th & sent across, but they have still not been completed as of today Thursday 30th. I have acknowledgement from my solicitor that all finances are in place, but the conveyancer dealing with it isn't returning my calls or emails. My wife has stated that any delays to her moving in date and resulting penalties will be passed to me. This is most frustrating as I have done everything I can to progress this in a timely fashion, and my solicitor are dragging their heels.
In other news, my wife took to social media to bad mouth and denounce me publicly, blaming me for all her woes and stress on a Faceache post - and then made sure I couldn't see it by restricting the post. Thankfully a mutual friend realised this and took screen shots for me to see. I'm not impressed that my reputation is getting dragged through the mud for no fault of my own, but it's a measure of her as a person.
In other news, my wife took to social media to bad mouth and denounce me publicly, blaming me for all her woes and stress on a Faceache post - and then made sure I couldn't see it by restricting the post. Thankfully a mutual friend realised this and took screen shots for me to see. I'm not impressed that my reputation is getting dragged through the mud for no fault of my own, but it's a measure of her as a person.
Roderick Spode said:
First bill has come in from my solicitors - nearly £900 for preparing one document and exchanging it I'm in the wrong profession.
Not wishing to depress you but a friend of mine went through a not so amicable divorce about 3 years ago and his total legal bill came to over £200k! A daughter of a close friend of my mum's had a similar experience with her divorce so, while I appreciate your wife doesn't seem to be making things easy, the more you can agree without the involvement of solicitors and barristers the better.... I'm in the wrong profession.Gassing Station | Speed, Plod & the Law | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff