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gun12b

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353 posts

197 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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my daughter pays £100 a month aged 22,works full time.
do your siblings contribute ?

matrignano

4,344 posts

209 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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your daughter is also your sibling?
you mother fker!

fttm

3,664 posts

134 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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Forest of Dean ?

The Mad Monk

10,474 posts

116 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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matrignano said:
your daughter is also your sibling?
you mother fker!
NFN.

bstb3

3,990 posts

157 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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Yes, part of the deal with our son when he decided he wanted to work rather than carry on with Uni was that he would pay 'rent' whilst living at home. It's a lot less than he would pay elsewhere, of course, but it does mean he is at least used to putting some money aside each month (plus he doesn't know it, but most of it will come back to him when he wants a deposit on moving out).

Hopefully it's an incentive to gtfo too wink

ziontrain

284 posts

120 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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bstb3 said:
Yes, part of the deal with our son when he decided he wanted to work rather than carry on with Uni was that he would pay 'rent' whilst living at home. It's a lot less than he would pay elsewhere, of course, but it does mean he is at least used to putting some money aside each month (plus he doesn't know it, but most of it will come back to him when he wants a deposit on moving out).

Hopefully it's an incentive to gtfo too wink
I did something similar once I started working but before I moved out - £200 a month, and it came back when I was putting together my deposit.

Sycamore

1,726 posts

117 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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I'm 22 and pay my Dad £250 ea month. He asks for far less, but it's only fair in my mind - he has done more than enough for me over the years. I've increased it alongside my salary since I was 16.

I paid the same when I lived with my mum. My younger brother hasn't ever paid a thing, but that's only because my mum is too soft on him and he doesn't seen an issue with not paying her. I insisted she was taking it.

Oldandslow

2,405 posts

205 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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Not come up yet for me but it will in August with the harsh reality of A level results. Step daughter has done bugger all work so far and not being naturally gifted she's not getting the results she needs for uni. That'll be a right drama. Her mum is too soft but I like the idea of it forming a good habit with money. She'll piss it away otherwise.

Jimmy Recard

17,540 posts

178 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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When I got into work I offered it to my parents and they told me I could stay as long as I needed but to put aside and save up what I would be paying for house/future/whatever.

It was generous and very, very helpful for me to basically hit the ground running with savings behind me

bazza white

3,550 posts

127 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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I used to pay £100\month on the condition i didn't pee the rest up a wall ie save for a house deposit. My brother paid the same but did splash the cash which did raise eyebrows​ with my parents. Owning a vectra and an S3 the boat purchase did touch a nerve. His argument was he didn't touch his wages it was all paid for in overtime so they didn't grumble for to long.



grumpy52

5,565 posts

165 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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I gave my mum half my paper round money back in the day (60s) .I was 12 .

Front bottom

5,648 posts

189 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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Back in 1985, my first job was on the Youth Training Scheme.

It paid £27.30 a week, of which I volunteered to give my dad £7 each week as he was out of work at the time.

That left me just enough for bus fares to and from work and sandwiches for lunch. I had nothing left over. Pretty grim really.

cossy400

3,153 posts

183 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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MRS400s lad moved out with a girl got a house mortgaged up etc, they split so he naturally come to us.

Was open about the finances side of the split and said it would take a while to sort out and he d have to continue paying the mortgage until sorted etc.

So we agreed that he d not pay any board until sorted and all he d have to do is buy his pack up stuff etc as 1, he eats like a horse and 2, he d been doing that originally anyway so no change.

So really all he's doing is abusing the facilities and we stand him his evening meal.

but seeing as he's a builder by trade, so we ve had a wall round the front of the house, bathroom ceiling ripped out and replastered and we ve nearly finished the porch on the front that MRS400 added to the plan.

but he's never paid and probably never will now as he's met "THE ONE" aren't they all lol


But if he moves out the daughter and her boyfriend have asked to move in for abit to save more for there mortgage............

Moonhawk

10,730 posts

218 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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When I got my first full time job back in 1996 (earning around £7.5k) - I payed my mum half for 'keep'

The rest went on paying the £1600 car loan off that I took out to buy and insure my first car (which also enabled me to get to the job), fuel, lunches, clothes etc.

I did however have a second part time job in a shop working some evenings, most weekends and bank holidays - the wages from which I got to keep.

Edited by Moonhawk on Tuesday 25th April 18:44

750turbo

6,164 posts

223 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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Front bottom said:
Back in 1985, my first job was on the Youth Training Scheme.

It paid £27.30 a week, of which I volunteered to give my dad £7 each week as he was out of work at the time.

That left me just enough for bus fares to and from work and sandwiches for lunch. I had nothing left over. Pretty grim really.
You lucky lucky bd smile

1980 - £19.50 a week Job Creation Pay - £6 rent...

I have no idea how I survived smile

(I stuck it out and was the Parts Manager at 20!)

HTP99

22,441 posts

139 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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Kids paying "rent" to their parents seems to be a real divider amongst parents, there have been threads on here before about it and there are many who feel a parent shouldn't charge "rent" or "housekeeping"

Both myself and the wife have the view that if our kids are working and no longer in education then they should pay us something towards living with us, after all we are buying food, paying for electric, water and gas, doing their washing etc, which they are taking advantage of, why shouldn't they contribute, they are in the big wide world now.

My eldest when she started working, paid us £150 a month, it was a bloody chore to get it out of her though; many of her friends though didn't pay a penny to their parents and their parents couldn't grasp why we asked her to contribute, many of them were generally spoilt rotten though.

The youngest is 18 and in education, she has a part time job, she pays me £15 pm towards her phone bill, and £20 pm for the guinea pig food that I buy for her guinea pigs.

Pothole

34,367 posts

281 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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Surely the minimum they should pay is the increased bit of council tax they're responsible for once out of FTE

mfmman

2,362 posts

182 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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Front bottom said:
Back in 1985, my first job was on the Youth Training Scheme.

It paid £27.30 a week, of which I volunteered to give my dad £7 each week as he was out of work at the time.

That left me just enough for bus fares to and from work and sandwiches for lunch. I had nothing left over. Pretty grim really.
I think you are exaggerating smile

I too started on YTS in 1985 and it was £26.25.

I gave my Mum £5 per week for 'rent' and she gave me back a pound a day dinner money biggrin the sites we worked on had staff canteens and she couldn't make enough sandwiches/snacks etc for a growing lad for a quid.

When I moved out about eight years later I was giving about £150 of just under a grand take home per month

Front bottom

5,648 posts

189 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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I don't agree with parents letting their working children live with them for nothing. We all need to take steps towards having financial responsibilities as we go through life.

Letting them live there for free teaches them nothing about the value of money.

A few of my mates never used to pay any keep when they lived at home, and they used to laugh at me when I said I had to 'budget' for going out etc. (I had my own place by then), but those same people must have had the shock of their lives when they finally had to stand on their own two feet.

Front bottom

5,648 posts

189 months

Tuesday 25th April 2017
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mfmman said:
Front bottom said:
Back in 1985, my first job was on the Youth Training Scheme.

It paid £27.30 a week, of which I volunteered to give my dad £7 each week as he was out of work at the time.

That left me just enough for bus fares to and from work and sandwiches for lunch. I had nothing left over. Pretty grim really.
I think you are exaggerating smile

I too started on YTS in 1985 and it was £26.25.

I gave my Mum £5 per week for 'rent' and she gave me back a pound a day dinner money biggrin the sites we worked on had staff canteens and she couldn't make enough sandwiches/snacks etc for a growing lad for a quid.

When I moved out about eight years later I was giving about £150 of just under a grand take home per month
Nah, I was definitely on £27.30. It went up that year, I left school a little bit late as I stayed on on the 6th form for about a month, so this would have been in October I suppose.