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I find myself back here under a pseudonym. This request bears no relation at all to any previous post by me.
In the full expectation of receiving a barrage of MTFU, grow a pair, dominate, etc etc responses, I have a question.
The missus seems to have befriended the local loony. She's vaguely known him several years but via a mutual connection he's recently decided that she's his counsellor & confidante. This manifests as him turning up at the house on a regular basis. Up until now she's wanted to "help" him so she lets him in and feeds him tea and biscuits while he rants.
This guy runs his own one-man business but he's seriously unhinged. He's also a complete stoner (by his own admission) and seemingly can't function properly without a smoke.
He's got into a dispute with someone over a job which he's decided he wasn't paid properly for (nothing to do with us) and keeps turning up and re-telling the story and restating what he's going to do about it. I've always been of the view that someone who shouts and raves about what they are going to do to someone, won't actually see it through. His current list of threats against his debtor range from killing their kids to poisoning their dogs. It's said that with one person who he perceived to have wronged him in the past, the "offender" had a bag put over his head, was driven in a van, then marched into the woods with a shovel and a shotgun, and told to dig his own grave. Once the grave was dug and the victim had (literally) shat himself, our subject walked away and left him there (alive). No idea whether that's real or a figment of his warped mind. Probably the latter if he's talking about it.
I've offered him some simple straightforward advice on how to deal with his financial issue (it really isn't a big deal and probably all stems from a misunderstanding) but if you suggest he does anything other than what he thinks right himself, he just gets a face like thunder on and refuses to do anything different.
I'm sick of the sight of this bloke and I want to tell him, and have no problem with that, to do one on a permanent basis. I don't want him anywhere near the house. However, the missus is concerned that if I do that he'll turn his possibly-violent tendencies in on us and our family, and she wants me to keep quiet until he gets bored and goes away. He knows I'm out for 12 hours a day, too, that's usually when he turns up.
Sorry to disappoint the 40 year old virgins amongst you but theres no issue with him trying to get into the missus' knickers, he bats for the other team.
So, what is the way forward here?
In the full expectation of receiving a barrage of MTFU, grow a pair, dominate, etc etc responses, I have a question.
The missus seems to have befriended the local loony. She's vaguely known him several years but via a mutual connection he's recently decided that she's his counsellor & confidante. This manifests as him turning up at the house on a regular basis. Up until now she's wanted to "help" him so she lets him in and feeds him tea and biscuits while he rants.
This guy runs his own one-man business but he's seriously unhinged. He's also a complete stoner (by his own admission) and seemingly can't function properly without a smoke.
He's got into a dispute with someone over a job which he's decided he wasn't paid properly for (nothing to do with us) and keeps turning up and re-telling the story and restating what he's going to do about it. I've always been of the view that someone who shouts and raves about what they are going to do to someone, won't actually see it through. His current list of threats against his debtor range from killing their kids to poisoning their dogs. It's said that with one person who he perceived to have wronged him in the past, the "offender" had a bag put over his head, was driven in a van, then marched into the woods with a shovel and a shotgun, and told to dig his own grave. Once the grave was dug and the victim had (literally) shat himself, our subject walked away and left him there (alive). No idea whether that's real or a figment of his warped mind. Probably the latter if he's talking about it.
I've offered him some simple straightforward advice on how to deal with his financial issue (it really isn't a big deal and probably all stems from a misunderstanding) but if you suggest he does anything other than what he thinks right himself, he just gets a face like thunder on and refuses to do anything different.
I'm sick of the sight of this bloke and I want to tell him, and have no problem with that, to do one on a permanent basis. I don't want him anywhere near the house. However, the missus is concerned that if I do that he'll turn his possibly-violent tendencies in on us and our family, and she wants me to keep quiet until he gets bored and goes away. He knows I'm out for 12 hours a day, too, that's usually when he turns up.
Sorry to disappoint the 40 year old virgins amongst you but theres no issue with him trying to get into the missus' knickers, he bats for the other team.
So, what is the way forward here?
It's said that with one person who he perceived to have wronged him in the past, the "offender" had a bag put over his head, was driven in a van, then marched into the woods with a shovel and a shotgun, and told to dig his own grave. Once the grave was dug and the victim had (literally) shat himself, our subject walked away and left him there (alive). No idea whether that's real or a figment of his warped mind. Probably the latter if he's talking about it.
Stolen from an Ian Rankin book.
I'll check which one if you like
Stolen from an Ian Rankin book.
I'll check which one if you like
bigandclever said:
Lookin4Clues said:
I find myself back here under a pseudonym. This request bears no relation at all to any previous post by me.
Yeah, yeah, who was the helmeted arsonist? Is it the same loon?Sheets Tabuer said:
Well, i'm not sure about todays world but in the world i grew up in the man of the house would have told him to f
k off.
Which is precisely my intention but she's worried that he's unhinged enough that it'll backfire. And I'm 30 miles away at work every day. Then again given the Rankin revelation above ( I had no knowledge of that, not that I particularly believed it anyway, seems too far fetched) then maybe all he does need is a double dose fk off pill. k off.
)Lookin4Clues said:
Which is precisely my intention but she's worried that he's unhinged enough that it'll backfire. And I'm 30 miles away at work every day. Then again given the Rankin revelation above ( I had no knowledge of that, not that I particularly believed it anyway, seems too far fetched) then maybe all he does need is a double dose fk off pill.
I'm sure it will be fine, if he gets funny ring the old bill, he's attaching himself to your mrs, sort it out before he's wearing your face and calling himself your name 
It might be that he’s trying to shag you up the anus and thinks telling you stories about beating people up etc is going to get him closer to his goal. The only real way forward is to let him have your arse. Hopefully afterwards he’ll lose interest. Whatever you do, don’t push back as it might make him more keen.
So..
- Your wife befriended the looney,
- The looney has become an annoying looney.
- Your wants you to sort out the issue with the looney.....that she created?
I say invite him over for Christmas, tis the season for giving.
Or tell him he really needs to sort it out his own way and not involve you both. Deal with the repercussions (there won't be any, he's all mouth and stoners are not generally violent) and tell your wife Don't invite nutcases into the house again!
- Your wife befriended the looney,
- The looney has become an annoying looney.
- Your wants you to sort out the issue with the looney.....that she created?
I say invite him over for Christmas, tis the season for giving.
Or tell him he really needs to sort it out his own way and not involve you both. Deal with the repercussions (there won't be any, he's all mouth and stoners are not generally violent) and tell your wife Don't invite nutcases into the house again!
Lookin4Clues said:
Sorry to disappoint the 40 year old virgins amongst you but theres no issue with him trying to get into the missus' knickers, he bats for the other team.
He may be gay but your missus might still want to suck his wab? Gay men can have quite the sex drive, he'd hardly say no. JuniorD said:
Lookin4Clues said:
Sorry to disappoint the 40 year old virgins amongst you but theres no issue with him trying to get into the missus' knickers, he bats for the other team.
He may be gay but your missus might still want to suck his wab? Gay men can have quite the sex drive, he'd hardly say no. Skyedriver said:
It's said that with one person who he perceived to have wronged him in the past, the "offender" had a bag put over his head, was driven in a van, then marched into the woods with a shovel and a shotgun, and told to dig his own grave. Once the grave was dug and the victim had (literally) shat himself, our subject walked away and left him there (alive). No idea whether that's real or a figment of his warped mind. Probably the latter if he's talking about it.
Stolen from an Ian Rankin book.
I'll check which one if you like
I'm sure a lot of ideas have been borrowed from Mario Puzo, and carried out.Stolen from an Ian Rankin book.
I'll check which one if you like
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