Seeing someone close, as someone else & not feeling placed.
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Hopefully i can capture the events that took place last night, so someone can tell me it was just a brain fart and i'm over thinking.
Last night, whilst sitting with the missus on the sofa, we we talking about us/relationships etc, nothing too taxing, but it needed some thought.
She was sitting next to me, but with her right knee over my left knee, so we were quite close.
Anyhow, whilst she was talking and i was concentrating on her, there was a moment where i didn't "see" her anymore. It was a weird overwhelming feeling that made her feel like a total stranger. It didn't feel (not physically) like she was there either.
Immediately after that thought, she was overwhelm with heat and backed off to sit at the end of the sofa, i also felt warm, but nothing like her.
She was clammy to the touch, with her face starting to turn red.
But she was then "back in the room", and the overwhelming feeling went away.
As she was sitting on the sofa, with her back up against the arm rest and facing me, she continued to talk.
Again I had that overwhelming feeling of losing the connection of who i was looking at. But this time i just stared at her and it felt like I just zoned out.
It was if i was looking at her for the first time and taking in details, which you would not normally do with someone you see all the time. It didn't feel like i was talking to someone that i'd known for years.
Whilst she was talking, i lost track. I had to stop her and ask her to repeat it again.
For some reason this really spooked her out, and she was somewhat coy to repeat her last sentence.
There was nothing wrong in the sentence itself, nothing malicious or argumentative, but she later told me she wasn't happy to repeat it, as i looked glazed over and i didn't look myself.
When she was telling me this, i start to get goose bumps all over, and the feeling that something terrible was going to happen.
The sofa we were sitting on backs on to the wall, but the front faces towards the lounge door into the hallway, which was dark at the time.
I had this feeling that something was there and was going to burst in. Just wearing a t-shirt and shorts, all the hairs on my arms and legs were standing. At that moment I actually felt very vulnerable.
We decided to call it a night and head to bed (it was about 10:15pm), but I just popped into the kitchen to grab a glass of water.
Leaving the kitchen i saw her standing in the hall, and saw her looking at me but with wide eyes.
All i could sense was that there was something bad behind me, and again, i couldn't hear what she was trying to say to me.
But i snapped back, and she was beckoning with her head and eyes to turn off the kitchen lights (like a nod), her eyes seemed normal again.
Also again with the immediate goose bumps all over.
We both headed upstairs, after i checked and double double checked that all the doors were locked, paranoid that something was unlocked. I'm normally quite blasé with this. She headed into the bedroom and went to use the loo.
Whilst i was there, i had thoughts of if i was going to see another woman in the bedroom, or if i were to see her, would I recognised her. Would they recognise me, whoever was there. It was a weird feeling that i was not in the right time or place. At one moment, i definitely felt and convinced myself that she was supposed to be someone else. No one in particular just not "her".
Entering the bedroom, everything seem normal, though she kept asking if i was ok.
I didn't sleep well last night.
However, today i seem fine, and there have been no weird thoughts of feeling scared/vulnerable or being misplaced, or not recognising people.
So what the hell was last night all about, anyone else felt anything like this before?
I didn't have much to drink, in terms of alcohol.
A couple of bottle beers earlier on, but they were just 330ml bottles of 4.5% IPA.
Also not eaten much apart from a sandwich at lunch and a some spaghetti at dinner.
I don't smoke or take recognitional drugs.
I've not suffered any knocks to the head, although I'm not sleeping well at night due to a back injury, but not taking anything apart from a couple of Ibuprofen's in the morning when the back is at it's worst.
At the moment, I'm putting it down to tiredness, but I've been mentally tired before and nothing like this has occurred.
I've jotted it down for now and made a note of how i felt, much like in this thread. So that if it occurs again, i can see if there is any common factor.
TLDR; i freaked out last night and it felt like i was in a different reality and i don't know why, hopefully someone may know.
Last night, whilst sitting with the missus on the sofa, we we talking about us/relationships etc, nothing too taxing, but it needed some thought.
She was sitting next to me, but with her right knee over my left knee, so we were quite close.
Anyhow, whilst she was talking and i was concentrating on her, there was a moment where i didn't "see" her anymore. It was a weird overwhelming feeling that made her feel like a total stranger. It didn't feel (not physically) like she was there either.
Immediately after that thought, she was overwhelm with heat and backed off to sit at the end of the sofa, i also felt warm, but nothing like her.
She was clammy to the touch, with her face starting to turn red.
But she was then "back in the room", and the overwhelming feeling went away.
As she was sitting on the sofa, with her back up against the arm rest and facing me, she continued to talk.
Again I had that overwhelming feeling of losing the connection of who i was looking at. But this time i just stared at her and it felt like I just zoned out.
It was if i was looking at her for the first time and taking in details, which you would not normally do with someone you see all the time. It didn't feel like i was talking to someone that i'd known for years.
Whilst she was talking, i lost track. I had to stop her and ask her to repeat it again.
For some reason this really spooked her out, and she was somewhat coy to repeat her last sentence.
There was nothing wrong in the sentence itself, nothing malicious or argumentative, but she later told me she wasn't happy to repeat it, as i looked glazed over and i didn't look myself.
When she was telling me this, i start to get goose bumps all over, and the feeling that something terrible was going to happen.
The sofa we were sitting on backs on to the wall, but the front faces towards the lounge door into the hallway, which was dark at the time.
I had this feeling that something was there and was going to burst in. Just wearing a t-shirt and shorts, all the hairs on my arms and legs were standing. At that moment I actually felt very vulnerable.
We decided to call it a night and head to bed (it was about 10:15pm), but I just popped into the kitchen to grab a glass of water.
Leaving the kitchen i saw her standing in the hall, and saw her looking at me but with wide eyes.
All i could sense was that there was something bad behind me, and again, i couldn't hear what she was trying to say to me.
But i snapped back, and she was beckoning with her head and eyes to turn off the kitchen lights (like a nod), her eyes seemed normal again.
Also again with the immediate goose bumps all over.
We both headed upstairs, after i checked and double double checked that all the doors were locked, paranoid that something was unlocked. I'm normally quite blasé with this. She headed into the bedroom and went to use the loo.
Whilst i was there, i had thoughts of if i was going to see another woman in the bedroom, or if i were to see her, would I recognised her. Would they recognise me, whoever was there. It was a weird feeling that i was not in the right time or place. At one moment, i definitely felt and convinced myself that she was supposed to be someone else. No one in particular just not "her".
Entering the bedroom, everything seem normal, though she kept asking if i was ok.
I didn't sleep well last night.
However, today i seem fine, and there have been no weird thoughts of feeling scared/vulnerable or being misplaced, or not recognising people.
So what the hell was last night all about, anyone else felt anything like this before?
I didn't have much to drink, in terms of alcohol.
A couple of bottle beers earlier on, but they were just 330ml bottles of 4.5% IPA.
Also not eaten much apart from a sandwich at lunch and a some spaghetti at dinner.
I don't smoke or take recognitional drugs.
I've not suffered any knocks to the head, although I'm not sleeping well at night due to a back injury, but not taking anything apart from a couple of Ibuprofen's in the morning when the back is at it's worst.
At the moment, I'm putting it down to tiredness, but I've been mentally tired before and nothing like this has occurred.
I've jotted it down for now and made a note of how i felt, much like in this thread. So that if it occurs again, i can see if there is any common factor.
TLDR; i freaked out last night and it felt like i was in a different reality and i don't know why, hopefully someone may know.
I welcome the lockdown and not much has changed, as i tend to WFH anyway.
However, the house is currently up for sale, and I'm trying to work out how to clear debt, so that i can increase my disposable income.
Ex-wife is also clawing for more than i can afford to give for our "child"; essentially rubbing her hands with glee from the sale of the house and possible equity.
However, the house is currently up for sale, and I'm trying to work out how to clear debt, so that i can increase my disposable income.
Ex-wife is also clawing for more than i can afford to give for our "child"; essentially rubbing her hands with glee from the sale of the house and possible equity.
bunchofkeys said:
I welcome the lockdown and not much has changed, as i tend to WFH anyway.
However, the house is currently up for sale, and I'm trying to work out how to clear debt, so that i can increase my disposable income.
Ex-wife is also clawing for more than i can afford to give for our "child"; essentially rubbing her hands with glee from the sale of the house and possible equity.
Why on earth are you trying to sell the house without the divorce finances being done and dusted?However, the house is currently up for sale, and I'm trying to work out how to clear debt, so that i can increase my disposable income.
Ex-wife is also clawing for more than i can afford to give for our "child"; essentially rubbing her hands with glee from the sale of the house and possible equity.
Not normally stressed out, so i guess this is all new to me, i cannot recall ever feeling flushed.
Only time where i feel hot would be after a workout.
Good news is that i've not had this feeling again, although sleep last night was a bit crap. Hopefully tonight's sleep is better.
Orders has already been sorted a few years back, house was rented out.
Now in a position to sell it, and hopefully equally split the equity.
Only time where i feel hot would be after a workout.
Good news is that i've not had this feeling again, although sleep last night was a bit crap. Hopefully tonight's sleep is better.
Orders has already been sorted a few years back, house was rented out.
Now in a position to sell it, and hopefully equally split the equity.
Edited by bunchofkeys on Tuesday 14th July 21:47
IMHO you've been overloaded by stress, subconsciously.
Hope this gets better for you, you're right to document it.
If you wake up or can't sleep, get up and have a cup of tea and stick the telly on for a bit. The worst thing I find is "having to try to get to sleep" as you can make yourself even more anxious. You may end up having to move your body clock round completely to get yourself back, I have had to do this before.
Good luck dude.
Hope this gets better for you, you're right to document it.
If you wake up or can't sleep, get up and have a cup of tea and stick the telly on for a bit. The worst thing I find is "having to try to get to sleep" as you can make yourself even more anxious. You may end up having to move your body clock round completely to get yourself back, I have had to do this before.
Good luck dude.
bunchofkeys said:
Not normally stressed out, so i guess this is all new to me, i cannot recall ever feeling flushed.
Only time where i feel hot would be after a workout.
Good news is that i've not had this feeling again, although sleep last night was a bit crap. Hopefully tonight's sleep is better.
Orders has already been sorted a few years back, house was rented out.
Now in a position to sell it, and hopefully equally split the equity.
Any night sweats ? Interested to see some suggest a covid test I swear I've been in a brain fog for months now since having a weird flu in late Feb when I returned from travelling. Only time where i feel hot would be after a workout.
Good news is that i've not had this feeling again, although sleep last night was a bit crap. Hopefully tonight's sleep is better.
Orders has already been sorted a few years back, house was rented out.
Now in a position to sell it, and hopefully equally split the equity.
Edited by bunchofkeys on Tuesday 14th July 21:47
Epileptic seizures (partial seizures) can have all sorts of weird mental effects (e.g. overwhelming sense of deja vu, disassociation, hallucination, paranoia), with no (or minor) physical effects.
I know nobody wants to waste a doctor's time, especially now, but if it happens again it could be worth getting yourself checked out.
I know nobody wants to waste a doctor's time, especially now, but if it happens again it could be worth getting yourself checked out.
Something similar happened to me a few weeks ago - someone was talking to me and my eyes just glazed over and I zoned out completely for a few seconds. Utterly weird. Something similar happened last week when driving but not as severe and I was in full control of the vehicle and I was ready to pull over when it stopped.
It was quite worrying and I think if it happens again, I'll need to see the GP. I put it down to possibly stroke-related issues - but I haven't googled it and have no intentions of doing so as it could be a multitude of things.
It was quite worrying and I think if it happens again, I'll need to see the GP. I put it down to possibly stroke-related issues - but I haven't googled it and have no intentions of doing so as it could be a multitude of things.
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