What's fair? Dividing living expenses with the girlfriend
Discussion
PurpleMoonlight said:
EB89 said:
Well a resolution has been sought
We've broken up! We had other issues too.
It does just feel like I have been used a bit...Funny that as soon as she starts banking £2k a month and can afford to support herself that she decides to move on. It is for the best anyway!
Cheers for all the advice
When will men learn?We've broken up! We had other issues too.
It does just feel like I have been used a bit...Funny that as soon as she starts banking £2k a month and can afford to support herself that she decides to move on. It is for the best anyway!
Cheers for all the advice
We all pay for sex, it's just a matter of how and when.
The hotter the wife, the more you pay.
Not very pretty = split 50/50.
Beautiful = man pays 100%.
Yipper said:
PurpleMoonlight said:
EB89 said:
Well a resolution has been sought
We've broken up! We had other issues too.
It does just feel like I have been used a bit...Funny that as soon as she starts banking £2k a month and can afford to support herself that she decides to move on. It is for the best anyway!
Cheers for all the advice
When will men learn?We've broken up! We had other issues too.
It does just feel like I have been used a bit...Funny that as soon as she starts banking £2k a month and can afford to support herself that she decides to move on. It is for the best anyway!
Cheers for all the advice
We all pay for sex, it's just a matter of how and when.
The hotter the wife, the more you pay.
Not very pretty = split 50/50.
Beautiful = man pays 100%.
You could have hired two professionals per time and it would have worked out cheaper and a lot less hassle.
EB89 said:
Now our relationship has been a bit rocky recently, a lot of which can be attributed to money.
A lot of which can be attributed to you being an arse about money. She doesn't really have any. You have some.
You're in a relationship. Giving makes one feel fabulous, provided one is wired correctly.
Your debt is your responsibility and presumably exists from before you two were together. It's irrelevant to her.
Sounds to me like you both need to tighten your belts and change your lifestyle to one you can afford. Or split up.
Pothole said:
EB89 said:
Now our relationship has been a bit rocky recently, a lot of which can be attributed to money.
A lot of which can be attributed to you being an arse about money. She doesn't really have any. You have some.
You're in a relationship. Giving makes one feel fabulous, provided one is wired correctly.
Your debt is your responsibility and presumably exists from before you two were together. It's irrelevant to her.
Sounds to me like you both need to tighten your belts and change your lifestyle to one you can afford. Or split up.
Maxf said:
Pothole said:
EB89 said:
Now our relationship has been a bit rocky recently, a lot of which can be attributed to money.
A lot of which can be attributed to you being an arse about money. She doesn't really have any. You have some.
You're in a relationship. Giving makes one feel fabulous, provided one is wired correctly.
Your debt is your responsibility and presumably exists from before you two were together. It's irrelevant to her.
Sounds to me like you both need to tighten your belts and change your lifestyle to one you can afford. Or split up.
ZOLLAR said:
Yipper said:
Yeah, everyone knows the secret rule...
The hotter the wife, the more you pay.
Not very pretty = split 50/50.
Beautiful = man pays 100%.
God knows what I did to please fate but my future wife is better looking than me an earns more The hotter the wife, the more you pay.
Not very pretty = split 50/50.
Beautiful = man pays 100%.
I've only read one or two replies on this, but it all depends on your individual earning capacities, and how you feel about one another I guess.
No two couples will see it the same way, in my case, when I met the girl who is now my wife, she was a cashier in a betting shop, and not earning a fortune, can't remember how much now, but I was driving a black cab, and doing pretty good, thanks.
I owned my own house, and she eventually moved in with me, so I suggested that I'd cover everything, mortgage, insurances, her car insurance, servicing and VED, council rates, (this was before poll tax), phone, gas, electric, all and any incidentals, holidays, eating out, you name it, if she just bought the weekly shop.
We've stuck with that right up until the present, although she has a lot better job now, and only works a 3 day week.
No two couples will see it the same way, in my case, when I met the girl who is now my wife, she was a cashier in a betting shop, and not earning a fortune, can't remember how much now, but I was driving a black cab, and doing pretty good, thanks.
I owned my own house, and she eventually moved in with me, so I suggested that I'd cover everything, mortgage, insurances, her car insurance, servicing and VED, council rates, (this was before poll tax), phone, gas, electric, all and any incidentals, holidays, eating out, you name it, if she just bought the weekly shop.
We've stuck with that right up until the present, although she has a lot better job now, and only works a 3 day week.
Frank7 said:
I've only read one or two replies on this, but it all depends on your individual earning capacities, and how you feel about one another I guess.
No two couples will see it the same way, in my case, when I met the girl who is now my wife, she was a cashier in a betting shop, and not earning a fortune, can't remember how much now, but I was driving a black cab, and doing pretty good, thanks.
I owned my own house, and she eventually moved in with me, so I suggested that I'd cover everything, mortgage, insurances, her car insurance, servicing and VED, council rates, (this was before poll tax), phone, gas, electric, all and any incidentals, holidays, eating out, you name it, if she just bought the weekly shop.
We've stuck with that right up until the present, although she has a lot better job now, and only works a 3 day week.
They split up. No two couples will see it the same way, in my case, when I met the girl who is now my wife, she was a cashier in a betting shop, and not earning a fortune, can't remember how much now, but I was driving a black cab, and doing pretty good, thanks.
I owned my own house, and she eventually moved in with me, so I suggested that I'd cover everything, mortgage, insurances, her car insurance, servicing and VED, council rates, (this was before poll tax), phone, gas, electric, all and any incidentals, holidays, eating out, you name it, if she just bought the weekly shop.
We've stuck with that right up until the present, although she has a lot better job now, and only works a 3 day week.
EB89 said:
Maxf said:
Pothole said:
EB89 said:
Now our relationship has been a bit rocky recently, a lot of which can be attributed to money.
A lot of which can be attributed to you being an arse about money. She doesn't really have any. You have some.
You're in a relationship. Giving makes one feel fabulous, provided one is wired correctly.
Your debt is your responsibility and presumably exists from before you two were together. It's irrelevant to her.
Sounds to me like you both need to tighten your belts and change your lifestyle to one you can afford. Or split up.
Pothole said:
johnwilliams77 said:
Pothole said:
You're single. What have you won?
FreedomHe can just pay for it once now
Also worked out a revised plan on the finances and I can get debt free (7 months) and build enough equity to buy just seven months later.
So feeling great, just helping the ex move out today!
EB89 said:
Pothole said:
johnwilliams77 said:
Pothole said:
You're single. What have you won?
FreedomHe can just pay for it once now
Also worked out a revised plan on the finances and I can get debt free (7 months) and build enough equity to buy just seven months later.
So feeling great, just helping the ex move out today!
A decent girl/person will always want to contribute regardless of what they have. The fact she had a decent car and you had to downsize whilst paying off her debt kind of sums it up tbh. She could have sold her car for example.
Everyhing should be 50/50 unless earnings are miles apart or one has to stay at home due to kids, etc. If they cite the fact you earn more, tell them to go and earn more since it's that easy!
It's very easy to spend someone's else hard earned money... there is a diffence between giving to someone and supporting someone.
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