Mum's home, not to give it to equity release or a care home.

[NoNeed]

My mother died a few weeks ago, she was a dementia sufferer and we tried for a very long time to care for her ourselves but 12 months ago we made the decision to put her in a home where she could have the care she needed. This was a private home and we had to pay top-up fees as her pension and benefits didn't cover the full cost. She got her care and we got our freedom yet despite it being best for all concerned I still felt bad.
Her funeral is in two weeks and I am yet to collect her belongings but I was one who has always said you should care for your own and not leave it to the state but I have since learned that there is only so much family can do especially with something like dementia to deal with.


fk me it's dusty in here.

[SpunkyGlory]

NoNeed said:

My mother died a few weeks ago, she was a dementia sufferer and we tried for a very long time to care for her ourselves but 12 months ago we made the decision to put her in a home where she could have the care she needed. This was a private home and we had to pay top-up fees as her pension and benefits didn't cover the full cost. She got her care and we got our freedom yet despite it being best for all concerned I still felt bad.
Her funeral is in two weeks and I am yet to collect her belongings but I was one who has always said you should care for your own and not leave it to the state but I have since learned that there is only so much family can do especially with something like dementia to deal with.


fk me it's dusty in here.

Sorry for your loss.

Dementia is very hard to deal with, I wouldnt wish it on anyone.