Neighbourly dispute - Help needed

[Jonesy23]

Welshbeef said:

Options
1. Go legal - but that costs a lot and they will still be there and probably make it their reason to exist to make his life hell.
2. Sell up - but it could be a place where your dad has lives for decades so it’s frankly not an option.
3. Keep the house but rent it out and rent somewhere else it will be cost neutral but removes all stress

You missed off option 4 which is the only effective one. 'Going legal' doesn't work on tts and the two options of running away don't work either.

This is basic basic stuff in how to deal with people and dealing with bullying aholes effectively will always follow a similar pattern. Sub contract the solution out if necessary.

[Welshbeef]

Jonesy23 said:

You missed off option 4 which is the only effective one. 'Going legal' doesn't work on tts and the two options of running away don't work either.

This is basic basic stuff in how to deal with people and dealing with bullying aholes effectively will always follow a similar pattern. Sub contract the solution out if necessary.

Thing is that all takes time stress etc.
I’d not want my parents to have that issue in old age.

Life is short and especially for older people stress like this which is continuous really causes anguish and depression which always ends up with people getting ill and taking a long time to recover.

There is always two sides to the coin but as OP describes it they are class 1 s

[Im not Kent]

markymarkthree said:

Get your Dad on the Guinness .

Good luck, it must be a horrible feeling having someone giving your Dad grief, I don't know if I could control myself.

Cheers. I have a beautiful family and decent house etc so too much to loose. Whereas these wasters couldn't care less

Edited by Im not Kent on Saturday 21st April 09:13

[Im not Kent]

Welshbeef said:

OP I recall you mentioned “Private road” - so is it a private road from he highway throughout the cul-de-sac?

Does your old man + rest of the street pay in annually for all the grass cutting tree management and cost of rolling repairs for the road?
If so isn’t this totally different to a normal street in so much as the police cannot get involved as blocking in is irrelevant S you are all “off grid” so to speak.

By private road I meant private, non shared driveway. It's ex local authority house so no factors fees etc. CCTV is en route and should arrive on Monday, hopefully that will act as some sort of deterrent

[Im not Kent]

Jonesy23 said:

Welshbeef said:

Options
1. Go legal - but that costs a lot and they will still be there and probably make it their reason to exist to make his life hell.
2. Sell up - but it could be a place where your dad has lives for decades so it’s frankly not an option.
3. Keep the house but rent it out and rent somewhere else it will be cost neutral but removes all stress

You missed off option 4 which is the only effective one. 'Going legal' doesn't work on tts and the two options of running away don't work either.

This is basic basic stuff in how to deal with people and dealing with bullying aholes effectively will always follow a similar pattern. Sub contract the solution out if necessary.

Sorry, not following, what's basic about it?

[Im not Kent]

Welshbeef said:

Do you have any pics to help illustrate the issue?

He's prepared to put up with the parking for a quiet life. It's the verbal abuse and someone trying to run him over he's concerned about

[herewego]

Im not Kent said:

southendpier said:

Im not Kent said:

BRISTOL86 said:

‘The police aren’t interested unless a crimes been committed’ ... since when is attempting to run someone over not a crime?!

He got changed but they're not interested any in any of the verbal stuff... apparently it's a civil matter

Do you mean charged? What with?

Charged with breach of the peace for trying to run him over

Sounds a very mild charge for what appears to be a very serious offence. Dangerous driving sounds more appropriate and would have removed the guy's licence.

Edited by herewego on Saturday 21st April 09:40

[Welshbeef]

Im not Kent said:

Welshbeef said:

Do you have any pics to help illustrate the issue?

He's prepared to put up with the parking for a quiet life. It's the verbal abuse and someone trying to run him over he's concerned about

OP a different possible angle I raise this as a neighbour of ours is sadly suffering from this illness - zero behaviour you have though

Altzeimers.... frequently there trying to help? Swearing shouting aggressive and older age can be a cause of this condition.
Might not be relevant at all but you never know. Sure some people are s, has it deteriorated/ or has it always been like this

[Im not Kent]

Welshbeef said:

Im not Kent said:

Welshbeef said:

Do you have any pics to help illustrate the issue?

He's prepared to put up with the parking for a quiet life. It's the verbal abuse and someone trying to run him over he's concerned about

OP a different possible angle I raise this as a neighbour of ours is sadly suffering from this illness - zero behaviour you have though

Altzeimers.... frequently there trying to help? Swearing shouting aggressive and older age can be a cause of this condition.
Might not be relevant at all but you never know. Sure some people are s, has it deteriorated/ or has it always been like this

The guy in question is in his early 50s, definitely not got altzeimers. He's all there and a bit more. He's just not a nice person

[johnwilliams77]

Do you know someone who can scare the living st out of this guy? This will be by far the most efficient and effective method. Slightly risky, though.

[Welshbeef]

Im not Kent said:

The guy in question is in his early 50s, definitely not got altzeimers. He's all there and a bit more. He's just not a nice person

Has he always been like that or has things got worse? Any point in time (his divorce ? ) which might have kicked off fktard behaviour

[flatsix3.6]

Have a word with your local council (highways) as I do beleive they can take some sort of action for blocking the highway at no cost to you.

[herewego]

flatsix3.6 said:

Have a word with your local council (highways) as I do beleive they can take some sort of action for blocking the highway at no cost to you.

It appears to be a private road otherwise the police would be dealing with the parking issue.

[allegro]

This is an easy one! next time the brother is imminent go outside and put a little air in you tyre muttering bds or similar.
knock on the neighbours the next day when he isnt there and ask if they had seen anyone meddling with the car as someone keeps letting air out of the tyres.

Give it a week, then when the next opportunity presents itself let all the air out of one of his tyres! do this 3 or 4 times and he will think twice about parking there

[johnwilliams77]

allegro said:

This is an easy one! next time the brother is imminent go outside and put a little air in you tyre muttering bds or similar.
knock on the neighbours the next day when he isnt there and ask if they had seen anyone meddling with the car as someone keeps letting air out of the tyres.

Give it a week, then when the next opportunity presents itself let all the air out of one of his tyres! do this 3 or 4 times and he will think twice about parking there

You really think he would believe it wasn’t him?

[Welshbeef]

johnwilliams77 said:

You really think he would believe it wasn’t him?

Depending on the circumstance and how well you can handle yourself.

When you ask just smirk at them then when the 4 and flat smirk and wink. When he is effing and hedging at your Dad blow him a kiss. Hopefully they will react and IF they touch you game over (don’t do anything to them let him assault you - CCTV it down to old bill job done). Then continue to blow him kisses every time you see him - this sort of thing really makes fktards to come out in a big way normal people wouldn’t do a thing.

[hotchy]

Get a post. A big concreated in one. Put it down.. let him park. Put it up and lock. Go away for a couple nights. Hidden camera. Criminal damage surely. Repeat. Even if it requires new post each time. He'll soon stop.

[johnwilliams77]

Welshbeef said:

Depending on the circumstance and how well you can handle yourself.

When you ask just smirk at them then when the 4 and flat smirk and wink. When he is effing and hedging at your Dad blow him a kiss. Hopefully they will react and IF they touch you game over (don’t do anything to them let him assault you - CCTV it down to old bill job done). Then continue to blow him kisses every time you see him - this sort of thing really makes fktards to come out in a big way normal people wouldn’t do a thing.

Have you seen your nurse today welshy?

[herewego]

hotchy said:

Get a post. A big concreated in one. Put it down.. let him park. Put it up and lock. Go away for a couple nights. Hidden camera. Criminal damage surely. Repeat. Even if it requires new post each time. He'll soon stop.

The guy is not parking on the OP's land.

[hotchy]

herewego said:

The guy is not parking on the OP's land.

His driveways not his land? Whats the problem then. I was outraged someone would park on his drive. Im off to read the original post because hes not been very clear as a few have had the same issue as me it seems.