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Mattyn
Your earlier post made me shed a tear. So sorry for what you are going through.
There is a charity, I think called the cinnamon trust, Where people walk others dogs.
I think you could find someone who would look after Reggie during the day whilst you are at work from somewhere like this.
Good luck to you mate. You really are going through it at the moment
Our two dogs send hugs
Your earlier post made me shed a tear. So sorry for what you are going through.
There is a charity, I think called the cinnamon trust, Where people walk others dogs.
I think you could find someone who would look after Reggie during the day whilst you are at work from somewhere like this.
Good luck to you mate. You really are going through it at the moment
Our two dogs send hugs
Oh my gosh. Thank you all for the thoughts and love.
Today is my birthday and it’s been emotional. Not been sleeping and Seth and Myrtle know. I miss my ‘daughter’ card with the price sticker still on the back. Mum’s trademark
We are off to Wales tomorrow, Myrtle has the map out waiting
I had my favourite things for breakfast - dogs could smell the cheese
Found a photo on Wednesday of mum with her first dog, this would be very early ‘50s. His name was Luke
And him with my Granny
Oh and the Ice Cream man always stopped outside my parents house to give their Chows a free Ice Cream. This started decades ago and it’s still the same man! He stopped Tuesday. This was Myrtle in mums garden tilting her head listening to his tune
Seth misses her
Sending love to everyone and give your dogs a big hug from me.
Matty big love to you and Reggie xx
Normal posing should resume tomorrow
Today is my birthday and it’s been emotional. Not been sleeping and Seth and Myrtle know. I miss my ‘daughter’ card with the price sticker still on the back. Mum’s trademark
We are off to Wales tomorrow, Myrtle has the map out waiting
I had my favourite things for breakfast - dogs could smell the cheese
Found a photo on Wednesday of mum with her first dog, this would be very early ‘50s. His name was Luke
And him with my Granny
Oh and the Ice Cream man always stopped outside my parents house to give their Chows a free Ice Cream. This started decades ago and it’s still the same man! He stopped Tuesday. This was Myrtle in mums garden tilting her head listening to his tune
Seth misses her
Sending love to everyone and give your dogs a big hug from me.
Matty big love to you and Reggie xx
Normal posing should resume tomorrow
mattyn1 said:
Have been told not to use the wheel chair for a few weeks! Rest, rest and more rest, which for Reggie is like well you can guess!
I am struggling to be honest. Reggie poops, but I cannot see any indication he needs to go except he does not want to poop in his bed. His catheter is out later this afternoon then we know if he can wee.
I was looking at him this morning and he looks fed up. Despondent.
I know it is early days, really early days but I know I can cope with him in a wheelchair. I can see the freedoms it will give him, even if it will likely be a bit dangerous for other people!
It s the possible incontinence that worries me. And what happens if the bladder does not work. I can t take a disabled dog to work, let alone one who is incontinent and likely not with a permanent catheter. He is only 3yo he has what, ten years left. I need to change roles next year my current boss has given me so much time over the last year I am not sure more is available.
Reggie has been a solid rock and definitely a best friend to me over the last 12 months. He is the reason I was getting up, all through the grief, and he repaid in massive amounts. Now he needs my help and I might be unable to give him everything he needs. That feels just horrid.
The thought of giving him up is unbearable, but to give Reggie a decent future I might have to. I am sort of in a position where I can t see the wood for the trees. It just seems so unfair though .
Reggie s background he was bought as a pup by a young lad who lived with his mum. They had a falling out and the lad left home, leaving Reggie with his mother. Trouble was, the mother was riddled with arthritis and could not care for him she went into a home, he was put into Blue Cross.
That s where we found him or rather Lynn did. So Lynn adopted him two years ago then Lynn died last August, and so he lost three owners in two years. He was Lynn s dog. He followed her everywhere like a shadow. Now because I live on my own, I face the prospect of being another to give him up. Christ it is just unbearable.
Also, I pondered the possibility yesterday what if I could not afford his operation what would happen to him? I fear the worst there. I need to scope the charities but I just don t know what to do!
mattyn - it's really hard I know, but please try not to feel too overwhelmed by it all. It is SUCH early days. You might think that Reggie looks despondent - he probably is finding it tough - but imagine how a human would feel, and they can have it explained to them. He doesn't understand, and that can sometimes be one of the worst things for us - we can't communicate with them what has happened and why we need to do the things we do, and that we still love them. All we can do is create a 'new normal' (for them and us), try to make new routines and keep showing them how much we care. You have been everything to Reggie, don't underestimate yourself.I am struggling to be honest. Reggie poops, but I cannot see any indication he needs to go except he does not want to poop in his bed. His catheter is out later this afternoon then we know if he can wee.
I was looking at him this morning and he looks fed up. Despondent.
I know it is early days, really early days but I know I can cope with him in a wheelchair. I can see the freedoms it will give him, even if it will likely be a bit dangerous for other people!
It s the possible incontinence that worries me. And what happens if the bladder does not work. I can t take a disabled dog to work, let alone one who is incontinent and likely not with a permanent catheter. He is only 3yo he has what, ten years left. I need to change roles next year my current boss has given me so much time over the last year I am not sure more is available.
Reggie has been a solid rock and definitely a best friend to me over the last 12 months. He is the reason I was getting up, all through the grief, and he repaid in massive amounts. Now he needs my help and I might be unable to give him everything he needs. That feels just horrid.
The thought of giving him up is unbearable, but to give Reggie a decent future I might have to. I am sort of in a position where I can t see the wood for the trees. It just seems so unfair though .
Reggie s background he was bought as a pup by a young lad who lived with his mum. They had a falling out and the lad left home, leaving Reggie with his mother. Trouble was, the mother was riddled with arthritis and could not care for him she went into a home, he was put into Blue Cross.
That s where we found him or rather Lynn did. So Lynn adopted him two years ago then Lynn died last August, and so he lost three owners in two years. He was Lynn s dog. He followed her everywhere like a shadow. Now because I live on my own, I face the prospect of being another to give him up. Christ it is just unbearable.
Also, I pondered the possibility yesterday what if I could not afford his operation what would happen to him? I fear the worst there. I need to scope the charities but I just don t know what to do!
But don't neglect yourself either. You're already looking into potential sources of support - keep doing so. I'm sure there are forums where people have been through similar ops, and they may offer other solutions - or just other people who have been where you are right now.
And please keep posting here. It may be worth creating a new thread, just in case those lovely vet staff who sometimes visit this forum can also offer support or advice.
Lots of hugs to you and Reggie from our family x
ETA - you say you adopted from the Blue Cross. They offer vet services, so presumably might be able to provide care advice or suggest sources of support. Might be worth a try.
Edited by moorx on Friday 7th August 21:03
The catheter has been removed and despite many demos on how to make sure he wees, he did nothing yesterday evening and none overnight. The vet has been amazing but at her request we were back in this morning.
He did wee but he is incontinent, but unable to empty his bladder totally, and the worry is for infection, and worst a rupture. Therefore I am trying to aid it by helping express … the vet is quite pessimistic but wants to see him next Friday, hoping for some improvement.
Also, he remains incontinent for poop. I think he knows he wants to go ( like he won’t poop in his bed) but he has no idea he has done it when he does poop. This increased the vets pessimism.
Reggie is three… this could be permanent and that is a long time if he is like this for the rest of his life.
I have spent all afternoon trying to watch him, notice a sign he is going to poo or wee… there just isn’t any.
I know it’s early days, but it’s truly awful for him. I really don’t want to give up on him, but how long do I carry on hoping? If there is no improvement (and by that I mean even a smidge of an improvement) then that convo with the vet next week is going to be tough.
He was uncomfy all night last night, probably because of an aggravation after the catheter removed, which I thought would be a good sign.
I feel desperately sad about this. Ten days ago he was flying about like the daft sod he is…. Now, he is just broken.
I am not religious, but I am praying for some sign of improvement.
He did wee but he is incontinent, but unable to empty his bladder totally, and the worry is for infection, and worst a rupture. Therefore I am trying to aid it by helping express … the vet is quite pessimistic but wants to see him next Friday, hoping for some improvement.
Also, he remains incontinent for poop. I think he knows he wants to go ( like he won’t poop in his bed) but he has no idea he has done it when he does poop. This increased the vets pessimism.
Reggie is three… this could be permanent and that is a long time if he is like this for the rest of his life.
I have spent all afternoon trying to watch him, notice a sign he is going to poo or wee… there just isn’t any.
I know it’s early days, but it’s truly awful for him. I really don’t want to give up on him, but how long do I carry on hoping? If there is no improvement (and by that I mean even a smidge of an improvement) then that convo with the vet next week is going to be tough.
He was uncomfy all night last night, probably because of an aggravation after the catheter removed, which I thought would be a good sign.
I feel desperately sad about this. Ten days ago he was flying about like the daft sod he is…. Now, he is just broken.
I am not religious, but I am praying for some sign of improvement.
That photo of Seth makes me really sad.
I have no idea what you must be feeling Gretchen, but I think Seth is showing us all how he feels.
We are away and our dog walker sent us this, Bella & Gigi have been out with a new friend, Scout.
The walker has been absolutely fantastic with Bella, as she was always dog reactive. Now she will walk and play with other dogs, once introduced properly. Must be getting soft in her elder years.
I have no idea what you must be feeling Gretchen, but I think Seth is showing us all how he feels.
We are away and our dog walker sent us this, Bella & Gigi have been out with a new friend, Scout.
The walker has been absolutely fantastic with Bella, as she was always dog reactive. Now she will walk and play with other dogs, once introduced properly. Must be getting soft in her elder years.
moorx said:
mattyn1 said:
Have been told not to use the wheel chair for a few weeks! Rest, rest and more rest, which for Reggie is like well you can guess!
I am struggling to be honest. Reggie poops, but I cannot see any indication he needs to go except he does not want to poop in his bed. His catheter is out later this afternoon then we know if he can wee.
I was looking at him this morning and he looks fed up. Despondent.
I know it is early days, really early days but I know I can cope with him in a wheelchair. I can see the freedoms it will give him, even if it will likely be a bit dangerous for other people!
It s the possible incontinence that worries me. And what happens if the bladder does not work. I can t take a disabled dog to work, let alone one who is incontinent and likely not with a permanent catheter. He is only 3yo he has what, ten years left. I need to change roles next year my current boss has given me so much time over the last year I am not sure more is available.
Reggie has been a solid rock and definitely a best friend to me over the last 12 months. He is the reason I was getting up, all through the grief, and he repaid in massive amounts. Now he needs my help and I might be unable to give him everything he needs. That feels just horrid.
The thought of giving him up is unbearable, but to give Reggie a decent future I might have to. I am sort of in a position where I can t see the wood for the trees. It just seems so unfair though .
Reggie s background he was bought as a pup by a young lad who lived with his mum. They had a falling out and the lad left home, leaving Reggie with his mother. Trouble was, the mother was riddled with arthritis and could not care for him she went into a home, he was put into Blue Cross.
That s where we found him or rather Lynn did. So Lynn adopted him two years ago then Lynn died last August, and so he lost three owners in two years. He was Lynn s dog. He followed her everywhere like a shadow. Now because I live on my own, I face the prospect of being another to give him up. Christ it is just unbearable.
Also, I pondered the possibility yesterday what if I could not afford his operation what would happen to him? I fear the worst there. I need to scope the charities but I just don t know what to do!
mattyn - it's really hard I know, but please try not to feel too overwhelmed by it all. It is SUCH early days. You might think that Reggie looks despondent - he probably is finding it tough - but imagine how a human would feel, and they can have it explained to them. He doesn't understand, and that can sometimes be one of the worst things for us - we can't communicate with them what has happened and why we need to do the things we do, and that we still love them. All we can do is create a 'new normal' (for them and us), try to make new routines and keep showing them how much we care. You have been everything to Reggie, don't underestimate yourself.I am struggling to be honest. Reggie poops, but I cannot see any indication he needs to go except he does not want to poop in his bed. His catheter is out later this afternoon then we know if he can wee.
I was looking at him this morning and he looks fed up. Despondent.
I know it is early days, really early days but I know I can cope with him in a wheelchair. I can see the freedoms it will give him, even if it will likely be a bit dangerous for other people!
It s the possible incontinence that worries me. And what happens if the bladder does not work. I can t take a disabled dog to work, let alone one who is incontinent and likely not with a permanent catheter. He is only 3yo he has what, ten years left. I need to change roles next year my current boss has given me so much time over the last year I am not sure more is available.
Reggie has been a solid rock and definitely a best friend to me over the last 12 months. He is the reason I was getting up, all through the grief, and he repaid in massive amounts. Now he needs my help and I might be unable to give him everything he needs. That feels just horrid.
The thought of giving him up is unbearable, but to give Reggie a decent future I might have to. I am sort of in a position where I can t see the wood for the trees. It just seems so unfair though .
Reggie s background he was bought as a pup by a young lad who lived with his mum. They had a falling out and the lad left home, leaving Reggie with his mother. Trouble was, the mother was riddled with arthritis and could not care for him she went into a home, he was put into Blue Cross.
That s where we found him or rather Lynn did. So Lynn adopted him two years ago then Lynn died last August, and so he lost three owners in two years. He was Lynn s dog. He followed her everywhere like a shadow. Now because I live on my own, I face the prospect of being another to give him up. Christ it is just unbearable.
Also, I pondered the possibility yesterday what if I could not afford his operation what would happen to him? I fear the worst there. I need to scope the charities but I just don t know what to do!
But don't neglect yourself either. You're already looking into potential sources of support - keep doing so. I'm sure there are forums where people have been through similar ops, and they may offer other solutions - or just other people who have been where you are right now.
And please keep posting here. It may be worth creating a new thread, just in case those lovely vet staff who sometimes visit this forum can also offer support or advice.
Lots of hugs to you and Reggie from our family x
ETA - you say you adopted from the Blue Cross. They offer vet services, so presumably might be able to provide care advice or suggest sources of support. Might be worth a try.
Edited by moorx on Friday 7th August 21:03
Matty, there's a way through this. It's not obvious now and it may lead to a resolution that you don't want to contemplate, but there is a path.
You know what's going on, Reggie doesn't. Ultimately all he needs is to know is you're 100% there for him. Which clearly you are. Dogs live in the moment; they accept the here and now and deal with it far better than we do.
I feel for you both mate.
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moorx said:
mattyn1 said:
Have been told not to use the wheel chair for a few weeks! Rest, rest and more rest, which for Reggie is like well you can guess!
I am struggling to be honest. Reggie poops, but I cannot see any indication he needs to go except he does not want to poop in his bed. His catheter is out later this afternoon then we know if he can wee.
I was looking at him this morning and he looks fed up. Despondent.
I know it is early days, really early days but I know I can cope with him in a wheelchair. I can see the freedoms it will give him, even if it will likely be a bit dangerous for other people!
It s the possible incontinence that worries me. And what happens if the bladder does not work. I can t take a disabled dog to work, let alone one who is incontinent and likely not with a permanent catheter. He is only 3yo he has what, ten years left. I need to change roles next year my current boss has given me so much time over the last year I am not sure more is available.
Reggie has been a solid rock and definitely a best friend to me over the last 12 months. He is the reason I was getting up, all through the grief, and he repaid in massive amounts. Now he needs my help and I might be unable to give him everything he needs. That feels just horrid.
The thought of giving him up is unbearable, but to give Reggie a decent future I might have to. I am sort of in a position where I can t see the wood for the trees. It just seems so unfair though .
Reggie s background he was bought as a pup by a young lad who lived with his mum. They had a falling out and the lad left home, leaving Reggie with his mother. Trouble was, the mother was riddled with arthritis and could not care for him she went into a home, he was put into Blue Cross.
That s where we found him or rather Lynn did. So Lynn adopted him two years ago then Lynn died last August, and so he lost three owners in two years. He was Lynn s dog. He followed her everywhere like a shadow. Now because I live on my own, I face the prospect of being another to give him up. Christ it is just unbearable.
Also, I pondered the possibility yesterday what if I could not afford his operation what would happen to him? I fear the worst there. I need to scope the charities but I just don t know what to do!
mattyn - it's really hard I know, but please try not to feel too overwhelmed by it all. It is SUCH early days. You might think that Reggie looks despondent - he probably is finding it tough - but imagine how a human would feel, and they can have it explained to them. He doesn't understand, and that can sometimes be one of the worst things for us - we can't communicate with them what has happened and why we need to do the things we do, and that we still love them. All we can do is create a 'new normal' (for them and us), try to make new routines and keep showing them how much we care. You have been everything to Reggie, don't underestimate yourself.I am struggling to be honest. Reggie poops, but I cannot see any indication he needs to go except he does not want to poop in his bed. His catheter is out later this afternoon then we know if he can wee.
I was looking at him this morning and he looks fed up. Despondent.
I know it is early days, really early days but I know I can cope with him in a wheelchair. I can see the freedoms it will give him, even if it will likely be a bit dangerous for other people!
It s the possible incontinence that worries me. And what happens if the bladder does not work. I can t take a disabled dog to work, let alone one who is incontinent and likely not with a permanent catheter. He is only 3yo he has what, ten years left. I need to change roles next year my current boss has given me so much time over the last year I am not sure more is available.
Reggie has been a solid rock and definitely a best friend to me over the last 12 months. He is the reason I was getting up, all through the grief, and he repaid in massive amounts. Now he needs my help and I might be unable to give him everything he needs. That feels just horrid.
The thought of giving him up is unbearable, but to give Reggie a decent future I might have to. I am sort of in a position where I can t see the wood for the trees. It just seems so unfair though .
Reggie s background he was bought as a pup by a young lad who lived with his mum. They had a falling out and the lad left home, leaving Reggie with his mother. Trouble was, the mother was riddled with arthritis and could not care for him she went into a home, he was put into Blue Cross.
That s where we found him or rather Lynn did. So Lynn adopted him two years ago then Lynn died last August, and so he lost three owners in two years. He was Lynn s dog. He followed her everywhere like a shadow. Now because I live on my own, I face the prospect of being another to give him up. Christ it is just unbearable.
Also, I pondered the possibility yesterday what if I could not afford his operation what would happen to him? I fear the worst there. I need to scope the charities but I just don t know what to do!
But don't neglect yourself either. You're already looking into potential sources of support - keep doing so. I'm sure there are forums where people have been through similar ops, and they may offer other solutions - or just other people who have been where you are right now.
And please keep posting here. It may be worth creating a new thread, just in case those lovely vet staff who sometimes visit this forum can also offer support or advice.
Lots of hugs to you and Reggie from our family x
ETA - you say you adopted from the Blue Cross. They offer vet services, so presumably might be able to provide care advice or suggest sources of support. Might be worth a try.
Edited by moorx on Friday 7th August 21:03
Matty, there's a way through this. It's not obvious now and it may lead to a resolution that you don't want to contemplate, but there is a path.
You know what's going on, Reggie doesn't. Ultimately all he needs is to know is you're 100% there for him. Which clearly you are. Dogs live in the moment; they accept the here and now and deal with it far better than we do.
I feel for you both mate.
404 has said it right, there is a patch, and you just hve to go with it and hope the outcome is the one you want.
Thinking of you today.
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