"You're very nice but..."

[66comanche]

This not liking a 'nice guy' thing doesn't ring true for a lot of women, but if by 'nice' we really mean boring then that's the problem. Best way to be is a bit of a chameleon, at least until you know what floats their boat.

[Chuck328]

mat777 said:

I am in exactly the same boat as you. Apparently I'm too nice a guy. What the fk is it with girls that they go for the utter douchebags, then moan that they are being taken for granted??? Then they repeat the whole cycle all over again and NEVER fkING LEARN!!!!!!!!!

There's a breathtakingly gorgeous girl here at uni who I so so really utterly fancied 9and she knew it) when I met her in my accomodation last year but I never got close.. I assumed it was because she was way out of my league.

However, after bumping into her in a nightclub this year and seeing her way more drunk than usual night-out levels, she opened up with "I've missed you matt. But I could never sleep with you, you're too nice a guy. But we'll always be friends, right?".

Wouldn't worry too much about it. If you make it to your goals mentioned in your recent thread and provided you're not a complete gimp, you'll be fking more clunge down route on nightstops than you know what to do with.

It's a perk of the job you know

[Alfachick]

Its a nice way of saying "I think you are ugly".
But they still enjoy your company/banter

Also the reason that women prefer "arrogant tts" is cos normally they have something to be arrogant about, e.g. fantastic good looks, or an amazing sense of humor.
So its the same as saying that women find attractive or funny (but not too funny) men attractive. No st Sherlock.

Sorry if that comes across as super harsh, but its kinda/mostly true. The old adage "treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" does kinda work, to a point anyway.

[TheEnd]

Harsh is the only antidote to overly polite.

[hornetrider]

mat777 said:

I am in exactly the same boat as you. Apparently I'm too nice a guy. What the fk is it with girls that they go for the utter douchebags, then moan that they are being taken for granted??? Then they repeat the whole cycle all over again and NEVER fkING LEARN!!!!!!!!!

There's a breathtakingly gorgeous girl here at uni who I so so really utterly fancied 9and she knew it) when I met her in my accomodation last year but I never got close.. I assumed it was because she was way out of my league.

However, after bumping into her in a nightclub this year and seeing her way more drunk than usual night-out levels, she opened up with "I've missed you matt. But I could never sleep with you, you're too nice a guy. But we'll always be friends, right?".

No. You're a weird looking weiner who could be mistaken for a pre-op.

Sorry mate

[Stiglet80]

BJG1 said:

I'm quite nice.

I get laid.

You're probably just boring.

^This

Don't need to be a ahole. Just be interesting. Unfortunatly stupid women see aholes as interesting. You don't want stupid women.

[Condi]

Spot those at 18-23 sans gf or indeed confidence, vs those who are older and know what its all about.

If you just want a revolving door of women then confidence, good looks and something interesting to talk about is all you need. And all 3 can be learnt or worked on if you dont have them naturally.

[lemonoo7]

hornetrider said:

mat777 said:

I am in exactly the same boat as you. Apparently I'm too nice a guy. What the fk is it with girls that they go for the utter douchebags, then moan that they are being taken for granted??? Then they repeat the whole cycle all over again and NEVER fkING LEARN!!!!!!!!!

There's a breathtakingly gorgeous girl here at uni who I so so really utterly fancied 9and she knew it) when I met her in my accomodation last year but I never got close.. I assumed it was because she was way out of my league.

However, after bumping into her in a nightclub this year and seeing her way more drunk than usual night-out levels, she opened up with "I've missed you matt. But I could never sleep with you, you're too nice a guy. But we'll always be friends, right?".

No. You're a weird looking weiner who could be mistaken for a pre-op.

Sorry mate

Maybe some new trainers may help.

[Plotloss]

Stiglet80 said:

You don't want stupid women.

I do

[Stiglet80]

Plotloss said:

Stiglet80 said:

You don't want stupid women.

I do

I am judging you right now.

[evil_dr_fish]

[Steffan]

I have had a thoroughly enjoyable time with enjoying the Ladies. Had to marry five and being pushed for six (No not sex). I find being straight forward and open helps.

Begging us also a very effective ploy.

Sadly they tend to dislike my somewhat open interest in other women. That has not helped. I explain that is is just the way I am and that I cant help it, But despite this they remain very frosty. Until we split up and then we are friends again. Five friends now very handy.

I think relax and go for at every opportunity. It is the best way. They generally refuse politely IME. Their loss. Some will say yes. Think of all the fun you can have. That's definitely my advice.

Life is too short for recriminations. Difficult to spell as well.

[Gwagon111]

vrsmxtb said:

If I'm so lovely / nice then give me a f-ing chance and date me!

Why do women let the nice guys finish last? I swear the next date I have I'm going to be a total ahole and see what difference it makes...

Mini "I can't get a girlfriend" rant over.

If you hear the word 'nice' you are both fked, and definitely not fked simultaneously.

[69 coupe]

Alfachick said:

Its a nice way of saying "I think you are ugly".
But they still enjoy your company/banter

Also the reason that women prefer "arrogant tts" is cos normally they have something to be arrogant about, e.g. fantastic good looks, or an amazing sense of humor.
So its the same as saying that women find attractive or funny (but not too funny) men attractive. No st Sherlock.

Sorry if that comes across as super harsh, but its kinda/mostly true. The old adage "treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" does kinda work, to a point anyway.

Shut up bh

[Alfachick]

69 coupe said:

Shut up bh

[poo at Paul's]

I've not read it all, but has the OP tried cock yet? He could be 'the wife' .

[VinceFox]

• sigh*

Really? This again?

Be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, compete with yourself to improve your mind, your health, your interest and passion in all areas of life EXCEPT trying to meet women. Basically be fking AWESOME. Stop looking for women and forget about expecting them to come to you if you get better at being you. Just get better at it because it will be better than being the st version of you and for gods sake if you have to talk to them, do it because you want anoter mate that happens to be female. Dont expect anything else and dont treat them as though you do.

Being with someone isnt that important. Tbh it can be a massive liability or at the very least an inconvenience. Get comfy being on your own, hone and sharpen your interests and skills in things you really enjoy or that you think really matter. Life isnt an episode of the fking inbetweeners, it's life and it'll be over before you know it.





Also, hookers.

[Gwagon111]

VinceFox said:

*sigh*

Really? This again?

Be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, compete with yourself to improve your mind, your health, your interest and passion in all areas of life EXCEPT trying to meet women. Basically be fking AWESOME. Stop looking for women and forget about expecting them to come to you if you get better at being you. Just get better at it because it will be better than being the st version of you and for gods sake if you have to talk to them, do it because you want anoter mate that happens to be female. Dont expect anything else and dont treat them as though you do.

Being with someone isnt that important. Tbh it can be a massive liability or at the very least an inconvenience. Get comfy being on your own, hone and sharpen your interests and skills in things you really enjoy or that you think really matter. Life isnt an episode of the fking inbetweeners, it's life and it'll be over before you know it.





Also, hookers.

Chloroform might help as well.

[VinceFox]

Gwagon111 said:

VinceFox said:

*sigh*

Really? This again?

Be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, compete with yourself to improve your mind, your health, your interest and passion in all areas of life EXCEPT trying to meet women. Basically be fking AWESOME. Stop looking for women and forget about expecting them to come to you if you get better at being you. Just get better at it because it will be better than being the st version of you and for gods sake if you have to talk to them, do it because you want anoter mate that happens to be female. Dont expect anything else and dont treat them as though you do.

Being with someone isnt that important. Tbh it can be a massive liability or at the very least an inconvenience. Get comfy being on your own, hone and sharpen your interests and skills in things you really enjoy or that you think really matter. Life isnt an episode of the fking inbetweeners, it's life and it'll be over before you know it.





Also, hookers.

Chloroform might help as well.

If youre still having to use chloroform, they MIGHT not be hookers.

[Alfachick]

VinceFox said:

*sigh*

Really? This again?

Be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, compete with yourself to improve your mind, your health, your interest and passion in all areas of life EXCEPT trying to meet women. Basically be fking AWESOME. Stop looking for women and forget about expecting them to come to you if you get better at being you. Just get better at it because it will be better than being the st version of you and for gods sake if you have to talk to them, do it because you want anoter mate that happens to be female. Dont expect anything else and dont treat them as though you do.

Being with someone isnt that important. Tbh it can be a massive liability or at the very least an inconvenience. Get comfy being on your own, hone and sharpen your interests and skills in things you really enjoy or that you think really matter. Life isnt an episode of the fking inbetweeners, it's life and it'll be over before you know it.





Also, hookers.

This is excellent advice! Really.
Apart from the bit at the end about hookers....