Match.com (Volume 6)
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that really tickled me It’s skewed massively.
Read this and see if you can understand it.
The scale is 1-10. 1 is unattractive and 10 is super attractive.
The 8-10’s both male and female should date each other.
The 6-8, same
4-6 same
And so on.
What actually happens is the 8-10 males run out of 8-10 females because they are already out dating. So they have to turn their attention to the 6-8 females. This makes them think they are 8-10 when they aren’t. They won’t even look at their equivalent 6-8 males because the 8-10 males are giving them attention for a f
k.
This keeps happening down the scale until you end up with people that are now just undateable.
It’s a really harsh way to look at it, but I do believe it’s true.
Read this and see if you can understand it.
The scale is 1-10. 1 is unattractive and 10 is super attractive.
The 8-10’s both male and female should date each other.
The 6-8, same
4-6 same
And so on.
What actually happens is the 8-10 males run out of 8-10 females because they are already out dating. So they have to turn their attention to the 6-8 females. This makes them think they are 8-10 when they aren’t. They won’t even look at their equivalent 6-8 males because the 8-10 males are giving them attention for a f
k. This keeps happening down the scale until you end up with people that are now just undateable.
It’s a really harsh way to look at it, but I do believe it’s true.
PDP76 said:
It’s skewed massively.
Read this and see if you can understand it.
The scale is 1-10. 1 is unattractive and 10 is super attractive.
The 8-10’s both male and female should date each other.
The 6-8, same
4-6 same
And so on.
What actually happens is the 8-10 males run out of 8-10 females because they are already out dating. So they have to turn their attention to the 6-8 females. This makes them think they are 8-10 when they aren’t. They won’t even look at their equivalent 6-8 males because the 8-10 males are giving them attention for a fk.
This keeps happening down the scale until you end up with people that are now just undateable.
It’s a really harsh way to look at it, but I do believe it’s true.
Totally agree with you, plus because even 5/6 out of ten women are inundated with messages they believe they should only settle for an 8-10 out or 10 guy. Plus because makeup, clothes, hair and a filter or two can easily give them an extra 2 or 3 out of ten any man who is average looking or below has literally no chance.Read this and see if you can understand it.
The scale is 1-10. 1 is unattractive and 10 is super attractive.
The 8-10’s both male and female should date each other.
The 6-8, same
4-6 same
And so on.
What actually happens is the 8-10 males run out of 8-10 females because they are already out dating. So they have to turn their attention to the 6-8 females. This makes them think they are 8-10 when they aren’t. They won’t even look at their equivalent 6-8 males because the 8-10 males are giving them attention for a f
k. This keeps happening down the scale until you end up with people that are now just undateable.
It’s a really harsh way to look at it, but I do believe it’s true.
Plus 20 something guys know it is extremely low hanging fruit trying to hookup with 30/40 something women this also makes them believe they are hotter than they think.
Unless you are above average looking then I think it is a hard slog for most men.
fk me this thread has got depressing.
Cant we relate late nights in seedy bars with women whos name you dont know but you'll always remember those fantastic legs and the strangely placed tattoo??
If you want to do internet dating then take it for what it is and dont expect much from it.
Smiling and the ability to hold a conversation from nothing will always work better than swiping right 200 times when you're hung over and should probably just have a wk instead.
Am i wrong?
k me this thread has got depressing. Cant we relate late nights in seedy bars with women whos name you dont know but you'll always remember those fantastic legs and the strangely placed tattoo??
If you want to do internet dating then take it for what it is and dont expect much from it.
Smiling and the ability to hold a conversation from nothing will always work better than swiping right 200 times when you're hung over and should probably just have a w
k instead. Am i wrong?
Condi said:
fk me this thread has got depressing.
Cant we relate late nights in seedy bars with women whos name you dont know but you'll always remember those fantastic legs and the strangely placed tattoo??
If you want to do internet dating then take it for what it is and dont expect much from it.
Smiling and the ability to hold a conversation from nothing will always work better than swiping right 200 times when you're hung over and should probably just have a wk instead.
Am i wrong?
the thread has been taken over by the Incels!k me this thread has got depressing. Cant we relate late nights in seedy bars with women whos name you dont know but you'll always remember those fantastic legs and the strangely placed tattoo??
If you want to do internet dating then take it for what it is and dont expect much from it.
Smiling and the ability to hold a conversation from nothing will always work better than swiping right 200 times when you're hung over and should probably just have a w
k instead. Am i wrong?
My last two dates have been both awful and duped.
Seriously dating sites need to ban filters.
I’m mid 40’s. I prefer same age or above brunette.
Got chatting to a very local blonde early 50’s looks quite attractive and in shape.
Bit out of my comfort zone, but we got on well and looked quite attractive. Chatted a bit, swapped numbers, phonecalls, chemistry working well.
Met up....
I wanted out of that date in about 5 minutes. The early 50 blonde in good shape had used every filter in the world and very well angled shots.
What I met was a slighty overweight greying hag with zero personality. Awful, absolutely fking awful. Very long hour 
Previous to that I met a very attractive girl for drinks with an amazing personality and made me laugh all night. But.. always the but. She had put on about 3/4 stone since her pictures were taken. Fat !
I didn’t desperately want out out of that one, I stayed because she was funny company. No second date though, fat girls aren’t my thing.
I think they call it bubbly !
I think the next time I get duped I’m just going to walk off. Being far too nice to being duped.
Seriously dating sites need to ban filters.
I’m mid 40’s. I prefer same age or above brunette.
Got chatting to a very local blonde early 50’s looks quite attractive and in shape.
Bit out of my comfort zone, but we got on well and looked quite attractive. Chatted a bit, swapped numbers, phonecalls, chemistry working well.
Met up....
I wanted out of that date in about 5 minutes. The early 50 blonde in good shape had used every filter in the world and very well angled shots.
What I met was a slighty overweight greying hag with zero personality. Awful, absolutely f
king awful. Very long hour Previous to that I met a very attractive girl for drinks with an amazing personality and made me laugh all night. But.. always the but. She had put on about 3/4 stone since her pictures were taken. Fat !
I didn’t desperately want out out of that one, I stayed because she was funny company. No second date though, fat girls aren’t my thing.
I think they call it bubbly !
I think the next time I get duped I’m just going to walk off. Being far too nice to being duped.
PDP76 said:
My last two dates have been both awful and duped.
Seriously dating sites need to ban filters.
I’m mid 40’s. I prefer same age or above brunette.
Got chatting to a very local blonde early 50’s looks quite attractive and in shape.
Bit out of my comfort zone, but we got on well and looked quite attractive. Chatted a bit, swapped numbers, phonecalls, chemistry working well.
Met up....
I wanted out of that date in about 5 minutes. The early 50 blonde in good shape had used every filter in the world and very well angled shots.
What I met was a slighty overweight greying hag with zero personality. Awful, absolutely fking awful. Very long hour
Previous to that I met a very attractive girl for drinks with an amazing personality and made me laugh all night. But.. always the but. She had put on about 3/4 stone since her pictures were taken. Fat !
I didn’t desperately want out out of that one, I stayed because she was funny company. No second date though, fat girls aren’t my thing.
I think they call it bubbly !
I think the next time I get duped I’m just going to walk off. Being far too nice to being duped.
The art is to arrange a meeting place where you can go undercover and carry out covert surveillance, having an exit strategy planned that allows you to leave the scene of the crime without leaving any forensics if the perp is not as described.Seriously dating sites need to ban filters.
I’m mid 40’s. I prefer same age or above brunette.
Got chatting to a very local blonde early 50’s looks quite attractive and in shape.
Bit out of my comfort zone, but we got on well and looked quite attractive. Chatted a bit, swapped numbers, phonecalls, chemistry working well.
Met up....
I wanted out of that date in about 5 minutes. The early 50 blonde in good shape had used every filter in the world and very well angled shots.
What I met was a slighty overweight greying hag with zero personality. Awful, absolutely f
king awful. Very long hour Previous to that I met a very attractive girl for drinks with an amazing personality and made me laugh all night. But.. always the but. She had put on about 3/4 stone since her pictures were taken. Fat !
I didn’t desperately want out out of that one, I stayed because she was funny company. No second date though, fat girls aren’t my thing.
I think they call it bubbly !
I think the next time I get duped I’m just going to walk off. Being far too nice to being duped.
Think I have been reading to many crime fiction, must get out more.
Monkeylegend said:
PDP76 said:
My last two dates have been both awful and duped.
Seriously dating sites need to ban filters.
I’m mid 40’s. I prefer same age or above brunette.
Got chatting to a very local blonde early 50’s looks quite attractive and in shape.
Bit out of my comfort zone, but we got on well and looked quite attractive. Chatted a bit, swapped numbers, phonecalls, chemistry working well.
Met up....
I wanted out of that date in about 5 minutes. The early 50 blonde in good shape had used every filter in the world and very well angled shots.
What I met was a slighty overweight greying hag with zero personality. Awful, absolutely fking awful. Very long hour
Previous to that I met a very attractive girl for drinks with an amazing personality and made me laugh all night. But.. always the but. She had put on about 3/4 stone since her pictures were taken. Fat !
I didn’t desperately want out out of that one, I stayed because she was funny company. No second date though, fat girls aren’t my thing.
I think they call it bubbly !
I think the next time I get duped I’m just going to walk off. Being far too nice to being duped.
The art is to arrange a meeting place where you can go undercover and carry out covert surveillance, having an exit strategy planned that allows you to leave the scene of the crime without leaving any forensics if the perp is not as described.Seriously dating sites need to ban filters.
I’m mid 40’s. I prefer same age or above brunette.
Got chatting to a very local blonde early 50’s looks quite attractive and in shape.
Bit out of my comfort zone, but we got on well and looked quite attractive. Chatted a bit, swapped numbers, phonecalls, chemistry working well.
Met up....
I wanted out of that date in about 5 minutes. The early 50 blonde in good shape had used every filter in the world and very well angled shots.
What I met was a slighty overweight greying hag with zero personality. Awful, absolutely f
king awful. Very long hour Previous to that I met a very attractive girl for drinks with an amazing personality and made me laugh all night. But.. always the but. She had put on about 3/4 stone since her pictures were taken. Fat !
I didn’t desperately want out out of that one, I stayed because she was funny company. No second date though, fat girls aren’t my thing.
I think they call it bubbly !
I think the next time I get duped I’m just going to walk off. Being far too nice to being duped.
Think I have been reading to many crime fiction, must get out more.
PDP76 said:
My last two dates have been both awful and duped.
Seriously dating sites need to ban filters.
I’m mid 40’s. I prefer same age or above brunette.
Got chatting to a very local blonde early 50’s looks quite attractive and in shape.
Bit out of my comfort zone, but we got on well and looked quite attractive. Chatted a bit, swapped numbers, phonecalls, chemistry working well.
Met up....
I wanted out of that date in about 5 minutes. The early 50 blonde in good shape had used every filter in the world and very well angled shots.
What I met was a slighty overweight greying hag with zero personality. Awful, absolutely fking awful. Very long hour
Previous to that I met a very attractive girl for drinks with an amazing personality and made me laugh all night. But.. always the but. She had put on about 3/4 stone since her pictures were taken. Fat !
I didn’t desperately want out out of that one, I stayed because she was funny company. No second date though, fat girls aren’t my thing.
I think they call it bubbly !
I think the next time I get duped I’m just going to walk off. Being far too nice to being duped.
No they call it "average"Seriously dating sites need to ban filters.
I’m mid 40’s. I prefer same age or above brunette.
Got chatting to a very local blonde early 50’s looks quite attractive and in shape.
Bit out of my comfort zone, but we got on well and looked quite attractive. Chatted a bit, swapped numbers, phonecalls, chemistry working well.
Met up....
I wanted out of that date in about 5 minutes. The early 50 blonde in good shape had used every filter in the world and very well angled shots.
What I met was a slighty overweight greying hag with zero personality. Awful, absolutely f
king awful. Very long hour Previous to that I met a very attractive girl for drinks with an amazing personality and made me laugh all night. But.. always the but. She had put on about 3/4 stone since her pictures were taken. Fat !
I didn’t desperately want out out of that one, I stayed because she was funny company. No second date though, fat girls aren’t my thing.
I think they call it bubbly !
I think the next time I get duped I’m just going to walk off. Being far too nice to being duped.
Nearly a month on Tinder, and still not a single match despite swiping right on at least 85% of what I see. I guess I should probably give it up on there as I can't see it getting any better for me. I know my photo's aren't the best, but then I don't have many photos (any really) of me where I'm looking normal! I've lost about 3 stone in the last 6 months, and several people have told me I look totally different for it, so I really should get some more up to date ones somehow. I'm not exactly a selfie queen though, usually end up looking like a gurning idiot when I try that lol.
I've browsed POF, but gone no further on there. I guess it's just a case of messaging anyone and everyone that looks remotely plausible? But again, I've been putting that off, thinking I should updated my profile with better photos.
Anyone got any experience with Zoosk? A female friend had suggested it, as she got a lot of attention on there apparently. But to me it looked like blokes only had any real chance if they had a paid subscription, as that's the only way to message/start a conversation on zoosk.
Any others worth a try? I don't mind paying for one or two sites if it's going to help, but it'll start getting expensive to subscribe to lots of them though.
I've browsed POF, but gone no further on there. I guess it's just a case of messaging anyone and everyone that looks remotely plausible? But again, I've been putting that off, thinking I should updated my profile with better photos.
Anyone got any experience with Zoosk? A female friend had suggested it, as she got a lot of attention on there apparently. But to me it looked like blokes only had any real chance if they had a paid subscription, as that's the only way to message/start a conversation on zoosk.
Any others worth a try? I don't mind paying for one or two sites if it's going to help, but it'll start getting expensive to subscribe to lots of them though.
You need to get a friend - ideally someone honest, probably female - to take some decent up to date pictures.
The ones on my profile were all taken within about 10 minutes of each other - few changes of clothes, one or two outside.
Made a huge difference for me - and none of them are selfies. I also employed my then housemates dog as a prop! This worked.
The ones on my profile were all taken within about 10 minutes of each other - few changes of clothes, one or two outside.
Made a huge difference for me - and none of them are selfies. I also employed my then housemates dog as a prop! This worked.
gregs656 said:
You need to get a friend - ideally someone honest, probably female - to take some decent up to date pictures.
The ones on my profile were all taken within about 10 minutes of each other - few changes of clothes, one or two outside.
Made a huge difference for me - and none of them are selfies. I also employed my then housemates dog as a prop! This worked.
Thanks, good suggestions. Will probably ask my friend with benefits to assist with this, and she has a dog too! Even though my ex is a keen photographer, I'm not sure she'd want to oblige for some reason!The ones on my profile were all taken within about 10 minutes of each other - few changes of clothes, one or two outside.
Made a huge difference for me - and none of them are selfies. I also employed my then housemates dog as a prop! This worked.
mjb1 said:
gregs656 said:
You need to get a friend - ideally someone honest, probably female - to take some decent up to date pictures.
The ones on my profile were all taken within about 10 minutes of each other - few changes of clothes, one or two outside.
Made a huge difference for me - and none of them are selfies. I also employed my then housemates dog as a prop! This worked.
Thanks, good suggestions. Will probably ask my friend with benefits to assist with this, and she has a dog too! Even though my ex is a keen photographer, I'm not sure she'd want to oblige for some reason!The ones on my profile were all taken within about 10 minutes of each other - few changes of clothes, one or two outside.
Made a huge difference for me - and none of them are selfies. I also employed my then housemates dog as a prop! This worked.
Paddy_N_Murphy said:
mjb1 said:
Nearly a month on Tinder, and still ..........
but it'll start getting expensive to subscribe to lots of them though.
Of course a refresh of photos' (especially if a 3 stone transformation is on the change..) will or should make a difference. As does changing your photo's regularly too.but it'll start getting expensive to subscribe to lots of them though.
But.
Reading your post and between the lines, I would say that I read what is surprisingly doubtful, not very positive nor enthusiastic writing.
That, if the same as your 'online' persona will kill you quicker than any smorgasbord of photos.
Online dating is sales to a large extent. Hell - even a sales funnel if you want to narrow down a rotating three to one !
You need to come across as someone that a lady wants to know more of. be around more of. laugh and shag.
At this time of year it is not easy, granted, but people are online dating looking for a change in their lives - for the positive.
So come across positive.
Any photo / profile that does not have a smile in, I automatically delete.
If you've managed to shed the timber, you'll surely look and feel better ? New clothes ? and chuffed of how you look ? that in itself should get the ball rolling once you portray the persona to match -
Remember, your swiping left or right makes f
k all difference. Whichever the app or website, I would say that any of the dates or relationships I've had over the last few years have 90% come from the lady choosing.Make them choose You !
All my previous relationships have come from the lady choosing, but they've all been women that I wasn't actually attracted to and I'd never have considered if they hadn't thrown themselves at me. And I've promised myself that I won't get involved with someone purely to get out of being single.
shirt said:
Paddy_N_Murphy said:
Bitter much guys ?
I can't report the same as you.....
Me neither.I can't report the same as you.....
Haven’t returned to tinder et al this time around but previously found them very different to what people report on here. I think some of it comes down to location and demographic, but a lot surely has to owe to personality and disposition. Does seem bitter at times in here.
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