Match.com (Volume 6)

[DuncsGTi]

Plate spinner said:

Well, to add some balance to the thread, I think my preference will be to only date women who do have children.

Me too.

I have my son 5 nights a week, the only type of women who understand that they will have to come second to my lad, are the ones with kids of their own.

A lot of single mums seem to be looking for someone to spend time with for their self, separate from their kids. Not trying to find the "new daddy"

I wouldn't discount dating someone without kids but I'd probably prefer if they did.

[Shnozz]

Totally get it for single Dads. Similarly, I get it for those guys who enjoy regular nights in, holidays infrequently and days out in the park etc.

Conversely I would like to think others would see that it doesn't "fit" with people whose lifestyle is based on many things that aren't child friendly (at least for now).

Applies to both genders, although more often that not single dads will only have to be a dad one weekend in two and its not so intrusive.

Not a slur on anyone, simply a matter of lifestyle synchronisation.

[Gretchen]

CaptainSlow said:

Are you single or still loved-up?

This week I'm mostly single. I'm really enjoying it too.

Mr Roper said:

Any humorous dating stories?

There used to be some right corkers.

Sorry.


I'm on a break.



As for dating someone with kids the guys I date usually get on better with mine than I do. Which can be worrying since my 23yr old son is gay... but then others can't keep up/feel insecure with the fact I like to go clubbing with him and his mates.

I've not been actively looking recently but still am meeting people and being asked out without putting any effort in. I think it gets to a point it's the same faces and stories etc. Christ I even once had a fling with the guy who owns, runs and presents Celebs Go Dating!

[Blown2CV]

if your kids are nearly or already flown the nest then yea absolutely you'd be wanting a woman who is in the same boat i.e. with kids (technically, even though they are not around). You don't want to be targeting those loons that have no kids at aged 45 and want nothing more than to start a family; or a girl 20 year younger than you who also wants to start one at some point. None of that is the as saying that as a single childless man i want to find a woman with young children at home.

[ChocolateFrog]

Saleen836 said:

I met a lady last night I had been chatting with on Tinder, when she turned up she didn't have a massive long tongue or big dog ears, I felt proper catfished!

I've made the dog ears selfie an instant swipe left, it helps narrow the field down somewhat.

[ChocolateFrog]

ChocolateFrog said:

matrignano said:

ChocolateFrog said:

Both I'm sure, although arguably much worse for the child, poor bd.

In other news I'm off on my first internet date tomorrow for lunch, I'll let you all know how it goes.

lunch dates are never good news... alcohol NEEDS to be involved !!

We'll see. I'll be driving so drink would be out anyway.

I don't know if this is off topic or dragging the thread back on track but despite a hiccup we'll be making it to a second date.

I got there 15 mins early so grabbed a coffee, 20 minutes later I start to wonder if I'd been stood up but no I got a call to say she had overslept after a night shift and had literally just woken up. After another 20 mins she arrived having thrown clothes on and done hair/makeup in the car, which I thought was a good effort.

And no alcohol was required.

[Ki3r]

Ki3r said:

You joke about her not bringing the kid on a date...ive had someone turn up with their nine month old daughter on the first date...i also had someone introduce me to her son for the first time (he woke up when I was around) as 'your new daddy'.

That being said I've been on dates with others with kids since. Just be prepared there will be another bloke in their life.

Had a date last night with a women from work...still not sure how it came around...went from texting about work to going for a drink on a date.

Went well though and going for a meal Tuesday evening.

Well the date last week didn't happen, both busy with work (it was already postponed which is just as well as I was four hours late off work). It was going to be tomorrow, but her sons dad has had to cancel looking after him tomorrow so shes asked to do another day...we shall see. Be nice if it happens as we get along, but if it doesn't so be it.

Still can't join POF...which is a good thing really as the next six weeks are full on with courses and a job interview.

[xjay1337]

ChocolateFrog said:

matrignano said:

ChocolateFrog said:

Both I'm sure, although arguably much worse for the child, poor bd.

In other news I'm off on my first internet date tomorrow for lunch, I'll let you all know how it goes.

lunch dates are never good news... alcohol NEEDS to be involved !!

We'll see. I'll be driving so drink would be out anyway.

Why does alcohol need to be involved? I don't drink and don't date women who drink lots as I don't find it appealing in the slightest. I have had no issues getting tail.
My first date with the current partner whom I now live with involved walking her dogs around a housing estate!
Previous "first dates" include Pizza (I got a tuna mayo no crust to take home if you know what I mean ) and a relaxing walk around Hyde Park .

Surely you would want to meet someone who you can be comfortable with while not under the influence?

On the topic of dating a woman with a kid,
it's purely up to the OP.

Personally I would avoid it however I would have the decency to go out on a date at least. If she was a wonderful person then it could make up for the "baggage" of a kid, and in time things will fall in to place.

Just because you are seeing a woman with a kid doesn't mean you are going to be the new "daddy" .

Some of the comments about making mistakes / she should keep her legs closed are really shameful and those who made them should really have a good hard look at themselves. If they are single consider that the reason why.

[Zoon]

xjay1337 said:

I have had no issues getting tail.

Do you date men then?

[D1bram]

Not many stories to add here, as my internet dating has been largely very limited, both my 'serious' relationships (9 & 7 months) since my marriage ended I have met through running.

I did date a really nice girl who I met on POF very briefly just over a year back, but much as we got on it wasn't going anywhere so concluded it after three dates.

More recently though someone recommended I try Badoo.

I have no idea why I was recommended this app, I can only conclude that my 'mate' doesn't actually like me very much!!!

It seems to be full to the brim of council 'full time mummy to my princess' types, you know the ones with a line of random text tattooed across the top of their chest.

So anyway... I did have a dabble with it and agreed to go on a date with one girl; seemed nice enough and with a bit of banter and creativity about her.

The creativity extending to optimising lighting and photo angles I found out. No matter, looks are not everything.

We had an ok if dull conversation over a couple of drinks and I decided it was time to wrap up. At this point she launched into a full on interrogation... how did I feel it went? Did I like her? Did I feel a 'connection' (WTF!!!)? I reacted very none committal, to which her response was to tell me that her daughter was out for the evening and that I was welcome to come back and stay over.

Badoo was deleted on route home and an 'it's not you it's me, no actually it's you....' text deployed.

[Shore]

xjay1337 said:

Why does alcohol need to be involved? I don't drink and don't date women who drink lots as I don't find it appealing in the slightest. I have had no issues getting tail.
My first date with the current partner whom I now live with involved walking her dogs around a housing estate!
Previous "first dates" include Pizza (I got a tuna mayo no crust to take home if you know what I mean ) and a relaxing walk around Hyde Park .

Surely you would want to meet someone who you can be comfortable with while not under the influence?

On the topic of dating a woman with a kid,
it's purely up to the OP.

Personally I would avoid it however I would have the decency to go out on a date at least. If she was a wonderful person then it could make up for the "baggage" of a kid, and in time things will fall in to place.

Just because you are seeing a woman with a kid doesn't mean you are going to be the new "daddy" .

Some of the comments about making mistakes / she should keep her legs closed are really shameful and those who made them should really have a good hard look at themselves. If they are single consider that the reason why.

Well look at it this way if she kept her legs closed the op wouldn't have had to ask our opinions on the matter. I bet he wishes she was more responsible. My comment might have been hard but it was fair.

[anonymous-user]

Shore said:

Well look at it this way if she kept her legs closed the op wouldn't have had to ask our opinions on the matter. I bet he wishes she was more responsible. My comment might have been hard but it was fair.

Dick.

[Plate spinner]

Shore said:

Well look at it this way if she kept her legs closed the op wouldn't have had to ask our opinions on the matter. I bet he wishes she was more responsible. My comment might have been hard but it was fair.

Get a grip. I'm sure the lass didn't lead her life waiting for the day the OP might turn up.
And your comment is not fair at all. Having children and being a single parent looking to date, is not necessarily due to a lack of responsibility - we've covered possible scenarios.

To maintain your view says more about you than the woman in question.

[Mr Roper]

Shore said:

Well look at it this way if she kept her legs closed the op wouldn't have had to ask our opinions on the matter. I bet he wishes she was more responsible. My comment might have been hard but it was fair.

If only you could do the same with your mouth.

Grow up.

[Shore]

Behave yourselves fellow pistonheaders.

[soad]

[Shore]

Why delete my posts ? This is a match.com thread and I simply took part and told the lads about my date. I don't see any harm in doing that and I'm sure you can all relate to meeting someone who didn't quite tell the truth.

[Falsey]

LAD LAD LAD

[johnwilliams77]

Shore said:

Why delete my posts ? This is a match.com thread and I simply took part and told the lads about my date. I don't see any harm in doing that and I'm sure you can all relate to meeting someone who didn't quite tell the truth.

Why do you think brightspark?

[FN2TypeR]

D1bram said:

Not many stories to add here, as my internet dating has been largely very limited, both my 'serious' relationships (9 & 7 months) since my marriage ended I have met through running.

I did date a really nice girl who I met on POF very briefly just over a year back, but much as we got on it wasn't going anywhere so concluded it after three dates.

More recently though someone recommended I try Badoo.

I have no idea why I was recommended this app, I can only conclude that my 'mate' doesn't actually like me very much!!!

It seems to be full to the brim of council 'full time mummy to my princess' types, you know the ones with a line of random text tattooed across the top of their chest.

So anyway... I did have a dabble with it and agreed to go on a date with one girl; seemed nice enough and with a bit of banter and creativity about her.

The creativity extending to optimising lighting and photo angles I found out. No matter, looks are not everything.

We had an ok if dull conversation over a couple of drinks and I decided it was time to wrap up. At this point she launched into a full on interrogation... how did I feel it went? Did I like her? Did I feel a 'connection' (WTF!!!)? I reacted very none committal, to which her response was to tell me that her daughter was out for the evening and that I was welcome to come back and stay over.

Badoo was deleted on route home and an 'it's not you it's me, no actually it's you....' text deployed.

Pass her number on will ya?