Match.com (Volume 6)
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FocusRS3 said:
gregs656 said:
Not always. Polygamy is having more than two people in a relationship. Hooking up with other people on an individual basis is an open relationship. This sounds more like the latter.
Interesting point-A Pal's wife has a Girlfriend and has had for years.
I've never asked him if he gets involved but the fact his wife is involved with this woman doesn't bother him in the least.
They don't have an 'open' relationship as such where they go off with different partners although it was once rumored they used to throw the keys in but that was likely speculation.
Assuming he gets involved in the '3 way' how many REALLY would be comfortable with this and also given she no doubts has her one on one time with said girlfriend.
FocusRS3 said:
Assuming he gets involved in the '3 way' how many REALLY would be comfortable with this and also given she no doubts has her one on one time with said girlfriend.
If it works for them then I don’t suppose it matters. My motorcycle instructor of all people was in an open marriage. He ended up sleeping with one of my friends ex girlfriends, it was all pretty common knowledge.
Some level of openness seems fairly common in gay relationships.
If all parties are being open an honest about it I don’t think it’s a problem.
Edit: I think when it comes to bisexuality and openness it must compound the possibility of jealousy setting in as, like your friends wife, the ‘other’ person is providing something they never could and there must be huge potential for insecurity with that. It is something I have thought about.
Edited by gregs656 on Thursday 18th October 14:24
Paddy_N_Murphy said:
Blown2CV said:
FocusRS3 said:
gregs656 said:
Not always. Polygamy is having more than two people in a relationship. Hooking up with other people on an individual basis is an open relationship. This sounds more like the latter.
Interesting point-A Pal's wife has a Girlfriend and has had for years.
I've never asked him if he gets involved but the fact his wife is involved with this woman doesn't bother him in the least.
They don't have an 'open' relationship as such where they go off with different partners although it was once rumored they used to throw the keys in but that was likely speculation.
Assuming he gets involved in the '3 way' how many REALLY would be comfortable with this and also given she no doubts has her one on one time with said girlfriend.
gregs656 said:
If it works for them then I don’t suppose it matters.
My motorcycle instructor of all people was in an open marriage. He ended up sleeping with one of my friends ex girlfriends, it was all pretty common knowledge.
Some level of openness seems fairly common in gay relationships.
If all parties are being open an honest about it I don’t think it’s a problem.
Edit: I think when it comes to bisexuality and openness it must compound the possibility of jealousy setting in as, like your friends wife, the ‘other’ person is providing something they never could and there must be huge potential for insecurity with that. It is something I have thought about.
Yes this is really what i'm getting at.My motorcycle instructor of all people was in an open marriage. He ended up sleeping with one of my friends ex girlfriends, it was all pretty common knowledge.
Some level of openness seems fairly common in gay relationships.
If all parties are being open an honest about it I don’t think it’s a problem.
Edit: I think when it comes to bisexuality and openness it must compound the possibility of jealousy setting in as, like your friends wife, the ‘other’ person is providing something they never could and there must be huge potential for insecurity with that. It is something I have thought about.
Edited by gregs656 on Thursday 18th October 14:24
The insecurities must still be there putting aside the erotics for a second.
All well and good most males saying 'that.ll be fine be me' but in reality im not sure it would be
FocusRS3 said:
Yes this is really what i'm getting at.
The insecurities must still be there putting aside the erotics for a second.
All well and good most males saying 'that.ll be fine be me' but in reality im not sure it would be
Mmm I think it depends on the relationship. The insecurities must still be there putting aside the erotics for a second.
All well and good most males saying 'that.ll be fine be me' but in reality im not sure it would be
I was totally confident in the monogamous relationship I had with my ex girlfriend and never once thought I or her would cheat. Not all couples have that.
So I can see how for your friend he could be totally content and confident with the arrangement of his marriage. I can also see how not everyone in that situation would have that.
Jobbo said:
Gordon Ramsay and Jeffrey Archer's ex-mistress. I don't know what the problem is; she must have had a certain je ne sais quoi. She presumably wasn't looking for marriage on the first date.
Give that man a cigar, it seems based on what I read she was very much a Heather Mills type.Not quite who you expect to turn up on a wet and windy night in a pub just outside Newport of all places!
Last I heard she was now a relationship expert with a column in the local paper, and turned up again when Max Clifford was exposed.
Edited by PAUL500 on Thursday 18th October 14:52
FocusRS3 said:
gregs656 said:
If it works for them then I don’t suppose it matters.
My motorcycle instructor of all people was in an open marriage. He ended up sleeping with one of my friends ex girlfriends, it was all pretty common knowledge.
Some level of openness seems fairly common in gay relationships.
If all parties are being open an honest about it I don’t think it’s a problem.
Edit: I think when it comes to bisexuality and openness it must compound the possibility of jealousy setting in as, like your friends wife, the ‘other’ person is providing something they never could and there must be huge potential for insecurity with that. It is something I have thought about.
Yes this is really what i'm getting at.My motorcycle instructor of all people was in an open marriage. He ended up sleeping with one of my friends ex girlfriends, it was all pretty common knowledge.
Some level of openness seems fairly common in gay relationships.
If all parties are being open an honest about it I don’t think it’s a problem.
Edit: I think when it comes to bisexuality and openness it must compound the possibility of jealousy setting in as, like your friends wife, the ‘other’ person is providing something they never could and there must be huge potential for insecurity with that. It is something I have thought about.
Edited by gregs656 on Thursday 18th October 14:24
The insecurities must still be there putting aside the erotics for a second.
All well and good most males saying 'that.ll be fine be me' but in reality im not sure it would be
I could be reading this really wrong. I had finger terminlsation (sp) surgery yesterday after a crush accident. I’m truly still f
ked on what they injected me with and lots of codeine. Are you in one of theses open polygamy relationships ?
Focusrs3
Not sure what's difficult to understand about the children thing; if you've reached your 40's as a guy and haven't had kids yet, then chances are it's because you don't want them. I don't dislike kids per se, but have no desire for my own. The expense, responsibility, the removal of any freedom in life.... if I'm not prepared to compromise for my own, I'm sure as st not going to do it for someone else's no matter how pretty she is, or how big her tits are.
t not going to do it for someone else's no matter how pretty she is, or how big her tits are.PDP76 said:
I could be reading this really wrong. I had finger terminlsation (sp) surgery yesterday after a crush accident. I’m truly still f
ked on what they injected me with and lots of codeine. Are you in one of theses open polygamy relationships ?
Focusrs3
trackdemon said:
Not sure what's difficult to understand about the children thing; if you've reached your 40's as a guy and haven't had kids yet, then chances are it's because you don't want them. I don't dislike kids per se, but have no desire for my own. The expense, responsibility, the removal of any freedom in life.... if I'm not prepared to compromise for my own, I'm sure as st not going to do it for someone else's no matter how pretty she is, or how big her tits are.
I find it's one of the things that makes dating easier now that I'm in my (late) 40s. When I was younger, the fact that I didn't want kids was a problem in several relationships (why do women always think you'll change your mind, even though they know they won't?). Now, either the women I date are too old to have kids / didn't want them themselves, or they had kids who are now adults.t not going to do it for someone else's no matter how pretty she is, or how big her tits are.I wouldn't date anybody with young kids (unlike you, I do hate kids per se).
trackdemon said:
Not sure what's difficult to understand about the children thing; if you've reached your 40's as a guy and haven't had kids yet, then chances are it's because you don't want them. I don't dislike kids per se, but have no desire for my own. The expense, responsibility, the removal of any freedom in life.... if I'm not prepared to compromise for my own, I'm sure as st not going to do it for someone else's no matter how pretty she is, or how big her tits are.
You can feel just the same way when you reach 40 with kids t not going to do it for someone else's no matter how pretty she is, or how big her tits are.
Sorry, thread drift.
davek_964 said:
trackdemon said:
Not sure what's difficult to understand about the children thing; if you've reached your 40's as a guy and haven't had kids yet, then chances are it's because you don't want them. I don't dislike kids per se, but have no desire for my own. The expense, responsibility, the removal of any freedom in life.... if I'm not prepared to compromise for my own, I'm sure as st not going to do it for someone else's no matter how pretty she is, or how big her tits are.
I find it's one of the things that makes dating easier now that I'm in my (late) 40s. When I was younger, the fact that I didn't want kids was a problem in several relationships (why do women always think you'll change your mind, even though they know they won't?). Now, either the women I date are too old to have kids / didn't want them themselves, or they had kids who are now adults.t not going to do it for someone else's no matter how pretty she is, or how big her tits are.I wouldn't date anybody with young kids (unlike you, I do hate kids per se).
Then she got pregnant!!
He’s now 18.
Blown2CV said:
i think multi-fking needs its own thread technically, however this thread is dry that crack on. Anyone willing to fess up to being a triple-dipper?
There was a thread on here but those who spoke about it got accused of being bull sking needs its own thread technically, however this thread is dry that crack on. Anyone willing to fess up to being a triple-dipper?tters. And shagging a woman with her husband present is gay apparently dai1983 said:
Blown2CV said:
i think multi-fking needs its own thread technically, however this thread is dry that crack on. Anyone willing to fess up to being a triple-dipper?
There was a thread on here but those who spoke about it got accused of being bull sking needs its own thread technically, however this thread is dry that crack on. Anyone willing to fess up to being a triple-dipper?tters. And shagging a woman with her husband present is gay apparently Evenin' all! 6 months since the mrs left, so having had all the summer away from chasing women and instead spending lots of time with my son, it's time to get back out there into the dating scene. First stop, Tinder, I've been on it a week. I'm relatively picky and easily swipe left the majority, but there's been a decent return rate of matches with the swipe righters. Struggling a bit with the whole Tinder etiquette hence the post. I know the ideal is to strike up some good conversation, then don't hang about in arranging a date, and I'm all in favour of that as I've no intention of messaging birds for weeks on end. Real life's where it's at.
However the etiquette baffles me. Or maybe rather it's the birds that baffle me. Had a couple days on and off messaging this one bird, then I had other commitments for a couple of nights and then got unmatched. Another I had a decent chat over one evening then got ghosted. She hasn't unmatched but has gone quiet. I've tried once to restart the conversation but will try no more. Then there's the question of once matched, how long to leave it before messaging? I don't mean how long do you play it cool, I mean how long before the girl thinks you're not interested? I'm not purposefully ignoring them but have a busy lifestyle at times so don't always have time to strike up a conversation immediately or even within a couple of days. But once i do start it, I'm keen to get to know them as much as possible over an app, but then transition into a date relatively quickly. No value to me in just stringing anyone along.
I'm also wondering if it's better to stop swiping and focus on the birds you've already matched with before swiping further. I'm currently sitting with 15 matches and haven't even opened 5 of them yet. I suspect it simply comes down to different mindsets of each individual bird but any pointers welcome.
And crikey there's some utter skanks on there. What grown man (I'm nearer 40 than 30) wants to see a similarly aged bird with only stupid snapchat photos or oversized eyes. But I guess there's male equivalents for them.
However the etiquette baffles me. Or maybe rather it's the birds that baffle me. Had a couple days on and off messaging this one bird, then I had other commitments for a couple of nights and then got unmatched. Another I had a decent chat over one evening then got ghosted. She hasn't unmatched but has gone quiet. I've tried once to restart the conversation but will try no more. Then there's the question of once matched, how long to leave it before messaging? I don't mean how long do you play it cool, I mean how long before the girl thinks you're not interested? I'm not purposefully ignoring them but have a busy lifestyle at times so don't always have time to strike up a conversation immediately or even within a couple of days. But once i do start it, I'm keen to get to know them as much as possible over an app, but then transition into a date relatively quickly. No value to me in just stringing anyone along.
I'm also wondering if it's better to stop swiping and focus on the birds you've already matched with before swiping further. I'm currently sitting with 15 matches and haven't even opened 5 of them yet. I suspect it simply comes down to different mindsets of each individual bird but any pointers welcome.
And crikey there's some utter skanks on there. What grown man (I'm nearer 40 than 30) wants to see a similarly aged bird with only stupid snapchat photos or oversized eyes. But I guess there's male equivalents for them.
Edited by Toyoda on Saturday 20th October 20:06
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