Match.com (Volume 6)

Match.com (Volume 6)

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CharlesdeGaulle

26,103 posts

179 months

Saturday 20th October 2018
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I'm not out there competing, but I'd recommend avoiding terms like 'the Mrs' and 'birds' if I were you. Can be amusing in an ironic way, but otherwise makes you look like a bit of a knobber.

All that said, I love the post-ironic wky element to it, but 'birds' is about as acceptable as 'spazzer'.

Toyoda

1,557 posts

99 months

Saturday 20th October 2018
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CharlesdeGaulle said:
I'm not out there competing, but I'd recommend avoiding terms like 'the Mrs' and 'birds' if I were you. Can be amusing in an ironic way, but otherwise makes you look like a bit of a knobber.

All that said, I love the post-ironic wky element to it, but 'birds' is about as acceptable as 'spazzer'.
No offence taken. I think to get into the mindset of what used to be called 'pulling', one has to adopt a slightly cocky, geezerish attitude (I was weened on Gary and Tony from Men Behaving Badly). No point being all Mr Nice and charming. But if preferred I'll use girls and women in the future.

CharlesdeGaulle

26,103 posts

179 months

Saturday 20th October 2018
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Toyoda said:
... one has to adopt a slightly cocky, geezerish attitude. No pint being all Mr Nice and charming.
I absolutely agree with this. A bit of attitude and a lot of self-confidence goes a long way (with the birds)!

PAUL500

2,627 posts

245 months

Sunday 21st October 2018
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I doubt sounding like a character from On the Buses will help with the ladies of the net these days! smile

Go for it though and report back, maybe that's where we are all going wrong biglaugh




Rh14n

940 posts

107 months

Sunday 21st October 2018
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Toyoda said:
CharlesdeGaulle said:
I'm not out there competing, but I'd recommend avoiding terms like 'the Mrs' and 'birds' if I were you. Can be amusing in an ironic way, but otherwise makes you look like a bit of a knobber.

All that said, I love the post-ironic wky element to it, but 'birds' is about as acceptable as 'spazzer'.
No offence taken. I think to get into the mindset of what used to be called 'pulling', one has to adopt a slightly cocky, geezerish attitude (I was weened on Gary and Tony from Men Behaving Badly). No point being all Mr Nice and charming. But if preferred I'll use girls and women in the future.
Maybe it's all down to the kind of lady you're trying to attract. I'm female and if I encountered these kind of terms you'd be binned pretty quickly. You say you want to avoid the types with the "snapchat photos and oversized eyes" so can I suggest you up your game and use some respectful language and perhaps you'll attract someone of a 'higher' standard rolleyes

Toyoda

1,557 posts

99 months

Sunday 21st October 2018
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Bunch of primadonnas! I write in jest on here, nice to keep it all light hearted in the spirit of the thread. I don't use reg varney, sid James patter on the apps for goodness sake.
My problem wasn't attracting the vag in the first place, it was how best to keep the plates spinning.

johnwilliams77

8,308 posts

102 months

Sunday 21st October 2018
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Rh14n said:
Maybe it's all down to the kind of lady you're trying to attract. I'm female and if I encountered these kind of terms you'd be binned pretty quickly. You say you want to avoid the types with the "snapchat photos and oversized eyes" so can I suggest you up your game and use some respectful language and perhaps you'll attract someone of a 'higher' standard rolleyes
Get back into the kitchen. There's a good lass.

Monkeylegend

26,227 posts

230 months

Sunday 21st October 2018
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Toyoda said:
Bunch of primadonnas! I write in jest on here, nice to keep it all light hearted in the spirit of the thread. I don't use reg varney, sid James patter on the apps for goodness sake.
My problem wasn't attracting the vag in the first place, it was how best to keep the plates spinning.
Sorry about your disappointment in that competition, it must be galling to almost win a car.

Toyoda

1,557 posts

99 months

Sunday 21st October 2018
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Paddy_N_Murphy said:
roflrofl


Humour makes it work online. and yes there is a fine line. Flirty / Cheeky versus patronising and derogatory.....

One wins over the other clearly

(it's all. sales anyway!)
Exactly that. It's survival of the fittest. You have to half act like a shag is the last thing on your mind but at the same time pump up a modicum of sexual pressure otherwise it's friendzone here you come. All good fun.

Logistically the PITA is the fact most single dads see the kids on the weekend leaving the woman free so this plethora of single mothers I'm talking to are realistically only available when I'm with junior. Trying to coincide the alternate weekend arrangement that many of us have seems the only solution. But you gotta strike while the irons hot, wait too long and you rejoin the back of the queue. Bloody spinning plates!

GOATever

2,651 posts

66 months

Sunday 21st October 2018
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It all gets a bit ‘desperado’ when you have a bunch of middle aged blokes, chasing a bunch of middle aged women, on a dating website. It’s amusing to watch, but really? “Look at me, loooooook, I’m a massive stud” actually ( probably balding, tubby, been ‘through the mill’ type) scraping the bottom of the barrel. As entertainment, first class, as a serious proposition, rofl.

FN2TypeR

7,091 posts

92 months

Sunday 21st October 2018
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CharlesdeGaulle said:
Toyoda said:
... one has to adopt a slightly cocky, geezerish attitude. No pint being all Mr Nice and charming.
I absolutely agree with this. A bit of attitude and a lot of self-confidence goes a long way (with the birds)!
Are you fourteen years old?

CharlesdeGaulle

26,103 posts

179 months

Sunday 21st October 2018
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FN2TypeR said:
CharlesdeGaulle said:
Toyoda said:
... one has to adopt a slightly cocky, geezerish attitude. No pint being all Mr Nice and charming.
I absolutely agree with this. A bit of attitude and a lot of self-confidence goes a long way (with the birds)!
Are you fourteen years old?
Try reading the posts.

Toyoda

1,557 posts

99 months

Monday 22nd October 2018
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I hope this thread picks up some of its lost momentum. I'm enjoying the #bantz and tales of intenet dating gone wrong (and right).

As much as I was inspired by the bawdy humour referenced above to try some "alright darlin' hows about a DM of those threepenny bits", or "crikey, you don't get many of those to the pound, wink wink", I've persisted with the cocky/funny routine and have make inroads with a couple of bits of local skirt. To quote housewives favourite Paddy McGuiness, a date is definitely on the cards. Neutral location, public place, charlie says always tell (someone) where you're going etc. Don't fancy my organs being harvested. Am I being too suspicious?!

NEWANON4

27 posts

69 months

Monday 22nd October 2018
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After recently breaking up with the other half. I thought Id get back on POF and search out some single mums.

Am I doing it right?






This one said she had just bought a new bike and POF encouraged me to comment on something she wrote in her profile.



This one had her arm held up in every one of her pictures

Pebbles167

3,418 posts

151 months

Monday 22nd October 2018
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^ top trolling! hehe

TroubledSoul

4,589 posts

193 months

Monday 22nd October 2018
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FocusRS3 said:
gregs656 said:
If it works for them then I don’t suppose it matters.

My motorcycle instructor of all people was in an open marriage. He ended up sleeping with one of my friends ex girlfriends, it was all pretty common knowledge.

Some level of openness seems fairly common in gay relationships.

If all parties are being open an honest about it I don’t think it’s a problem.

Edit: I think when it comes to bisexuality and openness it must compound the possibility of jealousy setting in as, like your friends wife, the ‘other’ person is providing something they never could and there must be huge potential for insecurity with that. It is something I have thought about.

Edited by gregs656 on Thursday 18th October 14:24
Yes this is really what i'm getting at.

The insecurities must still be there putting aside the erotics for a second.

All well and good most males saying 'that.ll be fine be me' but in reality im not sure it would be
Depends how secure you are I guess. I was seeing a girl briefly who was gorgeous but bi-curious and liked to kiss other girls on nights out, but had never gone further than that. She wanted to but was a bit nervous etc. We were all set to sort a 3 way out which was like Christmas coming early to me but it fell through before that happened as it turned out she had a number of issues and was best off on her own. We are still friends, and I have pushed her to see her doctor about some of her stuff which has resulted in some tablets being prescribed and counselling booked!

I never had an issue with her kissing girls though. She was with me but she told me from the off that that was something she liked and it was a sort of "accept it or don't" situation and it didn't bother me.

A younger me would have been consumed by jealousy but I think the fact I'm in much better shape these days and get a lot more female attention than I used to has tempered that in me!

TroubledSoul

4,589 posts

193 months

Monday 22nd October 2018
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Bored at work today so figured I'd tell my tale on here.

I was devastated by a marriage break up in December 2017 which set me on the crazy path I've since taken through 2018. One thing to note, I was with my ex 7 years and the girl before her 4 years so essentially I haven't been single in 11-12 years! Back then Match.com was just getting going but flirting and trying to meet people via Tinder, Facebook, Instagram etc. just wasn't a thing. The modern dating game has changed dramatically.

Things started badly. I was vulnerable. A girl on a metal group on Facebook got chatting to me after I posted a pic of myself in a thread asking for such, and she seemed like a really nice girl.

She came to Leeds for a night out with friends and we'd been chatting for a couple of weeks at this point and decided to meet up while she was here, already having established we were going to get it on etc. And boy, was she kinky. Even more than me laugh So the day arrives and I head into the city centre to meet her at the hotel beforehand. I get there and a dude answers the door and I think WTF is going on here then? I quickly see that she and all her friends are in the room to get ready and have a few pre drinks. And then I see her.

Good God. I knew immediately that I had made a mistake.

Feeling trapped at this point, I opened the vodka and started drinking. Heavily. She came to say hi and kissed me, and I knew I didn't want to but how could I say anything and embarrass her in front of her friends? boxedin

She was a big girl. And that's not my thing. She threw her friends out after a while and told them it was so we could bang before we all went out. This is the point I was waiting for, the point where I could let her down gently and make my excuses and leave. But I didn't. I felt unable to do so, like a deer in the headlights I was in a bit of a trance. I ended up having sex with her and it was an experience... We went on the night out and she tried to drag me into the toilets for some more but luckily there were a few people in there so she changed her mind. I was stting myself laugh

By this point I was too deep in and had resigned myself to just getting through it. My stuff was all in her room and I had to go back for it... So I toughed it out and went back with her, slept with her again, and she then uttered the words "I don't even care, I love you".

FFS.

So I laid there wondering how the fk I'd gotten myself into this situation and then spent about 3 hours waiting for her to wake up the next morning as my arm was well and truly trapped under her and I couldn't escape!

I haven't seen her since.... but I have spoken to her a few times. She is a really lovely girl, just not the one for me!

I might add a few more installments later laugh

Toyoda

1,557 posts

99 months

Monday 22nd October 2018
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TroubledSoul said:

I might add a few more installments later laugh
Good story, taking one for the team! What is it they say, regret the things you don't do rather than the things you do do?! I'm sure if it had been that bad you wouldn't have gone back for seconds. It's not like she had a gun to your head. Or maybe she did and it all added to the experience. Go on admit it, you enjoyed chubby chasing didn't you?!

TroubledSoul

4,589 posts

193 months

Monday 22nd October 2018
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Toyoda said:
Good story, taking one for the team! What is it they say, regret the things you don't do rather than the things you do do?! I'm sure if it had been that bad you wouldn't have gone back for seconds. It's not like she had a gun to your head. Or maybe she did and it all added to the experience. Go on admit it, you enjoyed chubby chasing didn't you?!
Well she was up for being gagged, restrained, the lot, and I like that kind of st but never did any of it for 7 vanilla years with my ex so there was an element of filling my boots involved to be honest laugh

I always felt too self conscious to ask my ex to do stuff like that. She was awesome, and my best friend but that's exactly what we were by the end. Best friends, not lovers. I realised after the break up that I need to live life the way I want to live it and if that means being myself scares some people off then sod it.

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Monday 22nd October 2018
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TroubledSoul said:
Toyoda said:
Good story, taking one for the team! What is it they say, regret the things you don't do rather than the things you do do?! I'm sure if it had been that bad you wouldn't have gone back for seconds. It's not like she had a gun to your head. Or maybe she did and it all added to the experience. Go on admit it, you enjoyed chubby chasing didn't you?!
Well she was up for being gagged, restrained, the lot, and I like that kind of st but never did any of it for 7 vanilla years with my ex so there was an element of filling my boots involved to be honest laugh

I always felt too self conscious to ask my ex to do stuff like that. She was awesome, and my best friend but that's exactly what we were by the end. Best friends, not lovers. I realised after the break up that I need to live life the way I want to live it and if that means being myself scares some people off then sod it.
Good for you.
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