Match.com (Volume 6)

Match.com (Volume 6)

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Gretchen

18,998 posts

215 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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shirt said:
Salmonofdoubt said:
I’m just trying to date people who interest me or I’m attracted to in some way.
As opposed to dating ones you find boring or unattractive? Good approach.
hehe

He said trying some people seem interesting in writing with cleverly filtered photos. But obviously boring and hideous in reality...

Rinse and repeat.

Salmonofdoubt

1,413 posts

67 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Gretchen said:
hehe

He said trying some people seem interesting in writing with cleverly filtered photos. But obviously boring and hideous in reality...

Rinse and repeat.
Oh yes I've had some who seem very down to earth but are spoilt princesses (like the girl who was single because her previous fella didn't buy the purse to match her expensive new handbag). Then there are the ones who take super filtered angled shots, I met one girl who described herself as few extra pounds and in reality looked like her face was melting off.

It's a hard job to pick through the chaff and find the ones actually worth investing time and effort in. I'm under no illusion that women face the same kind of challenges.


Gretchen

18,998 posts

215 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Most of the interesting/funny/literate male profiles I read turned out to be written by a female friend, or even worse, they’d consulted an online forum rolleyeswink




Blown2CV

28,697 posts

202 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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hyphen said:
Radio 4 currently has a online dating discussion.

One woman rang in claiming loads of guys noticeably lie about their height. Claiming 5'10 but 5'5 on meeting.

Generally quite depressed callers.
maybe men lie about their height because women are so obsessed with it that it can be the difference between finding true love and a swift boot onto the physically repulsive reject heap.

Saleen836

11,061 posts

208 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Blown2CV said:
maybe men lie about their height because women are so obsessed with it that it can be the difference between finding true love and a swift boot onto the physically repulsive reject heap.
Had a profile pop up on Tinder last nght with the lady stating she was 'short and sweet being 4ft 11' then goes on to say'if you're not over 6ft i'm not interested'

Blown2CV

28,697 posts

202 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Saleen836 said:
Blown2CV said:
maybe men lie about their height because women are so obsessed with it that it can be the difference between finding true love and a swift boot onto the physically repulsive reject heap.
Had a profile pop up on Tinder last nght with the lady stating she was 'short and sweet being 4ft 11' then goes on to say'if you're not over 6ft i'm not interested'
i bet she is sooo fat too.

Saleen836

11,061 posts

208 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Blown2CV said:
Saleen836 said:
Blown2CV said:
maybe men lie about their height because women are so obsessed with it that it can be the difference between finding true love and a swift boot onto the physically repulsive reject heap.
Had a profile pop up on Tinder last nght with the lady stating she was 'short and sweet being 4ft 11' then goes on to say'if you're not over 6ft i'm not interested'
i bet she is sooo fat too.
Difficult to tell from her photos as they were the usual angled artistic shots taken from above, most likely after 100 attempts to get it right

TroubledSoul

4,589 posts

193 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Saleen836 said:
Difficult to tell from her photos as they were the usual angled artistic shots taken from above, most likely after 100 attempts to get it right
Deffo fat if the photos were taken like that. I'll never be fooled again...

Salmonofdoubt

1,413 posts

67 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Gretchen said:
Most of the interesting/funny/literate male profiles I read turned out to be written by a female friend, or even worse, they’d consulted an online forum rolleyeswink
scratchchin

Get the men of PH to write my dating profile?

I’d rather just buy some cars and have done with it.

ETA: That should have said buy some cats which would have been mildly funny.

Edited by Salmonofdoubt on Wednesday 2nd January 16:50

shirt

22,508 posts

200 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Gretchen said:
Most of the interesting/funny/literate male profiles I read turned out to be written by a female friend, or even worse, they’d consulted an online forum rolleyeswink


I’ve dipped my toe back into OLD and keep seeing the same lines trotted out, i guess gleaned from cosmo or wherever. What was funny at first is now a warning.

I’ve fortunately never had a date where they don’t look like their photos, but have had several where their personalities aren’t anywhere near as sparkling as advertised and, imho, that’s much worse.

cptsideways

13,535 posts

251 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Never paid any attention to this thread - until now.

So here are my observations as a Tinder newby

I'm new to being single after 25 years & clearly out of the loop in the modern way to do things. I'll point out I'm nearly 50 so for those of a younger age you might have a very different view!

So whilst browsing the classified's hehe I understand those coming through the Tinder process might not be the lowest mileage options out there obviously & understandably at my age. Its much like a trip to BCA, a brief bio sometimes with mileage & history, a cursory glance over the outside & you make a decision, thankfully a swipe right is not a buy & at least its both ways.

But by heck how many ladies look so so much older than me, its also fair to say the freerange populous at large, is quite large & the prospect of bumping into someone vaguely fit, healthy & active seems a challenge. Don't get me wrong there appears no shortage of single nice enough sounding & honest souls out there (along with the many Tinder prospects, if that floats your boat) just the prospect of a sofa surfer does really not appeal.

Thankfully the traditional old school long forgotten methods of pulling, after a glance & eye contact, a smile, a chat & a walk home with a fit hottie ten years younger that I bumped into last week still works for me bounce There just wasn't the option to check her bio/history/ownership pre interaction which would have been handy.

Of course there are many tales from Tinder but what I'm genuinely interested in, is what's the ladies side of things? is it much the same? What do the girls seek in a bio? & whats the best approach to fend off those who won't fit in wetsuit without being rude ? Is a funny bio better than factual one that sort of thing. Having never viewed the blokes side I don't know what is right or wrong thumbup



Edited by cptsideways on Wednesday 2nd January 17:29

Gretchen

18,998 posts

215 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Salmonofdoubt said:
Gretchen said:
Most of the interesting/funny/literate male profiles I read turned out to be written by a female friend, or even worse, they’d consulted an online forum rolleyeswink
scratchchin

Get the men of PH to write my dating profile?

I’d rather just buy some cars and have done with it.

ETA: That should have said buy some cats which would have been mildly funny.

Edited by Salmonofdoubt on Wednesday 2nd January 16:50
A couple of years ago I had four cars and two cats. Now I have two cars and four cats... never been happier! smile


CharlesdeGaulle

26,091 posts

179 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Gretchen said:
... Now I have two cars and four cats... never been happier! smile
Come on Gretchen, this isn't true is it?
I've never found true happiness with 4 pussies, although admittedly they have offered a welcome distraction, but I'm reading that in a slightly plaintive 'no-I'm-really-happy-honest' sort of mental voice.

Plate spinner

17,649 posts

199 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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cptsideways said:
Thankfully the traditional old school long forgotten methods of pulling, after a glance & eye contact, a smile, a chat & a walk home with a fit hottie ten years younger that I bumped into last week still works for me bounce
Agreed. These were hard won skills, learnt in the trenches of youth.

Seems a shame to waste them and you'll be surprised how many younger women really like the non-OLD approach.

Old school, but still relevant yes

Edited by Plate spinner on Thursday 3rd January 08:25

Gretchen

18,998 posts

215 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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CharlesdeGaulle said:
Gretchen said:
... Now I have two cars and four cats... never been happier! smile
Come on Gretchen, this isn't true is it?
I've never found true happiness with 4 pussies, although admittedly they have offered a welcome distraction, but I'm reading that in a slightly plaintive 'no-I'm-really-happy-honest' sort of mental voice.
Actually happy atm. Youngest ‘child’ is 17 this year. He and his brothers are young men who can look after themselves, the house and animals (two dogs as well) if I want a weekend away or night out etc. I’ve got great company if I want a night in. It’s all good. I can’t be wasting energy on ‘mental’. Eldest is living on/off in the East End so come Spring I’m hoping to explore some of the London clubs thumbup Very much in a good place and doing what I want/having fun.


Toyoda

1,557 posts

99 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Salmonofdoubt said:
Oh yes I've had some who seem very down to earth but are spoilt princesses (like the girl who was single because her previous fella didn't buy the purse to match her expensive new handbag). Then there are the ones who take super filtered angled shots, I met one girl who described herself as few extra pounds and in reality looked like her face was melting off.

It's a hard job to pick through the chaff and find the ones actually worth investing time and effort in. I'm under no illusion that women face the same kind of challenges.
What happened on the new years eve date?

Salmonofdoubt

1,413 posts

67 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Toyoda said:
What happened on the new years eve date?
bouncesmash

But not interested in following it up if I’m entirely honest. But it wasn’t a bad way to start the year.

CharlesdeGaulle

26,091 posts

179 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Gretchen said:
CharlesdeGaulle said:
Gretchen said:
... Now I have two cars and four cats... never been happier! smile
Come on Gretchen, this isn't true is it?
I've never found true happiness with 4 pussies, although admittedly they have offered a welcome distraction, but I'm reading that in a slightly plaintive 'no-I'm-really-happy-honest' sort of mental voice.
Actually happy atm. Youngest ‘child’ is 17 this year. He and his brothers are young men who can look after themselves, the house and animals (two dogs as well) if I want a weekend away or night out etc. I’ve got great company if I want a night in. It’s all good. I can’t be wasting energy on ‘mental’. Eldest is living on/off in the East End so come Spring I’m hoping to explore some of the London clubs thumbup Very much in a good place and doing what I want/having fun.
Good news, hope it works out. But the East End ... really?

Gretchen

18,998 posts

215 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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CharlesdeGaulle said:
Good news, hope it works out. But the East End ... really?
He’s 24. Previously living in Nottinghill. It’s somewhere to crash after a night into day/night out... I’m looking at booking a week off for recovery. Quite excited about hitting the illegal rave/warehouse scene.

JustALooseScrew

1,154 posts

66 months

Wednesday 2nd January 2019
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Arse. frown

I've been into Aldi twice today (morning time 8am for milk and late evening 8pm for err some more milk), still no sign of her. I hope they've not shipped her off to another store.

Gretchen said:
Most of the interesting/funny/literate male profiles I read turned out to be written by a female friend, or even worse, they’d consulted an online forum rolleyeswink
Now, you're a lady.

If you were working in Aldi and some handsome hardworking not quite so young (though similarly aged) man were to hand you a 'Please date me' note as he was leaving the checkout - which would you think most genuine and preferable?

A worn folded bit of paper handed over with a comment of 'I've been carrying this around for days now waiting to give it to you'.

Or perhaps a pristine little 2 inch square card in a crisp white envelope?

What would you like to read in it?

"Send me a text to let me know if you'd like to go out for a drink sometime" - (note the immaculate apostrophe usage).

Or how about something a little more direct but really from the heart, like writing
' The dampness of the pants is how we know'?

Any suggestions please....
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