Match.com (Volume 6)

[Gretchen]

Has happened to me several times. Both when I’ve been working (not sure I thought it was very professional tbh) and as a customer in stores. None of which have been instigated by me. They’ve been fun. But short term. At the end of the day she serves you and this is the role in which you ‘know’ her. She will see herself as inferior and you’ll possibly treat her as such.

Not helpful admitadly, but, it’s a fun story of how you hooked up for a date for both of you. Treat it as that and it could work.

[JustALooseScrew]

Gretchen said:

She will see herself as inferior and you’ll possibly treat her as such.

I f**king hope not - I don't see it that way at all.

Gretchen said:

Not helpful admitadly, but, it’s a fun story of how you hooked up for a date for both of you. Treat it as that and it could work.

You're right - not helpful at all

I'll go for the (now slightly) shabby well written note approach.

[Salmonofdoubt]

If you see something as more than a date before you've even secured the date you're setting yourself up for a big fall.

I'm pretty sure women can sense that you are interested in more before they've worked you out and it's a passion killer.

[anonymous-user]

A question hopefully some can answer

Currently I'm using POF, but considering joining Match. Are any folk here currently on both sites ?

Not sure at what point Match relieve you of your money in the process of joining, but don't want to join Match and find it's the same faces I could message for nothing on POF.

Have met 2 ex's on Dating Direct and then POF in the past, and there was a certain amount of faces on both.

[Lemming Train]

JustALooseScrew said:

Now, you're a lady.

If you were working in Aldi and some handsome hardworking not quite so young (though similarly aged) man were to hand you a 'Please date me' note as he was leaving the checkout - which would you think most genuine and preferable?

A worn folded bit of paper handed over with a comment of 'I've been carrying this around for days now waiting to give it to you'.

Or perhaps a pristine little 2 inch square card in a crisp white envelope?

What would you like to read in it?

"Send me a text to let me know if you'd like to go out for a drink sometime" - (note the immaculate apostrophe usage).

Or how about something a little more direct but really from the heart, like writing
' The dampness of the pants is how we know'?

Any suggestions please....

Here's a tip from me as someone who has asked out a till girl in the past : don't use your fking receipt for your shopping to write your number on as biros don't work on thermal paper and you make a complete arse of yourself!

[Chrismawa]

guy_spyder550 said:

A question hopefully some can answer

Currently I'm using POF, but considering joining Match. Are any folk here currently on both sites ?

Not sure at what point Match relieve you of your money in the process of joining, but don't want to join Match and find it's the same faces I could message for nothing on POF.

Have met 2 ex's on Dating Direct and then POF in the past, and there was a certain amount of faces on both.

I've just joined Match. There are no fake profiles, there are different people on there and its actually a much more serious set up. Yeah its a bit expensive but worth a try for a month.

You can sign up and browse for free. You only need to subscribe to interect. So get yourself an account and have a look.

[CharlesdeGaulle]

JustALooseScrew said:

Any suggestions please....

I realise the parody of a middle aged bloke offering dating advice whilst going through a divorce, but fk me you're making hard work of this and dramatically over-thinking it.
Just get your phone number written down and give it to her. Be subtle. There are probably rules for checkout staff about accepting things from customers so put it in a little envelope or something so it can be left visible and not pocketed immediately if necessary. If she calls, great. If she doesn't, move on. You're beginning to sound like a lovelorn teenager.

[Lemming Train]

Chrismawa said:

guy_spyder550 said:

A question hopefully some can answer

Currently I'm using POF, but considering joining Match. Are any folk here currently on both sites ?

Not sure at what point Match relieve you of your money in the process of joining, but don't want to join Match and find it's the same faces I could message for nothing on POF.

Have met 2 ex's on Dating Direct and then POF in the past, and there was a certain amount of faces on both.

I've just joined Match. There are no fake profiles, there are different people on there and its actually a much more serious set up. Yeah its a bit expensive but worth a try for a month.

You can sign up and browse for free. You only need to subscribe to interect. So get yourself an account and have a look.

You're either trolling or blind.

[Cold]

CharlesdeGaulle said:

JustALooseScrew said:

Any suggestions please....

I realise the parody of a middle aged bloke offering dating advice whilst going through a divorce, but fk me you're making hard work of this and dramatically over-thinking it.
Just get your phone number written down and give it to her. Be subtle. There are probably rules for checkout staff about accepting things from customers so put it in a little envelope or something so it can be left visible and not pocketed immediately if necessary. If she calls, great. If she doesn't, move on. You're beginning to sound like a lovelorn teenager.

"Hi, I'm not some weirdo stalker. Please don't call the police. Thank you."
Written on some crisp white stationery with her full name and home address included, of course.

[Chrismawa]

Lemming Train said:

You're either trolling or blind.

Nope. There must be very few then as I've not come across any. Unlike the several daily "meet me" requests on POF...

[Plate spinner]

Saleen836 said:

Had a profile pop up on Tinder last nght with the lady stating she was 'short and sweet being 4ft 11' then goes on to say'if you're not over 6ft i'm not interested'

But what’s wrong with that?

She’s simply stated her preference.

[xjay1337]

Plate spinner said:

Saleen836 said:

Had a profile pop up on Tinder last nght with the lady stating she was 'short and sweet being 4ft 11' then goes on to say'if you're not over 6ft i'm not interested'

But what’s wrong with that?

She’s simply stated her preference.

"I'm a fatty but I want a skinny guy".

[Plate spinner]

xjay1337 said:

Plate spinner said:

Saleen836 said:

Had a profile pop up on Tinder last nght with the lady stating she was 'short and sweet being 4ft 11' then goes on to say'if you're not over 6ft i'm not interested'

But what’s wrong with that?

She’s simply stated her preference.

"I'm a fatty but I want a skinny guy".

But again, even if that were true, what's actually wrong with that?

She’s simply stated her preference of what she is in to.

[cptsideways]

JustALooseScrew said:

Arse.

I've been into Aldi twice today (morning time 8am for milk and late evening 8pm for err some more milk), still no sign of her. I hope they've not shipped her off to another store.

Gretchen said:

Most of the interesting/funny/literate male profiles I read turned out to be written by a female friend, or even worse, they’d consulted an online forum

Now, you're a lady.

If you were working in Aldi and some handsome hardworking not quite so young (though similarly aged) man were to hand you a 'Please date me' note as he was leaving the checkout - which would you think most genuine and preferable?

A worn folded bit of paper handed over with a comment of 'I've been carrying this around for days now waiting to give it to you'.

Or perhaps a pristine little 2 inch square card in a crisp white envelope?

What would you like to read in it?

"Send me a text to let me know if you'd like to go out for a drink sometime" - (note the immaculate apostrophe usage).

Or how about something a little more direct but really from the heart, like writing
' The dampness of the pants is how we know'?

Any suggestions please....

It's things like this where you didn't try you will always regret it.

Its obvious to me you both clicked, even briefly & moments like them can change your life. That's enough in my mind to do something proactive, keep it simple, just a "Would love to ask you out, here's my number if you want it & a smile" or just man up speak to the manager asking to put the request over the tannoy


I'm newly divorced after 25 years together, some time before that there was a click with another girl, never took it up at the time. It's still there & I will be following it up as we are still in contact to this day, she's still quite hot, also newly single & taken an interest in me lately now I'm free again, yes there is a language barrier, she lives in Llubijana but things like that have never stopped me

Makes an Aldi find look simple

[Blown2CV]

xjay1337 said:

Plate spinner said:

Saleen836 said:

Had a profile pop up on Tinder last nght with the lady stating she was 'short and sweet being 4ft 11' then goes on to say'if you're not over 6ft i'm not interested'

But what’s wrong with that?

She’s simply stated her preference.

"I'm a fatty but I want a skinny guy".

which she is at liberty to do. What she isn't at liberty to do however is be a dick about it or expect that she'll be swamped with suitors. It's like on facebook marketplace where someone lists a stained old mattress for £100. You want to tell them they are fking deluded, but a) it won't help and you'll likely get an earful for your trouble, and b) better to hope they work it out for themselves through lack of interest (which they won't, but you'll likely have forgotten by then)

[hyphen]

JustALooseScrew said:

Arse.

I've been into Aldi twice today (morning time 8am for milk and late evening 8pm for err some more milk), still no sign of her. I hope they've not shipped her off to another store.

If she is a mum, then she may be on leave till kids are back to school next week or so.

[Blown2CV]

she's probably seen you coming and quickly requested a break.

[interstellar]

Chrismawa said:

guy_spyder550 said:

A question hopefully some can answer

Currently I'm using POF, but considering joining Match. Are any folk here currently on both sites ?

Not sure at what point Match relieve you of your money in the process of joining, but don't want to join Match and find it's the same faces I could message for nothing on POF.

Have met 2 ex's on Dating Direct and then POF in the past, and there was a certain amount of faces on both.

I've just joined Match. There are no fake profiles, there are different people on there and its actually a much more serious set up. Yeah its a bit expensive but worth a try for a month.

You can sign up and browse for free. You only need to subscribe to interect. So get yourself an account and have a look.

I have to agree here, I found it all new people and less messing around on Match. I went on POF for a week and it was rubbish. Spam, hassle and once you had paid £30 you could see the girls I was interested in hadn't been online for a couple of years so clearly they don't maintain the database and hook you in (see what I did there?).

Tinder was ok but my current squeeze I found on match.com. I went on three dates and the third one was great, been together 5 months.

[Toyoda]

Chrismawa said:

You can sign up and browse for free. You only need to subscribe to interect. So get yourself an account and have a look.

This is the best advice for testing the waters with Match. Have a look around for free. In my case I recognized many of the faces immediately from POF. A mate of mine who's very well versed in the world of internet dating reckons that the expectations of the girls on the paid sites such as Match are much higher (i.e. they thought they were a cut above the girls on the free sites) and expected to be treat as such. Personally I've been using Tinder, Bumble and POF. They've all got their uses.
The joy of Tinder and Bumble is of course that there has to be a mutual like in the first place before you can interract. Not had much luck with Bumble, prefer Tinder. With POF, any old crazy can send you a message, but these are easily ignored. The beauty is you can see who's online so you can get cracking right away rather than wait for a message to come through. And once they do, get the convo over to Messenger or WhatsApp rather than leave it in the dating app.

As for Miss Aldi, wonder if she's requested a hasty transfer to another store!

[Monkeylegend]

JustALooseScrew said:

Any suggestions please....

Buy a dinner for two.