Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
johnwilliams77 said:
shirt said:
you sound like hard work
Do you like sleeping with dogs?i'm not saying this is so, or reading too much into a few posts, but that seems to be the general gist.
Blown2CV said:
not sure what you want people to say really - maybe nothing. Don't it if you can't be arsed, as you'll either find a load of people that sense that and don't want you or come across cold, or you will luckily get someone into you somehow and you will let them down, and that's not cool.
shirt said:
read the last couple of pages. if this was reversed and we were being told this is how a woman acted then there would be the usual unicorn hunter comments. he also doesn't seem to know what he wants out of dating, which would attract the time waster and free meal comments.
i'm not saying this is so, or reading too much into a few posts, but that seems to be the general gist.
OK, to clarify:i'm not saying this is so, or reading too much into a few posts, but that seems to be the general gist.
I am not desperate to find my next g/f - I have other things distracting me at the moment, and I'd be perfectly happy to spend the summer single. But, if the right girl showed up I'd be happy to start a relationship too.
The Brazilian girl was further away than I would normally choose - but like I said, until you chat you don't know whether they have something which makes you think they may be worth the extra effort. As I've previously mentioned, I once dated somebody in Cannes who eventually moved to the UK - she messaged me, and my initial answer to her was : You're too far away. But the more we talked, the more it seemed she was worth the hassle of being in a different country.
I admit that I am less in the "I want a girlfriend" frame of mind than I would usually be when I join the dating sites - but I don't actually think that's a bad thing. And it doesn't really change much - I still chat to some people I decide I don't want to meet, and some people I decide I do. I still meet some people I want to meet again, and some people I don't (and some who don't want to meet me again).
The only real difference is that somebody really needs to capture my attention for me to want to start something with them, whereas previously "that was quite a nice date" was probably enough.
The girl I'm meeting on Monday seems nice - until we meet I don't know if we will fancy each other, or how we'll really get on. It might go further, it might not - but it needs to be more than just a pleasant date for it to go further.
The other girl I was talking to yesterday interested me a lot - and ironically, was also in London although fortunately not central. If we chat again, and if she continues to intrigue me in the same way then I'm quite sure I would travel in to see her. But if it quickly becomes "did you have a nice day today?" - it won't.
It's hardly like I'm proposing to these ladies. They're on a dating site, almost certainly chatting to multiple men and will chat - and meet - many that don't go anywhere themselves.
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop, so it's not like I'm planning to use them for sex.
davek_964 said:
Blown2CV said:
not sure what you want people to say really - maybe nothing. Don't it if you can't be arsed, as you'll either find a load of people that sense that and don't want you or come across cold, or you will luckily get someone into you somehow and you will let them down, and that's not cool.
shirt said:
read the last couple of pages. if this was reversed and we were being told this is how a woman acted then there would be the usual unicorn hunter comments. he also doesn't seem to know what he wants out of dating, which would attract the time waster and free meal comments.
i'm not saying this is so, or reading too much into a few posts, but that seems to be the general gist.
OK, to clarify:i'm not saying this is so, or reading too much into a few posts, but that seems to be the general gist.
I am not desperate to find my next g/f - I have other things distracting me at the moment, and I'd be perfectly happy to spend the summer single. But, if the right girl showed up I'd be happy to start a relationship too.
The Brazilian girl was further away than I would normally choose - but like I said, until you chat you don't know whether they have something which makes you think they may be worth the extra effort. As I've previously mentioned, I once dated somebody in Cannes who eventually moved to the UK - she messaged me, and my initial answer to her was : You're too far away. But the more we talked, the more it seemed she was worth the hassle of being in a different country.
I admit that I am less in the "I want a girlfriend" frame of mind than I would usually be when I join the dating sites - but I don't actually think that's a bad thing. And it doesn't really change much - I still chat to some people I decide I don't want to meet, and some people I decide I do. I still meet some people I want to meet again, and some people I don't (and some who don't want to meet me again).
The only real difference is that somebody really needs to capture my attention for me to want to start something with them, whereas previously "that was quite a nice date" was probably enough.
The girl I'm meeting on Monday seems nice - until we meet I don't know if we will fancy each other, or how we'll really get on. It might go further, it might not - but it needs to be more than just a pleasant date for it to go further.
The other girl I was talking to yesterday interested me a lot - and ironically, was also in London although fortunately not central. If we chat again, and if she continues to intrigue me in the same way then I'm quite sure I would travel in to see her. But if it quickly becomes "did you have a nice day today?" - it won't.
It's hardly like I'm proposing to these ladies. They're on a dating site, almost certainly chatting to multiple men and will chat - and meet - many that don't go anywhere themselves.
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop, so it's not like I'm planning to use them for sex.
davek_964 said:
OK, to clarify:
I am not desperate to find my next g/f - I have other things distracting me at the moment, and I'd be perfectly happy to spend the summer single. But, if the right girl showed up I'd be happy to start a relationship too.
The Brazilian girl was further away than I would normally choose - but like I said, until you chat you don't know whether they have something which makes you think they may be worth the extra effort. As I've previously mentioned, I once dated somebody in Cannes who eventually moved to the UK - she messaged me, and my initial answer to her was : You're too far away. But the more we talked, the more it seemed she was worth the hassle of being in a different country.
I admit that I am less in the "I want a girlfriend" frame of mind than I would usually be when I join the dating sites - but I don't actually think that's a bad thing. And it doesn't really change much - I still chat to some people I decide I don't want to meet, and some people I decide I do. I still meet some people I want to meet again, and some people I don't (and some who don't want to meet me again).
The only real difference is that somebody really needs to capture my attention for me to want to start something with them, whereas previously "that was quite a nice date" was probably enough.
The girl I'm meeting on Monday seems nice - until we meet I don't know if we will fancy each other, or how we'll really get on. It might go further, it might not - but it needs to be more than just a pleasant date for it to go further.
The other girl I was talking to yesterday interested me a lot - and ironically, was also in London although fortunately not central. If we chat again, and if she continues to intrigue me in the same way then I'm quite sure I would travel in to see her. But if it quickly becomes "did you have a nice day today?" - it won't.
It's hardly like I'm proposing to these ladies. They're on a dating site, almost certainly chatting to multiple men and will chat - and meet - many that don't go anywhere themselves.
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop, so it's not like I'm planning to use them for sex.
Hey fella - what ever happens - don't ever admit to falling for the lady on the Aldi Checkout. You'll get ripped to bits by the 'experts' on here.I am not desperate to find my next g/f - I have other things distracting me at the moment, and I'd be perfectly happy to spend the summer single. But, if the right girl showed up I'd be happy to start a relationship too.
The Brazilian girl was further away than I would normally choose - but like I said, until you chat you don't know whether they have something which makes you think they may be worth the extra effort. As I've previously mentioned, I once dated somebody in Cannes who eventually moved to the UK - she messaged me, and my initial answer to her was : You're too far away. But the more we talked, the more it seemed she was worth the hassle of being in a different country.
I admit that I am less in the "I want a girlfriend" frame of mind than I would usually be when I join the dating sites - but I don't actually think that's a bad thing. And it doesn't really change much - I still chat to some people I decide I don't want to meet, and some people I decide I do. I still meet some people I want to meet again, and some people I don't (and some who don't want to meet me again).
The only real difference is that somebody really needs to capture my attention for me to want to start something with them, whereas previously "that was quite a nice date" was probably enough.
The girl I'm meeting on Monday seems nice - until we meet I don't know if we will fancy each other, or how we'll really get on. It might go further, it might not - but it needs to be more than just a pleasant date for it to go further.
The other girl I was talking to yesterday interested me a lot - and ironically, was also in London although fortunately not central. If we chat again, and if she continues to intrigue me in the same way then I'm quite sure I would travel in to see her. But if it quickly becomes "did you have a nice day today?" - it won't.
It's hardly like I'm proposing to these ladies. They're on a dating site, almost certainly chatting to multiple men and will chat - and meet - many that don't go anywhere themselves.
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop, so it's not like I'm planning to use them for sex.
Carry on.
xjay1337 said:
JustALooseScrew said:
Hey fella - what ever happens - don't ever admit to stalking the lady on the Aldi Checkout. You'll get ripped to bits by the 'experts' on here.
Carry on.
Fixed that for you pal. Carry on.
(But you have to admit it was very funny at the time)
JustALooseScrew said:
xjay1337 said:
JustALooseScrew said:
Hey fella - what ever happens - don't ever admit to stalking the lady on the Aldi Checkout. You'll get ripped to bits by the 'experts' on here.
Carry on.
Fixed that for you pal. Carry on.
(But you have to admit it was very funny at the time)
Now? Not at all. In fact, the mentions of it now it's all died down are boring.
JimmyConwayNW said:
Attractive Brazilian girl? I would be like a rat up a drain pipe
my mate married a brazilian girl. He met her on copacabana, and even thought she barely spoke any english they hit it off and that was that. You're probably imagining her to look a certain way, but unfortunately she is about 4 feet tall and looks like a shaved pug. moanthebairns said:
hyphen said:
davek_964 said:
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop...
Unusual.
t more like. Monkeylegend said:
moanthebairns said:
hyphen said:
davek_964 said:
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop...
Unusual.t more like. Op was implying he would wait till signs of a relationship being possible which is a different thing, that would be normally done by those who were more religious.
Monkeylegend said:
moanthebairns said:
hyphen said:
davek_964 said:
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop...
Unusual.t more like. Wisdom teaches the more mature dater that a night or two of fun followed by months of stalking / hassle either in person is simply not a decent enough trade off.
Location is probably key. If there’s some decent distance and social circles don’t collide then it’s easier to take a chance. But if dating locally, then yeah, I’d agree it’s worth being sure to be sure.
Not every guy is so desperate for sex they don’t think a few steps ahead.
hyphen said:
'anything'? Yes, most non-desperate guys would turn down someone they don't find attractive. That's pretty normal.
Op was implying he would wait till signs of a relationship being possible which is a different thing, that would be normally done by those who were more religious.
It has nothing to do with religion, and it's not even that I'm "saving myself" for a relationship.Op was implying he would wait till signs of a relationship being possible which is a different thing, that would be normally done by those who were more religious.
I've been a complete tart at various times in my past, but for various reasons - none of which I intend to share here - I have no interest in jumping into bed with the first girl that offers at the moment.
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