Match.com (Volume 6)

Match.com (Volume 6)

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feef

5,206 posts

182 months

Friday 12th April 2019
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davek_964 said:
hyphen said:
'anything'? Yes, most non-desperate guys would turn down someone they don't find attractive. That's pretty normal.

Op was implying he would wait till signs of a relationship being possible which is a different thing, that would be normally done by those who were more religious.
It has nothing to do with religion, and it's not even that I'm "saving myself" for a relationship.

I've been a complete tart at various times in my past, but for various reasons - none of which I intend to share here - I have no interest in jumping into bed with the first girl that offers at the moment.
I can relate to that...
These days, I need a connection, for there to be something more before jumping into bed. On the occasions where I've just gone for it in recent years, I've felt disappointed by the whole thing. Seems to be getting more prevalent as I get older.

Blown2CV

28,695 posts

202 months

Friday 12th April 2019
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Monkeylegend said:
moanthebairns said:
hyphen said:
davek_964 said:
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop...
Unusual.
BULLst more like.
It might surprise you to know that there are probably quite a few men who prefer to keep it in their trousers for the right person rather than f**k anything with a breath in their body. They do exist.
i don't want a girlfriend, but i am actively dating... my heart isn't in it, but i won't have sex with someone unless i want them to be my girlfriend that I don't want, but i am not stringing anyone along... my position makes complete sense, and also I am strongly committed to it so fk off telling me it's stupid.

etc.

davek_964

8,795 posts

174 months

Friday 12th April 2019
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Blown2CV said:
Monkeylegend said:
moanthebairns said:
hyphen said:
davek_964 said:
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop...
Unusual.
BULLst more like.
It might surprise you to know that there are probably quite a few men who prefer to keep it in their trousers for the right person rather than f**k anything with a breath in their body. They do exist.
i don't want a girlfriend, but i am actively dating... my heart isn't in it, but i won't have sex with someone unless i want them to be my girlfriend that I don't want, but i am not stringing anyone along... my position makes complete sense, and also I am strongly committed to it so fk off telling me it's stupid.

etc.
And yet, if I said : I don't want a g/f but I'm on dating sites so I can f**k anything I can get, that would be OK.

I think I'm done with this thread.

Blown2CV

28,695 posts

202 months

Friday 12th April 2019
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davek_964 said:
Blown2CV said:
Monkeylegend said:
moanthebairns said:
hyphen said:
davek_964 said:
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop...
Unusual.
BULLst more like.
It might surprise you to know that there are probably quite a few men who prefer to keep it in their trousers for the right person rather than f**k anything with a breath in their body. They do exist.
i don't want a girlfriend, but i am actively dating... my heart isn't in it, but i won't have sex with someone unless i want them to be my girlfriend that I don't want, but i am not stringing anyone along... my position makes complete sense, and also I am strongly committed to it so fk off telling me it's stupid.

etc.
And yet, if I said : I don't want a g/f but I'm on dating sites so I can f**k anything I can get, that would be OK.

I think I'm done with this thread.
you do know that there are plenty of people, men and women, gay and straight etc who do exactly that... it is not an issue at all when both parties understand the arrangement. The issue comes when you try and pretend to another person that it's more meaningful than it is. You are not doing it maliciously, but you may well be doing it... is my point.

CharlesdeGaulle

26,084 posts

179 months

Friday 12th April 2019
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davek_964 said:
Blown2CV said:
Monkeylegend said:
moanthebairns said:
hyphen said:
davek_964 said:
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop...
Unusual.
BULLst more like.
It might surprise you to know that there are probably quite a few men who prefer to keep it in their trousers for the right person rather than f**k anything with a breath in their body. They do exist.
i don't want a girlfriend, but i am actively dating... my heart isn't in it, but i won't have sex with someone unless i want them to be my girlfriend that I don't want, but i am not stringing anyone along... my position makes complete sense, and also I am strongly committed to it so fk off telling me it's stupid.

etc.
And yet, if I said : I don't want a g/f but I'm on dating sites so I can f**k anything I can get, that would be OK.

I think I'm done with this thread.
Don't flounce davek, it's a broad span of views here and all tales are welcome. Blown 2CV's post did make me laugh though.

br d

8,388 posts

225 months

Friday 12th April 2019
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CharlesdeGaulle said:
Blown2CV said:
I miss the CB days.
That makes one of us. There are quite enough self-absorbed fantasists already without delving back into the past.
You should meet him, nothing fantasy about it. He's settled a bit these days but he was exactly the same person in real life as his persona on here.

Easy to snipe though.

hyphen

26,262 posts

89 months

Friday 12th April 2019
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garlicbread said:
Years ago when I was dating I decided to see two ladies at the same time and I got caught out. I was with one in a shopping centre and bumped into the other. I’ve never felt so unlucky. This was a year after cheating in my then wife.

I’m a real charmer
Both dump you, or did you get an ultimatum from one or both?

GliderRider

2,068 posts

80 months

Saturday 13th April 2019
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hyphen said:
garlicbread said:
Years ago when I was dating I decided to see two ladies at the same time and I got caught out. I was with one in a shopping centre and bumped into the other. I’ve never felt so unlucky. This was a year after cheating in my then wife.

I’m a real charmer
Both dump you, or did you get an ultimatum from one or both?
If he had had his wits about him, he would have said, "I'm so glad you two have met at last, now let's get back to my place for a threesome!"

shirt

22,506 posts

200 months

Saturday 13th April 2019
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One of my colleagues, a South African, was telling me last night that his two wives have found out about each other!

garlicbread

18 posts

60 months

Monday 15th April 2019
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br d said:
You should meet him, nothing fantasy about it. He's settled a bit these days but he was exactly the same person in real life as his persona on here.

Easy to snipe though.
Both left me as I was “untrustworthy”. It was not my fault. I am now happily married and have never considered cheating since. It just shows you that at the i was unhappy with my relationships and marriage.

Flibble

6,470 posts

180 months

Monday 15th April 2019
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You show up and a couple of large fellas knock you on the head and rob you?

Fermit and Sexy Sarah

12,785 posts

99 months

Monday 15th April 2019
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Some girls do just like older men though. At 36 I was seeing a 20 year old, and at 31 i was seeing a 19 y/o. It does happen. Just keep your guard up, and if it turns out to be legit then fill your boots!

George Smiley

5,048 posts

80 months

Monday 15th April 2019
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Monkeylegend said:
moanthebairns said:
hyphen said:
davek_964 said:
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop...
Unusual.
BULLst more like.
It might surprise you to know that there are probably quite a few men who prefer to keep it in their trousers for the right person rather than f**k anything with a breath in their body. They do exist.
Yup, some gents still left

Just finally ended a relationship that had lurched on life support since our 1st anniversary last year

Took her to the pub we met in, booked same table, presents hidden behind bar brought out with food. I was really pleased with myself

30 minutes later she’s laying into me saying I’m thoughtless amongst other traits, because I’m still friends with my daughters mums family I’m still in love with that ex (of 12 years). I knew then but for whatever excuse it continued

Ritual belittling and undermining until I reacted then I’m called angry, I blame her and then I’m an abuser as abusers always blame the victim (fking logic bomb)

Give it a few months and I’ll dust down the tinder account

Women!

MCSV8

880 posts

262 months

Tuesday 16th April 2019
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Blown2CV said:
my mate married a brazilian girl. He met her on copacabana, and even thought she barely spoke any english they hit it off and that was that. You're probably imagining her to look a certain way, but unfortunately she is about 4 feet tall and looks like a shaved pug.
This did not get the deserved recognition-rofl

Thankyou4calling

10,595 posts

172 months

Tuesday 16th April 2019
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Fermit and Sexy Sarah said:
Some girls do just like older men though. At 36 I was seeing a 20 year old, and at 31 i was seeing a 19 y/o. It does happen. Just keep your guard up, and if it turns out to be legit then fill your boots!
52 here and my girlfriend is 31. The difference is absolutely no issue to us st all. We get on fantastically well and have plenty in common.

Blown2CV

28,695 posts

202 months

Wednesday 17th April 2019
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MCSV8 said:
Blown2CV said:
my mate married a brazilian girl. He met her on copacabana, and even thought she barely spoke any english they hit it off and that was that. You're probably imagining her to look a certain way, but unfortunately she is about 4 feet tall and looks like a shaved pug.
This did not get the deserved recognition-rofl
ha thanks. The worst bit is that he's made her live in Stockton-on-Tees for the last 10+ years...

technodup

7,576 posts

129 months

Wednesday 17th April 2019
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The 21yo has disappeared. Definitely something funny about that but cant put my finger on it. The messages seemed real enough, but none of the photos were identifiable as local... fk knows.

Friday's one has proved a bit of an eye opener though. I'll not go into detail or Lemming Train will be calling me a liar again, but text has a way of getting down to the nitty gritty that meeting or talking doesn't, or at least would take much longer. It must be the relative anonymity or something, but they sure as hell open up. hehe


g3org3y

20,606 posts

190 months

Wednesday 17th April 2019
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George Smiley said:
Monkeylegend said:
moanthebairns said:
hyphen said:
davek_964 said:
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop...
Unusual.
BULLst more like.
It might surprise you to know that there are probably quite a few men who prefer to keep it in their trousers for the right person rather than f**k anything with a breath in their body. They do exist.
Yup, some gents still left

Just finally ended a relationship that had lurched on life support since our 1st anniversary last year

Took her to the pub we met in, booked same table, presents hidden behind bar brought out with food. I was really pleased with myself

30 minutes later she’s laying into me saying I’m thoughtless amongst other traits, because I’m still friends with my daughters mums family I’m still in love with that ex (of 12 years). I knew then but for whatever excuse it continued

Ritual belittling and undermining until I reacted then I’m called angry, I blame her and then I’m an abuser as abusers always blame the victim (fking logic bomb)

Give it a few months and I’ll dust down the tinder account

Women!
How long did you leave it after that incident to do the dumping? Honestly, I'd have walked out there and then.

Plate spinner

17,649 posts

199 months

Wednesday 17th April 2019
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g3org3y said:
George Smiley said:
Monkeylegend said:
moanthebairns said:
hyphen said:
davek_964 said:
Also - to be 100% clear - I am not sleeping with anybody until I am absolutely sure I want to see if a relationship will develop...
Unusual.
BULLst more like.
It might surprise you to know that there are probably quite a few men who prefer to keep it in their trousers for the right person rather than f**k anything with a breath in their body. They do exist.
Yup, some gents still left

Just finally ended a relationship that had lurched on life support since our 1st anniversary last year

Took her to the pub we met in, booked same table, presents hidden behind bar brought out with food. I was really pleased with myself

30 minutes later she’s laying into me saying I’m thoughtless amongst other traits, because I’m still friends with my daughters mums family I’m still in love with that ex (of 12 years). I knew then but for whatever excuse it continued

Ritual belittling and undermining until I reacted then I’m called angry, I blame her and then I’m an abuser as abusers always blame the victim (fking logic bomb)

Give it a few months and I’ll dust down the tinder account

Women!
How long did you leave it after that incident to do the dumping? Honestly, I'd have walked out there and then.
Likewise, danger signs a mile off.

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Wednesday 17th April 2019
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Jesus. Poor bloke.

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