Being told " I don't love you anymore"
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MYOB said:
To be fair, the title of this thread doesn't stipulate this. Relationship problems affect everyone of all ages and PH is inclusive and open to all. No offence.
If you read through all 35 pages you'll get the gist of what the thread is about. It started out and predominantly goes a lot deeper than some kids who really have no idea what life's all about. As you were.Toyoda said:
MYOB said:
To be fair, the title of this thread doesn't stipulate this. Relationship problems affect everyone of all ages and PH is inclusive and open to all. No offence.
If you read through all 35 pages you'll get the gist of what the thread is about. It started out and predominantly goes a lot deeper than some kids who really have no idea what life's all about. As you were.
CharlesdeGaulle said:
dmulally said:
In the nicest possible way...
In similar vein, and noting it was his first relationship, I think apple juice came across as a needy whiner, and far too 'forensic' to sustain an adult relationship at the moment. Trying to correct a girlfriend is destined to failure. It takes many of us guys half a lifetime to fully realise that they are wired totally differently, they are completely illogical, can be crazy (not in a nice way), and yet, on rare occasions, can be the one person who you feel you could share your life with [but they then get bored about the 7 years itch stage]
Robertj21a said:
Agreed. After a bit more experience with other women he'll soon learn that it's an utter waste of time trying to 'correct' any female.
It takes many of us guys half a lifetime to fully realise that they are wired totally differently, they are completely illogical, can be crazy (not in a nice way), and yet, on rare occasions, can be the one person who you feel you could share your life with [but they then get bored about the 7 years itch stage]
All women are completely illogical? It takes many of us guys half a lifetime to fully realise that they are wired totally differently, they are completely illogical, can be crazy (not in a nice way), and yet, on rare occasions, can be the one person who you feel you could share your life with [but they then get bored about the 7 years itch stage]
PH - what a source of amusement.Robertj21a said:
Agreed. After a bit more experience with other women he'll soon learn that it's an utter waste of time trying to 'correct' any female.
It takes many of us guys half a lifetime to fully realise that they are wired totally differently, they are completely illogical, can be crazy (not in a nice way), and yet, on rare occasions, can be the one person who you feel you could share your life with [but they then get bored about the 7 years itch stage]
Maybe people like you need to take a step back and have a closer look at them selves if you really believe that crap.It takes many of us guys half a lifetime to fully realise that they are wired totally differently, they are completely illogical, can be crazy (not in a nice way), and yet, on rare occasions, can be the one person who you feel you could share your life with [but they then get bored about the 7 years itch stage]
What you are basically saying is that men are perfect and women are the only gender to deviate from this level of perfection.
I am not surprised there are so many desperate male posters on here who's only aim is to get as many shags as possible, then cry when they get rejected and don't understand why they can't find that special person for a long term relationship.
Maybe take your brain out of your trousers and you might get somewhere, this is'nt the stone age anymore
Newbie mistakes.
Don't try to win the argument, you never actually "win" an argument, especially when you're right (cos that means you showed her up). On very rare occasions, after a long period of consideration, you may be told you were right about that thing from 6 month ago.
Never force them to consider things from your point of view if they're being unreasonable. This holds up a mirror to their ugly side and they hate that. How often you see that ugly side is an indicator of whether you should bail.
Personally I suspect this is a fake dumping to test her control over you. You are expected to come crawling.
Don't try to win the argument, you never actually "win" an argument, especially when you're right (cos that means you showed her up). On very rare occasions, after a long period of consideration, you may be told you were right about that thing from 6 month ago.
Never force them to consider things from your point of view if they're being unreasonable. This holds up a mirror to their ugly side and they hate that. How often you see that ugly side is an indicator of whether you should bail.
Personally I suspect this is a fake dumping to test her control over you. You are expected to come crawling.
Monkeylegend said:
Maybe people like you need to take a step back and have a closer look at them selves if you really believe that crap.
What you are basically saying is that men are perfect and women are the only gender to deviate from this level of perfection.
I am not surprised there are so many desperate male posters on here who's only aim is to get as many shags as possible, then cry when they get rejected and don't understand why they can't find that special person for a long term relationship.
Maybe take your brain out of your trousers and you might get somewhere, this is'nt the stone age anymore
Not sure what you've been reading. I never said anything about men being perfect, they're just as bad as women, just in a different way.What you are basically saying is that men are perfect and women are the only gender to deviate from this level of perfection.
I am not surprised there are so many desperate male posters on here who's only aim is to get as many shags as possible, then cry when they get rejected and don't understand why they can't find that special person for a long term relationship.
Maybe take your brain out of your trousers and you might get somewhere, this is'nt the stone age anymore
If you have to misquote, and generally misunderstand, then I doubt that you know much about the subject !
Robertj21a said:
Monkeylegend said:
Maybe people like you need to take a step back and have a closer look at them selves if you really believe that crap.
What you are basically saying is that men are perfect and women are the only gender to deviate from this level of perfection.
I am not surprised there are so many desperate male posters on here who's only aim is to get as many shags as possible, then cry when they get rejected and don't understand why they can't find that special person for a long term relationship.
Maybe take your brain out of your trousers and you might get somewhere, this is'nt the stone age anymore
Not sure what you've been reading. I never said anything about men being perfect, they're just as bad as women, just in a different way.What you are basically saying is that men are perfect and women are the only gender to deviate from this level of perfection.
I am not surprised there are so many desperate male posters on here who's only aim is to get as many shags as possible, then cry when they get rejected and don't understand why they can't find that special person for a long term relationship.
Maybe take your brain out of your trousers and you might get somewhere, this is'nt the stone age anymore
If you have to misquote, and generally misunderstand, then I doubt that you know much about the subject !
Monkeylegend said:
Robertj21a said:
Monkeylegend said:
Maybe people like you need to take a step back and have a closer look at them selves if you really believe that crap.
What you are basically saying is that men are perfect and women are the only gender to deviate from this level of perfection.
I am not surprised there are so many desperate male posters on here who's only aim is to get as many shags as possible, then cry when they get rejected and don't understand why they can't find that special person for a long term relationship.
Maybe take your brain out of your trousers and you might get somewhere, this is'nt the stone age anymore
Not sure what you've been reading. I never said anything about men being perfect, they're just as bad as women, just in a different way.What you are basically saying is that men are perfect and women are the only gender to deviate from this level of perfection.
I am not surprised there are so many desperate male posters on here who's only aim is to get as many shags as possible, then cry when they get rejected and don't understand why they can't find that special person for a long term relationship.
Maybe take your brain out of your trousers and you might get somewhere, this is'nt the stone age anymore
If you have to misquote, and generally misunderstand, then I doubt that you know much about the subject !
Robertj21a said:
Monkeylegend said:
Robertj21a said:
Monkeylegend said:
Maybe people like you need to take a step back and have a closer look at them selves if you really believe that crap.
What you are basically saying is that men are perfect and women are the only gender to deviate from this level of perfection.
I am not surprised there are so many desperate male posters on here who's only aim is to get as many shags as possible, then cry when they get rejected and don't understand why they can't find that special person for a long term relationship.
Maybe take your brain out of your trousers and you might get somewhere, this is'nt the stone age anymore
Not sure what you've been reading. I never said anything about men being perfect, they're just as bad as women, just in a different way.What you are basically saying is that men are perfect and women are the only gender to deviate from this level of perfection.
I am not surprised there are so many desperate male posters on here who's only aim is to get as many shags as possible, then cry when they get rejected and don't understand why they can't find that special person for a long term relationship.
Maybe take your brain out of your trousers and you might get somewhere, this is'nt the stone age anymore
If you have to misquote, and generally misunderstand, then I doubt that you know much about the subject !
Toyoda said:
MYOB said:
To be fair, the title of this thread doesn't stipulate this. Relationship problems affect everyone of all ages and PH is inclusive and open to all. No offence.
If you read through all 35 pages you'll get the gist of what the thread is about. It started out and predominantly goes a lot deeper than some kids who really have no idea what life's all about. As you were.
Been married to one for six years, which is twice as long as I managed with a Brit. She's funny, intelligent, level headed and far better than me in every way.Monkeylegend said:
What you are basically saying is that men are perfect and women are the only gender to deviate from this level of perfection.
The only reason men are down on women and not men is because the majority of men have relationships with women. If they were gay they would find men just as disappointing and unfathomable as they find women. I don't think it's much to do with gender. It's just people in general. Many people are defensive, selfish, irrational, incapable of admitting they're wrong or truly considering another and primarily out for themselves and no one else. Once someone stops fulfilling the use they have for them, they're toast.
And comparing a friendship with a man to a relationship with a woman is pointless. Your gruff drinking bud would probably turn into a screeching harpy once you married him. Relationships open up a whole new level of vulnerability and nightmarishness no matter who or what you're in a relationship with.
bloomen said:
Monkeylegend said:
What you are basically saying is that men are perfect and women are the only gender to deviate from this level of perfection.
The only reason men are down on women and not men is because the majority of men have relationships with women. If they were gay they would find men just as disappointing and unfathomable as they find women. I don't think it's much to do with gender. It's just people in general. Many people are defensive, selfish, irrational, incapable of admitting they're wrong or truly considering another and primarily out for themselves and no one else. Once someone stops fulfilling the use they have for them, they're toast.
And comparing a friendship with a man to a relationship with a woman is pointless. Your gruff drinking bud would probably turn into a screeching harpy once you married him. Relationships open up a whole new level of vulnerability and nightmarishness no matter who or what you're in a relationship with.
AppleJuice said:
She regularly asked me to meet her when I was at work - and complained that I was always too busy to see her because of this. I had explained to her on multiple occasions that I work 9-5. When I said last Thursday that I could see her at 5-5:30 at the earliest, she asked "Why are you so busy?" 
It's as though she hadn't listened to me (or read) previously.
I was seeing a needy girl a bit like this years ago. We were both mid 20's, both worked, distance relationship - lived 50 miles apart during the week. But she was a teacher, and would phone me in seemingly every free period she had throughout the day. Not because of anything important, just as reaffirmation of the relationship, and lots of insignificant stuff, just an excuse for a phone call. Most times, I'd have get repeated missed calls (phone on silent at work) and have to ring her back. I was ending up with huge phone bills, and getting distracted from my work every 2 hours (for 30+ minute long phone calls). It's as though she hadn't listened to me (or read) previously.Whatever I said, however I explained it, she just would not stop calling me all through the day. In the end I told her that if she phoned me again, that it would be over. She did, and I never spoke to her again. Bumped into her recently (15 years later), and she seemed to have gotten over it!
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