Anyone else's wife faff about un-necessarily?

[Monkeylegend]

Antony Moxey said:

AstonZagato said:

I like things done right: sand flat, wash down with sugar soap , apply paint thinly, feathering off horizontally and vertically for a good finish.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who has no idea what this is about?

I'm with you Moxey, haven't got a clue

Doesn't look like anyone is going to reveal trade secrets anytime soon either so I will just continue to slap it on, looks ok from a distance when it's dry.

[PositronicRay]

Mothersruin said:

King Herald said:

.....then the wife gets up and says "can I come with you"....... I'll just have a quick shower.....



Ten o'clock we finally leave, I am stressed, annoyed, because this my a little 'me' time I had planned and I am too soft to tell the wife that I didn't want her along.

Me said:

.....then the wife gets up and says "can I come with y.................."

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Edited by Mothersruin on Tuesday 11th July 15:38

Something similar happens to me. Taking dog for a walk, out of courtesy I'll say, "would you like to come" occasionally I'll get a "yes"

Which gives way to a massive faff, which boots and socks? will a jumper be required? a sock gone missing (either stuck in boot or on foot)

Then out on walk: too hot/cold/windy, should've worn/not worn xyz, wrong gloves, wrong socks, walking too fast, etc. Me amending route as we go to avoid, livestock/mud/long grass/poorly defined paths while thinking of shortcuts to keep distance down, Then discussions re dog behaviour; should be on/off lead, stick thrown/not thrown, not allowed to go in water/bushes/mud, should be called back.

I put it down to massive control freakery.

[Shakermaker]

Monkeylegend said:

Antony Moxey said:

AstonZagato said:

I like things done right: sand flat, wash down with sugar soap , apply paint thinly, feathering off horizontally and vertically for a good finish.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who has no idea what this is about?

I'm with you Moxey, haven't got a clue

Doesn't look like anyone is going to reveal trade secrets anytime soon either so I will just continue to slap it on, looks ok from a distance when it's dry.

I'm not a pro but I know what they mean and its nearly decorating season in my house I guess

Sugar soap is essentially washing up liquid for walls. It just helps to remove any possible residue that' has built up on the walls over time, certainly if anyone in the house is/was a smoker it can help, but also just the general grime that builds up and gives a more even surface for painting on.

Feathering in - I call it cutting in, but its going around all the edges first around door frames, corners, the bit where the wall meets the ceiling, and taking time to get that correct so that when you get the roller on you have already covered the areas which the roller can't reach. And then going over again to smooth out all of the edges again.

[Monkeylegend]

Shakermaker said:

Monkeylegend said:

Antony Moxey said:

AstonZagato said:

I like things done right: sand flat, wash down with sugar soap , apply paint thinly, feathering off horizontally and vertically for a good finish.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who has no idea what this is about?

I'm with you Moxey, haven't got a clue

Doesn't look like anyone is going to reveal trade secrets anytime soon either so I will just continue to slap it on, looks ok from a distance when it's dry.

Feathering in - I call it cutting in, but its going around all the edges first around door frames, corners, the bit where the wall meets the ceiling, and taking time to get that correct so that when you get the roller on you have already covered the areas which the roller can't reach. And then going over again to smooth out all of the edges again.

Ah ha, I must be a pro then, I do that

Not as good as a pro though.

Am I the only one who only uses a brush, I don't seem to be able to get on with a roller, I end up being personally pebble dashed from head to foot.

[anonymous-user]

Shakermaker said:

Monkeylegend said:

Antony Moxey said:

AstonZagato said:

I like things done right: sand flat, wash down with sugar soap , apply paint thinly, feathering off horizontally and vertically for a good finish.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who has no idea what this is about?

I'm with you Moxey, haven't got a clue

Doesn't look like anyone is going to reveal trade secrets anytime soon either so I will just continue to slap it on, looks ok from a distance when it's dry.

I'm not a pro but I know what they mean and its nearly decorating season in my house I guess

Sugar soap is essentially washing up liquid for walls. It just helps to remove any possible residue that' has built up on the walls over time, certainly if anyone in the house is/was a smoker it can help, but also just the general grime that builds up and gives a more even surface for painting on.

Feathering in - I call it cutting in, but its going around all the edges first around door frames, corners, the bit where the wall meets the ceiling, and taking time to get that correct so that when you get the roller on you have already covered the areas which the roller can't reach. And then going over again to smooth out all of the edges again.

My understanding of feathering was light strokes (or light roller) to remove brush or lap marks. You see these especially when someone has slopped the paint on. When rollering a big ceiling the edges will dry out, so if you have a lot of paint on the roller you will get an 'edge' mark unless you feather - use a lightly loaded roller and then do a 90 degree roller as well.

I'm not a pro so the above may be wrong

[Shakermaker]

wsurfa said:

My understanding of feathering was light strokes (or light roller) to remove brush or lap marks. You see these especially when someone has slopped the paint on. When rollering a big ceiling the edges will dry out, so if you have a lot of paint on the roller you will get an 'edge' mark unless you feather - use a lightly loaded roller and then do a 90 degree roller as well.

I'm not a pro so the above may be wrong

That is sort of what I was trying to get to with my point, going over it again to tidy up? Maybe I'm doing it wrong as well. Still, my walls look good and my wife only had to ask me to do every weekend for 18 months!

[FiF]

wsurfa said:

Shakermaker said:

Monkeylegend said:

Antony Moxey said:

AstonZagato said:

I like things done right: sand flat, wash down with sugar soap , apply paint thinly, feathering off horizontally and vertically for a good finish.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who has no idea what this is about?

I'm with you Moxey, haven't got a clue

Doesn't look like anyone is going to reveal trade secrets anytime soon either so I will just continue to slap it on, looks ok from a distance when it's dry.

I'm not a pro but I know what they mean and its nearly decorating season in my house I guess

Sugar soap is essentially washing up liquid for walls. It just helps to remove any possible residue that' has built up on the walls over time, certainly if anyone in the house is/was a smoker it can help, but also just the general grime that builds up and gives a more even surface for painting on.

Feathering in - I call it cutting in, but its going around all the edges first around door frames, corners, the bit where the wall meets the ceiling, and taking time to get that correct so that when you get the roller on you have already covered the areas which the roller can't reach. And then going over again to smooth out all of the edges again.

My understanding of feathering was light strokes (or light roller) to remove brush or lap marks. You see these especially when someone has slopped the paint on. When rollering a big ceiling the edges will dry out, so if you have a lot of paint on the roller you will get an 'edge' mark unless you feather - use a lightly loaded roller and then do a 90 degree roller as well.

I'm not a pro so the above may be wrong

This is more or less how I was taught.
https://youtu.be/uWFlddeWP_E
8 mins onwards if you CBA with the preamble.

But then I was only a school holidays and Saturday morning sprog so there was rather more flatting and rubbing down in my duties. But once you have learnt to paint with brushes and do it properly, it really is a lifetime skill, and visiting others houses and public buildings the mistakes should probably qualify for the OCD thread. Crich Tram museum had a good display of the methods / stages involved.

[Pothole]

oldbanger said:

Pothole said:

Just seems a clunky long-winded way of telling a story (and why would we care which gender either or both parties is or are?)

Maybe not, but somehow it feels as if I am less in trouble with the OH if I don't draw attention to gender when grumbling

More frustrating now... we don't know if you're pussywhipped or willywhipped!

[AstonZagato]

wsurfa said:

So you pay for a man to exactly what you did?

Sounds like a form of divorce, but at least one where you get to stay in the house

I knew that GTMI would get that suggestion. However, it means that someone else gets the grief, I get the benefits.

Antony Moxey said:

AstonZagato said:

I like things done right: sand flat, wash down with sugar soap , apply paint thinly, feathering off horizontally and vertically for a good finish.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who has no idea what this is about?

Sugar soap is a caustic wash to ensure a grease free surface.

"Feathering" is lightly using an almost dry brush to stroke the wet gloss paint gently so that the paint is even and smooth. It gives a glassy finish.

[OldSkoolRS]

AstonZagato said:

Sugar soap is a caustic wash to ensure a grease free surface.

"Feathering" is lightly using an almost dry brush to stroke the wet gloss paint gently so that the paint is even and smooth. It gives a glassy finish.

Another term for Feathering is 'laying off' which is the term my Dad uses (retired painter and decorator).

https://traditionalpainter.com/flawless-paint-fini...

I'm surprised at the number of people who don't know what Sugar soap is. It really cuts through the dirt and/or grease to leave a clean surface to redecorate. Having said that most of my recent gloss painting has been on new skirting, so I haven't needed it.

However, since this is a thread about our wives faffing about, haven't we ended up being hoisted by our own petard on this one? We need another thread 'Things our wives rush that we take our time over and do properly'.

[PositronicRay]

OldSkoolRS said:

However, since this is a thread about our wives faffing about, haven't we ended up being hoisted by our own petard on this one? We need another thread 'Things our wives rush that we take our time over and do properly'.

I'll start, making love.

[ColinM50]

PositronicRay said:

I'll start, making love.

My memory's not that good to remember

[mickmcpaddy]

Not a wife but someone I work with, he refuses point blank to be early for anything, if we have to be somewhere for 11AM and the job is 30 minutes away then he insists we leave at 10.30, not a second before and more often than not much later, he has no conception whatsoever of anything going wrong. Also without fail he faffs around in the digs whilst I'm sat in the van with the engine running and in 1st gear, eventually he gets in the van and just as I'm letting the clutch up he says "forgot my phone/earphones/keys etc. etc." and runs back to the hotel. Many a time I tell him to take the other van even though its just a small job, must cost the firm a fortune in fuel.

[PositronicRay]

House move brings wife faffing to a whole new level.

We have agreed that I pack nothing of hers, breakables. books.
Made a start yesterday afternoon. So I managed contents of garage, contents of shed, dismantle spare bed, assorted gubbins from cupboards that we rarely use.

Mrs PR managed, strip linen from 2 beds, put in wash, make one bed. Heaven help us with all the shoes/bags/books/kitchen.

[PotatoSalad]

I must admit I feel lucky since my missus is generally a faff-free person, however her communication skills sometimes drive me mad. As a man I often ask simple questions expecting a simple answer and I receive an output of the stereotypical female brain thought process instead. Usually around scheduling something, a typical text conversation would go as follows:

ME: I'm heading off to town after work, I'll pick you up. Just say where and when.
HER: Sure that'll be nice.
ME: OK just tell me where and what time.
HER: I need to grab few things, do you want anything for the sandwiches tonight?
ME: So after the shops then?
HER: Yes, I'll pop in to the XYZ after work.
ME: So outside the XYZ? But what time?



I usually ask those kind of questions rushing through the door or already in the car so I don't have 15 minutes for interrogation. Arrrggghh.. just tell me the god damn place and time.


Yesterday we agreed to meet in our usual pub for a meal around 6:30. I texted her that I'm on my way but there's some traffic and asked to "just wait for me in the pub in case I'm late". (I stopped on a single yellow line to text, officer!)

10 minutes later my phone beeps "I'm already outside, do you want me to get a table?" sigh...

Edited by PotatoSalad on Wednesday 19th July 14:45

[bobtail4x4]

yesterday morning I`m just leaving the house at 7.30, she says "ohh my back tyre is flat" WTF? looked at it, its down to about 10psi, why not tell me the previous evening? "I forgot"

fire up compressor and blow it up.

still looks ok when I got home,
told her I will get it sorted and take my car today, as Im at home , so is my car..................

[johnwilliams77]

PotatoSalad said:

I must admit I feel lucky since my missus is generally a faff-free person, however her communication skills sometimes drive me mad. As a man I often ask simple questions expecting a simple answer and I receive an output of the stereotypical female brain thought process instead. Usually around scheduling something, a typical text conversation would go as follows:

ME: I'm heading off to town after work, I'll pick you up. Just say where and when.
HER: Sure that'll be nice.
ME: OK just tell me where and what time.
HER: I need to grab few things, do you want anything for the sandwiches tonight?
ME: So after the shops then?
HER: Yes, I'll pop in to the XYZ after work.
ME: So outside the XYZ? But what time?



I usually ask those kind of questions rushing through the door or already in the car so I don't have 15 minutes for interrogation. Arrrggghh.. just tell me the god damn place and time.


Yesterday we agreed to meet in our usual pub for a meal around 6:30. I texted her that I'm on my way but there's some traffic and asked to "just wait for me in the pub in case I'm late". (I stopped on a single yellow line to text, officer!)

10 minutes later my phone beeps "I'm already outside, do you want me to get a table?" sigh...

Edited by PotatoSalad on Wednesday 19th July 14:45

Have you clearly communicated this issue with her that you have?

[nonsequitur]

AstonZagato said:

My wife and I are incompatible on decorating. I like things done right: sand flat, wash down with sugar soap, apply paint thinly, feathering off horizontally and vertically for a good finish. She likes things finished yesterday.

I was decorating a room 25 years ago.

Wife: "Is it done yet?"
Me: "No"
Wife: "When will it be finished?"
Me: "Well there is still a lot of work to be done"
Wife: "Can I help?"
Me (against my better judgement): "I suppose you could paint the skirting board."
I show her how to apply the paint and feather it off. I move to paint the door. I have just about finish one panel of the six when...
Wife: "I've finished that. What can I do now?"
Me: "What? You can't have... Christ! What have you done woman? There are runs everywhere. You've missed bits. That's appalling. I'll have to wait till it dries, and start again."

Wife has massive strop because I've had a go. I have a massive strop because she's messed up. She has a more massive strop because I'm taking so long.

Decided at that point that DIY would not be employed in our house for any home improvements. Instead we'd do GTMI - "Get The Man In".

I can see her point. 25 years is a long time to decorate a room.

Edited by nonsequitur on Friday 21st July 10:43

[Shakermaker]

In the same category as "faffing around" I think we can put "Trying to talk at precisely the least suitable moment"

An example from this morning, as soon as my wife is finished int he bathroom and comes out to start drying her hair etc, I go in for a quick wee as usual.

She chooses to wait until the precise moment when I flush and start washing my hands, to try and tell me through the closed door, that she doesn't want a cup of tea this morning as usual. Which means, I can't hear what she is actually saying over all the noises going on in the bathroom, just that she is saying something.

Why? Why not wait a few more seconds until I'm out of the bathroom and the noise is all subsided?

apparently though, it isn't her fault I can't hear her over all this noise, it is my fault because she thinks I am "deaf" in her words. Despite no evidence to back this up.

[CanAm]

If I don't hear what she says, it's because I'm going deaf.
If she doesn't hear what I say, it's because I mumble.
She may not always be right, but she's never wrong!