Maintaining friendships.
Discussion
I seem to be s
t at it. Since moving South some 4 years ago I have made a few friends, but not ones I ever meet up with, go for a drink with etc. We don't really keep in contact either. It has been the same throughout most of my life if I am being honest. I'm pretty sure it is something to do with me but I'm not sure what. I would say I'm a nice guy etc, the people I have made friendships with would agree, but unless I contact them, I never hear from them.
I get married next Friday and I found it a bit of a struggle to think of people to invite. Now while I am quite happy to spend time on my own or with my soon to be wife, it would be nice to have some other friends to spend time with.
Does anyone else feel like they're in a similar situation?
t at it. Since moving South some 4 years ago I have made a few friends, but not ones I ever meet up with, go for a drink with etc. We don't really keep in contact either. It has been the same throughout most of my life if I am being honest. I'm pretty sure it is something to do with me but I'm not sure what. I would say I'm a nice guy etc, the people I have made friendships with would agree, but unless I contact them, I never hear from them. I get married next Friday and I found it a bit of a struggle to think of people to invite. Now while I am quite happy to spend time on my own or with my soon to be wife, it would be nice to have some other friends to spend time with.
Does anyone else feel like they're in a similar situation?
TR4man said:
TheAngryDog said:
rayyan171 said:
Go home. There is always friends where home is.
I prefer the South. Plus not sure my Mrs would be impressed with me upping sticks and going back to Hull lolTR4man said:
TheAngryDog said:
rayyan171 said:
Go home. There is always friends where home is.
I prefer the South. Plus not sure my Mrs would be impressed with me upping sticks and going back to Hull lol
(is it still there?)
Saleen836 said:
TR4man said:
TheAngryDog said:
rayyan171 said:
Go home. There is always friends where home is.
I prefer the South. Plus not sure my Mrs would be impressed with me upping sticks and going back to Hull lol (is it still there?)Yep, I'm in the same boat. I have very few proper friends but I know a lot of people. I spend most of my free time either with my girlfriend or my best mate. I'm fine with that.
Though I sympathise with you, we are trying to arrange a couple of things to do for my mates birthday in a couple of weeks. We are struggling to get 8 people together to go paintballing!
I got tired of trying to keep in touch with people and decided, fk it, if they want to speak to me then they can call/visit me. Not heard from the majority of them since.
Though I sympathise with you, we are trying to arrange a couple of things to do for my mates birthday in a couple of weeks. We are struggling to get 8 people together to go paintballing!
I got tired of trying to keep in touch with people and decided, f
k it, if they want to speak to me then they can call/visit me. Not heard from the majority of them since.TheAngryDog said:
TR4man said:
TheAngryDog said:
rayyan171 said:
Go home. There is always friends where home is.
I prefer the South. Plus not sure my Mrs would be impressed with me upping sticks and going back to Hull lolYes, they will have better friendships than me, as some of my school friends are still really good friends to this day (30+ years) however I couldn't get past the only jobs being a shop manager or timber merchant person so left.
I have a much smaller group of friends now... Though my OH keeps telling me to be nice to this lot as these are the actual people I like.
Saleen836 said:
TR4man said:
TheAngryDog said:
rayyan171 said:
Go home. There is always friends where home is.
I prefer the South. Plus not sure my Mrs would be impressed with me upping sticks and going back to Hull lol (is it still there?)I don't think it's unusual.
I spent yrs moving about with jobs, time poor and skint! Easy to lose touch, we're a global economy after all. New friends I made were often transient, friendships are like marriages, effort needs to put in.
Now I've more time on my hands, and financially comfortable it's easier. So I'm catching up with people, some I'm staying in touch with, some you realise were just "of the time" .
I've never been the most sociable "everybody's mate" "life and soul" kind of person so really quite comfortable with it. If my marriage wasn't so strong I'm sure I'd be making more effort and not passing up any opportunities.
I spent yrs moving about with jobs, time poor and skint! Easy to lose touch, we're a global economy after all. New friends I made were often transient, friendships are like marriages, effort needs to put in.
Now I've more time on my hands, and financially comfortable it's easier. So I'm catching up with people, some I'm staying in touch with, some you realise were just "of the time" .
I've never been the most sociable "everybody's mate" "life and soul" kind of person so really quite comfortable with it. If my marriage wasn't so strong I'm sure I'd be making more effort and not passing up any opportunities.
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