Maintaining friendships.
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Couldnt be arsed to do a multi reply...
I was originally from Sutton (less than a year old) and then grew up on the East coast... Im from one of the small villages going out to Hedon/Roos/Burstwick area on the way out to Withernsea (my old high school).
The only time I used to go into Hull was a) Escaping as its the only way out b) Going out to LAs (f
king long time ago now) and c) I went to Wilberforce College on Salthouse road.
Yourself?
I was originally from Sutton (less than a year old) and then grew up on the East coast... Im from one of the small villages going out to Hedon/Roos/Burstwick area on the way out to Withernsea (my old high school).
The only time I used to go into Hull was a) Escaping as its the only way out b) Going out to LAs (f
king long time ago now) and c) I went to Wilberforce College on Salthouse road.Yourself?
Du1point8 said:
Couldnt be arsed to do a multi reply...
I was originally from Sutton (less than a year old) and then grew up on the East coast... Im from one of the small villages going out to Hedon/Roos/Burstwick area on the way out to Withernsea (my old high school).
The only time I used to go into Hull was a) Escaping as its the only way out b) Going out to LAs (fking long time ago now) and c) I went to Wilberforce College on Salthouse road.
Yourself?
Not too far from me then. I grew up around Ings Road (the non estate side). It has been a while since I've been to good old With, more often go to Scarborough when I am back in wamer months. Lol, I think I went to LA's once or twice. I did a short course at Wilberforce but got bored of it I was originally from Sutton (less than a year old) and then grew up on the East coast... Im from one of the small villages going out to Hedon/Roos/Burstwick area on the way out to Withernsea (my old high school).
The only time I used to go into Hull was a) Escaping as its the only way out b) Going out to LAs (f
king long time ago now) and c) I went to Wilberforce College on Salthouse road.Yourself?
xjay1337 said:
I'm the same 
I don't really mind it. I can count the close friends I have on 1 hand, I see my other friends maybe a couple of times throughout the year.
Works fine for me.
I guess it is all relative. If you're content then that is fine. I am pretty content, though it would be nice to have more things to do.I don't really mind it. I can count the close friends I have on 1 hand, I see my other friends maybe a couple of times throughout the year.
Works fine for me.
PositronicRay said:
Sheepshanks said:
TheAngryDog said:
I get married next Friday and I found it a bit of a struggle to think of people to invite.
I'm quite concerned about who will come to my funeral!TheAngryDog said:
I guess it is all relative. If you're content then that is fine. I am pretty content, though it would be nice to have more things to do.
Exactly, different people like different things.Have you thought about finding a local club you can do stuff like Pool / Darts.
Maybe even take the Mrs along.
We love playing Pool / Snooker and recently just bought a table (about 1M long so not massive but enough to have some fun).
I moved 200+ miles away from where 95% of my friends were 15 years ago.
In that time I have made 4 real friends in the area i have moved to - people I go out for a drink or more with a couple of times a month. All would help me out, and visa versa, in a jam but I am not sure that any of them would 'help me bury the body'. One would most certainly be able to put me in touch with people who would be able to help for a sum.
Of my friends back home I see most of them at least once a year and a few of them 4 or 5 times a year. As a rule though there are about 18 of us who tend to be at the same stag dos, weddings, christenings and funerals. When we are together it takes about 3 to 5 minutes for it to feel like we have only seen each other last week, even if in some cases it has been more than a year since we last even spoke. Of them there are at least 4 who would help bury the body and a couple who would help create the body...
True friends don't need to be and live in each others pockets. You do need to touch base from time to time but only my best friend and I tend to be on the phone at least once a month, if not week. If you are having to try hard to maintain a friendship and it is one way traffic then it is not a true friendship.
In that time I have made 4 real friends in the area i have moved to - people I go out for a drink or more with a couple of times a month. All would help me out, and visa versa, in a jam but I am not sure that any of them would 'help me bury the body'. One would most certainly be able to put me in touch with people who would be able to help for a sum.
Of my friends back home I see most of them at least once a year and a few of them 4 or 5 times a year. As a rule though there are about 18 of us who tend to be at the same stag dos, weddings, christenings and funerals. When we are together it takes about 3 to 5 minutes for it to feel like we have only seen each other last week, even if in some cases it has been more than a year since we last even spoke. Of them there are at least 4 who would help bury the body and a couple who would help create the body...
True friends don't need to be and live in each others pockets. You do need to touch base from time to time but only my best friend and I tend to be on the phone at least once a month, if not week. If you are having to try hard to maintain a friendship and it is one way traffic then it is not a true friendship.
Same as OP.
Moved to the prosperous and tropical 'darn sarf' and am pally with people from work but not very social at all outside 9-5. I have joined a few walking football sessions which has been a great way to socialise but not got trolleyed as of yet.
I'll attend a (free) wedding no problem if needed....
Moved to the prosperous and tropical 'darn sarf' and am pally with people from work but not very social at all outside 9-5. I have joined a few walking football sessions which has been a great way to socialise but not got trolleyed as of yet.
I'll attend a (free) wedding no problem if needed....
Friends are overrated tbh. Just make the best of your available skill set. With the best will in the world, some people will never be the life and soul of the party, so don't beat yourself over something you could never be. Most people don't have that many friends in reality. Join a club or similar worth a try.
Wait until you have kids, see what happens to your circle of friends then. With the wife, a 3yr old, a 2mth old, and a 3 shift pattern at work I don't get to see anyone. If it wasn't for the home footy match every 2 weeks I think I'd probably go months without seeing anyone. I got married Feb 2016, I've seen my best man 5 times since.
skinnyman said:
Wait until you have kids, see what happens to your circle of friends then. With the wife, a 3yr old, a 2mth old, and a 3 shift pattern at work I don't get to see anyone. If it wasn't for the home footy match every 2 weeks I think I'd probably go months without seeing anyone. I got married Feb 2016, I've seen my best man 5 times since.
We don't plan to have kids, plus I am too selfish lolskinnyman said:
Wait until you have kids, see what happens to your circle of friends then. With the wife, a 3yr old, a 2mth old, and a 3 shift pattern at work I don't get to see anyone. If it wasn't for the home footy match every 2 weeks I think I'd probably go months without seeing anyone. I got married Feb 2016, I've seen my best man 5 times since.
That's about the size of it. I found that when my two were little (up to school age), my circle of friends shrank to essentially zero, whilst my wife's circle of friends grew at an almost exponential rate. I still don't understand why new mums can form supportive friendship groups whilst new dads can't.
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