Any other expectant Dads?
Discussion
Davey S2 said:
rsbmw said:
Alex_225 said:
Vaud said:
4 years seems to be a good age gap. Ours are 4 years apart and the eldest is very, very good with her little sister.
A friend has 3 kids, all 4 years gap and said it was perfect.
Yeah it seems to be a good balance so far. My four year old wants to be the big girl so is keen to help and is adamant she's not a baby so there's a clear difference. My cousins were two years apart and the eldest one had moments where he wanted to still be a baby so toes were trodden on. A friend has 3 kids, all 4 years gap and said it was perfect.
Later on. It's back to stuff like peppa pig, in the night garden, tantrums. I think the older one regressed slightly after the second was born.
Suppose it helps if they like the same things. Mine are like chalk and cheese.
Oh and colds. They bounce around the house now like never before. It feels like I've had a cold since 2015. From school mainly.
Good luck.
z4RRSchris said:
rsbmw said:
I always think it's really selfish to have kids at an advanced age, realistically you aren't going to be around for them
ditto, my thoughts exactly. It hasnt gone down well with the 7 of us. When the kids have first day of school you will be 72 (is that your grandpa? no its my dad)
when they leave school you will be 83 (most likely dead)
then they leave uni you will be 87/88 (almost certinatly dead)
Personally, being born would be the choice for me.
It's nobody's business but the parents and (mainly) the child.
SpeckledJim said:
It's nobody's business but the parents and (mainly) the child.
you would have thought that considering when you die your kids will still be of the age that they need to be looked after, you would have consulted your older children who will most likely end up looking after them. z4RRSchris said:
odd news this week that my brother who is 34 is having a bay with his wife, the odd thing being that my 65 year old dad annoucned he was having twins with his 50 year old 3rd wife (he has 7 kids already)
dont know what to think of it really.
At 50, I assume it's IVF, and privately funded?dont know what to think of it really.
Well after having a miscarriage back in October, we are back on track and she is about 10 weeks along so far (didn't take us long 
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The doctor sent her for a scan a couple of weeks ago as they were concerned because of what happened before but all looked to be healthy so far, we know it is still early days though.
It has definitely been a lot harder to get excited about it this time, but the other day we forced ourselves to get out and about and have a look at some baby things in john lewis.
We decided to ignore the prices and try to single out a pram we liked (I was hoping we would find the budget ones to be just as nice as the posh ones) but it's no surprise the one we liked, a silvercross wayfarer, was about £750 with a car seat as well. There was no way we were going to pay that sort of money for a pram and my wife agreed (after all you could get a fiat 126 for that money! - see the classic cars for 0-5k thread...).
Once home we got searching online for a used bargain, all of which seemed to be around half the price of new, so a decent saving, but then one popped up on the local facebook selling group for £30 but no car seat included - so I dashed a few roads down to collect it, very pleased as it looks like new!
Then by chance the next day the matching car seat popped up on the same facebook group and in the same colour for £30 - again I dashed down and collected it and it also looks brand spanking new! So we got the fancy pram we wanted for just £60 which I am very pleased about.
It's obviously a bit early to be buying a pram, we only did so due to the bargain nature of it, but luckily my inlaws have space for us to store it in a loft until we need it.
The bonus is that my wife now has the bug for bargain hunting baby stuff, so she hasn't even considered new items for a lot of things and has just been looking at gumtree and facebook selling groups for things - a huge saving in the long run no doubt!
In other news we had an offer accepted on a house so with any luck we will be moving in the next few months, it will probably be a nightmare with a pregnant wife, especially as the house needs a bit of work doing to it whilst we will be living there, fingers crossed it all works out.
)The doctor sent her for a scan a couple of weeks ago as they were concerned because of what happened before but all looked to be healthy so far, we know it is still early days though.
It has definitely been a lot harder to get excited about it this time, but the other day we forced ourselves to get out and about and have a look at some baby things in john lewis.
We decided to ignore the prices and try to single out a pram we liked (I was hoping we would find the budget ones to be just as nice as the posh ones) but it's no surprise the one we liked, a silvercross wayfarer, was about £750 with a car seat as well. There was no way we were going to pay that sort of money for a pram and my wife agreed (after all you could get a fiat 126 for that money! - see the classic cars for 0-5k thread...).
Once home we got searching online for a used bargain, all of which seemed to be around half the price of new, so a decent saving, but then one popped up on the local facebook selling group for £30 but no car seat included - so I dashed a few roads down to collect it, very pleased as it looks like new!
Then by chance the next day the matching car seat popped up on the same facebook group and in the same colour for £30 - again I dashed down and collected it and it also looks brand spanking new! So we got the fancy pram we wanted for just £60 which I am very pleased about.
It's obviously a bit early to be buying a pram, we only did so due to the bargain nature of it, but luckily my inlaws have space for us to store it in a loft until we need it.
The bonus is that my wife now has the bug for bargain hunting baby stuff, so she hasn't even considered new items for a lot of things and has just been looking at gumtree and facebook selling groups for things - a huge saving in the long run no doubt!
In other news we had an offer accepted on a house so with any luck we will be moving in the next few months, it will probably be a nightmare with a pregnant wife, especially as the house needs a bit of work doing to it whilst we will be living there, fingers crossed it all works out.
z4RRSchris said:
SpeckledJim said:
It's nobody's business but the parents and (mainly) the child.
you would have thought that considering when you die your kids will still be of the age that they need to be looked after, you would have consulted your older children who will most likely end up looking after them. If you'd been asked by your father (who presumably was a good dad to you?) if you'd help look after your half brother and sister, if your dad died, would you have honestly said no?
If your dad was 45 instead of 65, would your answer be any different?
And if having told him 'no' your dad had then said 'ok, we won't have any more children then', how would you then feel?
I'm not but my best mate is, due date in June we were all in school together so know each other well. His wife has 2 other sisters who weirdly enough both got pregnant at roughly the same time and are due in April both with girls. My mate doesn't know the gender yet but would be funny if it was a girl.
Feel sorry for the wife dad having 3 daughters whom all are having their first kids within 3 months of each and the likelihood of the 3 grandkids to be girls as well.
Knowing the family well I feel sorry for my mate tbh not a family I want to be dealing with all the time, just think typical south wales valley family and yes proper tory hater type.
Feel sorry for the wife dad having 3 daughters whom all are having their first kids within 3 months of each and the likelihood of the 3 grandkids to be girls as well.
Knowing the family well I feel sorry for my mate tbh not a family I want to be dealing with all the time, just think typical south wales valley family and yes proper tory hater type.
As of Tuesday morning, I’m now a Dad!
My daughter Emily Charlotte was born 9th January and weighed in at 7lb 6oz. Mum and baby all doing well and we are all very much in love and adoration of our new little one!
My wife had a pretty restless night on Sunday night and we thought it was all go on Monday morning but was a frustrating false alarm. However, Monday evening contractions started again and got to a point where she wanted me to time them. Got to the 5 minute mark and called the hospital and they said to go in. Arrived just before midnight and then at 5.08am my wife was holding the baby entirely exhausted and confused about the whole situation whilst the gas and air wore off!
Back home now... trying to work out how to do this all. One thing becoming fast apparent is that I need to work out how to sleep better or how to function better with less sleep... currently I’m all fingers and thumbs with basic tasks and can’t remember why I’ve gone upstairs.
I’m definitely glad I started this thread. Many thanks to the helpful people - happy to keep it going for anybody just staring on this adventure for sure!
My daughter Emily Charlotte was born 9th January and weighed in at 7lb 6oz. Mum and baby all doing well and we are all very much in love and adoration of our new little one!
My wife had a pretty restless night on Sunday night and we thought it was all go on Monday morning but was a frustrating false alarm. However, Monday evening contractions started again and got to a point where she wanted me to time them. Got to the 5 minute mark and called the hospital and they said to go in. Arrived just before midnight and then at 5.08am my wife was holding the baby entirely exhausted and confused about the whole situation whilst the gas and air wore off!
Back home now... trying to work out how to do this all. One thing becoming fast apparent is that I need to work out how to sleep better or how to function better with less sleep... currently I’m all fingers and thumbs with basic tasks and can’t remember why I’ve gone upstairs.
I’m definitely glad I started this thread. Many thanks to the helpful people - happy to keep it going for anybody just staring on this adventure for sure!
Congratulations! Now the fun and bonding begins, and lovely experiences like the first family trip out.
Based on our experience five weeks in I suggest you and your OH work on your winding technique as it’s been critical to our daughter’s ability to sleep. If we don’t manage to get all of it out then she doesn’t settle and we all pay the price.
There are products too which can help but it’s very hit and miss depending on the individual baby. We tried Infacol which worked initially but made her constipated, gripe water which is quite good and now Gaviscon Infant which is great.
Based on our experience five weeks in I suggest you and your OH work on your winding technique as it’s been critical to our daughter’s ability to sleep. If we don’t manage to get all of it out then she doesn’t settle and we all pay the price.
There are products too which can help but it’s very hit and miss depending on the individual baby. We tried Infacol which worked initially but made her constipated, gripe water which is quite good and now Gaviscon Infant which is great.
Congrats to all the new borns.
I'm 5 months in at the moment with my first, time has flown. We got a couple weeks or so of her sleeping from 11 until about 6/7, now she wakes up at 2 / 3 am starving hungry.
Just when you think "Ah, I can live like this", bam. Wouldn't change her for the world though.
Although as she refused to take the breast, we tried everything from getting a minor tongue tie sorted, twice weekly support groups to cranial osteopathy. Nothing worked. She now has a bottle of cold or what ever temperature it comes out the fridge, expressed milk. As long as they're putting weight on and happy, I don't care if it comes from her attaching to the boob or attaching to the bottle.
Got Mum attached to a pump every 4 hours, which is exceptionally tiring for her, but shes making about 1.6litres of milk a day. Means we can freeze half and have ample supply for later, but also means we have 4 (Yes, 4!!!) freezers in the house.
She spent 8 weeks in a Pavlik harness due to borderline hip socket shape and is out of that now. Just got little froggy legs that need to drop.
Lots of work and very tiring, Stupidly busy with work to get home and have all time sucked up by her.
Mum suffering from baby blues too, seems to go from "Why does she hate me" to full of loving cuddles, so trying to help there but there's not really a lot I feel like I can do to help.
I'm 5 months in at the moment with my first, time has flown. We got a couple weeks or so of her sleeping from 11 until about 6/7, now she wakes up at 2 / 3 am starving hungry.
Just when you think "Ah, I can live like this", bam. Wouldn't change her for the world though.
Although as she refused to take the breast, we tried everything from getting a minor tongue tie sorted, twice weekly support groups to cranial osteopathy. Nothing worked. She now has a bottle of cold or what ever temperature it comes out the fridge, expressed milk. As long as they're putting weight on and happy, I don't care if it comes from her attaching to the boob or attaching to the bottle.
Got Mum attached to a pump every 4 hours, which is exceptionally tiring for her, but shes making about 1.6litres of milk a day. Means we can freeze half and have ample supply for later, but also means we have 4 (Yes, 4!!!) freezers in the house.
She spent 8 weeks in a Pavlik harness due to borderline hip socket shape and is out of that now. Just got little froggy legs that need to drop.
Lots of work and very tiring, Stupidly busy with work to get home and have all time sucked up by her.
Mum suffering from baby blues too, seems to go from "Why does she hate me" to full of loving cuddles, so trying to help there but there's not really a lot I feel like I can do to help.
My wee man arrived last Wednesday, Friday night he was ambulanced back into hospital with breathing difficulties (suspected sepsis). Tough watching your 2 day old baby in a plastic tank with lights, tubes and wires everywhere. Particularly tough on a hormonal new mum who can't hold/feed her baby. Thankfully now doing much better and we expect to have him out this weekend when his antibiotic course is complete.
Since this seems to have simply become the 'Dad thread', thought I would ask for opinions on baby carriers, what's good? We never had one for our daughter but think it will help when there are 2 to look after!
Since this seems to have simply become the 'Dad thread', thought I would ask for opinions on baby carriers, what's good? We never had one for our daughter but think it will help when there are 2 to look after!
rsbmw said:
My wee man arrived last Wednesday, Friday night he was ambulanced back into hospital with breathing difficulties (suspected sepsis). Tough watching your 2 day old baby in a plastic tank with lights, tubes and wires everywhere. Particularly tough on a hormonal new mum who can't hold/feed her baby. Thankfully now doing much better and we expect to have him out this weekend when his antibiotic course is complete.
Since this seems to have simply become the 'Dad thread', thought I would ask for opinions on baby carriers, what's good? We never had one for our daughter but think it will help when there are 2 to look after!
Glad to hear things are heading in the right direction. Muchos stress.Since this seems to have simply become the 'Dad thread', thought I would ask for opinions on baby carriers, what's good? We never had one for our daughter but think it will help when there are 2 to look after!
We had a sling for the second but to be fair it didn't get much use, quickly switched to a Stokke carrier - which you can use as front (facing in or facing out) and on your back. Quite versatile and well made.
See if there is a "sling library" near you and try a few? Like carrying a backpack, everyone's body is different. A well fitting one is a life saver when you they get heavier.
Vaud said:
Glad to hear things are heading in the right direction. Muchos stress.
We had a sling for the second but to be fair it didn't get much use, quickly switched to a Stokke carrier - which you can use as front (facing in or facing out) and on your back. Quite versatile and well made.
See if there is a "sling library" near you and try a few? Like carrying a backpack, everyone's body is different. A well fitting one is a life saver when you they get heavier.
I'll second the Stokke carrier. Superb bit of kit. You can choose to have the backpack style or not. We had a sling for the second but to be fair it didn't get much use, quickly switched to a Stokke carrier - which you can use as front (facing in or facing out) and on your back. Quite versatile and well made.
See if there is a "sling library" near you and try a few? Like carrying a backpack, everyone's body is different. A well fitting one is a life saver when you they get heavier.
Great to pop in the lil man and have hands free to do stuff.
I tried out a fair few (best to try with the little one) and found a lot of the top recommend ones were a real faff to get on and off.
The larger John Lewis stores have a good range of slings in and are happy for people to test them out as well as the "sling library" mentioned above.
Hi said:
Well after having a miscarriage back in October, we are back on track and she is about 10 weeks along so far (didn't take us long )
The doctor sent her for a scan a couple of weeks ago as they were concerned because of what happened before but all looked to be healthy so far, we know it is still early days though.
It has definitely been a lot harder to get excited about it this time, but the other day we forced ourselves to get out and about and have a look at some baby things in john lewis.
We decided to ignore the prices and try to single out a pram we liked (I was hoping we would find the budget ones to be just as nice as the posh ones) but it's no surprise the one we liked, a silvercross wayfarer, was about £750 with a car seat as well. There was no way we were going to pay that sort of money for a pram and my wife agreed (after all you could get a fiat 126 for that money! - see the classic cars for 0-5k thread...).
Once home we got searching online for a used bargain, all of which seemed to be around half the price of new, so a decent saving, but then one popped up on the local facebook selling group for £30 but no car seat included - so I dashed a few roads down to collect it, very pleased as it looks like new!
Then by chance the next day the matching car seat popped up on the same facebook group and in the same colour for £30 - again I dashed down and collected it and it also looks brand spanking new! So we got the fancy pram we wanted for just £60 which I am very pleased about.
It's obviously a bit early to be buying a pram, we only did so due to the bargain nature of it, but luckily my inlaws have space for us to store it in a loft until we need it.
The bonus is that my wife now has the bug for bargain hunting baby stuff, so she hasn't even considered new items for a lot of things and has just been looking at gumtree and facebook selling groups for things - a huge saving in the long run no doubt!
In other news we had an offer accepted on a house so with any luck we will be moving in the next few months, it will probably be a nightmare with a pregnant wife, especially as the house needs a bit of work doing to it whilst we will be living there, fingers crossed it all works out.
Congratulations, wishing you all the best! )The doctor sent her for a scan a couple of weeks ago as they were concerned because of what happened before but all looked to be healthy so far, we know it is still early days though.
It has definitely been a lot harder to get excited about it this time, but the other day we forced ourselves to get out and about and have a look at some baby things in john lewis.
We decided to ignore the prices and try to single out a pram we liked (I was hoping we would find the budget ones to be just as nice as the posh ones) but it's no surprise the one we liked, a silvercross wayfarer, was about £750 with a car seat as well. There was no way we were going to pay that sort of money for a pram and my wife agreed (after all you could get a fiat 126 for that money! - see the classic cars for 0-5k thread...).
Once home we got searching online for a used bargain, all of which seemed to be around half the price of new, so a decent saving, but then one popped up on the local facebook selling group for £30 but no car seat included - so I dashed a few roads down to collect it, very pleased as it looks like new!
Then by chance the next day the matching car seat popped up on the same facebook group and in the same colour for £30 - again I dashed down and collected it and it also looks brand spanking new! So we got the fancy pram we wanted for just £60 which I am very pleased about.
It's obviously a bit early to be buying a pram, we only did so due to the bargain nature of it, but luckily my inlaws have space for us to store it in a loft until we need it.
The bonus is that my wife now has the bug for bargain hunting baby stuff, so she hasn't even considered new items for a lot of things and has just been looking at gumtree and facebook selling groups for things - a huge saving in the long run no doubt!
In other news we had an offer accepted on a house so with any luck we will be moving in the next few months, it will probably be a nightmare with a pregnant wife, especially as the house needs a bit of work doing to it whilst we will be living there, fingers crossed it all works out.
Good skills on the economising. We went ‘new’ for pretty much everything (blessed with a shedload of John Lewis vouchers from our wedding) but in hindsight I’d have gone for used bargains. We’ve got essentially a nursery full of barely used baby gear (slings, carrying gubbins, carry seats etc etc) that we’ll eventually flog on pretty much once we’re certain we’re not having a second (unlikely, but never say never!)
Same thing with clothes, they go through them in no time. I don’t think I’d ever set foot in a charity shop before we had a kid, now I love a good hunt in one. I can spend as much as I like on presents for him, but nothing will currently impress our son as much as the Postman Pat van I picked up in Age Concern for a quid!
+ another for sling libraries, I really liked the Close Caboo - simple to put on, easy to pick junior up and drop junior into, pull straps tight, walk.
SWMBO wanted to get a wrap one, borrowed one from the library, returned it without putting it on once, it was a faf to get everything tight enough, tied up, etc.
Junior at 6 months and 7kg is getting pretty big for a sling, but is still not sitting up enough for the backpack chair thing. Pushchair gets used lots!
SWMBO wanted to get a wrap one, borrowed one from the library, returned it without putting it on once, it was a faf to get everything tight enough, tied up, etc.
Junior at 6 months and 7kg is getting pretty big for a sling, but is still not sitting up enough for the backpack chair thing. Pushchair gets used lots!
PurpleTurtle said:
Same thing with clothes, they go through them in no time. I don’t think I’d ever set foot in a charity shop before we had a kid, now I love a good hunt in one.
Local facebook groups (buy/sell) tend to be good as well. The second hand market is almost worthless, so lots of people give clothes away (at least in our area)Still counting down to the end of April here.
Been a bit stressful before Christmas as my wife had a really bad cough and chest which culminated in her ringing me one lunchtime saying she couldn't breath and was off to A&E. She was diagnosed with pregnancy induced asthma (which neither of us had heard of before) and given steroids and inhalers.
10.30 that night we were back in A&E as she was still having trouble breathing. Ended up being admitted to the respiratory ward for 3 days. All fine now and baby seems unaffected by it all.
A week later she got bitten on the wrist by our 20 year old, senile cat. Really deep, a surprising amount of blood and a lot of swelling so another trip to A&E for a check up and antibiotics.
Apart from that we've been busy moving our daughter into her new 'big' room. All painted (pink) and new furniture. Bed arriving at the start of Feb so hopefully she will be fully adjusted to it by the time her brother arrives.
Been a bit stressful before Christmas as my wife had a really bad cough and chest which culminated in her ringing me one lunchtime saying she couldn't breath and was off to A&E. She was diagnosed with pregnancy induced asthma (which neither of us had heard of before) and given steroids and inhalers.
10.30 that night we were back in A&E as she was still having trouble breathing. Ended up being admitted to the respiratory ward for 3 days. All fine now and baby seems unaffected by it all.
A week later she got bitten on the wrist by our 20 year old, senile cat. Really deep, a surprising amount of blood and a lot of swelling so another trip to A&E for a check up and antibiotics.
Apart from that we've been busy moving our daughter into her new 'big' room. All painted (pink) and new furniture. Bed arriving at the start of Feb so hopefully she will be fully adjusted to it by the time her brother arrives.
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