Any other expectant Dads?
Discussion
captainzep said:
Vaud said:
C-sections need a lot of recovery. Do everything involving lifting and stretching for the next 2-3 months...
...driving too. That was the thing that hit us after the caesar. She found walking to be the best recovery. Avoiding Yoga, etc for 12-14 weeks. The internal recovery takes a lot longer than the external recovery.
It can be small things - reaching for a high cupboard, changing sheets, duvet covers, etc... best for dad to do a lot!
Overdoing it is very easier and patience is needed (from everyone)
Zammy said:
About to be a first time Dad in a couple of weeks, to be honest I'm bricking it, I think we have the main things we need, travel system, cot, moses basket, first clothes and newborn nappies for the baby.
We have pretty good family/friends support but I guess it's just nerves now.
Best of luck, you'll have to let us know how it goes. We have pretty good family/friends support but I guess it's just nerves now.
About to be a Dad for first time at tender age of 38.
Wife is 33 and currently 36weeks pregnant,
we are have a C-section due to previous health conditions.
(Spinal Cord Stimulator)
Due date Friday 13th October
House has just finally been completed, e.g. all rooms redecorated. and Have a Nursery theme, with friggin £40 a roll wallpaper.
installed Nest smoke/CO2 alarms,.
Wife is determined on breast feeding, thank god of ebay (brand new pumps £250+)
Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
haven't had sex with wife in 3 months, not just for lack of getting into position, but the FEAR of a a little hand pulling on it while on on the job, or it kicking me. lol
Oh and car insurance is min 6weeks, some companies ask for doctors note for the all clear before being covered.
Wife is 33 and currently 36weeks pregnant,
we are have a C-section due to previous health conditions.
(Spinal Cord Stimulator)
Due date Friday 13th October
House has just finally been completed, e.g. all rooms redecorated. and Have a Nursery theme, with friggin £40 a roll wallpaper.
installed Nest smoke/CO2 alarms,.
Wife is determined on breast feeding, thank god of ebay (brand new pumps £250+)
Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
haven't had sex with wife in 3 months, not just for lack of getting into position, but the FEAR of a a little hand pulling on it while on on the job, or it kicking me. lol
Oh and car insurance is min 6weeks, some companies ask for doctors note for the all clear before being covered.
Edited by MURRAY007 on Monday 18th September 16:33
MURRAY007 said:
About to be a Dad for first time at tender age of 38.
Wife is 33 and currently 36weeks pregnant,
we are have a C-section due to previous health conditions.
(Spinal Cord Stimulator)
Due date Friday 13th October
House has just finally been completed, e.g. all rooms redecorated. and Have a Nursery theme, with friggin £40 a roll wallpaper.
installed Nest smoke/CO2 alarms,.
Wife is determined on breast feeding, thank god of ebay (brand new pumps £250+)
Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
haven't had sex with wife in 3 months, not just for lack of getting into position, but the FEAR of a a little hand pulling on it while on on the job, or it kicking me. lol
Oh and car insurance is min 6weeks, some companies ask for doctors note for the all clear before being covered.
Make the most of you last few weeks of freedom and you own time as this is the end.Wife is 33 and currently 36weeks pregnant,
we are have a C-section due to previous health conditions.
(Spinal Cord Stimulator)
Due date Friday 13th October
House has just finally been completed, e.g. all rooms redecorated. and Have a Nursery theme, with friggin £40 a roll wallpaper.
installed Nest smoke/CO2 alarms,.
Wife is determined on breast feeding, thank god of ebay (brand new pumps £250+)
Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
haven't had sex with wife in 3 months, not just for lack of getting into position, but the FEAR of a a little hand pulling on it while on on the job, or it kicking me. lol
Oh and car insurance is min 6weeks, some companies ask for doctors note for the all clear before being covered.
Edited by MURRAY007 on Monday 18th September 16:33
Well all went to plan, c-sections are considerably better than natural births! 
, baby girl, 8lbs 1oz.
We have the MIL over for a month to help out while I'm at work. The wife is under strict instructions not to do anything strenuous but I can't see that happening, she isn't good at sitting still!
, baby girl, 8lbs 1oz.We have the MIL over for a month to help out while I'm at work. The wife is under strict instructions not to do anything strenuous but I can't see that happening, she isn't good at sitting still!
MURRAY007 said:
Wife is determined on breast feeding, thank god of ebay (brand new pumps £250+)
Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
Wishing you both all the best...Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
Couple of things, we were really keen on breastfeeding. When our first was born it went really wrong, couldn't latch on, wife in agony, breast pumps not really working, blood, baby not getting the nourishment it needed. -Crying through the night, wife getting close to post natal depression. We reluctantly tried formula milk and everything changed overnight. It was our saviour after a few weeks of unpleasant downward spiral and allowed me to take much more of a role in feeding. "Shift work" is the way we got through with designated times where the other knew they were free to get some sleep or just have some free time. Don't let "breast is best" NAZIs overule what can be a sensible pragmatic and somethimes very necessary choice.
-That said our second breastfed easily and seemed to a have a healthier first 2-3 years in terms of colds, ear infections etc. So it's still a worthwhile approach.
When it comes to the caesar and the big day, what happens is that after the op itself, you'll probably be taken away with the little one with a midwife who'll do all the weighing and blood tests. Then you'll go back to the ward/room and you could be there for a while without your wife/partner whilst she's being sewn up and finished with in theatre. -Be ready for this. I was OK because this experience was our second child, so I knew how to hold a new-born, change a tiny s
tty nappy etc. I even stuck my son up my jumper on my chest to do the skin-to-skin thing they recommend. He settled down warm and happy despite the chest hair! If it's all really new to you consider having a grandparent around if you're not confident or be really clear to the midwife that you want a hand so they or an MCA will keep an eye and help out. The simple things like being shown how to bath a newborn and change nappies properly was vital to us but we wouldn't have been shown if we hadn't asked.
captainzep said:
MURRAY007 said:
Wife is determined on breast feeding, thank god of ebay (brand new pumps £250+)
Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
Wishing you both all the best...Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
When our first was born it went really wrong, couldn't latch on, wife in agony, breast pumps not really working, blood, baby not getting the nourishment it needed. -Crying through the night, wife getting close to post natal depression. We reluctantly tried formula milk and everything changed overnight. It was our saviour after a few weeks of unpleasant downward spiral and allowed me to take much more of a role in feeding.
3rd day I went out for Aptamil and everything went a lot smoother from there. Dont let the Breastapo stand in the way of what you collectively decide you want to do.
andy-xr said:
Pretty much exact same experience here also, wanted to breastfeed, determined to try, everyone got stressed out, tears and snot everywhere.
3rd day I went out for Aptamil and everything went a lot smoother from there. Dont let the Breastapo stand in the way of what you collectively decide you want to do.
Quite. Try breastfeeding. If it doesnt work then so be it. No one has failed.3rd day I went out for Aptamil and everything went a lot smoother from there. Dont let the Breastapo stand in the way of what you collectively decide you want to do.
DRFC1879 said:
Oh and one more thing; the single best piece of advice I ever got:
Routine, routine, routine.
Routine.
Routine.
It'll be a pain in the arse missing things that you might do at certain times on certain days to start with but it'll save you so much aggro in the long run.
This all they way. Almost all the rest is common sense. Routine, routine, routine.
Routine.
Routine.
It'll be a pain in the arse missing things that you might do at certain times on certain days to start with but it'll save you so much aggro in the long run.
captainzep said:
MURRAY007 said:
Wife is determined on breast feeding, thank god of ebay (brand new pumps £250+)
Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
Wishing you both all the best...Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
Couple of things, we were really keen on breastfeeding. When our first was born it went really wrong, couldn't latch on, wife in agony, breast pumps not really working, blood, baby not getting the nourishment it needed. -Crying through the night, wife getting close to post natal depression. We reluctantly tried formula milk and everything changed overnight. It was our saviour after a few weeks of unpleasant downward spiral and allowed me to take much more of a role in feeding. "Shift work" is the way we got through with designated times where the other knew they were free to get some sleep or just have some free time. Don't let "breast is best" NAZIs overule what can be a sensible pragmatic and somethimes very necessary choice.
Davey S2 said:
DRFC1879 said:
Oh and one more thing; the single best piece of advice I ever got:
Routine, routine, routine.
Routine.
Routine.
It'll be a pain in the arse missing things that you might do at certain times on certain days to start with but it'll save you so much aggro in the long run.
This all they way. Almost all the rest is common sense. Routine, routine, routine.
Routine.
Routine.
It'll be a pain in the arse missing things that you might do at certain times on certain days to start with but it'll save you so much aggro in the long run.
We never do routine, never have, just aim to get our current toddler in bed by 8/9ish
Trouble with routine we find is as soon as your life changes or goes out of routine you are buggered, we just stay laid back and see how it goes , you get a more flexible child that way
Each to their own whatever works for you
First little 'scare' this afternoon of the pregnancy. My wife is a teacher and this afternoon one of the kids at school has hit her reasonably hard in the stomach. Not cool at all. Cue a panicked phone call from my wife's boss saying that her colleague is taking her to the hospital to check up. Lucky I'm only at my normal office 20 minutes away.
Fortunately all is ok, wife just having an anti-d injection as a precaution as she is has a rhesus negative blood type.
Fortunately all is ok, wife just having an anti-d injection as a precaution as she is has a rhesus negative blood type.
Shakermaker said:
First little 'scare' this afternoon of the pregnancy. My wife is a teacher and this afternoon one of the kids at school has hit her reasonably hard in the stomach. Not cool at all. Cue a panicked phone call from my wife's boss saying that her colleague is taking her to the hospital to check up. Lucky I'm only at my normal office 20 minutes away.
Fortunately all is ok, wife just having an anti-d injection as a precaution as she is has a rhesus negative blood type.
Scary!Fortunately all is ok, wife just having an anti-d injection as a precaution as she is has a rhesus negative blood type.
Hopefully the school take appropriate action as well..
MURRAY007 said:
About to be a Dad for first time at tender age of 38.
Wife is 33 and currently 36weeks pregnant,
we are have a C-section due to previous health conditions.
(Spinal Cord Stimulator)
Due date Friday 13th October
House has just finally been completed, e.g. all rooms redecorated. and Have a Nursery theme, with friggin £40 a roll wallpaper.
installed Nest smoke/CO2 alarms,.
Wife is determined on breast feeding, thank god of ebay (brand new pumps £250+)
Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
haven't had sex with wife in 3 months, not just for lack of getting into position, but the FEAR of a a little hand pulling on it while on on the job, or it kicking me. lol
Oh and car insurance is min 6weeks, some companies ask for doctors note for the all clear before being covered.
Good luck fella. Wife is 33 and currently 36weeks pregnant,
we are have a C-section due to previous health conditions.
(Spinal Cord Stimulator)
Due date Friday 13th October
House has just finally been completed, e.g. all rooms redecorated. and Have a Nursery theme, with friggin £40 a roll wallpaper.
installed Nest smoke/CO2 alarms,.
Wife is determined on breast feeding, thank god of ebay (brand new pumps £250+)
Finally coming to terms with me having a baby, excited and bricking it at same time.
haven't had sex with wife in 3 months, not just for lack of getting into position, but the FEAR of a a little hand pulling on it while on on the job, or it kicking me. lol
Oh and car insurance is min 6weeks, some companies ask for doctors note for the all clear before being covered.
Edited by MURRAY007 on Monday 18th September 16:33
Things I didn't know about breastfeeding:
1) How much they leak - you can get these 'catcher' devices that pop in the bra to collect it - you'll be amazed at the 'harvest'.
2) The whole concept of freezing breast milk. Before long we has a morning pumping system going on akin to a minor dairy - top draw of the freezer constantly full of bags of it!
3) The nipple pain. Lansinoh is your friend. Well, your wife's friend. I came back from Superdrug with some cheapo 2 quid stuff, got a b
king, returned for some of this at about 4 times the price! https://www.lansinoh.co.uk/products/hpa-lanolin1 and 2 might sound like me making light but, after a few months my wife was able to go out and have a social life whilst I was able to give him a bottle feed at night. By then she was crawling the walls to do something other than being a baby feeding machine, so a few hours of freedom where the boy wasn't chained to the boob was brilliant.
Oh, and on about the tenth night of me hovering over my wife whilst our son drank very little on the boob, I finally snapped because I could see exactly what was going wrong (she ws having none of it until this point) and said "Look, he's not feeding because in your worry to support his neck, you're squashing his face too far in, he's uncomfortable and won't feed. Watch this YouTube video on how to do it"
Cue one complete and utter hormonal hissy fit. Then, when she finally came down off the ceiling, she relented and watched said YouTube video. 20 minutes later we had a happy feeding baby (who remained a keen boob feeder until he was 12 months old) and I got my iPad back and returned to surfing PH. Just needed a tweak to the technique.
Edited by PurpleTurtle on Friday 22 September 16:59
Have we had any births yet? Or is it just that everyone who has had one so far has been too exhausted to post anything up?
Only 5 weeks to go now until we meet the little one! We seem to have bought almost everything we could possibly need, we have done all of the classes, we have packed our bags. Just need to wait now...
Only 5 weeks to go now until we meet the little one! We seem to have bought almost everything we could possibly need, we have done all of the classes, we have packed our bags. Just need to wait now...
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