Any other expectant Dads?
Discussion
juggsy said:
We’re also planning to move our 2yo into a new room as part of his transition to big brother, as his current room is more ideal as a nursery. Any tips on how best to prepare our first born so he doesn’t feel left out/jealous etc. when no.2 arrives?
Move him a little while before #2 arrives, so he thinks it's about him moving-up rather than #2 'kicking him out'. Plus if you're redecorating the room (I assume you will), then you'll want that planned and out of the way...havoc said:
Move him a little while before #2 arrives, so he thinks it's about him moving-up rather than #2 'kicking him out'. Plus if you're redecorating the room (I assume you will), then you'll want that planned and out of the way...
Cheers, yeah that’s exactly the plan, hoping to have him in before Christmas. And I kid you not he’s asked for a car theme when we decorate. He’ll be signing up for PH shortly.Vaud said:
“Hey Duggee is cracking, Space Badge all the way.”
Not stick badge? Sticky sticky stick stick. Sticky sticky stick stick. Sticky sticky stick stick.
As much as I found it hilarious when it came out, we always find ourselves coming back to the space badge, might be the retro soundtrack?Not stick badge? Sticky sticky stick stick. Sticky sticky stick stick. Sticky sticky stick stick.
havoc said:
Blown2CV said:
anyone else on here have experience of missus giving birth by planned C-section when you have a two year old knocking around? Parents are 30-60 mins away too so they cannot occupy the place for a few weeks to help! Mrs 2CV gave me absolute s
t today because i admitted i was a bit scared about how I might handle it, as I will end up spending lots of time with my daughter (toddler) which is nice, but i am panicking about being the only one in the house who cannot get any sleep at all...
Not a 2y.o. no, but we've just been through C-section #2 with little local family support.t today because i admitted i was a bit scared about how I might handle it, as I will end up spending lots of time with my daughter (toddler) which is nice, but i am panicking about being the only one in the house who cannot get any sleep at all...1) How much time can you get off work? Not having to work makes a big difference as you can afford to be on autopilot, to some degree.
2) Is #1 in nursery at all? i.e. will you get any days respite during the week?
3) Any opportunity for play-dates for #1? Or would she feel happy doing a sleep-over with grandparents for a couple of days? (Not straight away, but maybe 2nd week...)
4) Does #1 still nap during the day? If so, the old rule still applies - sleep when they sleep. If not, have you tried giving her alcohol*?!?
5) Get #1 involved in #2's life as much as practical. Joint play, joint cuddles, stories with baby around, etc... Make her feel part of it as much as possible, minimise the jealousy risk. Esp. if she's a mummy's girl at the mo'...
6) Try and arrange a daddy/daughter day out somewhere she likes. Not a long day (for several reasons), but to remind her she's still your #1 girl.
If Mrs2CV is having a section; then:-
- She'll be in hospital for 2-3 days (they like kicking them out ASAP now)
- She may not want anyone around for the second week anyway (baby blues kick in +/- day-7 typically)
- She MAY be mobile a lot quicker than Vaud suggests. Becs' was moving freely after about 2 weeks and trying to do most not-too-heavy stuff (carefully). Was still tired and recovering though...
- Make sure she takes proper care of the wound. Help her if needed. Last thing she needs is that getting infected...
* Joke. Honestly...it's a joke.
Blown2CV said:
well i am having an additional 2 weeks SPL and the first week of that is after the standard paternity... so 3 weeks at the crucial point which will be essential i think. Yes fair point I think - my daughter is in nursery mon+tues so that will still be in effect and probably quite welcome, although i feel bad saying it. Plan to get her involved as much as possible and i think she will be good at that. I think the thing i am nervous about is being a bit proud and not really wanting to beg for assistance, so I can imagine I will be run ragged for 3 weeks looking after the three of them and the house, cooking, cleaning etc... i mean i did that all last time but didn't have a toddler up in my grill!!
Don't feel bad about them being in nursery. Some things belong at nursery. Glitter and sand to name but two.Batch cook...
Some friends with 2 (before we had a 2nd) said, for 6 months write off the house. It's about survival and keeping everyone well. A tidy house is a bonus.
Get a cleaner for a few hours a week if you can afford to for laborious stuff like bathroom, toilets, vacuuming.
I found a schedule helped (which days to do clothes washing, etc). Online shopping is handy but it's nice to get out of the house and the baby will sleep so much it is a good opportunity to give her a break (ditto doing nursery run - take the baby with you)
Blown2CV said:
...although i feel bad saying it.
Don't be. You need 'you' time (both you and the missus)...don't ever feel guilty for that...you're not supposed to be parents and nothing else now.Blown2CV said:
I think the thing i am nervous about is being a bit proud and not really wanting to beg for assistance...
Again, park the "pretend we're perfect" middle-class expectations, do what YOU need to do to ensure everyone survives the next 6 months healthily and happily. If that means asking grandparents to visit and overnight, or seeing if #1 can have a play-date somewhere, then do it.Someone earlier suggested using Aldi nappies for daytime and and the pampers 12hr ones for when they sleep...
Have to say pretty good idea - the pampers seem to be working better overnight - even though at first they feel lighter and less substantial ..
On another note we are looking to get a travel pushchair as plan to do a fair bit of trips over the next year or so..
Requirements are :
Must fit in overhead lockers on the plane - do not want to check it in
Easy to use
Will be suitable for daily use when on travels.
Have narrowed it down to either ..
Joie Pact Lite stroller - £150
Babyzen Yoyo - £360
Anyone have experience with either one ?
Have to say pretty good idea - the pampers seem to be working better overnight - even though at first they feel lighter and less substantial ..
On another note we are looking to get a travel pushchair as plan to do a fair bit of trips over the next year or so..
Requirements are :
Must fit in overhead lockers on the plane - do not want to check it in
Easy to use
Will be suitable for daily use when on travels.
Have narrowed it down to either ..
Joie Pact Lite stroller - £150
Babyzen Yoyo - £360
Anyone have experience with either one ?
havoc said:
Blown2CV said:
...although i feel bad saying it.
Don't be. You need 'you' time (both you and the missus)...don't ever feel guilty for that...you're not supposed to be parents and nothing else now.Blown2CV said:
I think the thing i am nervous about is being a bit proud and not really wanting to beg for assistance...
Again, park the "pretend we're perfect" middle-class expectations, do what YOU need to do to ensure everyone survives the next 6 months healthily and happily. If that means asking grandparents to visit and overnight, or seeing if #1 can have a play-date somewhere, then do it.Our first will be in nursery a few days a week when no2 comes along, given we’ll be knackered and remembering how to look after a baby again, plus he has his little mates and loads of activities, I have no qualms about having him 2 or 3 days in whilst we get acquainted with the new arrival!
Vaud said:
Our friends travel a lot and swear by the Mountain Buggy Nano.
We have the Mountain Buggy Nano. Plus points - it fits as cabin baggage (some airlines you may need to pop the wheels off but just came back flying BA no issues), cheaper than the Yoyo, ok storage area, fairly light. Downsides - can be fiddly to fold until you get the knack (wife still struggles), our son seems to be a bit slouched in it although hasn’t complained, the hood bit seems to flop about when folded and comes away from the body, ironically not great over rough terrain despite the name.
I think there’s a v2 out now so not all the above may apply. Best bet is to try them all in a shop and see which you prefer for size/weight/features
Well, this happened on Thursday!! Little Ruby Clarinda Iris Blewett was born just after 1pm.
I have to say, I wasn't ready for the feeling of love that hit me as soon as she was born. I'm not at all emotional normally, but I found myself welling up when I thought her and my wife the first couple of days.
C-section went as planned an no complications for my wife, just took a bit of time to get the spinal anisthetic in.
Back home now (2 and 1/2 days in hospital after a c section is hard work!!) And she's doing really well. Only slight issue is they found a slight hear murmur when they carried out her new baby examination, so we have to go for an ECG tomorrow and then an ultrasound in the next couple of weeks. The hear consultant was 70_80% confident that it would just go by itself though so fingers crossed.
Anyway, been a hell of a journey so far, can't wait for the next however many years with her!!!
I have to say, I wasn't ready for the feeling of love that hit me as soon as she was born. I'm not at all emotional normally, but I found myself welling up when I thought her and my wife the first couple of days.
C-section went as planned an no complications for my wife, just took a bit of time to get the spinal anisthetic in.
Back home now (2 and 1/2 days in hospital after a c section is hard work!!) And she's doing really well. Only slight issue is they found a slight hear murmur when they carried out her new baby examination, so we have to go for an ECG tomorrow and then an ultrasound in the next couple of weeks. The hear consultant was 70_80% confident that it would just go by itself though so fingers crossed.
Anyway, been a hell of a journey so far, can't wait for the next however many years with her!!!
Congrats tomble22! 
I’ve got a little girl on the way in 6 months. My wife is over the moon that the baby is a girl.
I weren’t fussed wether we have a boy or a girl but I have so many thoughts now and feelings now that the gender has been revealed.
I was excited about dressing a boy similar to me. I won’t have a clue in regards to a girl
Find myself wanting to learn MMA and becoming a full on badass to protect her. She hasn’t even been born yet whereas if it was a boy I’d have been chilled about it.
I can understand the jokes about protective dads!
I’ve seen a maxi Cosi iso Fix 2 way car seat base
second hand for £50. Would people buy bases that are second hand?
Wife most definitely doesn’t want a second hand car seat. I can’t see the big deal in it but I don’t know, I guess you can’t be too sure and spending £100 more or so guarantees that it is brand new
I’ve got a little girl on the way in 6 months. My wife is over the moon that the baby is a girl.
I weren’t fussed wether we have a boy or a girl but I have so many thoughts now and feelings now that the gender has been revealed.
I was excited about dressing a boy similar to me. I won’t have a clue in regards to a girl
Find myself wanting to learn MMA and becoming a full on badass to protect her. She hasn’t even been born yet whereas if it was a boy I’d have been chilled about it.
I can understand the jokes about protective dads!
I’ve seen a maxi Cosi iso Fix 2 way car seat base
second hand for £50. Would people buy bases that are second hand?
Wife most definitely doesn’t want a second hand car seat. I can’t see the big deal in it but I don’t know, I guess you can’t be too sure and spending £100 more or so guarantees that it is brand new
Congrats tombles.
Maxi Cosi base - yeah that should be fine (we did with #1), just check the date-stamp on it - they do issue a 'best before' date on them, typically 10 years from manufacture.
Does it matter? Dunno...possibly not - it's plastic not polystyrene...but I guess it could start changing structure slightly over time.
Maxi Cosi base - yeah that should be fine (we did with #1), just check the date-stamp on it - they do issue a 'best before' date on them, typically 10 years from manufacture.
Does it matter? Dunno...possibly not - it's plastic not polystyrene...but I guess it could start changing structure slightly over time.
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