Any other expectant Dads?
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Animal said:
How do I work out which car seat/pushchair combo to get?!
We are going to go with the MaxiCosi Cabriofix to begin with, as many of our friends have this and it seems to work well, along with the FamilyFix base to live in one of our cars. My parents are kindly gifting this to us, to save some expense.This all seems to fit together with a few different pushchair manufacturers, the wife has her heart set on the iCandy, and I like either that or the UppaBaby because both have handles which extend far enough up that I can push without being stooped over. Both of these have adapters to fit on to the pushchair chassis. And her mum is buying this.. another expense we can save.
Now to decide which nursery furniture to get!
Shakermaker said:
We are going to go with the MaxiCosi Cabriofix to begin with, as many of our friends have this and it seems to work well, along with the FamilyFix base to live in one of our cars. My parents are kindly gifting this to us, to save some expense.
This all seems to fit together with a few different pushchair manufacturers, the wife has her heart set on the iCandy, and I like either that or the UppaBaby because both have handles which extend far enough up that I can push without being stooped over. Both of these have adapters to fit on to the pushchair chassis. And her mum is buying this.. another expense we can save.
Now to decide which nursery furniture to get!
Fortunately the nursery furniture has already been chosen, I just have to pay for it and put it together.This all seems to fit together with a few different pushchair manufacturers, the wife has her heart set on the iCandy, and I like either that or the UppaBaby because both have handles which extend far enough up that I can push without being stooped over. Both of these have adapters to fit on to the pushchair chassis. And her mum is buying this.. another expense we can save.
Now to decide which nursery furniture to get!
Had our 20 week scan on Friday.
Me being me, had to find out the sex (our second child).
I am the only person who knows as my misses didn't want to find out and i'm not allowed to tell anyone. (the deal for me finding out).
It's only been 3 days and already it's killing me not being able to tell anyone. Think I may have to start going to church.
Me being me, had to find out the sex (our second child).
I am the only person who knows as my misses didn't want to find out and i'm not allowed to tell anyone. (the deal for me finding out).
It's only been 3 days and already it's killing me not being able to tell anyone. Think I may have to start going to church.
Animal said:
How do I work out which car seat/pushchair combo to get?!
The perennial problem, discussed to death on many thread on PH! The answer being, 'the one that suits you best'.I spent hours and hours checking them all out in John Lewis, I even randomly asked people I saw pushing a potential purchase in the street if they'd recommend it!
We settled on an Uppababy Vista. We went 'new' because we were in those rose-tinted days of thinking that everything we got for the baby must be new - 2.5yrs down the line I'd have gone for a used one. It has been incredibly good for us, we are very outdoors-y, and go to a lot of music festivals. This thing has been dragged through the mud at loads of them and always comes up like new with a quick scrub. We had one issue with a supporting zip breaking on the underslung basket (I would say because my wife crams waaaaay too much into it) but Uppababy replaced it without question. They have changed the design of that on the new model coincidentally, perhaps we were not the only ones to have this problem.
6 months into ownership my wife decreed that although she loved it, it was a bit too heavy for her to be lifting into the car several times a day, she wanted a traditional Maclaren buggy as an additional 'car buggy' so the Uppababy remained in the house for day to day use. I thought she was moaning unnecessarily, but it turns out it was a good idea - we use the Uppababy for 75% of things, but the Maclaren lightweight is really handy if we, say, want to go into London for the day and need something that crashes down instantly on the Tube and can be carried on a shoulder strap, or can be left at the local soft play place without me worring that someone is going to walk off with 700 quid's worth of buggy, or put on a plane without worrying that baggage handlers are going to knacker it. Mothercare had an ex-demo at 50% off so we bought that. Both will be sold used to recoup some cash when we no longer use them.
You'd never have persuaded me at the time because I wanted shiny and new, but knowing what I know now I'd go used if buying again. There are some incredible bargains out there on eBay, one owner, low miles, FSH, never raced or rallied etc!
Hi all,
I hope it's ok to jump on this thread, we have just found out that my wife is pregnant! It is very very early stages (so if you know me in person please keep it quiet for now) and are due to see the doctor this week. We understand that the early stages of pregnancy can be risky so we are only planning on telling people when we need to (i.e. can't hide the bump any more).
We are very excited, it will be our first child and we are both at the stage in life where we both want children so all is good! (she's 25 and I'm 28). It is not going to be the easiest due to our personal situation at the moment, we are just starting up our own business and I am just starting my 2nd year of Uni, also we are planning on moving house in the coming months! But I'm sure we will be able to make it work, luckily the approx due date (by our calculations) will be just after my uni exams so I will have 3 months off to help out at the start.
We have already been idly looking and thinking about things we need to buy, but we have a long way to go yet so no need to rush out any get anything yet, plenty of time for research etc.
I do have some concerns, one of which may sound absurd, perhaps if any of you are in a similar boat you can shed some light?
First concern is about health, I have a genetic medical condition which I am concerned about passing on to the baby. Apparently there is a 50/50 chance of this happening and it can only be tested at 10-12 weeks. I doubt there is any advice anyone can give around this as it is quite specific!
Secondly - and this is the potentially absurd one - I am concerned about my wife during pregnancy and birth because she is tiny (5'1" size 4 and weighs 7 stone). This in itself is a potential issue, but coupled with the fact that I am 6'7" and 15 stone I am worried that the baby might be 'normal size' which will be large for my wifes small frame. Does the size of the parents have any correlation to the size of the baby? Sorry if this sounds absurd but it is a genuine concern of mine!
Anyway - the important bit...... we will need* to get a family car. The old Rolls Royce we have would probably suffice if it worked, but it doesn't so that's out the window. I have managed to persuade her that an RS6 avant is a good family car but I doubt the budget will stretch to that. So I have been looking at Phaetons and A8's
* There is of course no need at all, one of our many cars would do just fine, but it's a good excuse to try out some of the barges I've had my eye on for a while!
I hope it's ok to jump on this thread, we have just found out that my wife is pregnant! It is very very early stages (so if you know me in person please keep it quiet for now) and are due to see the doctor this week. We understand that the early stages of pregnancy can be risky so we are only planning on telling people when we need to (i.e. can't hide the bump any more).
We are very excited, it will be our first child and we are both at the stage in life where we both want children so all is good! (she's 25 and I'm 28). It is not going to be the easiest due to our personal situation at the moment, we are just starting up our own business and I am just starting my 2nd year of Uni, also we are planning on moving house in the coming months! But I'm sure we will be able to make it work, luckily the approx due date (by our calculations) will be just after my uni exams so I will have 3 months off to help out at the start.
We have already been idly looking and thinking about things we need to buy, but we have a long way to go yet so no need to rush out any get anything yet, plenty of time for research etc.
I do have some concerns, one of which may sound absurd, perhaps if any of you are in a similar boat you can shed some light?
First concern is about health, I have a genetic medical condition which I am concerned about passing on to the baby. Apparently there is a 50/50 chance of this happening and it can only be tested at 10-12 weeks. I doubt there is any advice anyone can give around this as it is quite specific!
Secondly - and this is the potentially absurd one - I am concerned about my wife during pregnancy and birth because she is tiny (5'1" size 4 and weighs 7 stone). This in itself is a potential issue, but coupled with the fact that I am 6'7" and 15 stone I am worried that the baby might be 'normal size' which will be large for my wifes small frame. Does the size of the parents have any correlation to the size of the baby? Sorry if this sounds absurd but it is a genuine concern of mine!
Anyway - the important bit...... we will need* to get a family car. The old Rolls Royce we have would probably suffice if it worked, but it doesn't so that's out the window. I have managed to persuade her that an RS6 avant is a good family car but I doubt the budget will stretch to that. So I have been looking at Phaetons and A8's
* There is of course no need at all, one of our many cars would do just fine, but it's a good excuse to try out some of the barges I've had my eye on for a while!
PurpleTurtle said:
Animal said:
How do I work out which car seat/pushchair combo to get?!
The perennial problem, discussed to death on many thread on PH! The answer being, 'the one that suits you best'.Hi said:
First concern is about health, I have a genetic medical condition which I am concerned about passing on to the baby. Apparently there is a 50/50 chance of this happening and it can only be tested at 10-12 weeks. I doubt there is any advice anyone can give around this as it is quite specific!
Sit tight and wait. No point worrying before the point at which worrying is relevant.And there's not much point worrying after that point either, since it doesn't help anything.
Good luck!
26-and-a-bit weeks now, 13-and-a-bit to go! Over the weekend we attended one of the "Window to the Womb" 3D scanning clinics, as we had a special offer voucher.
I was a little dubious to begin with given the proposed cost of this (usually as much as £150, we paid half that) for a 10-15 minute appointment. But, actually, it was really quite good. The ability to see features was very impressive.
I was right to expect that some of the other people attending would be a bit council but the person we dealt with was very good... I kind of got the feeling they know that my wife and I were not council (Nandos and TGI friday's excepted) but they were certainly very enjoyable.
We did then find out what we are expecting - a little girl is on the way! Whilst I hadn't really wanted to know, my wife definitely did, and since she's doing all the hard work I relented and I'm happy knowing. My parents and her mum are all also delighted with this of course, but we would be either way, a healthy baby girl.
Started thinking about shortening down the list of names that we both like, this is an area where there is little argument thankfully, we both have similar taste in names with only a couple of vetos from each side. Especially good given how my wife being a teacher would usually mean that at some point in her career, there has been a horrible child with a name I would have chosen!
Been offered some furniture as well to start putting in the nursery, always on the lookout for secondhand items that others no longer need so I am off this week to collect a nursing chair and a cot, for a nominal sum, rather than the £100s these can go for!
Now, in true PH style... how do I apply for a shotgun licence?
I was a little dubious to begin with given the proposed cost of this (usually as much as £150, we paid half that) for a 10-15 minute appointment. But, actually, it was really quite good. The ability to see features was very impressive.
I was right to expect that some of the other people attending would be a bit council but the person we dealt with was very good... I kind of got the feeling they know that my wife and I were not council (Nandos and TGI friday's excepted) but they were certainly very enjoyable.
We did then find out what we are expecting - a little girl is on the way! Whilst I hadn't really wanted to know, my wife definitely did, and since she's doing all the hard work I relented and I'm happy knowing. My parents and her mum are all also delighted with this of course, but we would be either way, a healthy baby girl.
Started thinking about shortening down the list of names that we both like, this is an area where there is little argument thankfully, we both have similar taste in names with only a couple of vetos from each side. Especially good given how my wife being a teacher would usually mean that at some point in her career, there has been a horrible child with a name I would have chosen!
Been offered some furniture as well to start putting in the nursery, always on the lookout for secondhand items that others no longer need so I am off this week to collect a nursing chair and a cot, for a nominal sum, rather than the £100s these can go for!
Now, in true PH style... how do I apply for a shotgun licence?
Finally got round to completing the Themed Nursery,
you can watch it here (1min 52s)
https://vimeo.com/236936627
you can watch it here (1min 52s)
https://vimeo.com/236936627
Shakermaker said:
Started thinking about shortening down the list of names that we both like, this is an area where there is little argument thankfully, we both have similar taste in names with only a couple of vetos from each side.
My only advice on names:1) google it. check you aren't calling them after a paedo, etc
2) Ask close trusted friends what it will be called in the playground. Kids are cruel, etc
3) Double check the initials. Being called Petra Isabelle Gabriella is all very pretty but not if it spells PIG.
Hub said:
Number two arrives a week on Monday. Life is about to get difficult again! Hope this one is a better sleeper and a bit more easygoing! Please?
They are all different. Number one was fine to 12 weeks and then a nightmare (Cot, etc), didn't sleep through until 3 years old. Number 2 is better so far, but then my wife is cosleeping, breastfeeding and just going with the flow. Much less stress and better blocks of sleep (2 x 4 hours normally, sometimes 6)
(Says in a very very quiet voice)
Just go with the flow, do all the work for the wife, let the baby be as relaxed as possible, PG Junior is now 13 weeks old, and is getting 6 hours sleep a night in one block, followed by a feed at 5 or 6 am, and then another sleep until about 9 or 10 am.
Yes, we are MEGA lucky she is doing this! - but it makes such a difference when you can get a good sleep yourself.
Just go with the flow, do all the work for the wife, let the baby be as relaxed as possible, PG Junior is now 13 weeks old, and is getting 6 hours sleep a night in one block, followed by a feed at 5 or 6 am, and then another sleep until about 9 or 10 am.
Yes, we are MEGA lucky she is doing this! - but it makes such a difference when you can get a good sleep yourself.
Vaud said:
Number 2 is better so far, but then my wife is cosleeping, breastfeeding and just going with the flow. Much less stress and better blocks of sleep (2 x 4 hours normally, sometimes 6)
Same here, little monkey is 23 months, still co-sleeping and still breastfeeding, albeit only at night now to get off to sleep. No drama, no battles, just go with the flow and do what works for you.Huntsman said:
Same here, little monkey is 23 months, still co-sleeping and still breastfeeding, albeit only at night now to get off to sleep. No drama, no battles, just go with the flow and do what works for you.
Exactly. Some health visitors have been known to frown upon it as there are some risks, but best to take their view as "advice" rather than "gospel" Vaud said:
Shakermaker said:
Started thinking about shortening down the list of names that we both like, this is an area where there is little argument thankfully, we both have similar taste in names with only a couple of vetos from each side.
My only advice on names:1) google it. check you aren't calling them after a paedo, etc
2) Ask close trusted friends what it will be called in the playground. Kids are cruel, etc
3) Double check the initials. Being called Petra Isabelle Gabriella is all very pretty but not if it spells PIG.
1. If the bad person you don't want to name your kid after isn't that well known (that you have to google it) then they certainly won't be remembered in a few years time (when it might start to matter). If your surname is West then calling your kid Fred isn't a great idea but you shouldn't need to go googling for peados...
2. And when you've got a name you love but your best friend hesitates before going "ummm.... yeah... that's um.... nice", you're then put off a perfectly decent name because of someone else's tastes.
Our method to choosing both our kids' names was simply to come up with a list of names we liked and cross off the vetoes from either side about 7 months before baby was due. Having settled on a couple of boys names and a couple of girls names, we then randomly heard a completely different name a month or two before baby was born which just "clicked" for both of us. Hearing a name in a natural conversation makes it easier to like/dislike than simply reading it on a list IYSWIM. That's how we came to name ours Victoria and Emily.
wiggy001 said:
I would actually say don't do either of the first 2 things:
1. If the bad person you don't want to name your kid after isn't that well known (that you have to google it) then they certainly won't be remembered in a few years time (when it might start to matter). If your surname is West then calling your kid Fred isn't a great idea but you shouldn't need to go googling for peados...
2. And when you've got a name you love but your best friend hesitates before going "ummm.... yeah... that's um.... nice", you're then put off a perfectly decent name because of someone else's tastes.
I follow your points, but sometimes parents are caught up in the moment and call their child things like Richard Head... whn a kind friend might have said, "hang on you do know..."1. If the bad person you don't want to name your kid after isn't that well known (that you have to google it) then they certainly won't be remembered in a few years time (when it might start to matter). If your surname is West then calling your kid Fred isn't a great idea but you shouldn't need to go googling for peados...
2. And when you've got a name you love but your best friend hesitates before going "ummm.... yeah... that's um.... nice", you're then put off a perfectly decent name because of someone else's tastes.
On the google thing it's a millennial issue, not an old fogey issue.
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