Any other expectant Dads?
Discussion
Congrats guys!
It's took around two months for it to really sink in for me now since she was born, but I'm completely besotted with her, so don't worry if that magical bond that everyone speaks about doesn't hit you from day one, it will come, the moment they smile at you for the first time will get you
It's took around two months for it to really sink in for me now since she was born, but I'm completely besotted with her, so don't worry if that magical bond that everyone speaks about doesn't hit you from day one, it will come, the moment they smile at you for the first time will get you
Anyone else getting fed up of the endless illnesses
Had about 5 weeks of coughs/colds/conjunctivitis/foot and mouth between our 4 years and 8 months year old !! We have 4 kids so are used to it, but its back to back illness!!
Was doing OK, until ive started to get the dreaded cough as well and cant shake it.
We were also lucky as our youngest has slept really well and even looked forward to going to bed....not anymore since being ill, up all night every night !!
Come Xmas day me and the misses are just going to collapse, which is a shame as we both love Christmas
Had about 5 weeks of coughs/colds/conjunctivitis/foot and mouth between our 4 years and 8 months year old !! We have 4 kids so are used to it, but its back to back illness!!
Was doing OK, until ive started to get the dreaded cough as well and cant shake it.
We were also lucky as our youngest has slept really well and even looked forward to going to bed....not anymore since being ill, up all night every night !!
Come Xmas day me and the misses are just going to collapse, which is a shame as we both love Christmas
Had a private scan and was quite amazed at the high resolution. Refresh rate wasn't bad either. I've certainly seen worse on pirate bay. How on earth a baby could already be growing bones, hands, arms, after a couple of months, just blows the mind. Though I was imagining some kind of goo slowly rearranging itself into a human, I suppose it's more like a plant seed, where the complexity is already present from the start, and it just kind of unfurls.
Bloody hell I don't know what to think it's all a bit of a trip.
Bloody hell I don't know what to think it's all a bit of a trip.
Lazadude said:
Sure, although you need to be friends with one other person who will be in the group to create the group... So that counts me out as creating it lol.
Just found this out.. If anyone fancies it, add me 'Jonny Wright' and my profile picture is myself, my wife and little man.Then we can get a group going
Blown2CV said:
totally disagree. People assume it's impossible to take a < 6 months baby out for a meal or on holiday, but it's not true. People get freaked out about these things but for the first 6 months you can continue to do the things you want to do with the Mrs, no problem. It's what happens after that that is more restrictive, so 6 months before the birth is more like the last year or so of relative freedom!
Depends if Mum is breast-feeding or not (as that restricts the time you can be away from the baby, e.g. for a meal out, and also what any babysitter can do to settle the baby if it stirs).Depends how much grandparental support you've got to hand...or not!
Depends how well the baby sleeps / WHEN the baby sleeps (note: that keeps changing as the weeks progress)
You CAN do all of those things, with help, but the Mum may well end up on-edge / 'on call' or just not really having a break.
(Note: for 'meal out' I'm reading as a decent evening meal out somewhere, not a slightly-rushed lunch somewhere pram-friendly, which is entirely possible but often a lot less satisfying than it used to be. We've found that brunches work well for us, for example, lunches are a gamble but can work, while early dinners are usually troublesome and anything 'evening' is still a write-off after 5 months)
Conversely, after 6-months:-
- The baby is weaning, so will be eating mushed everything. Lots of people can feed while babysitting. And the baby can be sat-up in a high-chair if out with you.
- Sleep patterns tend to settle down, making evenings a little more predictable.
- The baby is starting to lose the attachment to Mum, so will be more amenable to babysitters.
Ref: holidays - we went away with J when he was 4/5 months old (on our own - grandparental help abroad not really an option here!), and whilst it was a break in the sun it was also hard work for Becs and she felt she spent half her days inside feeding J...second time around we're waiting until +/- 9 months.
(Which is as nice a way I can find to almost totally disagree with you...possibly due to differing circumstances more than anything else
)samsock said:
Had a private scan and was quite amazed at the high resolution. Refresh rate wasn't bad either. I've certainly seen worse on pirate bay. How on earth a baby could already be growing bones, hands, arms, after a couple of months, just blows the mind. Though I was imagining some kind of goo slowly rearranging itself into a human, I suppose it's more like a plant seed, where the complexity is already present from the start, and it just kind of unfurls.
Bloody hell I don't know what to think it's all a bit of a trip.
The complexity is hidden inside the 'code', but yes - it's bloody amazing how it all develops over 9 months!Bloody hell I don't know what to think it's all a bit of a trip.
havoc said:
Blown2CV said:
totally disagree. People assume it's impossible to take a < 6 months baby out for a meal or on holiday, but it's not true. People get freaked out about these things but for the first 6 months you can continue to do the things you want to do with the Mrs, no problem. It's what happens after that that is more restrictive, so 6 months before the birth is more like the last year or so of relative freedom!
Depends if Mum is breast-feeding or not (as that restricts the time you can be away from the baby, e.g. for a meal out, and also what any babysitter can do to settle the baby if it stirs).Depends how much grandparental support you've got to hand...or not!
Depends how well the baby sleeps / WHEN the baby sleeps (note: that keeps changing as the weeks progress)
You CAN do all of those things, with help, but the Mum may well end up on-edge / 'on call' or just not really having a break.
(Note: for 'meal out' I'm reading as a decent evening meal out somewhere, not a slightly-rushed lunch somewhere pram-friendly, which is entirely possible but often a lot less satisfying than it used to be. We've found that brunches work well for us, for example, lunches are a gamble but can work, while early dinners are usually troublesome and anything 'evening' is still a write-off after 5 months)
Conversely, after 6-months:-
- The baby is weaning, so will be eating mushed everything. Lots of people can feed while babysitting. And the baby can be sat-up in a high-chair if out with you.
- Sleep patterns tend to settle down, making evenings a little more predictable.
- The baby is starting to lose the attachment to Mum, so will be more amenable to babysitters.
Ref: holidays - we went away with J when he was 4/5 months old (on our own - grandparental help abroad not really an option here!), and whilst it was a break in the sun it was also hard work for Becs and she felt she spent half her days inside feeding J...second time around we're waiting until +/- 9 months.
(Which is as nice a way I can find to almost totally disagree with you...possibly due to differing circumstances more than anything else
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Blown2CV said:
totally disagree. People assume it's impossible to take a < 6 months baby out for a meal or on holiday, but it's not true. People get freaked out about these things but for the first 6 months you can continue to do the things you want to do with the Mrs, no problem. It's what happens after that that is more restrictive, so 6 months before the birth is more like the last year or so of relative freedom!
Yep, not sure where this idea of fragile little mustn't take them out of the house creatures comes from?Our little nipper has recently turned one. Her first proper day out was a very long lunch last Dec24th at a Four Seasons.
She's been regularly to beaches since her second month, very used to being passed around for various people to have a hold from a young age.
First flight she was four months old (I think?), she's been on quite a few since then....including LionAir!
Was feeding local cows some grass from her hand at 8 months, Been going in our pool from three months old...loves it!
My wife does a lot of meeting up with friends at various restaurants and often takes her. She comes with us to hang out at beach/day clubs for afternoons etc...
I go out for coffee most mornings and she has been joining me in a baby carrier or in push chair, again from a few months old.
Only had two trip on the bike (scooter) so far though....just to local shops.
Comes out for lunches and dinners, never thought not to bring her really....unless the two of really us fancy some time together.
Got to say - best thing I've ever done!
Edited by jdw100 on Monday 17th December 10:50
anonymous said:
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ask yourself what action would take if you found a positive for say Downs. If you would terminate, then go ahead. If you wouldn't, then don't bother with the tests. It's the same for the others. The rarer but more terminal disorders are tested under the NHS anyway.anonymous said:
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Yes, we had the full battery of the latest ones.One of the reasons being I'm an older dad (50).
We also wanted total piece of mind and had already agreed as a couple that we would abort if we found issues that were likely to cause the kid problems in life. Sounds harsh but we talked about it and that was the outcome.
All came back clear!
Not in UK, so it wasn't that expensive - struggling to remember how much but certainly under a couple of hundred quid.
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The test identifies 99%, but not all, of the fetuses with trisomy 21, 97% of fetuses with trisomy 18 and 92% of fetuses with trisomy 13.
I might just do it to keep the missus happy.anonymous said:
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you just need to understand why you are doing it, and what you will get out of it.If you are going to use the test results to take action (i.e. terminate a positive result), you need to understand that the high accuracy in trapping true positives may (stress, may) come with a high risk of a false positive (i.e. test says positive but baby does not have the condition in reality). So, you'll need to ask them what the false positive stats are because in that instance you would be to terminating a healthy baby. If the missus isn't planning on taking action and just wants to know, then there is a definite argument to say that she won't actually know... it's all just percentages. You may end up with a result something like the baby is 60% likely to have this condition. I guess what I'd be thinking is what do you actually do with that info as it won't help you to prepare mentally or otherwise, and actually you just paid to make yourself worry more. Aside from all that, the invasive tests you may need to get a slightly more accurate result if the earlier tests determine an elevated this, the tests themselves bring an active risk of miscarriage.
You may have worked this out already from my thoughts above but we decided we wouldn't take action, and decline the option of tests that serve only to determine the need for invasive tests for particular conditions e.g. Downs. People make their own choices however.
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