Any other expectant Dads?
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XJSjohn - you have a beauty there! 
Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah said:
Sarah is eight weeks gone 
The first one for both of us. Me 40, her 39.
She became pregnant at 14 by her first boyfriend, and unfortunately scaring to one of her Fallopian Tubes (I'm no doctor, this is the basic I know) meant conceiving naturally would be very difficult. We were granted a round of IVF, and we've been successful on the first attempt. It must be my super sperm!
Also, 5 frozen eggs/embryos retained, should we want another stab.
Ironically, on the day she was told to test it came back negative, which was a huge upset. Something made her think to take another 3 days later, and 2 blue lines showed. Today we've been for her first scan, and seen little ones heartbeat. It suddenly seems a lot more real than 2 lines on a piece of plastic. Eeeeeek!
Congratulations, and great to hear you were successful on your first IVF attempt. We finally succeeded on our 3rd attempt after enduring a brutally tough few years (emotionally and financially as we were self funded). Our little girl is 8 months old now, and the joy she brings us is amazing. When I open her bedroom door in the morning, she hears me and gets all excited, then she smiles and kick out her legs in excitement when I pick her up. All the pain we endured to bring her into our life and the lack of sleep is so worth it! The first one for both of us. Me 40, her 39.
She became pregnant at 14 by her first boyfriend, and unfortunately scaring to one of her Fallopian Tubes (I'm no doctor, this is the basic I know) meant conceiving naturally would be very difficult. We were granted a round of IVF, and we've been successful on the first attempt. It must be my super sperm!
Also, 5 frozen eggs/embryos retained, should we want another stab.
Ironically, on the day she was told to test it came back negative, which was a huge upset. Something made her think to take another 3 days later, and 2 blue lines showed. Today we've been for her first scan, and seen little ones heartbeat. It suddenly seems a lot more real than 2 lines on a piece of plastic. Eeeeeek!
Edited by Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah on Thursday 22 February 19:57
chip* said:
XJSjohn - you have a beauty there!
Thank you. There was a real worry we wouldn't succeed, heightened when we had a negative test. Very glad you got there too, optimism I guess would probably be low after two failed attempts. It's amazing to see a little heart beat today, knowing we did nothing to put it there. Isn't science amazing!Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah said:
Sarah is eight weeks gone
The first one for both of us. Me 40, her 39.
She became pregnant at 14 by her first boyfriend, and unfortunately scaring to one of her Fallopian Tubes (I'm no doctor, this is the basic I know) meant conceiving naturally would be very difficult. We were granted a round of IVF, and we've been successful on the first attempt. It must be my super sperm!
Also, 5 frozen eggs/embryos retained, should we want another stab.
Ironically, on the day she was told to test it came back negative, which was a huge upset. Something made her think to take another 3 days later, and 2 blue lines showed. Today we've been for her first scan, and seen little ones heartbeat. It suddenly seems a lot more real than 2 lines on a piece of plastic. Eeeeeek!
Congratulations, and great to hear you were successful on your first IVF attempt. We finally succeeded on our 3rd attempt after enduring a brutally tough few years (emotionally and financially as we were self funded). Our little girl is 8 months old now, and the joy she brings us is amazing. When I open her bedroom door in the morning, she hears me and gets all excited, then she smiles and kick out her legs in excitement when I pick her up. All the pain we endured to bring her into our life and the lack of sleep is so worth it! The first one for both of us. Me 40, her 39.
She became pregnant at 14 by her first boyfriend, and unfortunately scaring to one of her Fallopian Tubes (I'm no doctor, this is the basic I know) meant conceiving naturally would be very difficult. We were granted a round of IVF, and we've been successful on the first attempt. It must be my super sperm!
Also, 5 frozen eggs/embryos retained, should we want another stab.
Ironically, on the day she was told to test it came back negative, which was a huge upset. Something made her think to take another 3 days later, and 2 blue lines showed. Today we've been for her first scan, and seen little ones heartbeat. It suddenly seems a lot more real than 2 lines on a piece of plastic. Eeeeeek!
Edited by Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah on Thursday 22 February 19:57
Glad to hear the IVF has been successful - it's something we have looked into to avoid me passing on my genetic condition but we haven't yet explored it fully!
We are now about 3.5 months along - all seems to be going well with the baby. My wife has been struggling with exhaustion the last month or so but she seems to feel a bit better when forced to get out and about, even if just for a drive.
We have been doing some more bargain hunting via facebook selling groups and have picked a few more bits to kit out the baby room (which doesn't exist yet) - it's amazing what people will give away or sell very cheaply. We should have everything we need for a fraction of the new cost by the time the little one arrives.
It's going to be a busy few months though as we exchanged on our house today, get the keys next week and are hoping to do some building work on the house - I just hope it doesn't drag on!
We are now about 3.5 months along - all seems to be going well with the baby. My wife has been struggling with exhaustion the last month or so but she seems to feel a bit better when forced to get out and about, even if just for a drive.
We have been doing some more bargain hunting via facebook selling groups and have picked a few more bits to kit out the baby room (which doesn't exist yet) - it's amazing what people will give away or sell very cheaply. We should have everything we need for a fraction of the new cost by the time the little one arrives.
It's going to be a busy few months though as we exchanged on our house today, get the keys next week and are hoping to do some building work on the house - I just hope it doesn't drag on!
Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah said:
Sarah is eight weeks gone
The first one for both of us. Me 40, her 39.
She became pregnant at 14 by her first boyfriend, and unfortunately scaring to one of her Fallopian Tubes (I'm no doctor, this is the basic I know) meant conceiving naturally would be very difficult. We were granted a round of IVF, and we've been successful on the first attempt. It must be my super sperm!
Also, 5 frozen eggs/embryos retained, should we want another stab.
Ironically, on the day she was told to test it came back negative, which was a huge upset. Something made her think to take another 3 days later, and 2 blue lines showed. Today we've been for her first scan, and seen little ones heartbeat. It suddenly seems a lot more real than 2 lines on a piece of plastic. Eeeeeek!
Congratulations to you both. We had 4 attempts at the ICSI process, the last one worked with a donor egg. Our little boy will be 16 weeks old on Tuesday although I haven't seen him since January 28th. I am home next week and cannot wait, this trip has been a lot harder than I was expecting although this time we used video calling for the first time which helped.The first one for both of us. Me 40, her 39.
She became pregnant at 14 by her first boyfriend, and unfortunately scaring to one of her Fallopian Tubes (I'm no doctor, this is the basic I know) meant conceiving naturally would be very difficult. We were granted a round of IVF, and we've been successful on the first attempt. It must be my super sperm!
Also, 5 frozen eggs/embryos retained, should we want another stab.
Ironically, on the day she was told to test it came back negative, which was a huge upset. Something made her think to take another 3 days later, and 2 blue lines showed. Today we've been for her first scan, and seen little ones heartbeat. It suddenly seems a lot more real than 2 lines on a piece of plastic. Eeeeeek!
Edited by Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah on Thursday 22 February 19:57
Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah said:
And thank you too Harry. Best get saving for that swimming pool build which shall be needed when they turn 15 
On a side note, am I right in thinking you're not a million miles away from us? I'm Southwell born and bred.
Thanks Fermit! No swimming pools - saving for the baby's education if we can. Local state schools are a bit stabby...On a side note, am I right in thinking you're not a million miles away from us? I'm Southwell born and bred.
I'm not near you - Londoner by choice, soft Surrey boy by breeding
Our kid will be half American too. Poor thing.
My car doesn’t have isofix either, we got a seat that just uses the seatbelt. It’s easy to install and we transfer it between the two cars quickly enough.
Got a nice pram off eBay, it looked barely used, in fact, the basket which we got separately on eBay was completely unused.
You’ll need clothes for straight after the birth, a hat in particular. This will get covered in blood.
Tell you what’s been incredibly useful, and that’s been the bottle maker. They’re only £30 or so but it’s so easy, quick spurt of hot water, add the formula then press the ‘go’ button and in a minute or so there’s a bottle of milk ready. It saves stress when the little one is screaming the place down and you’re the one doing the middle of the night feed.
My wife gave up breastfeeding after a month, she wasn’t producing much milk and was in agony every time she tried to feed the boy.
You will get tons of clothes given to you or handed down from other family members with babies.
Oh, One more thing, I don’t remember if you’re having a boy but I very quickly took to changing his nappy from one side of him. Reason being is that when he decides to hose the place down, and he will be able to soak everything from about 1 metre in front to 1 metre behind his head including himself, at least I’m out of the firing line. Wife still hasn’t learned this.
Also I use a cotton pad to hold over him when I’m doing a nappy change to try and contain things.
ETA: add a steriliser to that list. Just makes life easier.
Got a nice pram off eBay, it looked barely used, in fact, the basket which we got separately on eBay was completely unused.
You’ll need clothes for straight after the birth, a hat in particular. This will get covered in blood.
Tell you what’s been incredibly useful, and that’s been the bottle maker. They’re only £30 or so but it’s so easy, quick spurt of hot water, add the formula then press the ‘go’ button and in a minute or so there’s a bottle of milk ready. It saves stress when the little one is screaming the place down and you’re the one doing the middle of the night feed.
My wife gave up breastfeeding after a month, she wasn’t producing much milk and was in agony every time she tried to feed the boy.
You will get tons of clothes given to you or handed down from other family members with babies.
Oh, One more thing, I don’t remember if you’re having a boy but I very quickly took to changing his nappy from one side of him. Reason being is that when he decides to hose the place down, and he will be able to soak everything from about 1 metre in front to 1 metre behind his head including himself, at least I’m out of the firing line. Wife still hasn’t learned this.
Also I use a cotton pad to hold over him when I’m doing a nappy change to try and contain things.
ETA: add a steriliser to that list. Just makes life easier.
Edited by Super Slo Mo on Friday 23 February 07:36
Harry Flashman said:
XJSJohn - I am reliably told that there is nothing worse than childcare on a hangover. Well held there!
Chaps - what are the absolute essentials we need to buy? Wouldn't mind starting to look for bargains and get ready.
I don't have a car with Isofix. Is this a must-have?
There was a few touch and go moments in the office this morning but just about held onto it !!! Rough as a dogs aChaps - what are the absolute essentials we need to buy? Wouldn't mind starting to look for bargains and get ready.
I don't have a car with Isofix. Is this a must-have?
hole i was, but nothing a swift lunchtime sharpener can't fix!!On your question, i would say the following essentials -
A moses Basket
at least 6 bottles with No1 teats on them
Steam cleaner
Good breast Pump
Lots of plastic freezer bags for all the boob juice
clothes off EBay
Hose down mat for washing off crap after nappy changes
Lots of nappies
Lots of tissues and wet wipes
go back and get more nappies, you didn't get enough
Can of baby formula as a back up to the boob juice
A good pram (we got an Ickle
Thats about all we have needed for the first few weeks, the
Harry Flashman said:
Our kid will be half American too. Poor thing.
You think thats bad, ours has UK, Irish and Indonesian passports on the way, and will get a Singapore Permanent Residency thrown in once the first passport arrives and she is "legal" but at least she 'aint a Septic
Actually on this one, as its not a "normal" one for most, but i suspect a situation you have, were at least one set of grandparents are a few countries away, get the sprog its own phone. Yes that sounds daft, but its how the olds can "contact" your baby and coo over it on Face time / Whatsapp without tying up your phone or flattening the battery just before you have to dial into a conference call.
Edited by XJSJohn on Friday 23 February 08:06
The formula/breastfeed thing is completely random and dependent on how your little one feels on the day they are born. My advise would be just to support the wife in what ever she feels comfortable doing feed wise (like you wouldn't anyway..).
We tried so much to get my little girl to BF, minor tongue tie sorted, nipple shields, cranial osteopathy and more support group meetings than I can remember. This all failed, but my wife is still producing more milk then the little one knows what to do with. So she's what is an "exclusive pumper" according to the mum groups.
We now have 4 (yes, 4) freezers in the house, 1 for adult food, 3 for frozen breast milk. The idea is we can stop at 7/8 months and have enough to last 18 months if wanted since shes producing it anyway.
There are bonuses to having bottle fed instead of boob, in that you can give the wife a night off and you can actually feed your little one/bond more.
If you end up pumping constantly,get a decent pump. Mendelas etc are only useful/good for the occasional pump, we've gone though half a dozen different pumps to find out which ones last more than a month of 6 hours use a day. Spectra S1/S2 are the current best we've found.
The only important thing is that your little one is content/gaining weight.
We tried so much to get my little girl to BF, minor tongue tie sorted, nipple shields, cranial osteopathy and more support group meetings than I can remember. This all failed, but my wife is still producing more milk then the little one knows what to do with. So she's what is an "exclusive pumper" according to the mum groups.
We now have 4 (yes, 4) freezers in the house, 1 for adult food, 3 for frozen breast milk. The idea is we can stop at 7/8 months and have enough to last 18 months if wanted since shes producing it anyway.
There are bonuses to having bottle fed instead of boob, in that you can give the wife a night off and you can actually feed your little one/bond more.
If you end up pumping constantly,get a decent pump. Mendelas etc are only useful/good for the occasional pump, we've gone though half a dozen different pumps to find out which ones last more than a month of 6 hours use a day. Spectra S1/S2 are the current best we've found.
The only important thing is that your little one is content/gaining weight.
I tell you what, I never ever wanted kids, and have never wanted to go near any one else’s, but I cannot explain the simple pleasure of having my little baby sitting on my knee happily slurping away at his bottle.
It’s fantastic. Even at 04:00...
The dirty nappies and screaming less so of course!
It’s fantastic. Even at 04:00...
The dirty nappies and screaming less so of course!
Super Slo Mo said:
I tell you what, I never ever wanted kids, and have never wanted to go near any one else’s, but I cannot explain the simple pleasure of having my little baby sitting on my knee happily slurping away at his bottle.
It’s fantastic. Even at 04:00...
The dirty nappies and screaming less so of course!
Wait until the point when every time they notice you for the first time, such as you walking into the room after work or in the morning etc, they give a beaming smile from eye to eye. It’s fantastic. Even at 04:00...
The dirty nappies and screaming less so of course!
Lazadude said:
Super Slo Mo said:
I tell you what, I never ever wanted kids, and have never wanted to go near any one else’s, but I cannot explain the simple pleasure of having my little baby sitting on my knee happily slurping away at his bottle.
It’s fantastic. Even at 04:00...
The dirty nappies and screaming less so of course!
Wait until the point when every time they notice you for the first time, such as you walking into the room after work or in the morning etc, they give a beaming smile from eye to eye. It’s fantastic. Even at 04:00...
The dirty nappies and screaming less so of course!
Huntsman said:
Lazadude said:
Super Slo Mo said:
I tell you what, I never ever wanted kids, and have never wanted to go near any one else’s, but I cannot explain the simple pleasure of having my little baby sitting on my knee happily slurping away at his bottle.
It’s fantastic. Even at 04:00...
The dirty nappies and screaming less so of course!
Wait until the point when every time they notice you for the first time, such as you walking into the room after work or in the morning etc, they give a beaming smile from eye to eye. It’s fantastic. Even at 04:00...
The dirty nappies and screaming less so of course!
Harry Flashman said:
I don't have a car with Isofix. Is this a must-have?
I'd say not until you get to the point that they need to use the seatbelt to strap them in (as opposed to straps built into the seat.At this point I'd say it becomes a must have unless you want to be either taking a seat in and out constantly or trying to strap it in place using just a seatbelt (and not the weight of the child as well).
Either way you're good until they reach maybe 5
+1 Everyone's situation and preferences are different!
Quite pleased about lack of need for Isofix. Rather hoping that putting child in front seat of sports car and buzzing (slowly) home to my mother in Surrey and giving wife the odd weekend night off alone at home to go out with friends seems more possible.
Someone is about to tell me it's not happening, aren't they.
Quite pleased about lack of need for Isofix. Rather hoping that putting child in front seat of sports car and buzzing (slowly) home to my mother in Surrey and giving wife the odd weekend night off alone at home to go out with friends seems more possible.
Someone is about to tell me it's not happening, aren't they.
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