Any other expectant Dads?
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19 months between our 2.
Was basically 4 years of hell. Sleep deprivation over that period was just the worst thing ever, to say nothing of the financial cost.
Now it's ok, as they are 3 & 5 and can entertain each other as long as you ignore the screaming.
Off topic, but we have two children for sale if anyone is interested.
Was basically 4 years of hell. Sleep deprivation over that period was just the worst thing ever, to say nothing of the financial cost.
Now it's ok, as they are 3 & 5 and can entertain each other as long as you ignore the screaming.
Off topic, but we have two children for sale if anyone is interested.
vonuber said:
19 months between our 2.
Was basically 4 years of hell. Sleep deprivation over that period was just the worst thing ever, to say nothing of the financial cost.
Now it's ok, as they are 3 & 5 and can entertain each other as long as you ignore the screaming.
Off topic, but we have two children for sale if anyone is interested.
As we all know, that's going to be a tough sell!! Was basically 4 years of hell. Sleep deprivation over that period was just the worst thing ever, to say nothing of the financial cost.
Now it's ok, as they are 3 & 5 and can entertain each other as long as you ignore the screaming.
Off topic, but we have two children for sale if anyone is interested.
Japveesix said:
Similar to many above I'm beginning to think about a second but really not 100% sure. I'm rapidly approaching 38 and partner is not much younger and we'd want a sensible gap between them.
Baby is only 3 1/2 months so we'd be looking at me being 40 I guess when we have a second. That's a lot older than I expected to be having to look after babies. Always assumed I'd be like my folks and have them all around 30ish.
I expect we'll go for it eventually though as I'm not sure if want an only child by choice. Having siblings is nice and good for development and entertainment and most other things.
Also would be nice to have one of each but obviously can't choose that part...
40 isn’t too old I’m 42 (today) and have a 3 year old. Brother in law is 8 years older again with a 3 year old and he’s nackered so don’t wait that long! Baby is only 3 1/2 months so we'd be looking at me being 40 I guess when we have a second. That's a lot older than I expected to be having to look after babies. Always assumed I'd be like my folks and have them all around 30ish.
I expect we'll go for it eventually though as I'm not sure if want an only child by choice. Having siblings is nice and good for development and entertainment and most other things.
Also would be nice to have one of each but obviously can't choose that part...
Gary29 said:
Anyone been following along with progress in line with the 'Wonder weeks'?
https://www.thewonderweeks.com/the-mental-leaps-an...
I was sceptical at the beginning, but to my surprise, our daughter has been pretty much text book through the leaps from start right up until now, Leap 10 has begun in anger! We're about a week in now.
Wow it has been a tough few days/weekend, the days have been fine, but she has been waking up at 2am and pretty much acting like it's the middle of the day, wanting to 'play' with everything and just generally being a nuisance, shouting the house down, incredibly clingy and only wants mum so I can't ease the burden. Poor Mrs G29 is worn out, been up since 2am this morning and then off to work at 8am.
She's normally good as gold so we can forgive her, but it's tough going the last few days, hoping this leap will be over and done with sooner rather than later.
Did you downloads the app or purchase the book? My wife is due 5th June trying to read up prior to the arrival https://www.thewonderweeks.com/the-mental-leaps-an...
I was sceptical at the beginning, but to my surprise, our daughter has been pretty much text book through the leaps from start right up until now, Leap 10 has begun in anger! We're about a week in now.
Wow it has been a tough few days/weekend, the days have been fine, but she has been waking up at 2am and pretty much acting like it's the middle of the day, wanting to 'play' with everything and just generally being a nuisance, shouting the house down, incredibly clingy and only wants mum so I can't ease the burden. Poor Mrs G29 is worn out, been up since 2am this morning and then off to work at 8am.
She's normally good as gold so we can forgive her, but it's tough going the last few days, hoping this leap will be over and done with sooner rather than later.
vaud said:
Japveesix said:
Similar to many above I'm beginning to think about a second but really not 100% sure. I'm rapidly approaching 38 and partner is not much younger and we'd want a sensible gap between them.
I was 39 and then 43 when we had ours.tomble22 said:
Blown2CV said:
i'm an only child too, and for similar reasons wanted 2. They are totally different characters and that's quite cool to see. I guess there is also an element of me being a guy and our 2nd being a boy, and that whole thing, but it was never an essential to me to have a 'male heir' or anything. They piss each other off sometimes but more often they just love hanging out together and playing which is a lovely thing to see. I think there is a weird thing going on in my head where i know they will be OK after we've gone as they will always have each other. Not sure where that idea came from as I certainly didn't have it in advance of having the 2nd but it's a thing, for me at least.
I'm mid thirties now and my parents (also divorced) are in their 60's and part of me thinks I don't want her to be on her own if she has to look after me and my wife when we get old. Possibly a morbid way of looking at things but it does cross my mind.jakesmith said:
The way I see it is, put up with the first difficult bit and then they play together when they’re just a tiny bit older rather than you having to do everything with them all the time, plus they learn to share
That is roughly how it is working. The eldest loves playing with her little sister and vice versa. Helps me get her dressed, takes her to the toilet, can get her fruit, etc.I had to move the ice cream to the outdoor freezer.
I went off the idea of number two after dog sitting a second dog, I thought it would be maybe 1.2x harder than looking after one, but it turned out to be 3x harder than looking after one.
I'm not saying kids are exactly like dogs. But....
I worry a little about socialisation with an only, but hopefully teaming up with other parents with one kid will help .
I'm not saying kids are exactly like dogs. But....
I worry a little about socialisation with an only, but hopefully teaming up with other parents with one kid will help .
Sambucket said:
I went off the idea of number two after dog sitting a second dog, I thought it would be maybe 1.2x harder than looking after one, but it turned out to be 3x harder than looking after one.
I'm not saying kids are exactly like dogs. But....
At times it is 0.5x as they are playing together, etc.I'm not saying kids are exactly like dogs. But....
Much of the time it is at least 3x. Especially getting out of the house in the morning.
Me and the missus are both 39. Noah is 11 weeks old, already know we're not having another. We lost one before having Noah and so knew that if we managed to get back pregnant it'd be a once only thing as it really took it's toll on us.
Wonder weeks app is great though. Really helped track & understand his grumpiness / progress certainly over the last 4 or so weeks where he's made big leaps. Currently have a nightly battle trying to get him to go to bed. Once he's there he's great. But settling him after a bath and bottle is a real chore. Hoping he'll come out the other side of it soon enough!
Wonder weeks app is great though. Really helped track & understand his grumpiness / progress certainly over the last 4 or so weeks where he's made big leaps. Currently have a nightly battle trying to get him to go to bed. Once he's there he's great. But settling him after a bath and bottle is a real chore. Hoping he'll come out the other side of it soon enough!
Sambucket said:
Apologies in advance if insensitive, but I read Tyson Fury's wiki this morning, and was struck by this:
His mother Amber had 14 pregnancies in total, but only four of the children survived.
I also read that. He was also premature and weighed 1lb! How he turned into what he did is unbelievable. Our eldest was 3lb 10oz and that was tiny 1lb is hard to comprehend. His mother Amber had 14 pregnancies in total, but only four of the children survived.
I took my daughter to a birthday party over the weekend, so lots of 2-5 year olds having a disco and playing dinosaur games
What made the most sad though?
I was the only Dad that went along. I didn't know anyone else there other than the parents of the child and one other mum.
Don't be "that" dad that never turns up to something your kid is doing just because you don't want to go.
What made the most sad though?
I was the only Dad that went along. I didn't know anyone else there other than the parents of the child and one other mum.
Don't be "that" dad that never turns up to something your kid is doing just because you don't want to go.
I don't know. I go along to a loads, but in my case, it seems the mums enjoy the social side more than the dads. They hang out together more often.
It's not so much that Dad's don't like the kids, more that, the dads don't know each other as well.
I'm a new dad so niave perhaps, but do the kids even care which if any parents are there?
It's not so much that Dad's don't like the kids, more that, the dads don't know each other as well.
I'm a new dad so niave perhaps, but do the kids even care which if any parents are there?
I go along. Sometimes it’s horrendous with a hang over but I do it anyway. I don’t play golf. I have a job where I’m home a lot. I like watching them play and my wife appreciates the help. It is sad how few dads go, like they aren’t interested and/or don’t want to help. It’s hard work looking after the kids, exhausting. I don’t have to do a lot to be appreciated
Sambucket said:
I don't know. I go along to a loads, but in my case, it seems the mums enjoy the social side more than the dads. They hang out together more often.
It's not so much that Dad's don't like the kids, more that, the dads don't know each other as well.
I'm a new dad so niave perhaps, but do the kids even care which if any parents are there?
I don't go to everything, that wouldn't be possible of course. But it was odd that there was no other dad there at all, on the weekend, I'd have expected a few more than 1 out of 20 parents. Maybe it is I who is being naive. But it didn't clash with the football or the rugby.It's not so much that Dad's don't like the kids, more that, the dads don't know each other as well.
I'm a new dad so niave perhaps, but do the kids even care which if any parents are there?
Maybe it will change when it gets to the stage of parties for everyone at school and the "school mums" crowd becomes more of a thing at these events.. but then perhaps that will be my advantage in the entirely made-up world in my head where all the yummy mummies see me as some kind of macho legend and they fall asleep dreaming of "Emily's Dad" jumping on their bouncy castle
Shakermaker said:
I don't go to everything, that wouldn't be possible of course. But it was odd that there was no other dad there at all, on the weekend, I'd have expected a few more than 1 out of 20 parents. Maybe it is I who is being naive. But it didn't clash with the football or the rugby.
Maybe it will change when it gets to the stage of parties for everyone at school and the "school mums" crowd becomes more of a thing at these events.. but then perhaps that will be my advantage in the entirely made-up world in my head where all the yummy mummies see me as some kind of macho legend and they fall asleep dreaming of "Emily's Dad" jumping on their bouncy castle
Or you'll end up like the bloke in Motherland!! Maybe it will change when it gets to the stage of parties for everyone at school and the "school mums" crowd becomes more of a thing at these events.. but then perhaps that will be my advantage in the entirely made-up world in my head where all the yummy mummies see me as some kind of macho legend and they fall asleep dreaming of "Emily's Dad" jumping on their bouncy castle
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