Any other expectant Dads?

[vaud]

With our first I think it was 2 weeks before due date. Then the little one was 15 days late...

[thatsprettyshady]

We had our first scan this week, due date 8th September....

st just got real

[rastapasta]

Nemophilist said:

For any of you with heavily pregnant wives, are you still happy to travel abroad 3 weeks before due date? Wondering if its silly with risk of quarantine whilst there and potentially missing birth, or worse bringing something back.

its a no for me. Not worth the risk, for the reasons you yourself state.

[rastapasta]

Peanut Gallery said:

Nemophilist said:

For the ones with expectant girlfriends/wives - when have they decided to finish up work for maternity leave?

We tried to leave it for as late as possible.

Jr 1 - Left work about a month before arrival, wife ended up sitting around feeling uncomfortable and not able to do much. This then meant that she was going back to work at 11.5 months etc. At this age they are really changing fast here, and an extra 2 weeks would have really helped in the reducing the daytime feeds and getting more "solids" in.

Jr 2 - Left work at 4.30pm, labour started at 11pm. (And Jr arrived 5pm the next day) He will be a full year old before we hand him over to the childminder.



As above, rastapasta, your wife is a bonafide angel!

Thank you. Her knowledge is also handy on a day to day basis, shes fields alot of queries child health wise which, when boiled down, amount to 'would you bring him/her to the doctor and if no what would work in this instance.'

[devnull]

Gary29 said:

Blown2CV said:

yep definitely, i've mentioned it a few times now in this thread. it doesn't always give actionable advice but the insight can really change the view of how you might handle it.

Yep, exactly this, I know there isn't much we can do about it, but it definitely helps keep a lid on the frustration levels knowing what is going on, I think we may well have put her up for adoption over the weekend if this weren't the case!

Hang in there everyone!

The development phases are the number 1 thing I wish the Antenatal / NCT classes covered. I know you can't 'teach' everything, but certainly a pointer towards doing some research and identify the leaps so you can (as above) understand and handle them better yourself.

Unfortunately, the antenatal classes the wife and I went to were pretty dumbed down, almost to the point of telling people the baby comes out of the mums vagina.

[Martin_Hx]

Coming up to 8 weeks soon, we are trying to make him smile. He does seem to do it every now and then but unsure ifs either wind or he is trying to poo!

Definitely looking around alot and he is more alert now, notices voices and loves lights

[ShyTallKnight]

Nemophilist said:

For any of you with heavily pregnant wives, are you still happy to travel abroad 3 weeks before due date? Wondering if its silly with risk of quarantine whilst there and potentially missing birth, or worse bringing something back.

I was meant to travel to Sweden about 4 weeks before the due date but I made alternative arrangements as wasn't prepared to travel.

[The Moose]

Nemophilist said:

For any of you with heavily pregnant wives, are you still happy to travel abroad 3 weeks before due date? Wondering if its silly with risk of quarantine whilst there and potentially missing birth, or worse bringing something back.

In a normal situation, yes - I would travel. My wife and I are generally quite pragmatic about these things.

Right now, tough one - depends where I was going and for what.

[Feirny]

Martin_Hx said:

Coming up to 8 weeks soon, we are trying to make him smile. He does seem to do it every now and then but unsure ifs either wind or he is trying to poo!

Definitely looking around alot and he is more alert now, notices voices and loves lights

My daughter is 12 weeks now and does nothing but smile, it's amazing.

[richatnort]

Feirny said:

Martin_Hx said:

Coming up to 8 weeks soon, we are trying to make him smile. He does seem to do it every now and then but unsure ifs either wind or he is trying to poo!

Definitely looking around alot and he is more alert now, notices voices and loves lights

My daughter is 12 weeks now and does nothing but smile, it's amazing.

We're at 6 months and get the giggles, now that stage is amazing! I never knew i was so funny before, then again sometimes she just looks at me and laughs which makes me self conscious something is wrong with my outfit

[anonymous-user]

It's nice that my musical genius finally has some recognition.

[vonuber]

thatsprettyshady said:

We had our first scan this week, due date 8th September....

st just got real

Good luck! You're life will change completely, but for the better.

The other half said today that some advice she would give is not to skimp on the thermometer. We've got a cheapo from boots and it takes bloody ages to register (yes we are too cheap to go get another).

[The Moose]

Does anyone else have a concern about feeding a boy a soy-based formula (of which most of them appear to be)?

[Nemophilist]

The Moose said:

Does anyone else have a concern about feeding a boy a soy-based formula (of which most of them appear to be)?

When using formula for our boy we chose HiPP organic
No added soy

And it was the only one that didn’t smell horrific when made up.

I’d use it again in a heartbeat

He also was a lot more comfortable on it compared to cow and gate we initially tried.
He got terrible wind with that.

[eggchaser1987]

The Moose said:

Does anyone else have a concern about feeding a boy a soy-based formula (of which most of them appear to be)?

We have had to try a number of different formulas, oh wanted to feed from boob but she had a serious infection after an emergency C-section so couldn't with the antibiotics she was on.

Found out after a few months our boy had an allergic reaction to dairy so had to go through a number of different soy formulas and others. They don't smell nice but they do the job and stay down.

[vonuber]

Yeah, I think the formula we get in the UK (EU?) is top grade. IIRC isn't there customs limits as Chinese nationals were bulk buying it to take home after a scandal back there?

[anonymous-user]

I had assumed it was all basically the same ingredients and quality. Not true?

[Nemophilist]

Sambucket said:

I had assumed it was all basically the same ingredients and quality. Not true?

It just has to give the same nutritional value but they generally differ apart from cow and gate and aptamil which are identical

[chip*]

anonymous said:

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Yes, over a decade ago now.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/2008_Chinese_milk_...

However, It's still fresh in their mind as the mainlander still go across to HK (before the Coronavirus quarantine) to buy the western brand as they still don't trust the local stuff. Very lucrative black economy for the mainlander who buy the powder in HK for £30 a tin, and sell it back home for an easy profit due to the huge demand. Before the Coronavirus quarantine, the town's e.g. Shatin , on the HK border is literally filled with day trippers loading up their suitcase with milk powder and all other western goods to be sold back home.

[The Moose]

anonymous said:

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I'm more concerned about the relatively high levels of genistein in soy based formula when feeding to a boy.

When my daughter was born, my wife just didn't produce nearly enough milk to satisfy her. For this reason we put her onto a soy based formula at about 6 weeks. Being a girl, the estrogen-like compounds didn't worry me. However, for a boy (3-4 months away) I am a little concerned and wanted to get the research in early.