Screaming kids
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I'd suggest it's just a phase (an all too common phrase that parents should have tattooed somewhere for easy reference).
Ours (4&6) went through a screamy phase, usually when Granny came to visit as she lets them get away with murder.
They're now into a whingy phase, although often most of the noise comes from role play and they're not actually whinging/screaming/biting each other "for real life", it's all part of their development.
Having said that I do have to take myself off to another room sometimes!
I also enjoy taking vids/photos of the tantrums, I usually just let them run out of steam but it's surprising how quickly they can knock a full blown wobbler on the head when you threaten to show it to their teacher/friends.....
Ours (4&6) went through a screamy phase, usually when Granny came to visit as she lets them get away with murder.
They're now into a whingy phase, although often most of the noise comes from role play and they're not actually whinging/screaming/biting each other "for real life", it's all part of their development.
Having said that I do have to take myself off to another room sometimes!
I also enjoy taking vids/photos of the tantrums, I usually just let them run out of steam but it's surprising how quickly they can knock a full blown wobbler on the head when you threaten to show it to their teacher/friends.....
I remember when our eldest 3 were younger I would occasionally instruct them to go to different rooms. Not the naughty step or any kind of punishment, just separation from each other. It was surprisingly effective.
At 18, 19 and 21 I hear much less from them these days but what I do hear is generally more of a challenge! We still have an 8 and 10 year old for that pointless bickering experience.
At 18, 19 and 21 I hear much less from them these days but what I do hear is generally more of a challenge! We still have an 8 and 10 year old for that pointless bickering experience.
Chap, you sound knackered to me... Having no real downtime is a killer, and either being at work or being with your kids can wear you down. Can you build a bit of dad time into your week which doesn't involve the family, IMO It really does wonders. Maybe have a word with the wife and trade off a bit of time. At the weekend my wife likes lie-ins and reading, so I make sure she gets time for both and I get a couple of hours on my bike on a Sunday and play hockey one night a week. But it can really be anything, just get a bit of time out to yourself, works wonders for me ( I have 2 kids, a 4 year old and a 7 year old)
Also, maybe a night out together from time to time. If baby siting is a problem how about a rota system with other parents from school you are friendly with, they baby sit for you, you return the favour, doesn't cost a thing.
Also, maybe a night out together from time to time. If baby siting is a problem how about a rota system with other parents from school you are friendly with, they baby sit for you, you return the favour, doesn't cost a thing.
I don't have kids so in all honesty I'm not really entitled to comment, however the sound of children screaming is, for me, THE most annoying sound there is, not kids shrieking with joy/excitement but kids screaming for attention or having a hissy, when we're out and I hear a child screeching, say in a shop/café/restaurant, it really does put me on edge!! However as others have said, they are your children, so unfortunately you need to come to terms with the amount of noise they make, it is though very important to have some down time for yourself, without finding some space for you this will only get worse, talk to your wife and figure out a way to make some time to get your head straight, might be worth talking to your doctor too.
Hope you can figure out a way to deal with this before it becomes a major problem for you and your family!!
Hope you can figure out a way to deal with this before it becomes a major problem for you and your family!!
md4776 said:
rufusgti said:
Half rant, half desperate need of advice
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Right now though and for the past few weeks or months I've slowly come to the stage where I can almost not bare to be around them.
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It's really starting to effect my enjoyment of being at home which isnt nice for anyone. It doesn't help that there's no real down time.
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I'm the first to admit I'm not the best at parenting anyway so when things are strained it feels like trudging through a painful and long day.
OP your not alone on this. It all depends sometimes on the type of person you are. If you like things controlled and structured then kids really put a stop to this. This can be frustrating for some and not for others. ...
Right now though and for the past few weeks or months I've slowly come to the stage where I can almost not bare to be around them.
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It's really starting to effect my enjoyment of being at home which isnt nice for anyone. It doesn't help that there's no real down time.
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I'm the first to admit I'm not the best at parenting anyway so when things are strained it feels like trudging through a painful and long day.
Get them in a good routine, ie bed time 7:30 then you have the evenings.
Make sure you spend time with them. Have fun messing about. Then when they're at school or sleep get on with your adult life.
They will always scream and cause chaos, spending time with them, discipline and good routines helps.
Time to time split them up and spend 1/1. Sometimes the screams are attention.
Alternatively farm out for adoption.
oldbanger said:
My youngest is a screamer, full on. I remember taking her to a supermarket as a toddler and had passers by wincing at the noise.
She's 10 and still screams, louder now as she's bigger.
It may be an issue caused by sensory processing problems or emotional development delays, or it may just be one of those things.
Or it may be that you are not good at parenting.She's 10 and still screams, louder now as she's bigger.
It may be an issue caused by sensory processing problems or emotional development delays, or it may just be one of those things.
oldbanger said:
Context may be important. My girl screams like she's being murdered whereas the OP's kid may be screaming with excitement.
My family are very loud, my parents and nieces all shout from opposite ends of the house,
Politely ask your parents not to shout, please.My family are very loud, my parents and nieces all shout from opposite ends of the house,
TELL your nieces not to shout and enforce it.
sc0tt said:
I hate screaming kids. One of the reasons that I will never have them.
My kids (two daughters) never did this, and honestly never gave a moments trouble.Now we're going through it again with grandchildren and they are completely different. Maybe it's one of those things that's changed over time but we've met their little friends on occasion and they're mostly the same too - although I would say "ours" are at the top of the bonkers intensity spectrum.
I've come to conclusion that you need one more adult than there are children - trying to work at home when a couple of them are here is impossible, yet I did it with my own kids no problem.
I think the other problem for guys is that while it can be intense looking after smaller kids, it also gets boring very quickly.
Dr Murdoch said:
gus607 said:
I hate screaming kis especially when their parents sit & do nothing. Kids would soon stop screaming if the had their arses tanned.
One assumes you do not have children.My son said to me a couple of years ago, dad I thought sometimes you were too strict but looking back you were absolutely right.
gus607 said:
Well one can assume wrongly then. My two grown up kids have done quite well out of life so far & their kids are taught from an early age not to scream.
My son said to me a couple of years ago, dad I thought sometimes you were too strict but looking back you were absolutely right.
Fair enough. My son said to me a couple of years ago, dad I thought sometimes you were too strict but looking back you were absolutely right.
Ive taught mine not to scream without belting them. Im strict but will not hit them.
I know I'm saying the ''bleeding obvious' but has anyone actually thought to ASK their little darling(s) WHY they are screaming ?.
A while ago I watched a lady with 2 youngsters get on a plane and I made a point of sitting a bit further away.......
After a bit of a tantrum and a bit of screaming, the mother simply asked the child what he thought he would achieve by screaming, what was it he wanted etc - the kid seemed to think that he'd achieved what he wanted (attention ?) and so settled down, quietly.
A while ago I watched a lady with 2 youngsters get on a plane and I made a point of sitting a bit further away.......
After a bit of a tantrum and a bit of screaming, the mother simply asked the child what he thought he would achieve by screaming, what was it he wanted etc - the kid seemed to think that he'd achieved what he wanted (attention ?) and so settled down, quietly.
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