Life's Too Short......
Discussion
Having worked for many years for large companies ( the last one 14yrs) I've had a year out whilst sorting out some legal matters, all of which I won.
I'm going back to work for yet another large organisation and effectively signing my life away for another 4yrs if it works out.
Anyhow this last year or so has made me view things differently.
I now look at how I can simplify my life and spend more time ( even when I'm back at work) with my kids.
Can't see me getting so stressed anymore over work or taking the problems home with me, what will be will be.
I always looked at the bigger houses , the next place to holiday and of course more cars! Now I see it all differently so I'm hoping my return to work will be more enjoyable.
Anyone else been through similar experiences or emotions ?
I'm going back to work for yet another large organisation and effectively signing my life away for another 4yrs if it works out.
Anyhow this last year or so has made me view things differently.
I now look at how I can simplify my life and spend more time ( even when I'm back at work) with my kids.
Can't see me getting so stressed anymore over work or taking the problems home with me, what will be will be.
I always looked at the bigger houses , the next place to holiday and of course more cars! Now I see it all differently so I'm hoping my return to work will be more enjoyable.
Anyone else been through similar experiences or emotions ?
A cancer diagnosis for my OH made me realise that the people at work who think their mismanagement is my problem and that I should double my efforts to make up for them can go sing. (My line of work sees a lot of sociopathic and insincere individuals get promoted because advancement has more to do with politics than ability.)
PS. This should be in the lounge.
PS. This should be in the lounge.
Edited by r11co on Thursday 21st September 11:44
A friend dropped dead, with no warning/medical condition, at age 48 on her husband's 50th birthday, the actual day itself.
Since then life has been very much more 'for the moment', and dare I say selfish - don't know how long I've got left but I'm going to enjoy myself as we might not have that enjoyable retirement my friend was planning for
Since then life has been very much more 'for the moment', and dare I say selfish - don't know how long I've got left but I'm going to enjoy myself as we might not have that enjoyable retirement my friend was planning for
"The things you own, end up owning you. You’re not your job. You’re not how much money you have in the bank. You’re not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet."
There's no point in having a fortune if you spend the years accumulating it neglecting the things that actually matter. There will always be another trinket to buy, but you won't always have the presence of mind, or the mobility, to enjoy the years while you can.
Money comes and goes, time only goes.
There's no point in having a fortune if you spend the years accumulating it neglecting the things that actually matter. There will always be another trinket to buy, but you won't always have the presence of mind, or the mobility, to enjoy the years while you can.
Money comes and goes, time only goes.
r11co said:
A cancer diagnosis for my OH made me realise that the people at work who think their mismanagement is my problem and that I should double my efforts to make up for them can go sing.
Too right . During my time out we've had a family passing and a friend I used to play footie with pass away in his sleep.
The only good that came of his passing is that the old team have reunited and we now meet for a fun 5 a side game and a bite to eat.
Prior to that we'd lost touch for 25yrs.
As a family we've never been flash or wasted money and have no interest in all the designer clobber which is a trait our kids have inherited which I'm pleased about . We do lots of simple family stuff now whereas previously it was the usual get home from work, have a brief conversation then bed and do the same routine the next day.
In a way good has come of what I've been through and not just financial I guess really is my point
Durzel said:
There's no point in having a fortune if you spend the years accumulating it neglecting the things that actually matter. .
this is Pistonheads! Get out!!Only assets matter! Don't let any other human near your money! When you get it, dont spend it, reinvest it to create more! MONEY!
(I couldn't agree more
)If, at the end of the 4 years you might sign your life away for, you will be financially set up forever, then a work centric life for those 4 years might make sense
If the financial reward is not so big that you will still need to work, then a less work centric life is definitely the order of the day imo
If the financial reward is not so big that you will still need to work, then a less work centric life is definitely the order of the day imo
md4776 said:
Its not that far off 20 years since fight club was released. Its a shame its worse today than it was even then.
I didnt get the depth of the statement "The things you own, end up owning you" when i seen the film in 2000 or so, but i was only 15 or 16 and not yet working. I didnt get that the debt, or the treadmill of saving and /or buying keeps us needing to be as 'economically active' as possible, ie working, chained to a desk, for an economy to grow forever more, for most of our lives.
You wouldnt "design" a life this way. Youd work out how much money you needed and how best/how long to work each week to achieve it, then thats what youd do. As a society weve fallen into the idea that we should work 5 or 6 days from 7 to maximise our income.
But....if it weren't for economic growth, we'd all be working with spears 7 days a week just to catch our dinner. I didnt get the depth of the statement "The things you own, end up owning you" when i seen the film in 2000 or so, but i was only 15 or 16 and not yet working. I didnt get that the debt, or the treadmill of saving and /or buying keeps us needing to be as 'economically active' as possible, ie working, chained to a desk, for an economy to grow forever more, for most of our lives.
You wouldnt "design" a life this way. Youd work out how much money you needed and how best/how long to work each week to achieve it, then thats what youd do. As a society weve fallen into the idea that we should work 5 or 6 days from 7 to maximise our income.
The whole thing is one big balancing act, with each person trying to find the work/life sweet spot. Some people are stupid enough to waste their whole lives working - thankfully I ain't one of them. 8-4.30, 5 days a week is all I'm giving.
ciege said:
My father died when he was 49 and I was 20.
The dude went out for a few beers on the Saturday night with my mum and 3pm the next day he died on the settee...heart attack.
Life goes away far more quickly than anything we worry about!
It's stories like this that make me post this thread . Sorry to hear.The dude went out for a few beers on the Saturday night with my mum and 3pm the next day he died on the settee...heart attack.
Life goes away far more quickly than anything we worry about!
I get that some love thier jobs, I never have, but unless they take a break they don't realise what else there is to life,
End I the day we all have to make a living and support kids ( assuming we have them) but really my point was that nothing is worth the stress.
I'll get back into the swing of work again, I always do, however this time it's with one eye on a certain timeframe and knowing I've learnt lots in this time out.
All work and no play is no fun
r11co said:
(My line of work sees a lot of sociopathic and insincere individuals get promoted because advancement has more to do with politics than ability.)
Are you *sure* we're not colleagues?! Sounds EXACTLY like my place. 
........typed a long post, decided not to bore everyone with the details, and deleted it!....
RC1807 said:
Are you *sure* we're not colleagues?! Sounds EXACTLY like my place.
........typed a long post, decided not to bore everyone with the details, and deleted it!....
This is so true .........typed a long post, decided not to bore everyone with the details, and deleted it!....
Have worked with all these types of saddos myself who are the most insecure people you'll ever meet .
Funny part is they think by overacting it hides their insecurity and it plainly doesn't .
One Belend I worked with came to work with painted teeth, Cuban heels, dyed hair and wearing shirts "By Billionaire" that had a cut out in the left cuff to display his big watch
Both of my parents died pretty young - dad was 18 (or maybe 19), and my mum was 62. My mums death made me realise life is too short, and I do tend to think more about what I want in the present than what I might need in the future (although I do still need some rainy day money).
From a work perspective, years ago I did work whatever hours it took. These days, I couldn't care less - I do what I'm paid for, but not more. Which is tricky when it's really busy and everybody else is doing twice as many hours!
From a work perspective, years ago I did work whatever hours it took. These days, I couldn't care less - I do what I'm paid for, but not more. Which is tricky when it's really busy and everybody else is doing twice as many hours!
I heard a version where the fisherman was Bajan, but this is the first one google came up with
https://bemorewithless.com/the-story-of-the-mexica...
https://bemorewithless.com/the-story-of-the-mexica...
As with everything in life it is all about balance.
No point i living a miserable life with no income, no point in earning £1m pa and never being able to enjoy it.
But life is full of that. I have one friend who saves a bit but has no pension or plan for their retirement as they doubt that they will ever retire and want to enjoy their money now, not for some time in the future when they may well never have the chance to enjoy their money as they will be too old and likely infirm to do what they want to do.
I have another friend who since he was 18 has piled money into a pension and plans to retire at 55. they have had a fairly good life but have worked consonantly and had little or no time off. Right at this moment in time it is not questionable if they will still be with us by their 55th Birthday.
All about balance.
No point i living a miserable life with no income, no point in earning £1m pa and never being able to enjoy it.
But life is full of that. I have one friend who saves a bit but has no pension or plan for their retirement as they doubt that they will ever retire and want to enjoy their money now, not for some time in the future when they may well never have the chance to enjoy their money as they will be too old and likely infirm to do what they want to do.
I have another friend who since he was 18 has piled money into a pension and plans to retire at 55. they have had a fairly good life but have worked consonantly and had little or no time off. Right at this moment in time it is not questionable if they will still be with us by their 55th Birthday.
All about balance.
JPJPJP said:
I heard a version where the fisherman was Bajan, but this is the first one google came up with
https://bemorewithless.com/the-story-of-the-mexica...
That link doesn't work for me seemingly . https://bemorewithless.com/the-story-of-the-mexica...
I totally understand the people that come home from work and one day say "enough ", sell all they have a move to some remote island .
There is a current Robson Green series on exactly this.
My own dad worked his socks off untill he was 65 then died 3yrs later of a big heart attack .
To my mind just 3yrs retired is pointless.
TBF he worked to solely support us kids as did my mother and never really had much for himself although to him family was everything anyway.
One day I'll live by the sea taking it easy.....hopefully !
davek_964 said:
Both of my parents died pretty young - dad was 18 (or maybe 19), and my mum was 62. My mums death made me realise life is too short, and I do tend to think more about what I want in the present than what I might need in the future (although I do still need some rainy day money).
From a work perspective, years ago I did work whatever hours it took. These days, I couldn't care less - I do what I'm paid for, but not more. Which is tricky when it's really busy and everybody else is doing twice as many hours!
Your dad passed at 18/19? That's tragic From a work perspective, years ago I did work whatever hours it took. These days, I couldn't care less - I do what I'm paid for, but not more. Which is tricky when it's really busy and everybody else is doing twice as many hours!
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