How Solid Really is Your Marriage

[Taaaaang]

desolate said:

Taaaaang said:

Well you didn't write any of that stuff did you (not that it changes anything at all); just some pitifully feminine spiel about how wonderful your relationship is. I didn't know whether to laugh or be sick.

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If you read his post you will see that he did write 'that stuff'

Probably too many words for you in your rush to show what a hard man you are.
Bellend.

Rather incongruous; criticising a "look at me, look at me, my life is amazing" post in the middle of people talking about how their lives are falling apart makes me a "hard man" or any of the other insults flung my way.

Sad.

[fttm]

Taaaaang said:

desolate said:

Taaaaang said:

Well you didn't write any of that stuff did you (not that it changes anything at all); just some pitifully feminine spiel about how wonderful your relationship is. I didn't know whether to laugh or be sick.

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If you read his post you will see that he did write 'that stuff'

Probably too many words for you in your rush to show what a hard man you are.
Bellend.

Rather incongruous; criticising a "look at me, look at me, my life is amazing" post in the middle of people talking about how their lives are falling apart makes me a "hard man" or any of the other insults flung my way.

Sad.

Give it a break , the man was replying to the topic and believe it or not , are you ready for this , not all marriages are in crisis . Good for him for posting positively , a refreshing change without doubt .

[Symptomless Coma]

It’s nice to hear that marriage can work for some, i for one am quite envious.

[FocusRS3]

Taaaaang said:

Ya think? I can't imagine what would possess anyone to write that drivel whilst so many others are discussing their lives being turned upside down and the problems they have.

I personally applaud the post.
In my view it’s demonstrates how ‘solid’ a marriage can be in the face of adversity.
The point being that just one of those events can be enough to break a relationship and yet they have worked thorough every event and eventuality.

[Sa Calobra]

Taaaaang said:

Well you didn't write any of that stuff did you (not that it changes anything at all); just some pitifully feminine spiel about how wonderful your relationship is. I didn't know whether to laugh or be sick.

But to answer your question; nah it doesn't upset me in the slightest. My life is ok. I don't care about yours in the slightest....weird that you think I should? I'm not a girl.

I just think you lacked empathy and social awareness with the timing of your post.

Seriously?

[Harry Flashman]

Taaaaang said:

Well you didn't write any of that stuff did you (not that it changes anything at all); just some pitifully feminine spiel about how wonderful your relationship is. I didn't know whether to laugh or be sick.

But to answer your question; nah it doesn't upset me in the slightest. My life is ok. I don't care about yours in the slightest....weird that you think I should? I'm not a girl.

I just think you lacked empathy and social awareness with the timing of your post.

That's some gold standard lack of self-awareness, right there.

Edited by Harry Flashman on Tuesday 16th January 10:41

[dirty boy]

Harry Flashman said:

Taaaaang said:

Well you didn't write any of that stuff did you (not that it changes anything at all); just some pitifully feminine spiel about how wonderful your relationship is. I didn't know whether to laugh or be sick.

But to answer your question; nah it doesn't upset me in the slightest. My life is ok. I don't care about yours in the slightest....weird that you think I should? I'm not a girl.

I just think you lacked empathy and social awareness with the timing of your post.

That's some gold standard lack of self-awareness, right there.

Edited by Harry Flashman on Tuesday 16th January 10:41

[dirty boy]

Taaaaang said:

Rather incongruous; criticising a "look at me, look at me, my life is amazing" post in the middle of people talking about how their lives are falling apart makes me a "hard man" or any of the other insults flung my way.

Sad.

Yeah, nobody should be allowed to have fun when everyone else is miserable.

Let's all be miserable together.

[hyphen]

I think the simple answer to this is to look at the Thread title.

If it was 'Post here if your marriage is in trouble' then that soppy story would be in the wrong place, but instead the title welcomes both sides of the relationship happinness scale so non-issue.

[crankedup]

Been married 47 years now, same wife too!
Recall when we first were married, a knock at our front door to our first home, wifey opens door and caller asked if mum or dad was at home

On holiday or honeymoon I suppose, two tickets for miniature train ride, half price for kids!,
WTF. must have looked very young, we were 19 at the time.

[Robatr0n]

Taaaaang said:

Well you didn't write any of that stuff did you (not that it changes anything at all); just some pitifully feminine spiel about how wonderful your relationship is. I didn't know whether to laugh or be sick.

But to answer your question; nah it doesn't upset me in the slightest. My life is ok. I don't care about yours in the slightest....weird that you think I should? I'm not a girl.

I just think you lacked empathy and social awareness with the timing of your post.

What a venomous little troll!

[Robertj21a]

Robatr0n said:

What a venomous little troll!

Quite ! - a good summary.

[Wombat3]

Robertj21a said:

Robatr0n said:

What a venomous little troll!

Quite ! - a good summary.

Too many letters. just "tt" would do

[Wacky Racer]

Robertj21a said:

Robatr0n said:

What a venomous little troll!

Quite ! - a good summary.

Indeed.

Married 38 years and very very happy.

Marriage is a lottery, you should know (and understand) that on your wedding day.

How anyone can resent a positive contribution to the thread is beyond me, the thread title wasn't "Tell us your horror stories" of which I'm sure there are hundreds amongst PH members.

[TwigtheWonderkid]

Wacky Racer said:

Marriage is a lottery, you should know (and understand) that on your wedding day.

No it isn't. A lottery is 100% chance. You can't do anything to enhance your chance of success. You can do lots of things to increase your chances of a successful marriage. There are no guarantees, but it's a long way from being a lottery.

A bit of due diligence before you get married might help. Do you agree on the most basic things, our attitudes to finance, kids, religion or lack of, sex, politics etc. If a financially cautious, atheist, tory, who loves kids is marrying a spendthrift, christian, socialist who hates kids and doesn't want them, they I suspect they might not make it.

[Sa Calobra]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

No it isn't. A lottery is 100% chance. You can't do anything to enhance your chance of success. You can do lots of things to increase your chances of a successful marriage. There are no guarantees, but it's a long way from being a lottery.

A bit of due diligence before you get married might help. Do you agree on the most basic things, our attitudes to finance, kids, religion or lack of, sex, politics etc. If a financially cautious, atheist, tory, who loves kids is marrying a spendthrift, christian, socialist who hates kids and doesn't want them, they I suspect they might not make it.

I have had chances to make something with some good looking women. I'm quite good at spotting patterns, a few were free spirits but didn't know it themselves yet. Confirmed a couple of years down the line with their pattern came to the surface. Some had vices like alcohol. Remember that guy or girl who was always the one who was a real liability drunk?

One girlfriend, she was stunning but she loved make attention. Making innocent conversation. I ended it, the attention turned her head and she became a full blown nyphomaniac. Thank God my heart dodged that fate.

[TwigtheWonderkid]

Sa Calobra said:

TwigtheWonderkid said:

No it isn't. A lottery is 100% chance. You can't do anything to enhance your chance of success. You can do lots of things to increase your chances of a successful marriage. There are no guarantees, but it's a long way from being a lottery.

A bit of due diligence before you get married might help. Do you agree on the most basic things, our attitudes to finance, kids, religion or lack of, sex, politics etc. If a financially cautious, atheist, tory, who loves kids is marrying a spendthrift, christian, socialist who hates kids and doesn't want them, they I suspect they might not make it.

I have had chances to make something with some good looking women. I'm quite good at spotting patterns, a few were free spirits but didn't know it themselves yet. Confirmed a couple of years down the line with their pattern came to the surface. Some had vices like alcohol. Remember that guy or girl who was always the one who was a real liability drunk?

One girlfriend, she was stunning but she loved make attention. Making innocent conversation. I ended it, the attention turned her head and she became a full blown nyphomaniac. Thank God my heart dodged that fate.

I went out with a fantastic girl. But she was a Man Utd supporter. Long term there's no way that could have worked out.

[Ari]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

No it isn't. A lottery is 100% chance. You can't do anything to enhance your chance of success. You can do lots of things to increase your chances of a successful marriage. There are no guarantees, but it's a long way from being a lottery.

A bit of due diligence before you get married might help. Do you agree on the most basic things, our attitudes to finance, kids, religion or lack of, sex, politics etc. If a financially cautious, atheist, tory, who loves kids is marrying a spendthrift, christian, socialist who hates kids and doesn't want them, they I suspect they might not make it.

Absolutely 100% this!!

I don't wish to be unsympathetic, and we've all picked wrong 'uns (something that applies equally to women) but honestly, why do some of you marry these people?

Sure, people change, yada yada, but a lot of the women mentioned in this post are downright unpleasant, nasty even. I find it hard to believe that they have undergone a complete personality transplant - there must have been some sign of it.

There's a reason why some women settle for men who appear not to be in their 'league', it's because all the men in their 'league' saw the warning signs and bailed.

Yes, of course it's possible to get it wrong, but I'm sure in many cases men just vote with their dicks and then wonder later why it didn't turn out so well.

[tighnamara]

Taaaaang said:

Rather incongruous; criticising a "look at me, look at me, my life is amazing" post in the middle of people talking about how their lives are falling apart makes me a "hard man" or any of the other insults flung my way.

Sad.

So previously known as Haggleburyfinius

Wow just wow, you must have some serious issues. Hope it all works out for you.
When your on the right wave length have a read back your posts.

Edited by tighnamara on Tuesday 16th January 21:05

[mjb1]

Symptomless Coma said:

Sa Calobra said:

From the info it does seem she's trying out someone else.

No I don’t think it’s actually happened, but she might have thought about it and thus our relationship is questionable. I tried talking last night when she dropped the kids back. No joy there, just wants/needs space. It turned out that it was her dad who cooked for them.

Sorry to say it, but she has already decided the relationship with you is over. What she's trying to find out now is if the other guy is a suitable replacement. The 'give me a month to decide thing', is really just giving herself a free pass to ride another cock for a month and decide if she likes it , and try and get the new bloke hooked in for some commitment. If he does the typical pump and dump thing, that's when she comes waltzing back to you to offer you another 'opportunity'. And if you take her back, she'll do it all over again the next time someone else turns her head.

Getting some de ja vu here - I've lost count of the number of blokes that post on PH about their partners telling them "I love you, but I'm not in love with you... I need a break to decide our future" etc. Poor bloke is insistent that his missus would never cheat on him, that she's genuinely just lost her way a bit, that it's probably all his fault anyway, and that there's a realistic chance she'll want to patch things up. It always turns out that she doesn't come back, and in almost every case it turns out she's got a new bloke already lined up.