Match.com (Vol. 7)

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Petrus1983

8,521 posts

161 months

Monday 19th August 2019
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I’m about to meet her kid which I’m finding more nerve wracking than meeting the parents!

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Monday 19th August 2019
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Vyse said:
Petrus1983 said:
Vyse-

“How much do you guys typically spend on the first few dates with a girl. Do you tend to pickup all the bills during this period?

Am trying to gauge if my spending is excessive or not that much compared to others.”

I always pay for the first few dates - but on reflection the girls who’ve been the nicest/most compatible have always either offered to split it or have made me agree they can buy the drinks after. I’m quite sure some girls see dating as a free lunch.

The girl I’m seeing now asked me to book an expensive French seafood restaurant - when the bill came she pulled her card out and said she wanted to pay, I still did, but it was a good sign.
The girl am currently seeing has offered a couple of times to pay but I declined the offer. Whether she has intend to go through with paying I don't know but I guess offering is better than silence.
Why would you not let her pay FFS?

R Mutt

5,882 posts

71 months

Monday 19th August 2019
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Jesus, enough to worry about without the economics of it all.

Most recent longish term one I did a few bob on paying for activities (drinks and dinner were usually 50/50) partly cos she was skint and partly cos she needed encouragement to do interesting stuff.

Sometimes it's cheaper than being out with your mates if the girl wants a low key local boozer.

Echo66

384 posts

188 months

Monday 19th August 2019
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Once had a scamming mare ask me for a 5k 'loan' just after the first date to help pay for legal problems with an ex. Fit & with a quality set of jugs but only a complete spacker would fall for it. She tried exactly same scam with a mate of mine on Match a few months later. Wonder how much she made from the desperate feckers.

andygo

6,786 posts

254 months

Monday 19th August 2019
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Lemming Train said:
smile
Not blown?

Blown2CV

28,697 posts

202 months

Monday 19th August 2019
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Echo66 said:
Once had a scamming mare ask me for a 5k 'loan' just after the first date to help pay for legal problems with an ex. Fit & with a quality set of jugs but only a complete spacker would fall for it. She tried exactly same scam with a mate of mine on Match a few months later. Wonder how much she made from the desperate feckers.
there was a woman in the news yesterday who met a guy online and even though he had successfully presented himself as wealthy and she believed every word, before they had even met she agreed to 'lend' him £40k. Article complete with compo face, for some reason.

Countdown

39,690 posts

195 months

Monday 19th August 2019
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Blown2CV said:
these summary stats just in from vol 6:

23% losers
15% dweebs
36% incels
12% psychos
14% deluded
Not sure they're correct. Those categories aren't mutually exclusive.

Blown2CV

28,697 posts

202 months

Monday 19th August 2019
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Countdown said:
Blown2CV said:
these summary stats just in from vol 6:

23% losers
15% dweebs
36% incels
12% psychos
14% deluded
Not sure they're correct. Those categories aren't mutually exclusive.
Also i guess the Dweeb ratio now needs to go up slightly.

S1KRR

12,548 posts

211 months

Monday 19th August 2019
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GloverMart said:
hehe
I genuinely have no idea what it cost, I was looking at her bum and legs! laugh

Even looking at Odeons website doesn't say. Anyone "in the trade" biggrin What's a large tub of 50/50 (salt/sweet) and a large Coke in todays money? laugh

GloverMart

11,773 posts

214 months

Tuesday 20th August 2019
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S1KRR said:
GloverMart said:
hehe
I genuinely have no idea what it cost, I was looking at her bum and legs! laugh

Even looking at Odeons website doesn't say. Anyone "in the trade" biggrin What's a large tub of 50/50 (salt/sweet) and a large Coke in todays money? laugh
Quite a lot, I think. hehe

The local Odeon had £5,000 worth of stock nicked last week. When the police asked for a list of stuff that had been stolen, it turned out to be a bucket of popcorn and two small pick-n-mix cups.....

George Smiley

5,048 posts

80 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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Petrus1983 said:
I’m about to meet her kid which I’m finding more nerve wracking than meeting the parents!
Red flag!!

Kids shouldn’t be involved for months. Until you are both certain!


technodup

7,576 posts

129 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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George Smiley said:
Petrus1983 said:
I’m about to meet her kid which I’m finding more nerve wracking than meeting the parents!
Red flag!!

Kids shouldn’t be involved for months. Until you are both certain!
Agreed. This isn't the council thread.

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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technodup said:
George Smiley said:
Petrus1983 said:
I’m about to meet her kid which I’m finding more nerve wracking than meeting the parents!
Red flag!!

Kids shouldn’t be involved for months. Until you are both certain!
Agreed. This isn't the council thread.
How long have you been dating by the way? I must have missed

Petrus1983

8,521 posts

161 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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xjay1337 said:
How long have you been dating by the way? I must have missed
3 weeks. It’s been fun tbh - went out on the boat today, chilled, all was good.

80quattro

1,724 posts

194 months

Thursday 29th August 2019
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My first time on this thread, I deliberately avoided it for quite some time as I wanted to build up my own dating experiences via the usual apps rather than getting my hopes up/having them dashed by others....

I have been single for nearly three years following the end of a 14ish year long relationship, so signing up to Tinder was a bit of an eye opener. Most of my close friends have long term partners and hence had also never used a dating app, so I winged it creating my profile and after some swiping over a few days, got my first match. She was a detective constable with the local plod, and after some messaging we met up for a date in town. We both decided to get properly plastered with jagerbomb chasers, ending up back at hers in the wee hours. Without going into too much detail, that girl had zero boundaries, and I woke up the next afternoon thinking Tinder was the best app ever invented. We saw each other a few more times, but went our separate ways as she was after a long term boyfriend, and I wasn't ready for commitment at that time.

I've been out with a number of ladies since, dated two for around 6/7 months, and some I had wanted to see again never got past the first date. I've recently met someone - we quite like each other - and she initially seems quite low on the mental scale.

My experiences have all been quite good, but there are definitely some funny old people out there. I met a hot girl who had two previous abusive relationships who couldn't handle being with someone who wasn't a horrible tt, someone who obsessively led her life through her children, another who just slagged her ex off constantly etc. There are also some very very cool single ladies that I have been fortunate to meet. You never know who is around the corner, and its important to stay positive, and have some fun as well !

George Smiley

5,048 posts

80 months

Thursday 29th August 2019
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80quattro said:
My first time on this thread, I deliberately avoided it for quite some time as I wanted to build up my own dating experiences via the usual apps rather than getting my hopes up/having them dashed by others....

I have been single for nearly three years following the end of a 14ish year long relationship, so signing up to Tinder was a bit of an eye opener. Most of my close friends have long term partners and hence had also never used a dating app, so I winged it creating my profile and after some swiping over a few days, got my first match. She was a detective constable with the local plod, and after some messaging we met up for a date in town. We both decided to get properly plastered with jagerbomb chasers, ending up back at hers in the wee hours. Without going into too much detail, that girl had zero boundaries, and I woke up the next afternoon thinking Tinder was the best app ever invented. We saw each other a few more times, but went our separate ways as she was after a long term boyfriend, and I wasn't ready for commitment at that time.

I've been out with a number of ladies since, dated two for around 6/7 months, and some I had wanted to see again never got past the first date. I've recently met someone - we quite like each other - and she initially seems quite low on the mental scale.

My experiences have all been quite good, but there are definitely some funny old people out there. I met a hot girl who had two previous abusive relationships who couldn't handle being with someone who wasn't a horrible tt, someone who obsessively led her life through her children, another who just slagged her ex off constantly etc. There are also some very very cool single ladies that I have been fortunate to meet. You never know who is around the corner, and its important to stay positive, and have some fun as well !
This is how Petrus started out all those years and 1000's of dates ago but now after 4 weeks he's engaged so it can work out!

slipstream 1985

12,127 posts

178 months

Thursday 29th August 2019
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80quattro said:
My first time on this thread, I deliberately avoided it for quite some time as I wanted to build up my own dating experiences via the usual apps rather than getting my hopes up/having them dashed by others....

I have been single for nearly three years following the end of a 14ish year long relationship, so signing up to Tinder was a bit of an eye opener. Most of my close friends have long term partners and hence had also never used a dating app, so I winged it creating my profile and after some swiping over a few days, got my first match. She was a detective constable with the local plod, and after some messaging we met up for a date in town. We both decided to get properly plastered with jagerbomb chasers, ending up back at hers in the wee hours. Without going into too much detail, that girl had zero boundaries, and I woke up the next afternoon thinking Tinder was the best app ever invented. We saw each other a few more times, but went our separate ways as she was after a long term boyfriend, and I wasn't ready for commitment at that time.

I've been out with a number of ladies since, dated two for around 6/7 months, and some I had wanted to see again never got past the first date. I've recently met someone - we quite like each other - and she initially seems quite low on the mental scale.

My experiences have all been quite good, but there are definitely some funny old people out there. I met a hot girl who had two previous abusive relationships who couldn't handle being with someone who wasn't a horrible tt, someone who obsessively led her life through her children, another who just slagged her ex off constantly etc. There are also some very very cool single ladies that I have been fortunate to meet. You never know who is around the corner, and its important to stay positive, and have some fun as well !
You are clearly not welcome in this thread, you have already had a successful relationship, managed to get a hottie se craved police woman and numerous other dates and chances. This is a thread for losers and ugly blokes. biggrin

Petrus1983

8,521 posts

161 months

Friday 30th August 2019
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George Smiley said:
This is how Petrus started out all those years and 1000's of dates ago but now after 4 weeks he's engaged so it can work out!
I’ve learnt my lesson - so that’s certainly a no. It’s nice being with someone.... for now.

80quattro

1,724 posts

194 months

Friday 30th August 2019
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slipstream 1985 said:
80quattro said:
My first time on this thread, I deliberately avoided it for quite some time as I wanted to build up my own dating experiences via the usual apps rather than getting my hopes up/having them dashed by others....

I have been single for nearly three years following the end of a 14ish year long relationship, so signing up to Tinder was a bit of an eye opener. Most of my close friends have long term partners and hence had also never used a dating app, so I winged it creating my profile and after some swiping over a few days, got my first match. She was a detective constable with the local plod, and after some messaging we met up for a date in town. We both decided to get properly plastered with jagerbomb chasers, ending up back at hers in the wee hours. Without going into too much detail, that girl had zero boundaries, and I woke up the next afternoon thinking Tinder was the best app ever invented. We saw each other a few more times, but went our separate ways as she was after a long term boyfriend, and I wasn't ready for commitment at that time.

I've been out with a number of ladies since, dated two for around 6/7 months, and some I had wanted to see again never got past the first date. I've recently met someone - we quite like each other - and she initially seems quite low on the mental scale.

My experiences have all been quite good, but there are definitely some funny old people out there. I met a hot girl who had two previous abusive relationships who couldn't handle being with someone who wasn't a horrible tt, someone who obsessively led her life through her children, another who just slagged her ex off constantly etc. There are also some very very cool single ladies that I have been fortunate to meet. You never know who is around the corner, and its important to stay positive, and have some fun as well !
You are clearly not welcome in this thread, you have already had a successful relationship, managed to get a hottie se craved police woman and numerous other dates and chances. This is a thread for losers and ugly blokes. biggrin
I'm no powerfully built company director, nor own a remapped 3 series. If I can have dating opportunities with the ladies, anyone can !

Shappers24

816 posts

85 months

Friday 6th September 2019
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Off on my first date in over 3 and half years tonight. Remind me what normal functioning people who met through the internet talk about again...!! First time using tinder which all seems a bit alien to me.

Should be fine, local country pub so no pressure. Driving so no chance for alcohol to lubricate conversation... I will report back!