Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
As a new person to this thread I thought I'd share my experience with Tinder. I rarely get matches I had gold at one point and most of the likes I got were fake accounts. I've had tinder for over 2 years, never got a date from it, most I've got is matching someone talking to them for like a day maximum before they get bored of me and unmatch me. The problems I have is that I don't have a huge amount of photos of myself, I'm not 6ft or over which girls like, I'm not a looker and I struggle to talk about anything if the girl isn't interested in cars.
The furthest I've ever got talking to a girl on Tinder was when I was talking to a girl for a few hours and we got into tv programmes we enjoy and I recommended a programme to her, she asked what it was about and I think I went into way too much detail for her that it got boring and she unmatched me. So overall a pretty rubbish experience yet I still swipe through at least a few times a week.
The furthest I've ever got talking to a girl on Tinder was when I was talking to a girl for a few hours and we got into tv programmes we enjoy and I recommended a programme to her, she asked what it was about and I think I went into way too much detail for her that it got boring and she unmatched me. So overall a pretty rubbish experience yet I still swipe through at least a few times a week.
Julessy said:
I'm not a looker and I struggle to talk about anything if the girl isn't interested in cars.
t about cars on Tinder ffs.More pics/better pics, forget about not being 6' (I'm not and it never held me back), and above all be funny. Although after two years you'd think you'd have figured it out for yourself.
technodup said:
Julessy said:
I'm not a looker and I struggle to talk about anything if the girl isn't interested in cars.
t about cars on Tinder ffs.More pics/better pics, forget about not being 6' (I'm not and it never held me back), and above all be funny. Although after two years you'd think you'd have figured it out for yourself.
Julessy said:
technodup said:
Julessy said:
I'm not a looker and I struggle to talk about anything if the girl isn't interested in cars.
t about cars on Tinder ffs.More pics/better pics, forget about not being 6' (I'm not and it never held me back), and above all be funny. Although after two years you'd think you'd have figured it out for yourself.
Blown2CV said:
surely you realise the type of feedback you are going to get about that on here? You need to get better at chatting to people you don't know - it's kind of fundamental - can't stress that enough. It doesn't come naturally to everyone, but people will not make allowances for you if you cannot - they will just assume you are someone they don't want to bother with. It is transferable - not just about getting your dick wet - it will help with career, and all sorts. It isn't the end of all things to be either boring or unattractive. However both is a toxic combo. You can improve your chat, and you can improve your appearance. No one is saying you should drop cars as a hobby, but maybe get another string to your bow and not only will that give you more to talk about, or potential overlap with others, it may actually make you feel more interesting as a person and self esteem seems a challenge here.
Trust me I'm not looking for sympathy or anything lol. Just looking for feedback I guess on how to improve my chat because although theres a few girls on Tinder that are interested in cars I realise most aren't. I tend to do what the average 21 year old does which is watch youtube, netflix etc. I just struggle to get that across when talking. I feel I've improved over the years but I'm still very much an introvert that struggles with speaking fo girls on tinder. I see jobs as a whole different ball game to tinder though, I've had a fair amount of training in college of how to prepare for jobs etc. so I'm not too bad at that. As for self esteem well that may be an issue tbh that's something that varies and some days I feel a lot better about myself than others but that's whatever tbh, I'm just going to take on board the advice from here and attempt to get better at chat. Mmm - you must have gone abroad, where’s your favourite place, where do you want to go? Ask them too. Most people like food - can you cook, do you want to learn? What sports do you like? You’ll probably find you know far more about more things than you realise once you get away from cars.
Julessy said:
Blown2CV said:
surely you realise the type of feedback you are going to get about that on here? You need to get better at chatting to people you don't know - it's kind of fundamental - can't stress that enough. It doesn't come naturally to everyone, but people will not make allowances for you if you cannot - they will just assume you are someone they don't want to bother with. It is transferable - not just about getting your dick wet - it will help with career, and all sorts. It isn't the end of all things to be either boring or unattractive. However both is a toxic combo. You can improve your chat, and you can improve your appearance. No one is saying you should drop cars as a hobby, but maybe get another string to your bow and not only will that give you more to talk about, or potential overlap with others, it may actually make you feel more interesting as a person and self esteem seems a challenge here.
Trust me I'm not looking for sympathy or anything lol. Just looking for feedback I guess on how to improve my chat because although theres a few girls on Tinder that are interested in cars I realise most aren't. I tend to do what the average 21 year old does which is watch youtube, netflix etc. I just struggle to get that across when talking. I feel I've improved over the years but I'm still very much an introvert that struggles with speaking fo girls on tinder. I see jobs as a whole different ball game to tinder though, I've had a fair amount of training in college of how to prepare for jobs etc. so I'm not too bad at that. As for self esteem well that may be an issue tbh that's something that varies and some days I feel a lot better about myself than others but that's whatever tbh, I'm just going to take on board the advice from here and attempt to get better at chat. Get interesting questions such as
Legs tied in missionary or behind your head.
Is squirt pee or not. If not why do my bed sheets smell like I've pissed the bed afterwards
Then once the easy ones are out of the way consider chat about topical subjects such as Brexit, the charitable state of private schools or whether theres such a thing as an interesting vegan.
Legs tied in missionary or behind your head.
Is squirt pee or not. If not why do my bed sheets smell like I've pissed the bed afterwards
Then once the easy ones are out of the way consider chat about topical subjects such as Brexit, the charitable state of private schools or whether theres such a thing as an interesting vegan.
George Smiley said:
Get interesting questions such as
Legs tied in missionary or behind your head.
Is squirt pee or not. If not why do my bed sheets smell like I've pissed the bed afterwards
Then once the easy ones are out of the way consider chat about topical subjects such as Brexit, the charitable state of private schools or whether theres such a thing as an interesting vegan.
I knew I’d been getting my dating game wrong Legs tied in missionary or behind your head.
Is squirt pee or not. If not why do my bed sheets smell like I've pissed the bed afterwards
Then once the easy ones are out of the way consider chat about topical subjects such as Brexit, the charitable state of private schools or whether theres such a thing as an interesting vegan.
Julessy said:
As a new person to this thread I thought I'd share my experience with Tinder. I rarely get matches I had gold at one point and most of the likes I got were fake accounts. I've had tinder for over 2 years, never got a date from it, most I've got is matching someone talking to them for like a day maximum before they get bored of me and unmatch me. The problems I have is that I don't have a huge amount of photos of myself, I'm not 6ft or over which girls like, I'm not a looker and I struggle to talk about anything if the girl isn't interested in cars.
The furthest I've ever got talking to a girl on Tinder was when I was talking to a girl for a few hours and we got into tv programmes we enjoy and I recommended a programme to her, she asked what it was about and I think I went into way too much detail for her that it got boring and she unmatched me. So overall a pretty rubbish experience yet I still swipe through at least a few times a week.
Julessy ditch the Online Stuff and get out to practice your patter. Surely you have mates that can go out together and see whats on offer? The main thing about dating whether its online or in real life is that its a numbers game. So go up and talk to as many women as possible even if you don't think there is any attraction there. It will boost your confidence no end.The furthest I've ever got talking to a girl on Tinder was when I was talking to a girl for a few hours and we got into tv programmes we enjoy and I recommended a programme to her, she asked what it was about and I think I went into way too much detail for her that it got boring and she unmatched me. So overall a pretty rubbish experience yet I still swipe through at least a few times a week.
Speed dating is a good starting point. Four minutes is all you get. That way if you f*ck up with one you can reset and and try again with the next. Remember dating is a performance so dress well, be confident and don't be boring. Keep the chat light hearted and centered on the woman. How was your day? Have you got anything planned for the weekend? She will invariably ask the same questions back and that is your queue to be interesting and flirty.
Good Luck.
Greenmantle said:
Julessy said:
As a new person to this thread I thought I'd share my experience with Tinder. I rarely get matches I had gold at one point and most of the likes I got were fake accounts. I've had tinder for over 2 years, never got a date from it, most I've got is matching someone talking to them for like a day maximum before they get bored of me and unmatch me. The problems I have is that I don't have a huge amount of photos of myself, I'm not 6ft or over which girls like, I'm not a looker and I struggle to talk about anything if the girl isn't interested in cars.
The furthest I've ever got talking to a girl on Tinder was when I was talking to a girl for a few hours and we got into tv programmes we enjoy and I recommended a programme to her, she asked what it was about and I think I went into way too much detail for her that it got boring and she unmatched me. So overall a pretty rubbish experience yet I still swipe through at least a few times a week.
Julessy ditch the Online Stuff and get out to practice your patter. Surely you have mates that can go out together and see whats on offer? The main thing about dating whether its online or in real life is that its a numbers game. So go up and talk to as many women as possible even if you don't think there is any attraction there. It will boost your confidence no end.The furthest I've ever got talking to a girl on Tinder was when I was talking to a girl for a few hours and we got into tv programmes we enjoy and I recommended a programme to her, she asked what it was about and I think I went into way too much detail for her that it got boring and she unmatched me. So overall a pretty rubbish experience yet I still swipe through at least a few times a week.
Speed dating is a good starting point. Four minutes is all you get. That way if you f*ck up with one you can reset and and try again with the next. Remember dating is a performance so dress well, be confident and don't be boring. Keep the chat light hearted and centered on the woman. How was your day? Have you got anything planned for the weekend? She will invariably ask the same questions back and that is your queue to be interesting and flirty.
Good Luck.
tter about himself. Julessy said:
I'm not a looker and I struggle to talk about anything if the girl isn't interested in cars.
Uninstall the app, take up some hobbies, join some classes and so on. And then later try again when you are more relaxed.
Petrus enjoy the holiday!!Getting a lot of different advice here but I'll be sure to take it all on board. I known someone mentioned something about holidays while I've been abroad and even lived abroad I am very anxious going abroad again after having seizures and being diagnosed with epilepsy the last time I went so I think talking about that is probably a no go for me.
As for mates to go out with I've got a mate who is almost exactly like me personality wise so he struggles with tinder and whatever as well. I have another mate who used to be a bit too flirty with girls and was a bit of a creep but hes got a gf now which he met in london clubbing but it sounds like a crap relationship tbh.
As for mates to go out with I've got a mate who is almost exactly like me personality wise so he struggles with tinder and whatever as well. I have another mate who used to be a bit too flirty with girls and was a bit of a creep but hes got a gf now which he met in london clubbing but it sounds like a crap relationship tbh.
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