Match.com (Vol. 7)

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bucksmanuk

2,311 posts

169 months

Thursday 12th May 2022
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Leicester Loyal said:
Randomly told me she didn't want kids and didn't want to buy a house with me, in the middle of our mortgage process, where we were specifically looking at houses with good schools nearby (as we always planned a family around now), so I ended it.

Prior to that it was a decent relationship and we got on really well.

Maybe she realised the grass isn't greener
Thought she could do better out there in the market
She didn’t, so she tries to get back with her original second choice, who by default, is now the first choice.

NicoG

640 posts

207 months

Thursday 12th May 2022
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Monkeylegend said:
PAUL.S. said:
Question for the Hinge experts.

Over the last 3 days, a message I had sent out has returned back to me, but no actual words from the recipient are attached, this has happened with 3 different girls.

It's as if they have replied but without any words? I can message them once again, so have not been blocked or deleted etc.

I re messaged the first two but nothing back after that, bit of a weird one, anyone else had similar on that app?

Nothing on google.
rofl

SpeckledJim

31,608 posts

252 months

Thursday 12th May 2022
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LukeBrown66 said:
There are no not really any truly free sites after they were all pretty much snapped up by the same few well funded ones, a few years ago, they gradually introduced more and more monetary incentives and have now typically reduced more and more the free aspects to try and force you to pay.

Simply means I delete them and never go back

Plus mobile apps like Tinder have heavily influenced how people use them, and after initially being able to use that for free, that app is now pretty much exclusively pay to use,.

it is an addiction for some, was so for me, and it is hard to wean yourself off it, but them hiding profit behind "increased costs" is garbage, it is just a pure crash grab preying on peoples desire for attention. Once setup apps do not cost anywhere near as much, unless you splurge on advertising, yes ad revenue brings in some money, but pof never really had much of that, hence it met sits downfall, and Match always wanted you elsewhere as it was free.

Shame as there used to be loads of free sites, not any moe.
Why should someone do it for free if they can do it for money?


944 Man

1,741 posts

131 months

Thursday 12th May 2022
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Are you talking about wimmins or online dating sites?

Carl_Manchester

12,102 posts

261 months

Thursday 12th May 2022
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PAUL.S. said:
For all the white knights out there that have never even dabbled in OLD yet feel the need to defend every woman honour regardless, this is what we are often up against.

Saw a profile, and was about to say Hi until I read her bio, it was simply just:-

"Nothing better then getting my heels on, lippy, sexy dress and out on the town.
If you wanna be with me you need to be confident, fun, sociable with a bulging wallet as I like to be spoilt"

Nothing else about her on it, apart from half decent pics. At least she was honest.

I imagine her profile on adultwork reads much the same!
Hi Ferret meet drainpipe, your ideal match.

Keep going bud.

GCH

3,984 posts

201 months

Thursday 12th May 2022
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PAUL.S. said:
Question for the Hinge experts.

Over the last 3 days, a message I had sent out has returned back to me, but no actual words from the recipient are attached, this has happened with 3 different girls.

It's as if they have replied but without any words? I can message them once again, so have not been blocked or deleted etc.

I re messaged the first two but nothing back after that, bit of a weird one, anyone else had similar on that app?

Nothing on google.
I have experienced in the past odd duplicate messages sending and received, but the app is pretty stable currently (unlike many of the users :hehe ). It's the best dating app by a long way.

However, is this actual previous matches and conversations? Or new matches that you have previously sent a message or a like to? There was indeed a recent change, and they have removed the 'xxx invited you to start the chat' message that used to be there if someone matched with you but was too lazy to actually type anything, so now if someone matches with you and they just match but don't type anything in response, it now just has your message there....but not a response to you, and it doesn't say 'you matched with xxx' . Looks quite confusing.
Like this:

Is that what you mean?
Personally if someone does that I don't ever reply, and straight into the abyss that is the 'hidden' chats they go.

If it isn't that, then delete it, restart your phone, reinstall, log in, and make sure it's the latest version as they are continually zapping bugs, or just reach out to them and see if they have heard of this bug - hello@hinge.co



Edited by GCH on Thursday 12th May 20:12

PAUL.S.

2,627 posts

245 months

Thursday 12th May 2022
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Thanks for that, 3 times in a row does suggest its a glitch, so will reload to get any updates.

Blown2CV

28,695 posts

202 months

Friday 13th May 2022
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944 Man said:
Feel free to ask anything that you like about minge.,
where's the... thingy

GloverMart

11,773 posts

214 months

Friday 13th May 2022
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PAUL.S. said:
How does one just bump into such people, given you are not even on the apps anymore! I may need to take another trip to Bath and just wander around for a bit on my ownlaugh
I've tried that and it doesn't work so save your money (and your time!).

Bath is a gorgeous city with some fantastic looking women but the last time I went there, the only hole I filled was on the 18th at the Victoria Park pitch and putt.

Good par though!! wobble

944 Man

1,741 posts

131 months

Friday 13th May 2022
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Blown2CV said:
944 Man said:
Feel free to ask anything that you like about minge.,
where's the... thingy
At the top. Some are big and some are tiny.

dai1983

2,902 posts

148 months

Friday 13th May 2022
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Gone a bit mental for me the last few days on the apps (FB marketplace and tinder) . Don't know who to message and when I think I have a good convo going another pops up who seems more appealing somehow.

Can't juggle more than 4 or 5 on what's app as I start forgetting stuff we've spoken about.

twing

4,988 posts

130 months

Saturday 14th May 2022
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dai1983 said:
Gone a bit mental for me the last few days on the apps (FB marketplace and tinder) . Don't know who to message and when I think I have a good convo going another pops up who seems more appealing somehow.

Can't juggle more than 4 or 5 on what's app as I start forgetting stuff we've spoken about.
Don’t try Kik then, the messages disappear every time you log off (or did the last time I used it)

dai1983

2,902 posts

148 months

Saturday 14th May 2022
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twing said:
Don’t try Kik then, the messages disappear every time you log off (or did the last time I used it)
The only people who want to talk there usually want their husbands to come along as well.

twing

4,988 posts

130 months

Saturday 14th May 2022
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dai1983 said:
The only people who want to talk there usually want their husbands to come along as well.
In for a penny, in for a pound(ing)

PAUL.S.

2,627 posts

245 months

Saturday 14th May 2022
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Some may recall a few weeks back I had a date cancel on me with a feeble excuse just as I was getting in the car to meet her.

Anyway I did not reply with a rant, just left it at that, fast forward a couple of weeks, she makes contact, apologies, says she would not have replied if I had done the same to her either etc etc.

I drop my guard, we get talking again, and she is keen to re arrange.

That was going to be this afternoon.

Can you guess what message I had from her this morning when I woke up!

I really do seem to attract them, luckily I kept a few other irons in the fire this time, so no big loss other than having to reply to "how was your day?"every day from her for the last week. or so.

Yes Dai the sun is certainly bringing them out of hibernation again, fill your boots, I am biggrin

interstellar

3,224 posts

145 months

Saturday 14th May 2022
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PAUL.S. said:
Some may recall a few weeks back I had a date cancel on me with a feeble excuse just as I was getting in the car to meet her.

Anyway I did not reply with a rant, just left it at that, fast forward a couple of weeks, she makes contact, apologies, says she would not have replied if I had done the same to her either etc etc.

I drop my guard, we get talking again, and she is keen to re arrange.

That was going to be this afternoon.

Can you guess what message I had from her this morning when I woke up!

I really do seem to attract them, luckily I kept a few other irons in the fire this time, so no big loss other than having to reply to "how was your day?"every day from her for the last week. or so.

Yes Dai the sun is certainly bringing them out of hibernation again, fill your boots, I am biggrin
Painful, hopefully she doesn’t get a 3rd chance. How annoying?

Why is it women are so intrigued with how our days are every day. I don’t recall any bloke every asking how your day was, we ask how are you. I find it odd most ask the same question day in and day out.

PAUL.S.

2,627 posts

245 months

Saturday 14th May 2022
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No chance, she is well and truly blocked.

They use that line as it is a stock lazy way to keep contact going, that makes the recipient actually have to do the work with their own reply.

PDP76

2,569 posts

149 months

Saturday 14th May 2022
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Another long date day and a great one again too.

Took her out locally for a wander about in the sun. Walking talking and laughing for hours. Some fun in more private places along the way lol.
Stopped off for some food on the way back to mine.

Got back to my place and pretty much straight upstairs again for a few hours.
All going great so far. Get on really well and the chemistry is insane. Makes for some intense times when we can !

Think this could lead to OLD being knocked on the head if things continue as they are and continuously getting better.


interstellar

3,224 posts

145 months

Sunday 15th May 2022
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PDP76 said:
Another long date day and a great one again too.

Took her out locally for a wander about in the sun. Walking talking and laughing for hours. Some fun in more private places along the way lol.
Stopped off for some food on the way back to mine.

Got back to my place and pretty much straight upstairs again for a few hours.
All going great so far. Get on really well and the chemistry is insane. Makes for some intense times when we can !

Think this could lead to OLD being knocked on the head if things continue as they are and continuously getting better.
Sounds great mate, good on you, it’s a great feeling at that stage, you sound super happy, great stuff.

PDP76

2,569 posts

149 months

Sunday 15th May 2022
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interstellar said:
Sounds great mate, good on you, it’s a great feeling at that stage, you sound super happy, great stuff.
She’s actually pretty awesome to be honest.
Similar sense of humour so plenty of laughs.
Talk and laugh all day long and neither can remember what about lol.
Kind of disappear into our world.
Not seeing each other as much as we’d like at the moment. Her son has exams and she’s a bit worried about that, so I’ve said we can step back for a while and you can concentrate on making sure that’s all ok. When it’s over we can see each other more and overnight stays etc.
Which she appreciated.
Yeah it’s all good.