Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
S1KRR said:
A question to those who've done this.
How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a f
k buddy? 
*We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex.
We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.
Suggestions welcome
"Wanna shag?"How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a f
k buddy? *We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex.
We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.Suggestions welcome
technodup said:
WinstonWolf said:
The last one will be batst mental but amazing between the sheets. You definitely need to meet her...
Apparently she's a 'pleaser'. Seemingly quite inexperienced but curious about and open to basically everything. If anyone's seen Hookup Hotshot...t mental but amazing between the sheets. You definitely need to meet her...She's also a pure geek, into sci-fi, books, Disney and everything I'm not. So it's a tricky one.
You go out for drinks, she seems a bit weird, but into you. You've been through a barren patch, and you're getting excited about the fact she's keen. You dismiss the warning signs.
You both get a bit tipsy, and the fondling starts. You're both enjoying it so much, you carry on and get very drunk together.
Fast forward 3 hours, you're sitting at the end of your bed naked and flaccid, with the big light switched on, while she cries uncontrollably and hides behind the duvet.
Mark my words.
Depending on your recent experiences, this might be seen as a success. YMMV.
Edited by C70R on Wednesday 15th January 22:24
S1KRR said:
A question to those who've done this.
How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a fk buddy?
*We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex. We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.
Suggestions welcome
I’m afraid if it’s been going on like this for more than a month she already has someone and you are a bit of a flirty distraction. How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a f
k buddy? *We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex.
We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.Suggestions welcome
In my experience these things aren’t ( or very very rarely are) a slow burn.
S1KRR said:
A question to those who've done this.
How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a fk buddy?
*We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex. We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.
Suggestions welcome
Let me get something straight.How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a f
k buddy? *We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex.
We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.Suggestions welcome
Because you regularly comment on her Facebook and Insta photos, you think she might be keen to have causal sex with you?
If that's the case, I've missed literally hundreds of such opportunities in my life. I've been such a fool.
Back in the real world, I think your chances are fairly slim - women like flirting and attention more than they do casual sex. Best bet is to get around her in person, in a non-weird, non-date, group environment, and see if you can do it the old-fashioned way.
You know - use whatever assets you have to convince her to get her kit off. No matter how sharp your social media game is, it's not going to do the job for you.
dai1983 said:
technodup said:
h there's no question about meeting her, it's already been asked and accepted. Well I say that but recently the actual meeting bit hasn't been working out, so...
Like I say the whole sub/dom thing has never really been a thing for me, but she's right into DDLG. An for the time being she fancies me as her DD.
I await the flaming.
Sounds fun until you rip her clothes off and she’s got a nappy on Like I say the whole sub/dom thing has never really been a thing for me, but she's right into DDLG. An for the time being she fancies me as her DD.
I await the flaming.
While there's a slightly higher incidence of birds who'll let you shove a poptart up their fanny, 99% of them are probably somewhere on the scale of mediocre to crap in the sack. And 100% of them are slightly mental.
There's something in there about blokes wanting to compensate for the fact that slightly mental birds are more desperate/easy, and want to please more.
A crap shag is still a crap shag, even if it takes less effort to get her there and she works a bit harder.
C70R said:
This idea that all slightly mental birds are a riot between the sheets is one of the biggest bloke dating myths.
I'm glad I'm not alone in thinking this. I suspect some PH-ers idea of 'filth' is what is pretty normal to many with a bit of life experience. Nutters might be more suggestible and biddable, but they're still nutters and, once the deed is done, you're stuck with the loon.
Thankyou4calling said:
In my experience these things aren’t ( or very very rarely are) a slow burn.
C70R said:
Because you regularly comment on her Facebook and Insta photos, you think she might be keen to have causal sex with you?
Back in the real world, I think your chances are fairly slim - women like flirting and attention more than they do casual sex. Best bet is to get around her in person, in a non-weird, non-date, group environment, and see if you can do it the old-fashioned way.
You know - use whatever assets you have to convince her to get her kit off. No matter how sharp your social media game is, it's not going to do the job for you.
Not going to lie, it was a bit of a baity question. Back in the real world, I think your chances are fairly slim - women like flirting and attention more than they do casual sex. Best bet is to get around her in person, in a non-weird, non-date, group environment, and see if you can do it the old-fashioned way.
You know - use whatever assets you have to convince her to get her kit off. No matter how sharp your social media game is, it's not going to do the job for you.
It was just this girl appears to have a history of that sort of thing. Plus she'll be on the massive rebound right now. So strike whilst the iron is hot And an idle thought sort of left me thinking I've been lucky with a handful of one night stands, its ALWAYS been with someone I didn't know beforehand. (inevitably) And I was just lucky to be in the right place right time. Realistically anyone who can carry a conversation would have pulled that girl. But I'm not sure I could turn one of those into a regular casual thing.
Edited by S1KRR on Wednesday 15th January 22:45
S1KRR said:
A question to those who've done this.
How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a fk buddy?
*We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex. We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.
Suggestions welcome
Maybe just tell her how you feel? Failing that, as it takes some bravery, ask her out for a drink, then you can get a measure of if anything is there. It does seem so, but dating really ain't rocket science. How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a f
k buddy? *We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex.
We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.Suggestions welcome
S1KRR said:
A question to those who've done this.
How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a fk buddy?
*We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex. We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.
Suggestions welcome
Man up, if she says no then life goes on and you won't find it so hard in the future.How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a f
k buddy? *We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex.
We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.Suggestions welcome
You can always do it as part of the conversation and leave it open enough to be ignored.
dai1983 said:
technodup said:
h there's no question about meeting her, it's already been asked and accepted. Well I say that but recently the actual meeting bit hasn't been working out, so...
Like I say the whole sub/dom thing has never really been a thing for me, but she's right into DDLG. An for the time being she fancies me as her DD.
I await the flaming.
Sounds fun until you rip her clothes off and she’s got a nappy on Like I say the whole sub/dom thing has never really been a thing for me, but she's right into DDLG. An for the time being she fancies me as her DD.
I await the flaming.
I'm afraid to Google ddlg, what is it? What's DD.CharlesdeGaulle said:
C70R said:
This idea that all slightly mental birds are a riot between the sheets is one of the biggest bloke dating myths.
I'm glad I'm not alone in thinking this. I suspect some PH-ers idea of 'filth' is what is pretty normal to many with a bit of life experience. Nutters might be more suggestible and biddable, but they're still nutters and, once the deed is done, you're stuck with the loon.
Sometimes it's best to not go there of unstable.
In fact, not sometimes, but mostly. Or always.
hyphen said:
CharlesdeGaulle said:
C70R said:
This idea that all slightly mental birds are a riot between the sheets is one of the biggest bloke dating myths.
I'm glad I'm not alone in thinking this. I suspect some PH-ers idea of 'filth' is what is pretty normal to many with a bit of life experience. Nutters might be more suggestible and biddable, but they're still nutters and, once the deed is done, you're stuck with the loon.
Sometimes it's best to not go there of unstable.
In fact, not sometimes, but mostly. Or always.
hyphen said:
I'm afraid to Google ddlg, what is it? What's DD.I usually associate the dom stuff with lanky haired, Games Workshop playing IT helpdesk drones. Making up for their lack of success and status in the wider world by playing the big man indoors. Although I'm sure that's inaccurate.
As I said it's not really my bag, but I seem to be saying the right things so far. And the normal one is arranged for next week so there's nothing to lose.
Fermit and Sexy Sarah said:
S1KRR said:
A question to those who've done this.
How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a fk buddy?
*We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex. We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.
Suggestions welcome
Maybe just tell her how you feel? Failing that, as it takes some bravery, ask her out for a drink, then you can get a measure of if anything is there. It does seem so, but dating really ain't rocket science. How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a f
k buddy? *We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex.
We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.Suggestions welcome
If you want to have casual sex with her, don't do either of those things.
Edited by C70R on Thursday 16th January 07:06
technodup said:
hyphen said:
I'm afraid to Google ddlg, what is it? What's DD.I usually associate the dom stuff with lanky haired, Games Workshop playing IT helpdesk drones. Making up for their lack of success and status in the wider world by playing the big man indoors. Although I'm sure that's inaccurate.
As I said it's not really my bag, but I seem to be saying the right things so far. And the normal one is arranged for next week so there's nothing to lose.
Just so I'm clear, you're both getting excited about a niche kink that neither of you has tried before? And she's generally a bit naive/inexperienced? And you don't exactly sound like a 'man of the world'.
C70R said:
I can't wait for you to report back on this absolute car-crash.
Just so I'm clear, you're both getting excited about a niche kink that neither of you has tried before? And she's generally a bit naive/inexperienced? And you don't exactly sound like a 'man of the world'.
I'm not really giving a fJust so I'm clear, you're both getting excited about a niche kink that neither of you has tried before? And she's generally a bit naive/inexperienced? And you don't exactly sound like a 'man of the world'.
k either way. She's OK, but not long term material so I'm just there for the ride as it were. She's inexperienced in some things but seems to know exactly what she wants re that bit. It's definitely one on a knife edge re saying the wrong/right thing, so it might go nowhere. C'est la vie.
C70R said:
This idea that all slightly mental birds are a riot between the sheets is one of the biggest bloke dating myths.
While there's a slightly higher incidence of birds who'll let you shove a poptart up their fanny, 99% of them are probably somewhere on the scale of mediocre to crap in the sack. And 100% of them are slightly mental.
There's something in there about blokes wanting to compensate for the fact that slightly mental birds are more desperate/easy, and want to please more.
A crap shag is still a crap shag, even if it takes less effort to get her there and she works a bit harder.
Best shags I’ve ever had are from the quiet ones who don’t usually shout about things nor did they initially display any dodgy signs. Plus one mans idea of a great shag could be fisting someone’s anus while she sucks off a gang of circuits midgets but another’s is decent and regular vanilla sex.While there's a slightly higher incidence of birds who'll let you shove a poptart up their fanny, 99% of them are probably somewhere on the scale of mediocre to crap in the sack. And 100% of them are slightly mental.
There's something in there about blokes wanting to compensate for the fact that slightly mental birds are more desperate/easy, and want to please more.
A crap shag is still a crap shag, even if it takes less effort to get her there and she works a bit harder.
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