Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
dai1983 said:
Best shags I’ve ever had are from the quiet ones who don’t usually shout about things nor did they initially display any dodgy signs. Plus one mans idea of a great shag could be fisting someone’s anus while she sucks off a gang of circuits midgets but another’s is decent and regular vanilla sex.
S1KRR said:
Thankyou4calling said:
In my experience these things aren’t ( or very very rarely are) a slow burn.
C70R said:
Because you regularly comment on her Facebook and Insta photos, you think she might be keen to have causal sex with you?
Back in the real world, I think your chances are fairly slim - women like flirting and attention more than they do casual sex. Best bet is to get around her in person, in a non-weird, non-date, group environment, and see if you can do it the old-fashioned way.
You know - use whatever assets you have to convince her to get her kit off. No matter how sharp your social media game is, it's not going to do the job for you.
Not going to lie, it was a bit of a baity question. Back in the real world, I think your chances are fairly slim - women like flirting and attention more than they do casual sex. Best bet is to get around her in person, in a non-weird, non-date, group environment, and see if you can do it the old-fashioned way.
You know - use whatever assets you have to convince her to get her kit off. No matter how sharp your social media game is, it's not going to do the job for you.
It was just this girl appears to have a history of that sort of thing. Plus she'll be on the massive rebound right now. So strike whilst the iron is hot 
And an idle thought sort of left me thinking I've been lucky with a handful of one night stands, its ALWAYS been with someone I didn't know beforehand. (inevitably) And I was just lucky to be in the right place right time. Realistically anyone who can carry a conversation would have pulled that girl. But I'm not sure I could turn one of those into a regular casual thing.
I had a LOT of success over a 5-6yr period with a fairly basic recipe. I don't have any hideous physical deformities, I can carry a funny/interesting conversation with a complete stranger for 20-30min, I'm not a complete letch/creep, and I know when a bird isn't interested.
Having said that, London is a very different beast. At the time I probably had more single 20-30-something women in a 10 miles radius of me than there are in the whole of Scotland and Northern England combined.
S1KRR said:
A question to those who've done this.
How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a f
k buddy?
*We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex. We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.
Suggestions welcome
i'm sure petrus will be along shortly with some elaborate tales from the sexual front lines. How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a f
k buddy? *We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex.
We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.Suggestions welcome
Blown2CV said:
S1KRR said:
A question to those who've done this.
How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a fk buddy?
*We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex. We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.
Suggestions welcome
i'm sure petrus will be along shortly with some elaborate tales from the sexual front lines. How do you turn a girl you know a little bit*. Into a f
k buddy? *We have some mutual friends, she's currently single. She's not a prude about sex.
We chat maybe every 3-4 weeks on social media, sarcastic comments on her pics. She generally responds. So there is a rough connection. But just asking outright seems a bit strong. Though if she did decline it's not the end of the world since we aren't going to bump into each other in the gym.Suggestions welcome
C70R said:
Literally the opposite of good advice.
If you want to have casual sex with her, don't do either of those things.
Yes. Even I knew that. If you want to have casual sex with her, don't do either of those things.
And I'm not convinced a head over heels in love individual is the right source of advice It's not meant to be a date, it's not supposed to lead to romantic walks and meals. It's meant to be a couple of adults (or more if you are especially skilled) having fun without any hang ups. To me, it's right up there on the "man skill" list with tying a manual bow tie and sawing up logs with a chain saw!
C70R said:
I had a LOT of success over a 5-6yr period with a fairly basic recipe. I don't have any hideous physical deformities, I can carry a funny/interesting conversation with a complete stranger for 20-30min, I'm not a complete letch/creep, and I know when a bird isn't interested.
Can do the first 3 reasonably well. If anything I miss the signs that she IS interested 
And it's probably that "blindness" holding me back in actually BELIEVING it's possible to actively get as opposed to it just happeningIf I get to chance my arm. I'll let you lot know how it went. If only for the
S1KRR said:
To me, it's right up there on the "man skill" list with tying a manual bow tie and sawing up logs with a chain saw!
Let's not get carried away here.It's just a couple of sexually-frustrated adults bumping uglies together.
No need to go all Mills & Boon over it.
S1KRR said:
Can do the first 3 reasonably well. If anything I miss the signs that she IS interested And it's probably that "blindness" holding me back in actually BELIEVING it's possible to actively get as opposed to it just happening
Are you saying that you have a long track record of trying to get laid and not realising that the bird fancied a bit too? And it's probably that "blindness" holding me back in actually BELIEVING it's possible to actively get as opposed to it just happeningYou're overdramatising it a tad. It's just casual sex. Millions of people all over the world do it every night.
You make it sound like you're trying to crack a Rubik's cube blindfolded...
technodup said:
Gotta love some of these trumpets, see this sort of st more and more, and always from the same direction.
Btw her tits were very much not iconic, and she looked exactly as you imagine.
She sounds like a deeply unhappy person.t more and more, and always from the same direction.Btw her tits were very much not iconic, and she looked exactly as you imagine.
Probably needs counselling more than she needs companionship.
Humble Pi said:
dai1983 said:
Best shags I’ve ever had are from the quiet ones who don’t usually shout about things nor did they initially display any dodgy signs. Plus one mans idea of a great shag could be fisting someone’s anus while she sucks off a gang of circuits midgets but another’s is decent and regular vanilla sex.
technodup said:
Gotta love some of these trumpets, see this sort of st more and more, and always from the same direction.
Btw her tits were very much not iconic, and she looked exactly as you imagine.
Like you I see the "no tories" line a lot. Fair enough to be up front. At least I wont waste any time. She's probably a retard anyway t more and more, and always from the same direction.Btw her tits were very much not iconic, and she looked exactly as you imagine.
Re: Finns. Met a few, mate WAS married to one. They are (like a lot of Scandinavia!) Unbelievably racist against anyone not white! And have massive self confident not becoming of their average looks. Also remember that during the war Finland was on Germanys side! So her Nazi comment is interesting
C70R said:
Let's not get carried away here.
It's just a couple of sexually-frustrated adults bumping uglies together.
No need to go all Mills & Boon over it.
It's just a couple of sexually-frustrated adults bumping uglies together.
No need to go all Mills & Boon over it.
Sexual frustration has interesting side effects
C70R said:
You're overdramatising it a tad. It's just casual sex. Millions of people all over the world do it every night.
You make it sound like you're trying to crack a Rubik's cube blindfolded...
Bloody feels like it sometimes! You make it sound like you're trying to crack a Rubik's cube blindfolded...
Edited by S1KRR on Friday 17th January 22:13
C70R said:
This idea that all slightly mental birds are a riot between the sheets is one of the biggest bloke dating myths.
It's definitely been my experience, though living in Brighton it's actually difficult finding sane ones. So I may be biased. 29 year old on Tuesday was utter mental, told me early on in the date her mates thought she was 'a bit weird in how cold she could be', never had a boyfriend before as she'd never really been bothered as she had f
k buddies and enjoyed sleeping about. Coming up tp 30 she thought she should try to find something a bit more committed. To be honest, it wasn't a million miles away from where I was at 30.
She was that kind of cute that starts of as 'probably would' and turns into stunning after the 3rd pint, the fact she had the biggest tits on a lass I'd been on a date with on over a decade certainly helped.
Had a proper laugh and missed my last train back so obviously went back to hers, epic vinyl and gin collection. Thought I'd nailed the one-handed bra removal in my twenties but was caught out by the 4 clasp system employed by larger sizes.
Posh, smart, eccentric and loadsa fun - but not up for monogamy in much the same way as the Polyamorous lass I'd seen a bit of recently.
Much as I enjoy f
king about, I'm trying to find a decent girlfriend so looking forward to the second date with the lass I met up with last Saturday, already pretty besotted. Been chatting a fair bit this week and have booked us tickets for a comedy show with a few drinks first. Just need to tidy up the flat and make it look a bit less like a filthy bachelor pad in the hope it goes well.
Edited by CountZero23 on Saturday 18th January 01:08
Has anybody else had a sharp uptick in success this last few weeks? I was doing well enough for the last few months of 2019 but since the new year I'm doing really well - not sure if it's just a purple patch (not the kind that I'll need to see a doctor about 
) or if the new year has something to do with more folk firing Tinder back up?
) or if the new year has something to do with more folk firing Tinder back up?FN2TypeR said:
Has anybody else had a sharp uptick in success this last few weeks? I was doing well enough for the last few months of 2019 but since the new year I'm doing really well - not sure if it's just a purple patch (not the kind that I'll need to see a doctor about ) or if the new year has something to do with more folk firing Tinder back up?
yep singles sunday was a couple of weeks ago. Tinder gets double the matches in the first couple of weeks of Jan as people decide new year , new start etc.) or if the new year has something to do with more folk firing Tinder back up?interstellar said:
FN2TypeR said:
Has anybody else had a sharp uptick in success this last few weeks? I was doing well enough for the last few months of 2019 but since the new year I'm doing really well - not sure if it's just a purple patch (not the kind that I'll need to see a doctor about ) or if the new year has something to do with more folk firing Tinder back up?
yep singles sunday was a couple of weeks ago. Tinder gets double the matches in the first couple of weeks of Jan as people decide new year , new start etc.) or if the new year has something to do with more folk firing Tinder back up?Of late, I've been getting virtually no matches at all.
Had one last night, who then bombarded me with 5 messages in a row!
(I was out so didn't reply) Closer examination of her profile and reading between the lines a little. Suggests the 2 kids in a pic are probably hers. (not nephews/friends kids as I thought) Which rules her out for me. Also stronger jaw line than me!
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